September 2021 Babies - Thread 8 The final stretch....

[Bubbles1st]

So here we have it, the last thread before babies start arriving.....

Can't wait to start up dating this list with arrivals and names.

Good luck Mommas, we've got this!

@Noodles4Me - 26th Aug 💙
@Scotti84 - 30th Aug 💖

@Sceptre86 - 1st 💖
@primhutch - 1st 💖
@RaeRae84 - 1st 💙
@KHR1 - 1st 💙
@CherylLW - 3rd 💙
@GWhiteley - 3rd 💖
@deedeebythesea - 3rd 💙
@Allicit - 3rd 💙
@Poppins2016 - 4th 💛
@2021mumma - 5th 💙
@Squibble84 - 6th 💛
@leftitlate37 - 7th 💙
@SillyBry - 7th 💛
@LouiseJayne23 -7th 💖
@bewitchingnight - 8th 💖
@SK28 - 8th 💛
@Taralweaver - 8th 💖
@AdventuresAwait - 9th 💖
@mumof23188 - 9th 💙
@Bubbles1st - 10th 💙
@Catkin7 - 10th 💖
@FTEngineerM - 12th 💙
@CobleCloud - 13th 💙
@Maybebaby29 - 14th 💙
@Taybz - 14th 💙
@Bigdreamer9 - 14th 💙
@Eppy123 - 14th 💛
@Newmum110 -14th 💛
@Kirky658 - 15th 💖
@Hopefulmummie - 16th 💖
@Mamabearwhere - 17th 💙
@HollyMoore - 17th 💖
@aurora2021 - 18th 💖
@Bluespace - 18th 💙
@ErrolFinn - 19th 💖
@xsjrx - 19th 💛tbc
@unicornpower - 20th 💖
@Moominmiss - 20th 💙
@Sophieandtiger - 20th 💛
@bluemagicalsky - 21st 💙
@Clouless - 21st 💛
@Suma2021 - 21st 💙
@Jay3004 - 22nd 💙
@SP2Bx - 22nd 💛
@Geegee20 - 22nd 💙
@Holly91 - 22nd 💛
@Rach921 - 23rd 💙
@LittleCatDog - 23rd 💖
@SproutingSprout2021 - 24th 💛
@LittleAurora -24th 💙
@RadDarwazeh - 25th 💛
@crobo87 - 25th 💙
@d0nut - 25th 💖
@GummyBear91 - 25th 💖
@AdriannaP - 25th 💛
@MrsTD88 -27th 💖
@MrsBrett20 - 27th 💛
@marshmallowmode -27th 💙
@Kat1112025 - 27th 💙
@Mrssernalewis - 28th 💛
@ams92 - 30th 💖

Congratulations @Kat1112025 hopefully he's home with you very soon 💙

@congratulations @Kat1112025! Glad you’re both doing well, hopefully you’re enjoying snuggles at home soon! Xx

Wow congrats @Kat1112025. Hope you're both keeping well x

Congratulations @Kat1112025 I’m so glad everything is going well. Must have been such a shock! My DD is the 25th and I would be soooooo shocked!

@Kat1112025 congratulations!! Hope you and baby are both doing well

Congratulations @Kat1112025!

Congratulations @Kat1112025 it must of been a shock but glad he's doing well! 💙 must be hard leaving him too.. take care of yourself though too remember x

Wow another baby! Congratulations @Kat1112025 💙🎉

Congratulations ladies! I'm 37wks today, and we only packed our hospital bags a few days ago! I'd have been totally unprepared if he came early, that's what denial does for you 😂
DH finished work yesterday, and came home with a gift basket of baby things from his colleagues. It made me simultaneously panic and cry, because baby actually got cute new things just for him❤️ (as opposed to all hand-me-downs from his brothers and cousin), and also that it's actually happening, soon! Damn hormones!
I totally overdid it yesterday, so my pelvis is bad. Thankfully baby is having a high up day today, so it's not as bad as it could be...but instead I'm having heartburn. Can't win!

@kat1112025 Congrats to you too!!!! Hope little man is doing OK?? Alice still in NICU, she's doing well but has some jaundice and is on antibiotics but she's strong. Not sure how long she will be in for but hopefully not too long. I aren't allowed to hold her too, they won't take her out of the incubator now. I've been moved to the ward now, but the antenatal ward rather than postnatal as they're full!!! So I've had to have a bit of a cry and a breakdown to try and find out how the hell I harvest breast milk for my premature daughter - bearing in mind its hard enough to get out of bed day after my c section. I feel so disconnected she just doesn't feel like our daughter. I'm disappointed as I had such fantastic care leading up to this and now I just feel like I've been abandoned.. Xx

@Kirky658 I’m so sorry to hear you’re not being supported right now. This is really hard. Is there anyone you ask for help from on the ward? Or can you contact your midwife or midwife team to ask what to do? I’m wondering if they can flag to someone to help you. I would definitely be needing some help myself with breast feeding or expressing. Sending you a hug x

@Kat1112025 many congratulations to you. Hopefully your baby boy will be home with you soon. Hope you are recovering well. x

