Any ivf pregnancies ?

[whataglouriousthingtobe]

I'm only 6+2 and super paranoid about absolutely everything. Had my fet on the 28/09, it was our second fet after the first one failed, I had bleeding before I even got to the otd. My scan is this Thursday and it's fair to say I'm bricking it.

Would be nice to chat with some ladies who've done ivf, I have been keeping an eye on the June 2022 thread but sometimes I find I can't relate.

Hi @Holskey! Happy to see you again :) I’m ok - finally started getting a few mild symptoms at 5+ weeks in the form of frequent urination and tiredness! Call me crazy but I’d welcome some nausea and sore boobs too! I’ll prob change my mind once it does though! But for now don’t really feel pregnant.
@whataglouriousthingtobe sorry to hear how uncertain things are - I hope your next scan is more positive

@whataglouriousthingtobe I had ivf a few years back and my dates were different. My hospital date and ivf date were a week apart so I had 2 due dates! Also I had a few scans to begin with and a heartbeat was not seen until I was 7 weeks. It's a nerve wracking time when you have been through so much to get there. I also had no symptoms until I was around 10 weeks. The only thing I had was the odd period cramp to begin with. Good luck for your scan I hope you get some good news!

@whataglouriousthingtobe Sounds like there could be some hope, and more hopeful than your last scan? Sorry you've no answers though and another week of hell ahead I really hope it turns out to be worth the wait 🤞

@LemonyT yeah morning sickness is bad but nothing is worse than anxiety. Most people get it around 6 weeks I think, so you might have it coming! I haven't got the exhaustion yet but I remember that was so bad around 5 weeks after my last successful FET. It's definitely a time to take care of yourself. I never got sore boobs at all and don't this time. You've probably said this on the other thread but when is your scan?

I'm trying to reassure myself with the fact I feel rough is a good sign @Holskey and I'm super thirsty, drinking a pint or 2 an hour! Looking back that was my first real symptom about 7dp5dt but I put it down the being on lubion. My anxiety is setting in though, so trying to focus on being pregnant and reminding myself I am until proven otherwise with the scan. I've been writing every day all my worries, started it just before transfer and read back last night.
I did go to stay at my friend's on Saturday, I ended up telling her about the ivf, not that we'd transferred but to explain why I couldn't drink. It was nice to see them. Did you end up going out?

I missed your post @RosieLeeD I'm under Dr S too, went down last Thursday for my intralipids. I'm having my first scan with my ivf clinic next week, then they've booked my 8 week one. Blows my mind that they're so confident but I'm trying to trust the process.

Trying to muster up the energy to get up. Finding these early days long - after transfer the time sped up to test day but now it's like it's slowed right down.

@VenusStarr writing down your worries is a good idea. I read somewhere once that if there's something worrying you, you should allow yourself a set time in the day to worry about it, e.g. 5 minutes at 8pm, and every time it pops in your head before that, you should tell yourself you'll worry about it at the allocated time. It works quite well for me. Doesn't stop the worrying but prevents me dwelling.

We're visiting friends this weekend. I think if the topic of alcohol comes up, we'll probably just tell them I'm pregnant but it's early days. I think they'd guess anyway when I'm not having wine with a meal.

@Holskey my scans not till 11/11. Im trying not to stress too much but i’m overanalysing all the little things! I’m worried as my HCG was SO high at 4 weeks. (over 1700!). I took a digital and it changed to the 3+ week mark when I was barely over 2 weeks (or 4 weeks in medical terms). Originally I thought twins. But now I’ve read that elevated hcg can be a sign of molar pregnancy and I’ve convinced myself it’s that!
I’m also worried my husbands getting too carried away. Last time it turned out I had an ectopic and he was so upset! And since getting my BFP this time, he always greets me and baby when he sees me, and kisses my belly goodnight/ good morning (sappy I know!) - so I know he’s already super attached. I’m just worried what might happen if the scans not good news :/

@LemonyT I didn't realise hcg levels were higher with molar pregnancies, but I'm sure that's not the most likely outcome. Honestly, I think knowledge about these things is often a bad thing. I read recently that miscarriages are more likely when the embryo implants late. I'm so glad I didn't read that study just after my first fet because I didn't get a bfp until a squinter 8dp5dt at night. Hopefully in just over a week you'll see a heartbeat (or two!) and at least you can stop worrying about molar pregnancy.

