Due July/August 2022

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Hello 👋🏻

Anyone else due around July/August 2022?

@Bloomers58 oh girl I'm so sorry, my heart breaks for you and the loss you must be feelings right now. Please try to receive all the support you deserve through this tough time, and do whatever you need to do to get through this. When I found out, I got super drunk and cried a lot! There is no right or wrong way, I also framed my tests and have a couple of angel ornaments with them on a shelf, don't feel like it's too early for you to honour your baby, something I was unsure on myself, do what feels right for you. Don't apologise lovely, we're here to support each other, speak as much as you need to ❤️

When I say too early I mean because the loss was early on, I had someone say to me 'oh wasn't really a baby at that point tho was it' which I found extremely invalidating. To me that's another child of mine, I just haven't met them yet, sorry felt I hadn't worded it clearly

Hi,

I am new here, may I join please?

I am so sorry for the loss Bloomers58. I completely understand you, this is my fourth pregnancy this year after one MMC on week 9 in February, another miscarriage week 6 in April and a chemical pregnancy in August. The first pregnancy was natural pregnancy but the last three (including the current one) have been through IVF.

I am 38 years old and this will hopefully be my first child. Cautiously happy now, I am 6+3 and I saw a tiny heartbeat yesterday in the ultrasound.

Lovely to meet you all :)

@AnitaB83 so sorry for your losses, I sooooo hope this works out for you, I bet seeing the heart beat helped! Congrats 🥰

So sorry for your loss too Blossoms :( lots of love to you.

Can I ask about the early scans? Is this something you're offered on NHS? I was told on another thread it's normal not to see midwife til week 10 or so but these scans seem a lot earlier. Are they private? Do you mind if I ask the benefit of them? Is it just an extra in case you feel anxious or to rule out anything? I'm a first timer and finding lots of mixed messages online so appreciate this thread.

@Givemepickles

I'm paying for a private scan at 8 weeks which is a couple of days before Christmas just so I have reassurance to tell family due to the timing. I didn't bother last time and just waited until my 12 week NHS scan. Had quite a few complications in my last pregnancy so feeling more anxious this time round

@Givemepickles it tends to be us who've had mc's in the past. I've had 4, including a missed MC. There's nothing worse than thinking everything is ok, only to find out weeks down the line that it passed at 6 weeks. So I'm scanning early and weekly for reassurance. Everyone will have a different objective and plan tho, depending on their experiences ☺️ xx

@Givemepickles for me it's to allow me to tell family over Christmas. I would also rather know sooner rather than later if the pregnancy isn't going well as I can know what to expect, rather than getting excited. E.g. baby's heart might not be beating at my first scan but I'd rather know than tell people first and regret celebrating later. The fear of losing the baby is intense; for me I see a scan as a health check up rather than waiting to get seriously ill when it could have been detected earlier. I hope that makes sense

It's not offered on the NHS unless you've had previous issues so most of us go private

I’m so sorry @Bloomers58, this was heartbreaking to read, and I’m in shock about your partner of 13 YEARS too. What an awful time for you, I’m so desperately sorry xxx

@Misty84 thank you so much x

@jokerflowers just read your lovely message too. Thank you so much x

I’m sorry so many folk have had to deal with losses. The private scans round here only seem to start at 8 weeks, but I’m not sure I’d be able to draw much comfort from an earlier scan anyway because I know our risk of mc is high. It’s all so individual though, folk need to do what feels right for them.

I don’t really want to tell anyone before 12 weeks but I think it’s going to be pretty impossible to hide - too many boozy lunches and dinners between now and Jan! So we’re paying for an 8 week scan just before Christmas so we have a better idea of what’s happening.

@Givemepickles - hi! I have an early scan on Friday because my baby has been conceived via fertility treatment, so the scan is at the fertility clinic. I’ve also had two miscarriages previously so the scan is also because of that. I have considered booking a further private scan nearer christmas too so I can be more confident when I tell my family, but I’m not sure yet - I’ll see how I feel after Fridays scan.

Morning @Givemepickles I’ve got a scan at 7+6 which we’ve booked privately with Window to the Womb. This is my first pregnancy, so I just want to have a bit of reassurance that things are in the right place and everything is as expected.

I'm 6w+2. I've been up since half 4 and have made three trips downstairs for food. Anyone with me???

Oh @Bloomers58 , I'm so sorry

@Borgonzola I was awake from 2-4:30am for no good reason 😫

So yesterday my digital went from 1-2 weeks last week to not pregnant, but still had a positive FRER and CB normal blue dye. Anyway over the course of the day and into today I'm bleeding bright red so I think it's game over. Good luck to all.

@20viona - I’m so sorry to hear that, it’s so hard, take care of yourself xx

@20viona I’m so sorry! Sending you lots of love 💕

So sorry to hear about your losses @20viona and @Bloomers58 look after yourselves ❤️

@Bloomers58 and 20viona it was really painful to read about your losses. Pls,take care of yourselves... You deserve it. Sending you lots of hugs 🤗🤗🤗

@Bloomers58 and @20viona it was really painful to read about your losses. Pls,take care of yourselves... You deserve it. Sending you lots of hugs 🤗🤗🤗

Thanks everyone. This is agony x

@Bloomers58 and @20viona It’s so awful and what we’re all terrified of. Thinking of you both at this heartbreaking time xxx