Any ivf pregnancies ?

[whataglouriousthingtobe]

I'm only 6+2 and super paranoid about absolutely everything. Had my fet on the 28/09, it was our second fet after the first one failed, I had bleeding before I even got to the otd. My scan is this Thursday and it's fair to say I'm bricking it.

Would be nice to chat with some ladies who've done ivf, I have been keeping an eye on the June 2022 thread but sometimes I find I can't relate.

I'm so sorry you had a big bleed @RosieLeeD ❤️ have you stopped the aspirin / clexane? I've heard of others having hematomas after ivf / being on blood thinners. Have you also been on touch with crp? It's good news that your little one has a heartbeat. I'm keeping everything crossed for you. Hope you're able to rest. Lots of love.

I'm sorry you're also worried @39yearoldwantbaby how small was the baby compared to your dates? Hoping your little one catches up.

I hope every one else is OK. I am struggling badly with anxiety, this is the week when my previous babies have stopped growing and I can't shake the feeling of dread. Which I guess is to be expected after so many losses, but I'm exhausted constantly second guessing myself, I can't imagine getting good news on Friday. X

@Monday55 I would love a glass of Prosecco to calm my nerves!! Perhaps you could mix up some fun mocktails 🙂

@lawandgin you're not being dim at all because I don't really know the answer. They basically just said some women go on to have normal pregnancies and some miscarry. When I sent the report to the IVF clinic they said a similar thing and couldn't really give me any reassurance. My scan on Thursday is with my miscarriage specialist (I'm under 2 clinics) so I'm interested in what he has to say too but the consistent message is to rest and wait and see! I'm trying to take the positive that there is still a chance - I was convinced it was all over on Sunday. This is also the furthest we have got after 3 previous losses so I'm hopeful that the immunosuppressants I am now on are making a difference 💕

@RosieLeeD oh no :( I’m so sorry to hear about the bleeding - that sounds torturous. Were they able to confirm if it’s a haematoma? I’m keeping everything crossed that we both have good scans on thurs.

@39yearoldwantbaby I’m sorry your going through so much uncertainty/ heartache as well.

It’s such a messed up journey. FFS!! We’ve all struggled to get to this point, why does it have to be so effing sad and difficult?

Hope there’s some good news soon from you both x

@VenusStarr thank you. I stopped the aspirin when I had my earlier spotting and I have been advised to stay off of it for now. I also didn't take the Fragmin on Sunday as I was bleeding and couldn't speak to either of my clinics. CRP have advised me to stay on the Fragmin which I was surprised and to be honest not very happy about but I'm following their advice. I was in complete shock when she said there was still a pregnancy let alone a heart beat. I'm trying to rest as much as possible, I'm working at home during the day but have a few days off after tomorrow.

I'm sorry you are so anxious but of course it's completely understandable, I felt exactly the same even before the bleed, I was just expecting the first scan to be bad news because my only experience of a fist scan had been a MMC. Try and get through one day at a time, keep occupied and believe how strong you are and that this is a different pregnancy. I hope you have lots of support around you and I'll be thinking of you on Friday 💕

@39yearoldwantbaby sorry missed your post and I'm sorry to hear you are having a worrying time too. It's positive that there was a heartbeat and hopefully it catches up, when is your next scan?

@LemonyT thank you. They didn't call it a haematoma but that's probably what it is. I was in such a state I wasn't really taking it in. The report said a 'large resolving area of bleed on the right lateral of the gestational sac'. I had to convince them to let me take a couple of the pictures to pass onto my clinics. I have scans on Thursday and Monday at my clinics so I hope I will know more then. You are so right, it feels like one thing after another. I had to abandon my last FET because as my lining thickened they identified a polyp which I had to have removed. We are certainly all warriors here!!

I hope you are doing ok and really wishing you all the best for Thursday too, not long to go 💕

@RosieLeeD oh that's so frustrating, you'd like to think someone could give you an indication either way. I really hope your scan goes OK and that there is some positive news for you - I am keeping everything crossed for you x

Oh @RosieLeeD I'm so sorry you're in such an anxious position. I'm very glad there was a heartbeat and that the big bleed wasn't what you'd feared. I'm keeping everything crossed your little one hangs in there. You must be scared to move at this point. It's so unfair. I really hope the situation resolves itself soon without causing any harm 🙏

@39yearoldwantbaby I'm sorry to hear you've also had a worrying scan. I hope your little one catches up ❤