I think it's lovely that your dh is so positive! IME heartbreak isn't any easier because you worried about it before it happened. If anything did go wrong (touches wood) I'm sure he'd be just as worried about you.

Hi @VenusStarr, I'm also trying to trust in the process and be reassured by Dr S confirming he had found a problem (NK cells) and that it is treatable rather than just being told it's bad luck, just try again!

It's a great idea to write your worries down and I like your idea @Holskey of giving yourself an allocated time to worry, I must try that.

I had a bit of a scare yesterday with some brown blood/discharge and had a mini meltdown but the nurses didn't seem too concerned and just told me to come off the aspirin and keep them updated. I know discharge and mild cramping can be common but it's hard not to worry.

I feel like the days are going very slowly too, particularly after yesterday and also having my first scan next week (11th November, same as you @LemonyT). Sadly it wasn't good news as my first scan last time (before I started immunosuppressants) so it's all rather triggering for me. I try and remind myself that after all the waiting I've already done, 1 week is not a long time!

@LemonyT sorry to hear about your ectopic and wishing you all the best this time round. Your husband sounds very sweet. Mine is certainly the more positive one out of the two of us but it helps to balance me out a little!

It's so hard isn't it @RosieLeeD I'm sorry you had a bit of a scare yesterday, hopefully stopping the aspirin for a while helps. Are you also using cyclogest? I've heard that can cause spotting too if using vaginally.

We've never had a good scan and next week is my danger week of 6 weeks so I'm finding it really triggering. I want to get past that first scan but I also don't want it to come in case it's bad news again. Hoping the fact we do have a reason for our losses and now a treatment plan is the key 🙏

@LemonyT its lovely that your dh is so positive. The whole thing is so difficult, so I can imagine that is reassuring. Dh and I have barely spoken about it. He has told me before that he'll be unlikely to believe it until we pass 12 weeks which feels like a lifetime away. I think it's difficult for him and I guess partners in general as they're so removed from it all, he wasn't even allowed in at transfer, although he can come to the scan. Plus he's not going through all the niggles and worries if there are or aren't symptoms.

@Holskey hope your weekend is good, part of me wanted to just tell my friend but then the other part actually wants the opportunity to 'announce' later, once we know things are looking OK. I hate that infertilty and loss have robbed me of that. I ended up blurting it out to my sister last week as she popped round on a bad day where I'd convinced myself the FET had failed, so I just cried on her shoulder. I know it didn't matter in the scheme of things but when you're emotional and hormonal all these things feel massive!

@Holskey thank you. Yes, you’re absolutely right. Bad news would hit both of us just as hard, even if I pretend to be more prepared for it. I should enjoy this time.
I’m thinking of telling some friends in December - but for family it’s def going to be a Christmas surprise.( If the pregnancy gets that far). When is your scan lovely?

@RosieLeeD in a weird way it’s nice knowing someone has the same scan date! It’s a bit like on the last thread I felt supported having ladies having the same test date - a bit like we’re all holding our breath together!
Sorry to hear about the bleeding. I know they say it’s completely normal to spot, but I completely understand as I would be freaking out. Has it been ok today?

@VenusStarr fingers crossed for your first good scan. Yeah it’s weird with partners - I am forever grateful to my dh, he’s been wonderful throughout this whole horrible few years. But sometimes I wonder if the relentless positivity is a bit of self defence mechanism.

@LemonyT my scan isn't until 23/11 😭. I considered getting an earlier scan at a private place, but it popped into my head that the earlier scan might go well but the official clinic scan could go horribly, like tempting fate or something, I don't know. Irrational but I'm just going to wait!
A Christmas announcement would be so special! And you would probably have had your 12 week scan by then too 😍

@VenusStarr yes to everything seeming a big deal. I sent my parents a photo of my pregnancy test in a group chat and said it was very early days. My dad didn't congratulate me. I asked him why and he said "you said it was early days so I was waiting for it to be confirmed". He meant no harm at all but I was actually offended and told him that my pregnancy is confirmed! I'm just overly sensitive to the idea that it could go wrong. I hope you get to announce your pregnancy to your wider friends and family in the way you would have always liked to.

