Pregnancy after miscarriage

[Selena33]

Hello,

I just found out I’m pregnant again (very early days, 4w today). I had a mmc back in April which was diagnosed at almost 12 weeks but baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks and then I fell pregnant again but had a natural mc at 5+5.
This time I am taking progesterone pessaries and aspirin. Anyone else pregnant after a loss? I’m so scared about mmc but trying to relax as much as possible.

Thank you. I know I just need to try and wait and see. It's just so hard. I've done another test which is still positive though I don't think the line is as dark but down that route I think madness lies 😂. Trying very hard to say what will be will be

@Onebabyandamadcat exactly best to step away from the tests when is your scan next week? Everything crossed for you xxx

I'm stepping away from the tests and trying to just focus on work and such. The scan is Tuesday at 11.30 so just keeping my fingers crossed

Hey,

I'd like to join if I can. Got my positive last Sunday after a MMC earlier in the year in April.

I'm absolutely terrified and so, so anxious. And also really disconnected through fear. DH is excited, but I can't bring myself to be.

I think I could just about cope with a miscarriage (although I'd be distraught), but the thing that scares me most is the thought of having another missed one.

I couldn't bear it. I was absolutely devastated last time, finding out I'd miscarried weeks before and not even known.

I think I'm going to book an early scan, so at least I have an update. Maybe at around 8/9 weeks. I don't think I could cope if I got to the 12 week scan and then found out it's all gone wrong. (Not least because 12 weeks is more or less Christmas Day).

It doesn't really help that I don't have any symptoms, which is making me panic. But then I think I'm only four weeks (that's four weeks from last period rather than from ovulation), so would I have symptoms yet?

I've done a week measure test which is saying 2-3 weeks, which is apparently right for 4-5 weeks. So I guess I can test again next week and see if it moves to 3+ which would be reassuring I think?

Any other ways to try and tell if I'm still pregnant.

I really hate this, being so scared all the time in case something goes wrong and my body doesn't even notice (again).

Any advice or help welcome.

@Onebabyandamadcat sorry to hear this but if it has gone back to brown could still have been a bit of implantation bleeding as it's early days. What day next week is your scan?

Sorry just saw your other post that it's on Tuesday! I know a week feels like ages in these circumstances but try not to drive yourself mad.

@OnceUponAThread 4 weeks is super early and it's very common not to have any symptoms at that stage. Some people don't develop symptom until 7 weeks + and some never do and still go on to have healthy pregnancies.
I too had a missed carriage (in july) and now pregnant again, I have an early scan booked for this Friday. I'm 8 weeks but haven't got many symptoms but do have some. I went a bit mad to begin with and was taking test after test but it didn't really make me feel any better so have stopped now! It's hard when you've had a missed miscarriage as often (as in my case) there was no indication there was anything wrong so it's difficult to feel reassured until you see baby on a scan. Both myself and my hubby are not really talking about our pregnancy atm as we are both scared of history repeating itself. All I can say is try not to drive yourself mad, look after yourself and book an early scan.

[quote Loubylauralou]@OnceUponAThread 4 weeks is super early and it's very common not to have any symptoms at that stage. Some people don't develop symptom until 7 weeks + and some never do and still go on to have healthy pregnancies.
I too had a missed carriage (in july) and now pregnant again, I have an early scan booked for this Friday. I'm 8 weeks but haven't got many symptoms but do have some. I went a bit mad to begin with and was taking test after test but it didn't really make me feel any better so have stopped now! It's hard when you've had a missed miscarriage as often (as in my case) there was no indication there was anything wrong so it's difficult to feel reassured until you see baby on a scan. Both myself and my hubby are not really talking about our pregnancy atm as we are both scared of history repeating itself. All I can say is try not to drive yourself mad, look after yourself and book an early scan.[/quote]
@Loubylauralou - thanks! I agree it's super early. And reassuring to remember than no symptoms is standard.

I've done two tests so far. One the day after I missed my period because I was super nauseous and it's unlike me to miss. That was a strong positive.

Then I did a week tracker one and that tallied with what I was expecting. So I'm thinking I might do another in a week just to see if it hits that 3+ weeks.

Then I guess it's just sit tight and a long old wait. I think I'll have to have an early scan. I'll have a breakdown if I have to wait until 12 weeks, all the while convinced there's nothing there and it will be MMC again.

I'm not sure when's best to book mine. I don't want it super super early because if they can't see a heartbeat I'll be so stressed. But equally last time they think the MMC was at about six weeks, so I know every day without a scan after that will be traumatic.

I so wish I could just relax and enjoy it. But I felt so totally betrayed by my body last time (specifically the missed element, rather than the MC) and it was such a shock, and now I'm just out of my mind.

Argh.

Thanks for your help / support. Will have my 🤞🏻 for your early scan!

@OnceUponAThread my epu did my reassurance scan at 7 weeks as then they would be pretty sure of finding a heartbeat xxx

Hi guys, I'm 7 weeks today and just folding laundry when I had a sharp (take my breath away, sharp) pain within my pelvis, slightly to the left. Not much to the left - about 1.5mm left of the most central point of my mons pubis. I realise this is specific to the point of ridiculous but this is how I operate these days.

