I feel guilty about my unborn child’s birthday

[MissChanandlerBong22]

This is ridiculous. But I’m pregnant with my very much wanted second and due in mid-January. And I was so happy when I found out I was pregnant but over time I’ve started to feel so bad about it, as though I’ve done my second child a disservice by giving them a January birthday! I feel as though every time I tell someone when I’m due they make a comment - ‘that’s too close to Christmas’ or ‘January’s a depressing month…’ or something similar.

My first child and I both have mid-summer birthdays. And there are upsides but there are some downsides - being the youngest in your school year is the obvious one. Also you often rely on having nice weather for your birthday and feel cheated when you get a day like today 😂

I know how trivial this is. Like I say, I’m so happy to be pregnant. But people’s comments are getting me down. Can someone help me feel less guilty? Does anyone here have a January birthday and like it?

My DD's birthday is the week before January's payday - AKA the skintest month of the year! I worry this will cause her problems in adulthood because no one will be able to afford to go out to celebrate with her.

As a kid, though, it gives us something to look forward it, and planning her party and presents gives me a distraction from what I do find a pretty miserable month. And when she's an adult she can always chose to celebrate on payday, or have a later "un-birthday" in the summer months.

@MissChanandlerBong22 well January is no longer a boring/depressing month as it will now be a birthday celebration month for your little one! Remember you could still have the baby in December or February if you're due date is mid January so you never know. How boring would life be if everyone just had summer birthdays?

My baby is due 30th December. I've had similar comments but I just ignore them. You can't pick and choose a birth date. Just make the most of it whenever it happens!

My birthday is in February. It never bothered me

I feel like winter babies often get more presents! My son gets stuff for his birthday, a big effort for Christmas (to not be 'that' person) and because there's such a big gap in between I end up buying him heaps of stuff over summer. 🤣 people will spring or summer birthdays tend to just wait.

You can easily do a summer party if you like. Jan is a great time to go away when he/she is older. As a kid it's great to go back to school and and have a party to go to - something positive post Christmas.
And winter babies do well in life. It's all good op!

Lovely to have a cosy January baby - congratulations. The Christmas before is so exciting and then you get to spend their first weeks warm and cosy with no expectation to go anywhere and not feeling like you are missing out. Then by the time the warmer months come your baby is sitting up in their pram and you can enjoy summer and by their first Christmas they are possibly walking and taking it all in. Sounds lovely to me!

January is a depressing month. It will be lovely to have something to look forward too.

Plus such a lovely time of year to have a baby. All cozy and nice, wrap up warm when heavily pregnant, don't feel bad about lying around inside when it's bad weather. I'd rather winter to summer for a newborn.

There are some great aspects to a January birthday. It’s brilliant for kids to have a party in miserable January to look forward to. People don’t do much other socialising that month.

I have a January birthday :) growing up I never thought it was a bad thing as my parents always made a nice fuss on birthdays.

Good things about jan birthdays...

• if you don't want to go 'out out' you can use an excuse like it's too cold and do a nice bar and food instead.

• January sales!!! Get some amazing pressies for less.

• Inside birthdays for kids, less messy and can keep em all contained.

• My husband is a late august baby and his friends were always on holiday for his bday. I never had this problem and no one ever has plans coz the weather is sh*t 😆

We're all glad to have something cheery to look forward in January, which used to be a grim month, but now isn't as my son has a January birthday!

@Itgetsthehoseagain

A January birthday is brilliant because you will never be tempted to hire outside stuff like a bouncy castle, and then cross your fingers like mad for the weather

Exactly, you know to plan an indoor party and so are never caught out, plus when they are a little older (7 plus) you can have the party ending in the dark, to me candles should always be blown out in the dark. Then you can have atmospheric lighting too. It gives you something to look forward to after Christmas and they are neither too old or too young in their year (in England). Friends can almost always come to the party and parents are happy to have something to occupy their children. It is also at a point in the year where when starting a new school/class they know who their friends are so you can have parties without inviting the whole class.

And forgot the most important part, by the time the newborn fog is wearing off summer will be here and you’ll be able to really enjoy it! DC1 was June and I really felt I missed a whole summer.

My birthday is mid jan and I've never felt hard done by. Like others said, I had more presents to look forward to as a child, and January sales meant I could buy more with birthday money lol.

I did things like ice skating and soft play for my birthdays as a child and it was grand!

A family member has a Boxing Day birthday, now that's a tricky one we have to manage every year to try and separate the days out 😖 my DD also has the same birthday as another child in the family which is hard to navigate every year as well. And I have the same bday as a family member on my side which I imagine my parents found hard to juggle too 😭

I’m 15th jan and youngest DS 14th. I loved it as a kid.

You need better people around you - I've got a January baby on the way and have had literally the opposite comments.

I'm due Christmas Day! Just turned 18 weeks so have been spreading the good news. I always seem to tell people the EDD with a little giggle, they understand why and giggle back. But I have yet to hear any negative comments - that would be so rude and, frankly, hurtful that someone would see anything but positivity in our happy news.

My birthday is at the v end of January and it's great !

1. Everybody is miserable after Christmas but you have something to look forward to You will be able to get some great birthday present bargains in the sales
2. For your baby as Spring arrives, it will be lovely to take your baby out

Seriously?? This is a thing?? My parents have their birthdays a day before Christmas, DS1 has his in January, DS2 in late August (as is mine). Nphews and nieces are also late August and December. No one has ever said anything nasty to any of us.

Oh and FIL is Christmas day and my friend is New Year's Day.

My little girl is due on the 23rd December and I do worry about the joint birthday/Christmas present malarkey and nobody ever being available for birthday parties etc, but just one of those things I suppose 😁

My birthday is in June which was crap as a teen as i had exams on my birthday for a few years

I mean - do I love my mid-January birthday? Not particularly. But as others have said, a birthday is what you make of it, and there are upsides and downsides to any potential date. I will also say that it never really bothered me as a kid - it was only when I went to university and it started clashing with exams, post-Christmas skintness, diets and dry Januaries that I started to wonder if a different time might have been preferable (not that there’s anything you can do about it!)

A January birthday is brilliant because you will never be tempted to hire outside stuff like a bouncy castle, and then cross your fingers like mad for the weather

Almost exactly what I did for my son’s summer birthday this year (spoiler - the weather did not cooperate) 😂

My husband's birthday is on the 7th of Jan, his dad and our niece is on the 8th. Mine, my twin sisters and my husband's sister is on Feb 17th, his brothers in the 24th,
2 family friends on the 25th my mum's on the 26th. So we've had Christmas, new year, lots of birthdays, the we've got valentine's Day and pancake Day, then spring and Easter to look forwaed to. My second baby is due on the 17th of January, my first was early August. The second is sort of in between both our birthdays, and we're excited.