@kirky658 from experience it can take a while for csection mummies milk to come in. You need to ask or rather demand some help. It is so easy to get overlooked once you've had the baby, I've experienced similar. Sending you lots of love, hope Alice will be getting cuddles from her mummy soon. x

Is there any mum's that could describe what contractions actually feel like lol sometimes I get pains and wonder if I'll know the difference between contractions and normal pains. I'm sure I will but would be interested in reading what they actually feel like

@Hopefulmummie from what I remember it started like period pains and back ache. It was like little waves of pain that started right below my bump that came and went and gradually got more intense

@Hopefulmummie im glad you asked that, ive been thinking the same thing! I think ive had a few Braxton hicks, and when i was last at the dr and they listened to the heart, they put a band on to look at contractions and the nurse said ooh did your stomach go hard then? That was something, but I hadnt felt anything! Im sure I'll know when they start for real but it's hard to know what to look out for when theres so much other movements and aches and pains going on

@Hopefulmummie It sounds like it’s different for everyone but, for me at least, the first one was like a period pain. I didn’t actually take much notice of it at first because it lasted a few seconds, maybe 20, then stopped. I was about to drop off to sleep in bed 🤦🏽‍♀️

Then ten minutes later there was another one, so I started to take note, then ten minutes later another.. after 4 I text my DP because he was on a bloody night shit I was in the house alone 😬

After a few hours it started feeling like someone had reached inside my vagina and started pulling down on my uterus. It really was bloody painful, still though, like period pain in that region. Makes sense since it was stretching my cervix.

The most important thing that I found is that it isn’t constant, not even near to constant, I was so surprised that in between contractions everything was normal and I was chatting and laughing - absolutely zero pain - then when a contraction would happen it would start from 0 and ramp up to maximum pain then slowly ease off all within a minute or so. In reality the most painful part was 20-30 seconds at most. That is why breathing/counting is so good because in two deep breaths and it’s gone again. Then there is no pain for another 2-3 minutes or how ever far apart they are.

Have a look at how long labour lasts for FTM typically too, I didn’t know this 😬 and after 16 hours of contractions the midwife going ‘you’ve got ages yet love, you’re only 5cm’ it was, to put it politely, fucking demoralising.

@Kirky658 that's rubbish I'm so sorry. Hopefully Alice will move out of NICU soon and you'll be able to have some cuddles.

That's so poor that noone has come to help you. I expressed colostrum next to his bed while he was on the NICU with the support of the neo-natal nurses. I didn't have a c section so didn't physically need help just advice. I'm not sure what to advise. Get on the buzzer on your bed and insist the antenatal midwives send someone to help you?

I do think unless you chase them you might get forgotten/lost being on the antenatal ward.

@Hopefulmummie great question, I was wondering myself! I keep wondering how will I know when labour starts. It's so hard when you're a ftm because you're completely in the dark.

On another note, is anyone else suffering from horrific pelvic girdle pain? Our baby has been head down for ages but not engaged yet. My nether region's absolutely killing me today. Getting up from my bed in the morning is so so painful.

Also I have had so many cries @Kirky658, all the hormones plus the shock of everything is overwhelming.

Congratulations @Kirky658 and @Kat1112025 on your new arrivals!!

I am sooo achey!! Had my second Covid jab this morning, slept terribly last night and tonight I just feel like every part of my body is aching 😭. Feeling very sorry for myself! Even just standing up in one place is hard work today! Hoping a good nights sleep will help

@Taybz suffering with the PGP too! I can't find a position that's comfy for long at all, if I sit too long. I struggle to get up and walk, but if I stand or walk too long I get so sore. When I mentioned it to my midwife she said if it got any worse she would refer me for physio but they weren't too helpful at the moment as it was just a phone call. She had mentioned the GP being able to prescribe painkillers too but I'm trying to avoid that

I second @FTEngineerM with the gaps between contractions, they are bizarre but so welcomed particularly as contractions become more painful. Like you can be having a chilled conversation like nothing is going on between, didn't expect it to be like that at all!

Oh @Kirky658! I am so sorry you have to go through this. Perhaps, while being apart from Alice and not being able to hold her can’t be helped, you could insist on getting all the help you need, whether it’s colostrum or general recovery? I agree with everyone who said about a high chance you might be forgotten/overlooked on the antenatal ward. Sending a hug and hope things get better very soon Xx

@CherLW I had my second last Saturday, the achiness lasted about a day and then I was fine, hopefully a good nights sleep will do the trick!

@KHR1 Do you have a pregnancy ball? I had really bad pgp in my last pregnancy and doing hip circles on my pregnancy ball in the evening or any time I sat down towards the end was the only thing that stopped me from stiffening up. If I sat down for too long, it was like my hips and pelvis froze in place! I was expecting the same this time but it’s not been too bad.

@Kirky658 how are you getting on? I second what others have said, you are likely to be forgotten about on the antenatal ward, I would keep asking and demanding that someone help. Unfortunately from my experience, once the baby is out, postnatal care in general isn’t as good, I remember pressing my buzzer last time for pain relief after my c-section and they took 3 hours to get it for me! I hope you have more luck today!