@RosieLeeD has there been any more spotting? We all know that it's common and most often not a problem, but knowing that doesn't lessen the anxiety

@Holskey @LemonyT @VenusStarr
Thank you all for asking how I've been getting on. The spotting has settled now but just a slight discolouration when I do the pessaries. I'm on utrogestan (which I believe is basically the same as cyclogest) so irritation may have been a factor.

I'm also on Lubion which my clinic have now doubled as a precaution (so 2 x 25mg injections a day). They also suggested I go in today for a blood test to check on my progesterone levels as a precaution and I should have the result this afternoon.

I nearly asked them to do another HcG test but I chickened out! I did buy one of the pregnancy tests to show you the number of weeks which I thought about doing for reassurance but I'm not sure it's a great idea!

I overheard another lady in the clinic who was there for her HcG test and I overheard her say that she couldn't bring herself to do a home test. I just wanted to give her a big hug!

@VenusStarr Sending you all the positive vibes for next week and I know exactly what you mean, I want the scan to be ASAP but I'm going to be terrified of the outcome. Is this your first cycle on immunosuppression?

@Holskey hang in there for the scan, I hope you manage to keep yourself occupied in the meantime. Sorry to hear that your Dad unintentionally upset you. I think it's sometimes hard for family members to know what to say for the best. I know my mum feels completely helpless and often doesn't really know what to say when I talk to her. Sadly my Dad is no longer with us but I really don't think he would have known how to deal with the situation at all! Hopefully you know that they all love you and will try and support you in the best way they know how.

@LemonyT I agree it's nice to share a scan date and actually I feels like it gives me the strength not to go ahead and do a pregnancy test in the meantime! I will be thinking of you on the day.

I remember when I first went to my IVF clinic when I was starting egg collection and it gave me comfort to see other women going through the same thing as me. IVF and struggling with ttc can be such a lonely experience. We never told anyone at the beginning but over time we have told some very close family members and friends which I think has helped me a little and I'm really pleased to have found this thread.

I hope you are doing ok with the wait, 1 week today! I am trying to remind myself that 1 week compared to all the waiting I have done already isn't very long.

@RosieLeeD thank you for your kind words ❤ and I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.

I'm glad the spotting has settled. I would caution against taking a CB test. I took one when I was exactly 4 weeks and found myself disappointed to only get 1-2 instead of 2-3 (I know that's ridiculous given that 1-2 was still right!) I thought about taking another a few days later so I googled first looking for stories. I found endless threads full of unnecessary heartache because the test returned inaccurate results when in reality everything was fine. I'm sure they work for a lot of people, but it's a risk and they're no replacement for a blood test. As you say, 1 week until your scan which will be so much more informative 😊

Thank you @Holskey, I'm sure he looks in on me from time to time 💕 and I decided to wait for the scan rather than test so thanks for your advice on that. I still have mild cramping but no more spotting so I really hope that everything will be ok. There is of course nothing I can really do to change the outcome so I'm trying hard not to worry too much and to keep my mind occupied - easier said then done!

How are you doing? X

Hi All, I was just reading that having a retroverted uterus (which I do) can make it harder to detect a heartbeat early on. Does anyone have any experience of this? I have my first scan on Thursday, I'll be 6w5d. Thanks x

@RosieLeeD I have the same and we saw the HB at 6+4. I was a bit surprised that it never gave me any problems throughout the IVF process!

