Due July 2022 (thread 2)

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Hi all original thread was almost full so here's a new one!
Original thread link:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4371203-due-july-2022?pg=1

Just got my NIPT results: everything is very low risk and it is a girl ❤️❤️❤️ Delighted!

Wow congratulations on the twins @Lucindaj & @Trinxsy

Reading all your comments I'm just wondering what all these extra scans people are getting? As I only have my 12 week one which they will be testing for Down syndrome and edwards etc but am I meant to have booked in for another scan/ test 😖?

This is my first baby so just sort of going with the flow, so would be good to know if I do need to book another one?

@purpleskyssssss in my case I booked an early scan because I had a MMC back in May, and I found out three weeks after the pregnancy stopped. And the NIPT just because of my age, to ease my mind (sort of😅😅)

Ok thanks!!! 😆 I did have an early scan last week. Is the NIPT something that you pay to do private? I am in the UK @Lostintranslatio

Good to hear your positive result aswell and a baby girl ❤️ I would love a little girl 🥺 @Lostintranslatio but just thankful to have fell pregnant 🙂

@purpleskyssssss the NIPT is a prenatal test. The baby's DNA in your blood sample gets checked for different syndromes and triploidy. In my case I chose the Panorama test, and I got it done privately. But again, I was concerned about my age and the risks associated.

Had an early scan today (for reassurance before telling close family over Christmas) and we’re measuring bang on expected at 7 weeks 6 days. Got a cracking photo and heartbeat looked really strong. Feeling a bit more real now ❤️

@AppleTrea16 congratulations on your scan ❤️

@laurenGame I hope you don't mind me picking your brains. I saw you mentioned having a hematoma - how did you first know you had this? I have had a recent bleed and will find oot tomorrow if it is a hematoma/miscarriage/threatened miscarriage.
Hope you can help?

@ChattyMum86 not at all!
I had my first bleed at 5 weeks, the day after sex, and straining during bowel movement. Scan showed sub chorionic Hematoma 40% size of the embryo- so medium size. I spotted dark blood for two weeks after, so please don't freak out if you keep spotting after a bleed - in my case that's proved to be normal.

I had another, heavier bleed at 9 weeks (constipation/straining the day before) - this time obstetrician couldn't see Hematoma on scan but he can't see where the blood is coming from which is frustrating. He said bleeding can come from either placenta or the cervix. If it's cervix then it's all fine, placenta - not so much. Because if placenta started separating it can continue to do so.
So you can see my frustration at not being able to see the location of the bleed!

How much did you bleed and how many weeks are you? Just to reassure you I'm 10 weeks now and baby is glowing a few days ahead, good heartbeat and wiggling a lot, he/she seems absolutely fine also the Drs will prob give you "threatened miscarriage diagnosis" - I think it's given to anyone presented with a bleed, so don't think the worst. Let us know how you go x

@laurenGame thank you so much for responding!
I am currently 6 weeks + 2, I had brown spotting last Tuesday but then from Saturday have had red spotting - only when I wipe. I went to triage last night as had pain in my right side and across the top of my stomach. There was nobody available to scan me but she did an internal examination and said the neck of my womb was still closed 🤷🏼‍♀️ my HCG must have risen from Saturday though as I was a 2-3 on Clearblue digital on Saturday to 3+ yesterday.
I also take clexane injections because of a previous clotting event so wasn't sure if that could contribute to a hematoma.
Booked in for a scan tomorrow at 3pm and my anxiety is through the roof 😞

Oh @ChattyMum86 my second bleed was much heavier than yours - I soaked a pad easily, it was just gushing out of me! Had two scans since and baby is growing fast I tend to believe that cervix is so sensitive and blood vessels can pop so easily, which is what I think happened in my case

Posted too soon. I also had pain on the right hand side and top of my belly- I reckon it's almost 'good' to have that pain as it means insides are growing :)
After my bleeds and seeing baby progressing soo well - I don't think spotting would actually worry me anymore.

I remember that 'first scan after bleed' anxiety... I did these and it helped: just try to do breathing exercises, stay away from Google (ok this one wasn't successful), distract yourself with Netflix (I binged on desperate housewives of Beverly Hills and never seen that program before), have a good cry in the shower if it gets too much - I found the release of emotions helpful.
You'll have a scan soon which is great - remember even the hardest day has only 24 hours x

Hi everyone, please can I join?

I feel very out of my depth and very happy to join a group as this is my first and when I read some of the things you are all saying, I feel like I'm very unprepared. For example. I have no idea what a 3+ is and whether I have missed something.

I feel very out of control and keep reading up on where the baby is at. I am assuming my due date is 13th July but following an online calculator that worked it out from first day of last period. This would mean I'm 9 weeks tomorrow. I have first call with midwife tomorrow so I'm hoping she will answer a lot of my questions.

I can't wait for the first scan as I'm petrified. Mainly because I don't feel I have any symptoms. I had sore boobs in the beginning but they are a lot better now, I've not been sick once and apart from a bit of bloating in an evening, I have full energy. I read a few people say that sickness is a healthy sign and I'm so worried about any bad news. I do keep getting almost PMT type twinges but no bleed/spotting, luckily.

