End of Jan 2022 Babies, 1st pregnancy

[spttc]

Hi ladies, I just found out I'm pregnant 4 weeks 1 day just seeing if there's any other newly pregnant who are as excited, terrified, elated, and shocked as I am 😂🤰🏻💕 Due Jan 30th 2022 🤞🤞🤞

Hi ladies, hoping I can jump on this thread if that’s okay?

Massive congratulations to everyone on their bfps 💐

I’m currently 5w1d pregnant after finding out at 4 weeks. I’m still in shock and tentatively excited this is our rainbow baby 🌈✨ would also be our first child. Going by my LMP my due date is 28th Jan, and I have 28-day cycles like clockwork so I feel that’s accurate.

How is everyone doing? Attached a pic of my dye stealer when I found out at 4 weeks 😍

@spttc do you think I should be taking first trimester ones too? What's in them?

Hi ladies, there’s a few other due in Jan threads and a secret Facebook group that you will all be welcome to join if you’d like to.

Just go to www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4223820-Due-1st-Jan-2022?msgid=107752686#107752686 and send a PM to @Ralala for the link

@danielleb97 congratulations! We share the same date. How are you feeling?

@Kayl23 not necessarily I know the Main thing is the folic acid/folate. Here's a pic. The conception ones just seem to have higher doses of everything. I didn't study it too hard. The shiny box is conception. The white is trimester 1. I just went with them as I felt so great on them I said I'd stick with the same brand. They have a trimester 2 & 3 one aswell I Havnt looked at it yet.

@Kayl23 that's the back

@Alle1991 congrats to you too! ✨

Oh yay that’s amazing! Today I don’t feel so good 😂 I’m feeling quite nauseous this morning and my boobs have been insanely sore since days before my period was due. That was the main thing that led me to test!

What about you? ☺️

@danielleb97 thanks, really nervous and excited at the same time. God my boobs are really sore! I want to walk round holding them haha. The nausea comes and goes throughout the day but nothing too bad thankfully x

@danielleb97 @Alle1991 I’m the same date at you guys! I’m just shattered and constantly hungry but literally don’t fancy any food because it makes me feel nauseous

@Fraanne aww congrats, mine comes in waves but ok at the min (hope I’m not jinxing it) have you told any family or friends? I’m thinking of having an early scan around 8 weeks. What’s your thoughts? X

@Alle1991 I haven’t told anyone yet although I have a feeling someone will catch on as I’m asleep by 8pm or really bloated! I think my mum will know soon as I’m very small build so any weight gain it’s super noticeable!

I have actually booked an early scan a day before the 8 week mark, mainly because I had Clomid and the risk of twins is slightly higher and also for my little brain as I’m super nervous as I didn’t think it would ever happen for me!

@spttc Thanks for that I'm gonna have a look in to it ☺️

Those of you have told family, what have their reactions been? I'm 5 weeks but we decided to tell our families this weekend, mostly so we could have some support as I am really struggling with the anxiety and my partner works long hours with no access to his phone. Obviously any pregnant person knows that the risk of miscarriage is higher within the first twelve weeks and is going to be worried/concerned, yet both of our mums instantly started talking to me about miscarrying as soon as we'd told them. I'd put a little gift bag together for them where I printed off the due date and we'd put a baby grow in it with "grandchild #1" written on it. My mum almost instantly said "let's not get excited, you're only early" and when I asked what she meant said "people don't usually announce it until 12 weeks so they know it's actually going to work out". We then told my partners mum yesterday who opened the gift bag, said it was nice and then started telling me how likely it is that I will have a miscarriage. I'm so so disappointed in both of their reactions and I just can't understand why either of them thought it was acceptable to start a conversation that every pregnant person is already aware of and stressed about. I know that I'm early and it's good to be cautious but I just think doing that at the same time we're announcing the pregnancy and are clearly excited about it is a really crappy thing to do 😔 just felt like two massive big negative kicks in the teeth