@VenusStarr @LemonyT I know you're both so anxious and there's nothing anyone can say to relieve you, but I'm willing away the days until your scans for you and keeping my fingers crossed that they bring some reassurance 💕

@RosieLee @lemonyt @venusstarr @monday55 @holskey thankyou all so much for your kind words and support. I was 7 week 2 days when I went for the scan and baby measuring 6 was 4 days. I'm just hoping and praying that all works out. Trying to keep as positive. I thought the nurse was quite negative and I don't know if she could defo see that it was gonna turn out to be a miscarriage or whether she's just negative in general, like I was so happy when we seen the heartbeat and then bang she sed oh its measuring small. Just like that and said I'm just making u aware to be prepared for the worst. So I don't know what's going on. Since then I've not had any signs of miscarriage like no bleeding or cramps etc. But dunno if that's cause I'm on progesterone pessaries. Hope everyone is OK and good luck to u all who is pregnant and doing well.

And hope everyone that's going through a tough time hope u all ok. Keep the faith, don't lose hope and fingers crossed for you all. What a lovely support group we have. Where we can talk to each other

That's interesting about the fragmin @RosieLeeD I thought they might have said stop too. Glad you have some time off. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow ❤️ I've been doing some journalling every morning and trying to remind myself that this is a unique pregnancy, new protocol etc. I saw my clinic counsellor yesterday and she asked me how I was feeling about Friday and I said I thought it was 70-30 bad news. She asked where's my evidence for that and I couldn't answer, only really my history. But it's like my brain won't allow me to think or visualise getting good news. She also advised trying to be in the here and now, so I'm taking that on board and just trying to do what I can.

@39yearoldwantbaby I'm sorry the nurse was like that. I think they're so tiny at that stage that a mm either way can make a difference to their interpretation. But a heartbeat is a great sign and I've definitely heard of babies catching up with their dates as time goes on. Are you having another scan? Sending love ❤️

Thank you @Holskey how are you? I'm feeling a bit nauseous today, hope you're OK.

@LemonyT I hope you're getting on OK too. I agree, we've all been through so much to get here, it would be nice if we could all just have an easier time from here on in.

Sending lots of love to all xx

@venusstarr thankyou I hate the waiting game. Yeh having another scan. So hopefully lil baby has caught up and all is well. Went to see midwife last week first appointment and she told me that the heartbeat was a good sign. I'm scared tho. Hope you are ok.

@venusstarr what week are you on? Good luck with your scan on Friday

@Frenchie86 So I’ve actually had three scans already 🙈. 1st at 5+4 due to bleeding, clinic one as 6+5 and EPU at 8+5 due to loss of symptoms. Fingers and toes tightly crossed for you on Friday. 🤞🏼

@Etonmess20 Just got the letter to say my 12wk scan is on the 2nd Dec. Funnily enough exactly a year to the day from my first ‘appointment’ with the clinic. I hope the scan goes a lot better than that did! Hopefully once you start showing it’ll reassure you a bit. I think that’s the only thing that’s going to make it real for me. 😬

@whataglouriousthingtobe Hope you’re holding up ok and haven’t been in too much pain. It’s totally normal to be a bit all over the place emotionally at the moment. Just don’t try and force yourself to feel better too soon and take all the time you need to heal your heart.

@RosieLeeD I’m so sorry to hear about your bleed and previous losses, it must be absolute torture! Try to rest up as much as you can and I have absolutely everything crossed for you.

@39yearoldwantbaby I’m sorry you’re going through the mill too. I thought it was pretty common for babies to be measuring ahead/behind by up to a week in the early stages and usually they catch up. I think some medical ‘professionals’ certainly need to work on their bedside manner though, I had a few of them during my MC who literally couldn’t give a flying f*#k, I was so taken aback by it. I really hope you get a much better outcome.

@VenusStarr It’s completely understandable that your anxiety would be through the roof atm. I know there’s not much we can do to make you feel better but hoping your scan comes round quickly and goes really well for you.

@LemonyT I could not agree more. We’ve all taken years to get to this point and for one reason or another we can’t enjoy it. Feels pretty unfair sometimes. Hope you’re holding up ok.