I have 2 previous miscarriages, neither ectopic or missed. This is the furthest I've ever made it in any pregnancy.

Has anyone else experienced this? It wasn't cramping or twisting or twinging (I've been having a few of those in the centre of my pelvis since week 4). This was a sharp, stabbing pain.

Thanks.

Hey everyone,

Thanks so much for making this thread about pregnancy after miscarriage. I am just over 6 weeks at the moment and have an early scan at EPU tomorrow.

I'm feeling incredibly anxious as I have had 4 losses over the past 3 years and I have never made it past 6 weeks in the past. I'm trying to stay positive as I haven't had any bleeding, which I did have with all my previous losses but I haven't really had any symptoms for around a week which is worrying me.

I've been prescribed progesterone and low dose aspirin this pregnancy so I'm crossing my fingers that this will help us have a successful pregnancy.

I'm hoping if the scan goes well tomorrow I will start to feel more positive as at the moment I feel like I'm expecting bad news.

Hi @PeeAche I had the exact same thing on the morning of 7 weeks on Friday! How odd. No idea what it was but I think random pains are par for the course and also I had my reassurance scan that morning and all was good. Good luck with everything and not worrying too much (so impossible) xxx

Hi @FeeB33 congratulations. I’m sorry I don’t have any advice as I think we all feel the same here but I hope your scan goes well and it means you can relax a bit! Xxx

@PeeAche

Hi guys, I'm 7 weeks today and just folding laundry when I had a sharp (take my breath away, sharp) pain within my pelvis, slightly to the left. Not much to the left - about 1.5mm left of the most central point of my mons pubis. I realise this is specific to the point of ridiculous but this is how I operate these days.

I have 2 previous miscarriages, neither ectopic or missed. This is the furthest I've ever made it in any pregnancy.

Has anyone else experienced this? It wasn't cramping or twisting or twinging (I've been having a few of those in the centre of my pelvis since week 4). This was a sharp, stabbing pain.

Thanks.

I don't think I've had the sharp pain you described but I read you can have pain like that as your uterus grows to make room for baby. By 7 weeks I think it is about double the size.

I know all too well that it's really hard not to worry about everything when you have had previous losses though.

@OnceUponAThread I booked mine for 8 weeks as they should be able to detect a heartbeat by that point if there is one, if you go too early you will end having to be rescanned 2 weeks later which is more waiting so I'd say wait until at least 7 weeks if I were you.

@PeeAche I haven't experienced anything like that, have you had any more or was it just a one off?

Well it's possible had a miscarriage in 2018 that ended up with D&C horrible but fell pregnant after 4 months she is now 2 and half yrs old and I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant something I thought would never happened as I'm above 36 yes of age so yes you can have a very healthy baby after

@Loulou237

Hi *@FeeB33* congratulations. I’m sorry I don’t have any advice as I think we all feel the same here but I hope your scan goes well and it means you can relax a bit! Xxx

Thanks @Loulou237, congratulations on your pregnancy also. xxx

@Loulou237 and @Loubylauralou and @FeeB33 thank you for your responses. I have taken myself off for a lie down. More to try and calm my thoughts than because of the pain. The anxiety of a pregnancy after miscarriages is doubly exhausting. Normal pulling and tugging pains have resumed in central pelvis. No more shooting / stabbing pains. Thanks for all being so reassuring.

Speaking of reassuring, props to @Tryingformylastmiracle for the lovely talk about your healthy baby after miscarriage.

[quote Loubylauralou]@OnceUponAThread I booked mine for 8 weeks as they should be able to detect a heartbeat by that point if there is one, if you go too early you will end having to be rescanned 2 weeks later which is more waiting so I'd say wait until at least 7 weeks if I were you.

@PeeAche I haven't experienced anything like that, have you had any more or was it just a one off?[/quote]
Ok - that's great advice. Will wait for at least 7 weeks then.

So stressful. Glad to be part of this group to hopefully keep me sane.

@Onebabyandamadcat I had a tiny bit of pinkish discharge early on, must have been 4+ or 5+ something, only when I wiped. Figured it would have been irritated vaginal lining, as it stopped shortly after and hasn't come back and all my scans have been fine.

@peeAche the only thing I no longer do Google symptoms or think of what happened before I know a loss is possible but after that I learned to remain calm and positive just think of the best outcome and ways to make yourself feel relaxed and I've only accepted my pregnancy this week all this time been half and half did not share the news or celebrate or talk about it just incase but secretly sigh of relief each scan as because of 16 weeks loss now I have do growth scans so it is a very painful thing but it does get better

Some good news. My docs have agreed to refer me to EPU for an early scan.

I was fully expecting them to say no they wouldn't because I haven't had three recurrent MCs yet.

But thankfully they've agreed to go ahead.

That's great news

Hi ladies, do any of you have toddlers? I feel so guilty today my little girl has just been sat watching Hey Duggee for ages. I must drag myself out to the garden but feeling so ill and exhausted 😩

That's great @OnceUponAThread ! When is your scan? :)

I've had three scans at the EPU this time "only" after two losses. During my latest mc I begged for a referral to the recurrent miscarriage consultant, and he wouldn't take me but instructed the EPU to scan me every two weeks in early pregnancy as a "consolation prize". Seems to vary so much by trust how much they're willing to offer.