@Kayl23 so sorry to hear that, it must be really disappointing and frustrating and definitely not the reaction you hoped for!
I don't know if maybe they experienced a miscarriage themselves in the past, and just wanted to prepare you for a possible disappointment based on their experience...? I know that this is also my first thought every time I know about a pregnancy so early, just because I went through it myself... Just to say that maybe the intentions were good...But it's definitely not the nicest way to react to such news, especially as you are already suffering from anxiety!! I hope you could explain to them how you felt in that moment...... And that in time you can really manage your anxiety to the best of your possibilities. Sending you a hug...
And for what it counts, I am excited about your pregnancy!! :)

@kayl23 I'm sorry it was an unpleasant experience telling them. I think, especially with this older generation (obviously depending on how old your families are!) but it's the last generation of women who didn't really have access to early scans and on tap early pregnancy tests. My DM is 62 and when expecting me (nearly 35) she said had to wait to miss two periods before being reffered to the MW etc. So it wasn't such an immediate potential reality. I get it (their reaction) but that's only because of my personal experience with baby loss, but I would never vocalise it to an obviously excited expectant family! It really takes the wind out of your sails though and I'm not surprised you're disappointed with their reaction.

I think I may have to get in touch with the EPAU, I have some uncomfortable twisting type sensation on my right lower side for about three days. Combined with arm/shoulder ache and I'm slightly concerned this pregnancy is lodged in my tube.

@EsseKey @SemiFeralDalek Thank you both. I think you're probably right, they have both experienced pregnancy loss and I agree that it is something you think about when you know someone is so early in their pregnancy, but there's just absolutely no need to say it out loud - especially at the exact time you're being told about it! I was hoping that telling them would ease my anxiety slightly but it's actually just done the complete opposite and now I can't stop thinking about losing the baby (even more so than I previously was!). We did get a lovely reaction from my dad and my partners grandparents so I'm trying to focus on that instead.

@SemiFeralDalek I hope you're okay and that's not what's happening! Are you calling them today?

After 3.5 years of waiting then deciding to accept childlessness and move on with our lives, I realised that I was late and felt a bit funny. Took a test, showed it to DH who thought it was a lateral flow and I had COVID. Then I realised that all my tests were out of date so we had to make a dash to the shop to get new ones which confirmed that I was expecting. We’re still in shock and I keep having to look at the tests to reassure myself that I’m not going crazy. Due date is 30th January by LMP.

We told our parents straight away and although we made clear that it’s early days and anything can happen so not to spread the news to the wider family, everyone is very excited (it will be the first grandchild on both sides) and so, so pleased for us.

@Kayl23 omg I cannot believe that! I know that people tend to stay such utterly stupid stuff when it comes to pregnancy etc. I had a guy I work with say to me in a knowing way......"maybe one day you'll have a family, hopefully it's not too late" 😂😬🙈 like pardon me simon from accounts? The mind boggles! I was 33 at the time and for all he knew was pregnant/had had a miscarriage/didn't want children or whatever! People say the maddest things and they don't mean harm but it is hard to take sometimes. I'm 100% waiting at least 12 weeks now after hearing that. I'm sorry you had to listen to it ☹️

@thecapitalsunited congratulations 🎉 🤰🏻❤️💯

@spttc you are right people just don't know when to shut up!
Yesterday I was telling to a colleague who doesn't know I am and was pregnant about a camping tent we bought too big by mistake... She wouldn't shut up about how we could just grow into it (aka have kids) instead of returning it... I mean, really? Only time I used my miscarriage story just to see the reaction on her stupid face 😂🤐

@EsseKey wow that's just unbelievable 😂 what is wrong with people!!!!

@spttc Oh wow!! I hope you slapped him 😂 stupid Simon! But yeah it seems that a lot of people really are clueless with this kind of thing. Which is weird, considering how many people do have children! You would think they would be a bit more knowledgeable about how to talk about it 🤔 but yeah I don't blame you for waiting until 12 weeks to announce, I really wish that we had!

@thecapitalsunited congratulations that’s wonderful news!

How’s everyone feeling? My anxiety is through the roof at the minute I’m constantly googling anything and reading into far too much, is this normal? I’ve only known I’m pregnant for a week and it’s my first time. Does it get better as the weeks go on? I’m hoping I’m just getting my head round things. I’m driving myself mad thinking something bad will happen. My hormones are all over the place haha

@Alle1991 I’m also very anxious - I feel like I’m almost waiting for something to go wrong because this can’t possibly be happening. I don’t know how I’m going to make it to the first scan without going crazy!