Due end of January 2022 - Thread 2

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We are about to max out our thread, so starting the next one!

@spttc @tangfastic91 @thecapitalsunited @alle1991 @sociallydistained @jonesy88 @erin87 @essekey @erinrose82 @bobblewobble1 @loll84 @dolly0706 @kayl23

I hope that's everyone! Tag away if not :)

Sorry to hear that @sociallydistained, hopefully they are just being super cautious though and it turns out to be nothing. Sending love

@sociallydistained must have been so worrying to hear, I'm really sorry. Like @spttc I'm not familiar with what it means, but I'm glad they've been really thorough and you've a specialist appointment on Monday for more info. As you've said a majority of the threads are positive, as well as the outcomes from the nhs paper, so my fingers are really crossed for you x

Many thanks! I was nervous about this scan as I know they go over everything and I was completely anxious anyway. I keep telling myself it could be so much worse. Have been speaking with my friend who lost her baby and it puts it all into perspective but at the same time today has been a lot and I have had a big cry and feel drained. Will let everyone know Monday xx

@sociallydistained You poor thing. I’ve got my fingers crossed for you that the specialist will be able of offer some positive news on Monday.

@sociallydistained got everything crossed for you for Monday. Hopefully they are just being extra cautious x

@sociallydistained thinking of you for Monday, hopefully the specialist puts your mind at rest. I know they are super cautious with borderline things so hoping that's the case here :)

Hey, I just found out that I'm probably having a boy.
I always assumed it would be a girl and at 12 weeks a specialist said 90% girl.
I already have a daughter and I feel so ashamed that I am slightly disappointed that I am now having a boy.
It's just not what I imagined the past 5 month.
Sorry for being so ungreatful...

@manoa it's not ungrateful and it's fine to feel a bit disappointed, especially as for weeks you thought it was one thing and you got excited about that. I think it's natural, don't feel ashamed

@sociallydistained So sorry to hear that, sending my love! Got everything crossed for you for Monday, and hope you get some answers

@sociallydistained Oh I'm so sorry to hear your scan didn't go as expected - let's hope the specialist can clear things up and it's something that will naturally improve over time ❤️

@manoa I also thought I was having a girl and was slightly disappointed when we found out it was a boy, there's nothing wrong with feeling that way. What I will say is that over time I have become more excited about having a boy, I think when you get used to the idea you will be just fine! ☺️

@manoa don't feel ashamed, I think it's perfectly natural. I also had it in my head it was going to be a wee girl, for no real reason, and I too felt a little deflated when I found out it was a boy. That was a few weeks ago though and I've totally come round to the idea of having a little guy. You will get used to it, I think it's just the shock of finding out that can take you by surprise x

Had our 20 week scan today and found out we're having a girl ❤️

I didn't think I would want to find out but the closer it got I found I did, and I think the main reason was because I was secretly hoping for a girl and realised I would need a bit of time to process and adjust if it was a boy. Even though I would ultimately be very happy with a boy! So I relate to your posts @Scottishgal85 and @manoa, and you're not being ungrateful at all by processing your emotions.

We had our 20w scan today and both of us were expecting to hear that it was a girl and in fact a boy.
I had really weird feelings for the next day or 2, even just stupid stuff like I'd spent all my time thinking of girl names and hadn't really found any boy names I liked and it did leave me feeling quite deflated and unsettled!
But I have definitely got more used to the idea now and it's not that we didn't want a boy or are ungrateful at all, its just not what we were expecting so it's taking some time to adjust!
I'm glad we found out now than get to 40 weeks of thinking that I was having a girl!
Still can't think of any boy names I love as much as girl names though....
But I am seeing my 6 year old nephew today so about to get a massive reminder of how wonderful little boys can be

@Littlemiss41andfabulous thank you - I feel less stupid now - I got used to it a little now. I am waiting for the scan next week and then I will finish my grieving by giving away my first child's baby dresses.
I am being more open minded now and in the end I will love that little bean anyway ☺️

@SouthwestSis thank you for sharing - I feel less alone now! Hope you will find some boy names you like!

We also had our 20 week scan and are having a girl. I’d convinced myself it would be boy for no reason other than gut feeling (and less complex name discussions as we had a male family name we both liked) but am just loving now being able to think of what was an ‘it’ as a her - seems that bit more real. At least finding out now means we have plenty of time for debating name options - I guess on that we will be like you @SouthwestSis but in reverse!