Apologies to anyone I’ve missed and hope you’re doing as well as you can on this crazy roller coaster. x

@RiverRiot oh I am most definitely showing 😂 I must be as I've had seats offered to me a couple of times already 😂. I'm 14 weeks on Friday, baby was measuring best part of a week ahead at my 12 week scan but my dates weren't changed. My DP is tall so probably just a giant baby 😂
Awww that's nice you've had your date through & it's a meaningful one already. I am sure your scan will be fine but only natural to worry! I got the letter through for my 20 week scan & it's Christmas Eve, best present ever 😊

Thanks @RiverRiot keeping everything crossed for all of us, we deserve it! @RosieLeeD thank you, sorry to hear about your experience, really hoping it doesn’t affect your pregnancy.

Just keeping everything crossed for every single one of you on here, it’s such a stressful experience and it’s so hard to stay hopeful sometimes but I’m positive we will all get there ❤️

@39yearoldwantbaby I thought it was okay to measure out by 5 days, mostly because it's difficult to get an absolutely reliable measurement, and when they're so small, the slightest inaccuracy can make all the difference. That's what I thought anyway. Either way, the person who did your scan should have been more sensitive. I hope your next scan is much more positive ❤

@VenusStarr I'm so sick, but if it works out, it's worth it. I contacted the gp yesterday because I have one-sided pain. It feels like my ovary, maybe a cyst, but thought I should check with someone with ectopic being a greater risk with IVF. Doctor wasn't concerned. I almost booked a private scan for today, but I just can't shake the idea it's tempting fate. It isn't, I know that, but 🤷‍♀️
It's good you have your journaling and counselling. I hope they're helping you through these anxious waits ❤

Hope you're doing okay @RosieLeeD ❤

Thankyou everyone for your support and kindness. The nurse said cause it was an ivf baby and they know exactly by dates and stuff that I should have been bang on with measurements. I don't know. I'm so worried in a way, just want to know now.i was contemplating getting a private scan. But they said to me that with messing too much its not good for the baby. Hopefully in next couple of days I will know. Good luck all sending u all baby dust and lots of fertility wishes.

Hi All, sorry been a bit quiet, busy day at work (but sitting down!) and want to get my questions and head in gear for tomorrow so I'll keep it brief - just want to say thank you for all your support, it certainly helps. Will respond directly soon 💕

Also I know there are a few others having scans tomorrow and Friday so just want to wish you all the best of luck too @LemonyT @lucyinthe @VenusStarr @Frenchie86 and anyone I may have missed 💕

@Etonmess20 Haha, that really made me laugh! 😂😂 Aww that’s lovely you have your scan on Christmas Eve, what a lovely present! 💝

Good luck to everyone having scans today and tomorrow. x

Thank you, good luck everyone x

I've been thinking of you today @RosieLeeD ❤️ I hope you're OK

How are you @39yearoldwantbaby it is so worrying but I hope it was just the sonographer was just a bit out with her measuring. When did you say you were going for another scan? These early days are so hard ❤️

@LemonyT I hope you're getting on OK today too.

Sorry to hear you're so sick @Holskey but in a nice way hopefully it's reassuring you a bit. It's weird to want to feel ill!

I've been getting lots of physical anxiety symptoms which are really unpleasant and I've felt pretty sick and dizzy today, but think it's anxiety rather than pregnancy symptoms. Today (6+1) is the day that I bled in my 4th pregnancy, so I've been on high alert all day, but nothing so far. But I also know no blood doesn't mean all is well either. I'm trying to accept it but it keeps hitting me that this time tomorrow I'll know what's going on and I can't face it. I wish I had a bit longer. Its come round very quickly. I've tried reassuring myself by looking up miscarriage stats and even with my history, it says there's an 80% chance all will be well.

Hope you get on well tomorrow @Frenchie86, how are you feeling?

Lots of love to all xx

Thanks @VenusStarr
Just wanted to add a TW - as I know it might be painful for some atm:
It was emotional. Doctor found the gestational sac straight away and the yolk sac. And hiding behind that was the little one 🥲 They measured 1 day behind at 6+5 which they assured me was in tolerance, and heartbeat of 150bpm which is what they like to see. I know we’re not out of the woods yet but it was so precious to see. Most pregnant I’ve been in 4+ years so we’re over the moon!

Have my fingers crossed for everyone else’s scans today/ tomorrow x

Hi All been for a scan again today. Baby still coming along nicely but still on the small side. It's got a heartbeat and grown from last week so all positive so far. Hope everyone Is ok. And just remember we got each other to chat and talk about things.

@lemont are u in the UK. As they said they could tell my banks heartrate today.

[quote 39yearoldwantbaby]@lemont are u in the UK. As they said they could tell my banks heartrate today. [/quote]
Glad all went well too @lemont