Is gender disappointment a thing?

[caz198917]

Hi all!

I'm only 4 weeks pregnant and know I am getting way ahead of myself.

I already have a 4 year old son and at the time of pregnancy I really wanted a girl. I love my son to bits and can't imagine being without him yet. (We didn't know gender until birth)

I cant help but desperately feel I want a girl this time round. This will be our last baby and I will feel so sad at the thought of never having a daughter.

I know it's ridiculous in the grand scheme of things and I should be happy with a healthy baby,

Can anyone share any stories?

Thanks 😊

I cried when I found out we are having a DD. Not because I was disappointed but because it was such a shock. DH’s family only have boys for generations and everyone I know in the last 20 years who has had a baby had a boy so in my mind that’s what we were having, we’d even picked a name that we both agreed on (can’t agree on a name for DD!). I am also worried about raising a girl, I remember how fucking awful it was as a teenager and having to deal with misogyny and sexual harassment even now as an adult.

Hiya,

bless you - I completely understand. I was pregnant with my second last year, my first was a boy and I was desperate for a girl. I do not have any shame of that, I am allowed to want either gender. I hope you get what you want!

That is not what she meant!!! Gosh, the women are so judgemental on here. This is a safe place to be open about feelings, men judge us enough - lets pull together and empower eachother.

I too have been surrounded by men my whole life, a huge irish catholic family, a lot of brothers, I would love my daughter to have a sister for the same reason. Life with all men can be lonely. I have a son too and he is fab but I have seen boys are sons until they find a wife, that's what i have seen, nobody can tell me that is right or wrong because that is my experience and my experience is my own.

Have thatttt :)

We were given the news at my first gender scan we were having a girl (which secretly was our preference). Something just didn’t feel right with the sealed envelope gender pictures we were given so after a rescan a few days later, it was confirmed 110% boy. Of course we know a healthy happy baby is the priority, but I can’t help grieve a little for the life we envisaged with a girl, even if it was for such a short while.