Awww yay to everyone finding out the sex! Updated list x

@Erin87 9th Jan 💖
@Scottishgal85 12th Jan 💙
@BobbleWobble1 12th Jan 💙
@babyyy1926 13th Jan 💖
@PheebsJ 13th Jan 💖💙 (Twins)
@Flowers222 14th Jan 💖
@andreavesi 19th Jan 💛 TBC
@AIC2015 29th Jan 💛 TBC
@NameChanged15729 21st Jan 💛 TBC
@Onehotmess 21st Jan 💛 TBC
@sjxoxo 22nd Jan 💙
@bethabean 23rd Jan 💖
@Tangfastic91 25th Jan 💙
@SouthwestSis 25th Jan 💙
@Laurentwr5 25th Jan 💙💙 (Twins)
@Littlemiss41andfabulous 27th Jan 💖
@sociallydistained 27th Jan 💛 TBC
@missbee404 27th Jan 💛 TBC
@tinydancingbean 28th Jan 💖
@MamaDaria 28th Jan 💛 TBC
@Alle1991 28th Jan 💖
@thecapitalsunited 28th Jan 💛 TBC
@Amijustagrump 29th Jan 💛 TBC
@Trinacham 29th Jan 💙
@EsseKey 29th Jan 💖
@tavileh 29th Jan 💛 TBC
@MKCH 29th Jan 💛 TBC
@Luckymamma 29th Jan 💛 TBC
@expectinglittlebear 30th Jan 💖
@Kayl23 30th Jan 💙
@spttc 30th Jan 💖
@ReginaaPhalange 30th Jan 💛 TBC
@DoctorBambino 31st Jan 💙
@Bells3032 31st Jan 💖
@Jonesy88 1st Feb 💛 TBC
@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 4th Feb 💙
@IDontDrinkTea EDD? 💛 TBC

Anyone else have quieter days of less / no movement? I know they say that 24 weeks is when it should be felt daily, and before then the baby can move position as there's plenty of room. But it's having a quieter day now and I'm wondering if that's normal. I mean I know there's nothing that could be done if it's not at this stage, but has anyone else had quieter days on the movement front?

Yep definitely I would say that my movements haven't settled into too much of a pattern as yet, definitely having some days with more and some day with less movements.

There is totally nothing wrong with feeling a little disappointed when the sex is not what you expected. I think you sort of paint a picture in your mind of how the future so it just takes a day or two to repicture it.

@sociallydistained hope your scan goes well today.

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 I think it's quite normal to have quieter days at this stage. If I'm honest I always found it really hard track movement with my first. I'd have known if it wasn't right but would have found it really difficult to describe in words if that makes sense. This one seems more of a wriggler though!

Hi! Can I join? I’m due 17th Jan. This is my second child - I have a 2 year old boy already. Found out at our 20 week scan we’re having another boy!

Also after um-ing and ah-ing about it a lot, I got my first dose of Pfizer about 10 days ago. Now I’ve had it I feel so much less anxious.

I have an appointment with the consultant tomorrow to discuss mode of delivery - they may want to get him out by c section due to some complications with my first delivery.

Hope everyone’s doing well 😊

@SouthwestSis and @BobbleWobble1 thanks very much for answering, appreciate it

@YouMeandtheSpew Welcome lovely, and congratulations!

I will add you to the list when we have had a few more changes too!

Well done on getting the vaccine too! I was the same and will be booking my first one in shortly - getting my whooping cough this week so have to leave a couple weeks before I get my first covid jab.

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 I am totally with you regarding movements, I seemed to feel him a lot more last week and then the last couple of days I've barely felt anything. I do think that's down to the fact I've had a busy few days/a lot on my mind though. I was speaking to my friend about it who already has children and she told me that in those first few weeks of feeling baby it can be quite normal to have periods of barely anything, until you get a bit further along anyway x

I was thinking the same before seeing the post about movement. Some days she’s really active and others (today) not so much. Think they say by 24-26 weeks you should have more regular patterns x

Update on my follow up scan today and I am super pleased to report my baby is fine! Perfect 😍 so the right ventricle was measuring 11mm on the 20 week scan last week (under 10 is considered ‘normal’) today they did a thorough check of the head. Measured its brain from every conceivable angle and all measurements were under 10mm. To say I am relieved and feel blessed is an understatement!
Saw bub yawning today so cute and got another pic.

I am going back at 26 weeks just for a reassurance scan. I think I would of been discharged but I asked the sonographer so many questions I think she wanted me reassured so I am booked in with her again.

It was so scary because it was the longest scan I have had. She was extremely thorough and it took a long long time, all the while every thought going through my head like has she seen something else? Getting the all clear at the end was the best feeling in the world.

Still don’t know the sex… I heard larger ventricles was more common in boys so I was leaning towards boy but it’s still very much a surprise.