Pregnancy after miscarriage

[Selena33]

Hello,

I just found out I’m pregnant again (very early days, 4w today). I had a mmc back in April which was diagnosed at almost 12 weeks but baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks and then I fell pregnant again but had a natural mc at 5+5.
This time I am taking progesterone pessaries and aspirin. Anyone else pregnant after a loss? I’m so scared about mmc but trying to relax as much as possible.

@itssquidstella I have everything crossed for you - and what a beautiful scan picture

Hi everyone. I'm so sorry for your losses. I've been reading all your messages and it's helping me feel reassured and less alone. I suffered a missed miscarriage in July which resulted in a traumatic hospital stay with very poor care. I'm now pregnant again 7 + 2 and terrified of it happening again. Both myself and my hubby are not really acknowledging the pregnancy out of fear. We have an early private scan booked for next Friday but the waiting is torture. I haven't got much symptoms just occasional nausea, which is worrying me but then I had lots of symptoms with my miscarriage and that ultimately ended badly so might mean nothing! Just feel like I'm driving myself mad but scared of feeling positive in case it's bad news again.
I am blessed to have a beautiful 4yo daughter, I can't remember when I really started getting symptoms when I was pregnant with her. I know they say every pregnancy is different but it doesn't stop my worrying!

Hi everyone

So glad I found this thread. I am currently around 10+5 after a missed miscarriage earlier this year. We found out at our 12 week scan baby had stopped growing around 11 weeks so anxiety is particularly high atm!

We have had an early scan at 9 weeks and baby looks great but we had an early scan at ten weeks last time too so it has only helped so much.

Would anybody mind recapping their situations and where they are in their pregnancy?

I hope this one is our rainbow babies 🌈 love to you all, it’s a shit club to be in but it’s nice to have people around you that understand.

@Elsie2021 welcome, and I'm sorry you've joined this club.

I'm 10+4 today so very similar! My first pregnancy ended around 7 weeks, but bleeding didn't start until 10 weeks. We'd had an early scan at what I thought was 7+3 but was measuring only 6+0 and had a healthy heartbeat etc. so the embryo only developed for about a week after the scan. Then with my second pregnancy we waited a bit longer to go for an early scan at 8+4 where we found an embryo measuring only a couple days behind but didn't have a heartbeat.

This time I've already had two reassurance scans at EPU, 6+4 and 8+4 and both looked perfect, but with my history I'm still not super confident. At least we're now measuring exactly where we should so that's a good sign compared to my first pregnancy, but then my second would have only ended a day or two before we had the scan, so there's a little niggle in the back of my mind that what if this time we had the scan on the other side of that critical moment. I have another scan coming up today so if all is still well it will be further than I've got to before and not that far off making it to 12 weeks either! 4 hours to go before moment of truth...

@GinnyBee oh good luck for your scan today! I’ll be thinking of you ☺️

Let us know how it goes x

Hi @Elsie2021 and welcome to our supportive little group. Statistically speaking, most of the women in this group are going to go on and have a healthy baby. Even if we've had recurrent miscarriages.

I have had 2 mcs at 6 and 7 weeks respectively. In 2 days, I will be the most pregnant I have ever been. But this is definitely the most difficult week for me, overall.

I have also struggled with "unexplained infertility" since my early 20s. My pregnancies are very slow to catch and quick to vanish. I am now on the cusp of "geriatric" too so it's not getting any easier. 😬

I have a scan booked for in 2 weeks time. It could have been sooner but I opted to make it around 9 weeks for my own mental health. I'm prone to obsessiveness.

My anxiety has been so bad during this pregnancy that I have been pulling my own hair out compulsively. I have tried to speak to a GP about it but they told me I'm being silly and to take a bath and get some sleep. The appointment was over the telephone and lasted 3 minutes. I certainly felt silly afterwards.

Before my miscarriages, I had never suffered with mental health or anxiety before. It was like a switch flipped after the second one.

I have never had such intense pregnancy symptoms as I have with this pregnancy. I am suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum (diagnosed) where I never even had morning sickness before. I also have spots on my face and ligament stretching pains which I didn't experience before.

I'm trying to tell myself this is all good news, although I feel bloated, sick, tired and ugly all the time. 🤣 xxxx

@PeeAche gosh you have had/are having a tough time I'm so sorry. It doesn't sound like you have a particularly good GP! I can't believe they told you to stop being silly! It's completely understandable that you would be feeling anxious! I hope this pregnancy goes well (hyperemesis gravidarum aside)
@Elsie2021 hope all continues to go well for you too.
@GinnyBee good luck for your scan.

Thanks @Elsie2021 and @PeeAche ! All was great at the scan, little blob is growing fast! Was 2 days ahead of dates two weeks ago and today 5 days ahead! Wriggling away. I'm so relieved, and my husband was even more nervous and had a little cry in the scan room.

@GinnyBee Fantastic news! I must've checked this thread ten times today to see if you'd posted. Huge congratulations to you both 😊😊😊

Congratulations @GinnyBee so happy for you!!

Thanks all 😊

I'm starting to feel a little bit more relaxed now and like I can engage with this pregnancy. I've kind of not really even acknowledged it properly so far because of the fear it would end, but we're now so close to making it to 12 weeks! I've started thinking about 'working title' for the blob, had a quick chat with the hubby about work arrangements etc. after blob's arrival, small things like that.