It's a scary few weeks I find because in some ways I feel lucky to be able to get on with work but in another I panic until I know more.

Anyway, nice to meet you all :)

@Pickle0901 please don’t worry! This is my second child - for my first I had no idea about ANYTHING. He is now 15 months and absolutely fine. You really do learn on the job with this.

Also, as far as I’m aware some women don’t get any symptoms at all (I’m slightly jealous!). My mum never had any symptoms with me or my brothers. Yet I’ve had it terrible, especially this time round. Every woman is different and every pregnancy is different. Hope this reassures you a bit x

@Pickle0901 hope your midwife appointment goes well today, I'm sure that will answer your questions, I am also a first time mum and it really is a mind field all the information out there but I truly believe I will just know when little baby is here.

I also have a lack of typical pregnancy related symptoms - I'm 9 week 4 days today and only really have constant hunger and not knowing what I fancy to eat, I do get the odd twinge - which is not often, very quick and not painful - I had a scan at 8 week 5 to calm any anxieties and baby is in the right place and fine and heart beating perfectly fine.

I think we are drilled in that with pregnancy your boobs are sore & go huge, you will have bad sickness, no energy to do anything and for some people this is true but also for many others it isn't! My best friend had 0 symptoms with her pregnancy aswell!

@annie1994 thank you for the reassurance.
I guess we are all so different. It's more overwhelming than I thought. I phoned the early pregnancy team and they were quite rude told me they didn't know why I was phoning. I ended up getting quite upset, as I didn't want to waste their time, I just didn't know what I was supposed to do, couldn't get in to see my own GP and at that point I hadn't even told my mum.

It's all a learning curve and I imagine in future I'll look back and laugh at how many mini meltdowns I've had 😂

@purpleskyssssss thank you. And congratulations on your first too. You're right, there is so much out there to read on the internet and so many expectations but really it's probably discussed more when there is a symptom as there isn't as much to say when you're waiting for something to happen lol...

That's great about the early scan, I think I will feel so much better when that happens, how exciting.

I also can't wait for it not to be a secret. I find I'm avoiding certain situations because I don't want to say this early until I know how everything is but I also don't want to lie etc. it will be much nicer to be more open about it, that's for sure.

Im 9wks today but hoping to tell close friends & family over Christmas because it just feels too much to hold in until January... especially as everyone will wonder why I'm not having a drink.

Hoping for a scan before Christmas if it's not too busy.... we will see what happens after todays call.

@Pickle0901 It’s a very daunting time especially for us first timers who don’t know what to expect! Shame the pregnancy team were rude! I hope you get your early scan soon 🙂

@Pickle0901 I'm pregnant with my first too and have struggled with not knowing what to expect. I've broke down a few times because my symptoms have been horrid at some points & the anxiety of not knowing if baby is okay is awful. In the first few weeks, everyone in my house got covid except me (think my booster was my saving grace) but I was extremely unwell, so for the duration of that, I was taking tests every day to make sure I was definitely still pregnant because the cramping was insane. Ended up booking an early scan & baby was growing as should be 🥰
I'm now 10w+ and my symptoms are very minimal now and I can finally eat properly again.
Ended up fessing up to the family because I had a meal right in the middle of my nausea being it's absolute worst & there was no way I was gonna be able to keep hiding it 😂
But it felt like an absolute weight had been lifted off my shoulders once everyone knew 😂

Really sorry to hear EPU weren't at all helpful 😞 Hopefully your midwife appointment goes well & they can help ease anxieties you may have 🥰

Hey everyone been a tad quiet since Sunday just been really tired and nauseous 🙄 welcome to the new joiners hope everyone is well ❤️

Congrats@Pickle0901, I hope you had a kind helpful midwife today! I don't know how they expect everyone to magically know everything, especially when it is completely different from area to area!

I am feeling possibly more sick than ever but it's still completely manageable so don't want to complain, seeing it as reassuring. Feels suddenly real after yesterday's scan !

@Lostintranslatio congrats on your little girl! We are having a surprise but there was a moment of temptation when I was filling the form in to tick the box to find out!

Lovely to hear all your experiences (sorry about the not so good ones)... it's at least reassuring to be able to bounce off one another...

As for the midwife call.... she still hasn't called. I phoned the department and they said they would try to locate her.... a bit disappointed as I have moved work meetings around it and am busy the rest is the afternoon. That said I told them I'd appreciate a call, even if it's just to make introductions and to understand next steps and times scales for scans & blood tests.

Don't want to moan so I'll take a deep breath and look forward to hearing all your updates.

@Pickle0901 sorry to hear your midwife hasn't been in contact - hopefully you won't have too much of a wait 🤞🏻

I got my scan letter through today, wee bit gutted as I hoped I would have gotten it before Christmas but nevermind. Mines is happening on 29/12 :)
I should be about 13w4d at that point.

We're 12 week scan date buddies @Lianna93 as mine is on that day too