Thanks @lawandgin that's good to know! I was told it made the embryo transfer a little trickier but was still fairly quick. I hope your pregnancy is continuing to go well x

@RosieLeeD thank you! I'm 14+6 and off for a scan today because it seems like such a long time between your 12 and 20 week scans! Had a horrible dream last night which has made me a bit nervous, but fingers crossed all will be fine. How are you feeling? X

@RosieLeeD I've got a retroverted uterus too. My previous pregnancies I've measured behind and we've never seen a heartbeat. My last one measured spot on for dates but not heartbeat but they had no trouble finding him on a TV scan.
I've been with Dr S for a year but started ivf in May. That cycle ended in a chemical pregnancy but Dr S said my immunes were well controlled. He thinks it was poor implantation and my ivf doctor thought it was progesterone, so we added lubion and I think that's what made a difference 🤞

I'm 5+4 today and feeling like my mouth is so dry! I'm drinking loads of water. Has a massive nap yesterday afternoon. I'm slowly allowing myself to believe this is happening. Still very scared about Friday's scan as I'll only be 6+2 but feeling hopeful that this is different. I definitely am starting to feel more pregnant now.

How are you getting on @Holskey @LemonyT? X

@lawandgin the very best of luck for today. Let us know how you get on! 💕 I wouldn't be able to wait 8 weeks between scans either, I'm finding 2.5 weeks hard enough!

Just remember, your dream was just that, a dream and your mind playing tricks on you!

I'm ok, terrified about my scan on Thursday to be honest, I found out that I had a MMC at the first 7 week scan I had and I can't help but think the same will happen again. I've had mild cramping and a tiny bit of spotting which I know can be normal (I actually had no spotting with the MMC) but it's so hard just not knowing if everything is ok. Sending you lots of positive vibes 💕

@VenusStarr I really hope this time will be different for you and that the Lubion makes all the difference. 💕 I am on that too and they have bumped me up to 2 injections a day due to the spotting but when checked, my progesterone levels were fine. It's good you are starting to feel pregnant and are thinking positively. I'm exhausted as well but otherwise my symptoms aren't really giving me any reassurance. I have sore boobs but I've tended to get that on the oestrogen anyway and the cramping and tiny bit of spotting just worry me! I'll be thinking of you on Friday 💕

@VenusStarr I’m ok - thanks for asking. Chilled out a little more and been distracted which helps :) 6+2 today. I have been v tired last couple weeks or so- napping almost every day! But not many other symptoms- sometimes I get a wave of ‘not feeling so well’ but I’m not sure if it’s linked to the pregnancy? Not sure how to explain it- it’s not really nausea, more like I feel a little under the weather, like just how you’d feel before you get ill. Anyone else get this? Or am I just coming down with something lol.
Good luck for your scan on Friday :) mines on thurs.

@RosieLeeD we have a lot of similarities- I have my scan on thurs as well, and I also have a retroverted uterus too, and i’m also on lubion. I was told my retroverted uterus actually made transfer easier as I didn’t need a really full bladder for them to do the transfer!

Nervous for thurs too - I hope it goes well for you. My last scan at around 6 weeks confirmed an ectopic, so fingers crossed this time that nothing like that happens again.

@VenusStarr @RosieLeeD I'm well, thanks for asking ❤ Morning sickness has really ramped up today. I've been expecting it after having it pretty bad in my previous pregnancy. I'm not complaining - so many worse positions to be in. Quite a few people I know only got morning sickness with one but then not the other, but I think having had it last time, I'd only worry more if I didn't have it again.

It's scan week for you both and @LemonyT! (Unless you count Monday as the first day of the week - I don't! 😂) I hope the days between now and Thur/Fri don't drag too badly, and more importantly, I hope you all have a wonderful experience 🤞💕

@RosieLeeD it all went perfectly, thank goodness! Baby was moving around and even sucking their thumb. It was really lovely and we went out to celebrate with a Sunday roast and non alcoholic G&T after. I feel very lucky today.

Gosh you are bound to be nervous after last time. I know lots of ladies have spotting and I had loads of cramping, so try not to be too thrown by that but it's completely natural to be nervous, residual after your previous experience. I felt sick walking into every single one of my scans (and I had a LOT - I had ohss!) It really never gets easier. Sending you lots of positive vibes too and I'll check back on Thursday to see how you get on 💓 x

Hey guys I'm 6+2 today and have to wait another 8days before my first scan. Does anyone else in early pregnancy feeling a bit of discomfort when they lightly press down on their pelvis?

Hi @Monday55 no discomfort, but not much of anything in terms of symptoms for me! Maybe mention it to your clinic if you’re worried?

@lawandgin how wonderful! :)