So good you’re able to feel like you can engage with it more @GinnyBee

I had an 8 week scan today and all as it should be be! They found a cyst right where I’ve got a little niggle in my side which I’m relieved about as at least I know what’s causing it.

I’m debating a 10 week scan now and going to book in with a midwife too on Monday.

Hope everybody’s feeling ok x

Thinking about booking an early scan..... I'll be 7 weeks tomorrow. Part of me really wants the reassurance but I'm also terrified...... I don't know whether going early just feeds my anxiety? I have a scan at EPAU at 8+4 but don't know whether I can wait that long 😩

Can I join! We had a MMC at the end of August at 8 weeks but only measuring 5+3. I had a period on 27th September and a positive test on Monday past. I'm 4+5 today. I'm utterly terrified that we'll lose this one again and the irrational part of my brain keeps telling me that we've gotten pregnant again too easily and quickly. Have a private early scan booked on the 13th of Nov then our health board gives people who have had a miscarriage a scan at 8 weeks. Just trying to power through but it's so difficult to be rational. I've never analysed my body (or toilet roll 🙈) as closely in my life!

@Onebabyandamadcat your situation is very similar to mine, I had a MMC at 11 weeks in July but not sure when baby stopped growing. I'm pregnant again 7+5 and have an early scanned booked in Friday. I have the same feelings so completely know where you are coming from! If It makes you feel better there is research that says you are more fertile after a miscarriage so try not to worry about getting pregnant too quickly after your miscarriage. That said I should take my own advice! It's so hard isn't it? Wishing you all the best.

[quote Loubylauralou]@Onebabyandamadcat your situation is very similar to mine, I had a MMC at 11 weeks in July but not sure when baby stopped growing. I'm pregnant again 7+5 and have an early scanned booked in Friday. I have the same feelings so completely know where you are coming from! If It makes you feel better there is research that says you are more fertile after a miscarriage so try not to worry about getting pregnant too quickly after your miscarriage. That said I should take my own advice! It's so hard isn't it? Wishing you all the best.[/quote]
@loubylauralou it's so hard! I've gone from being a totally rational person to one that just isn't! I went for a job interview on Friday and knew there were three of us going for it. I had. 66% chance of not getting it but felt dead confident. I've a 75% chance of a healthy pregnancy and have no confidence in it at all 🤦. I hope this week passes quickly for you and your scan on Friday goes well

I've woke up this morning with brown discharge. This is how my last pregnancy started to go wrong. I'm utterly terrified

Oh @Onebabyandamadcat I’m so sorry to hear this. Remember brown is old blood so may be absolutely nothing. How far along are you? Have you had any pain? Xx

@Loulou237

Oh *@Onebabyandamadcat* I’m so sorry to hear this. Remember brown is old blood so may be absolutely nothing. How far along are you? Have you had any pain? Xx

I keep trying to tell myself that but my last miscarriage never turned red - I had a MMC that was surgically removed. I'm five weeks today I think and hoping that it's implantation bleeding or something. I think I've got the slightest bit of cramping but I might also be imagining it cause I'm panicking. It's just a waiting game I know but it's the most horrible game. I can't believe we're potentially going to be so unlucky twice

Hi ladies … I’ve just come across this group whilst looking on here tor anyone in a similar situation to me! I’m currently 5 ish weeks pregnant, following a miscarriage at 6 weeks in September (I must have fallen pregnant a couple of weeks after that) & a chemical pregnancy in July. How do people manage the anxiety?! I really hope it’s third time lucky for us! xx

@Onebabyandamadcat try not to get yourself too worked up, as @Loulou237 said brown is old blood which means you are not actively bleeding and if you haven't got pain that is good. Try and relax as much as you can. I know you will imagine every little cramp etc to be the worse, I do the same so I understand how hard it is.

@siobhan2017 welcome and congratulations, I hope all goes well for you. It's natural to have anxiety, as you can see we all have it! I personally think it helps to be able to chat with other ladies who are going through similar and you just have to take one day at a time.

So after a fairly positive day yesterday when my discharge was almost not there I've woken up to pink blood. Spoke to epu and have a scan next week but I think this one is not to be.

@Onebabyandamadcat how much is there? I’m so sorry you’re going through this worry. Is there no way they can fit you in for an earlier scan so you know what’s going on? Xx

[quote Loulou237]@Onebabyandamadcat how much is there? I’m so sorry you’re going through this worry. Is there no way they can fit you in for an earlier scan so you know what’s going on? Xx[/quote]
TMI but just when I wiped this morning first thing. It's now back to the slightest bit of brown and lost of clear water discharge. They won't scan before six weeks so I just need to wait and see. The waiting and not knowing is killing me. I'm resigned to the fact I've lost it but I just want to be told that so I can draw a line under it

Ah ok @Onebabyandamadcat as it’s so early and not very much I would really try not to worry. A very high percentage of people have light bleeding in pregnancy and it’s fine. Obviously with mc in past it makes us think the worst but try and hold onto hope and if you can’t, just try and take your mind off things if you can. Can you call your local midwives for some advice and to put your mind to rest? Have you done more tests to check the line etc? There would be no point having a scan at this point I don’t think as they wouldn’t be able to tell anything. Hang in there xxx