SI Graduates - From pots to bumps

[eloiseislost]

@AdriannaP
@ComebackQueen

I think it's just us at the moment (sorry if I forgot anyone) but hoping that more and more of us will be joining soon!
I figured it would be nice to stay in touch here too, throughout the exciting yet nerve-wracking next stages! 💞

How are you getting on? 🙂

@primrosechill We've been married for 3 years, together for 8. 💞 Between the pregnancy (first trimester nausea and extreme fatigue plus anxiety of course) and then moving house (if I see another flat pack I will literally cry), we barely have had time for each other lately. I'm praying that the scan goes well and then we can go somewhere for a nice meal and celebrate, in a relaxed and non-furniture building afternoon! 🙏🏼 🤞🏼 🌈

Well done for resisting the urge to poas today! 👏🏼 I remember the first weeks, I did not have any regular tests, cheapies or otherwise, I had the CB digitals with weeks. I had 3 and managed to space them out within the two weeks between the first BFP and the first private reassurance scan. I also had the scan at 6 weeks, exactly when I lost the previous one. 👼🏻
Not too long for your scan now, keeping everything crossed for your little bean! 🌈❤️

Breakfast in bed and movies sound awesome! It's rainy here in west of Scotland too 🌧 but I have plans to go up in Glasgow for shopping and dinner for the first time in 6 months so I'm going to persevere! 😄

Have a lovely weekend everyone!! 💓

Enjoy the chilled weekends before the babies take over 😜😅 I have been up since 7am with my DD (and that’s late for her). I’d love a chilled weekend.

@AdriannaP ha! I am very sure I will one day look back on these days of being able to prioritise nothing but myself as the ultimate luxury that I didn't appreciate at the time - so I will be sure to make the most out of it while I can ☺️

@eloiseislost hope you enjoyed your day in Glasgow and had a good Sunday, too!

I'm 4+6 today and I think some of the symptoms have kicked in a bit more. I have felt nauseaus since this afternoon and my bladder is now officially waking me up at night, too. Am I a right weirdo for being oddly happy about the nausea? I didn't get any with the pregnancy that ended in mc so I am choosing to believe it's a good sign that things are developing as they should - I'm sure I'll feel very differently about it in a few days/weeks 😆

I've been feeling a bit (edit: a lot) stressed at work the past few weeks and Sunday Scaries crept in on me just now - I am balancing them with a thought that new work week means new week for the bean, and all the exciting development that it's currently rapidly going through!

Hope everyone else had a good weekend ❤️

@primrosechill It was a lovely day, thanks! Watching my friends get drunk at the end was an interesting and totally novel experience! 😂

I know what you mean about the nausea. I never experienced nausea with my MC so when it started this time around I was delighted! Now I still have it at 18 weeks, so I'm less delighted but still it's a small price to pay… 🌈💓

Hello ladies, how is everyone doing? I can imagine that being further along perhaps you are a bit more peaceful and focused on not obsessing about every little symptom - unfortunately at exactly 5 weeks today I am really struggling with how slowly things are going and am obsessively consuming a lot of pregnancy content while also trying not to get my hopes up.

I couldn't sleep at all last night and woke up feeling absolutely dreadful - ended up doing only a few things at work and then calling in sick to just rest up and take care of myself. Tiredness has hit me like a brick but so have cramps today - and I am freaking out about the latter. I know they can be completely normal in the early pregnancy but they have been pretty constant throughout the day and I am obviously worried and scared to find blood whenever I feel any discharge (which is a lot and often because I'm on progesterone pessaries at the moment). Did you have cramping in your first semester? And if yes, what did it feel like?

Hope everyone is doing alright and excuse my eagerness but I find writing gives me an outlet - I've started journaling, too. x

@primrosechill Hello lovely, I'm sorry you are feeling so anxious, I was exactly where you are 8 weeks ago. I had and still have some cramps, early on it was quite AF-like, now it is more like stretching pains. I didn't have progesterone this time, but I was on cyclogest when I was pregnant with my daughter and oh my goodness, I felt awful on it, like I'd been bowled over with fatigue, I was in bed every day at 6pm, so please be kind to yourself and rest as much as you possibly can. I would be lying if I said the anxiety goes away, it doesn't really, it just gets replaced with new anxiety but I find I just focus on the next milestone and try not to dwell too much on anything beyond that. Keep talking to us here as well 😊 xxx

I'm still massively sick and feeling very put out about it. Rang the GP to renew my prescription. Had a repeat 12 week scan today, my dates have been moved, so now 13+4. I know that's not right (SI, wahay 🙈🤣) but just gonna go with it as its only 3 days ahead. Hope everyone else is well 😊

@primrosechill Believe me, at 18+3 I'm not much more peaceful and I still obsess -albeit not about symptoms but more about movements/flutters (nothing yet) and of course the 20-week scan! 😱
I had cramps in the first trimester, I had to take paracetamol one night, they were that bad. It was exactly like PMS!
The fear of finding blood was constant in the first trimester for me. It has eased now but I still check every single piece of loo roll... extensively! 😬
It's good to talk about these concerns, I think more or less every woman can empathise -especially our wee group because we had to go through slightly different journey. Please write anything you want here, don't bottle up your worries. 🙂 I found that, as lovely a man as my DH is, his approach to things is too laid back, i.e.: "whatever will be will be" "it's all going to be fine, why worry" "why are you getting stressed over things you can't change?" If only it was easy! 🙄

Thank you both for being so lovely! I had a good nights sleep and woke ip feeling a bit more optimistic - it's incredible what a good rest can do. @Bluey18 I'm sorry to hear that you're still so unwell though, hope it gets better very soon!

@Makingnumber2 how are you getting on, due month buddy?

Hi 👋 everyone. So sorry to hear you have been feeling so anxious @primrosechill- if it’s any consolation I have been feeling exactly the same. Im so worried my nausea and general symptoms aren’t increasing, my boobs are hardly sore etc and this is exactly what happened last time and it was MMC. I feel like I can’t be excited about any of it and instead it’s just a huge burden of worry on my shoulders. The days feel like they’re passing so slowly- it’s still 20 days til my next scan. If I could afford it I would Book one for end of the week. I just feel like if it is going to Be shit news again I want to know ASAP. I am very weepy atm about it all tbh. I am pleased you’ve woken up feeling brighter today- I hope that feeling continues for you.
So sorry you’ve been so sick still @Bluey18 it is so hard. Will keep everything crossed the sickness buggers off soon.
@eloiseislost I hope the days fly by for you to get to that 20week scan!!

@Makingnumber2 I'm sorry you are struggling too. I had a MC at 9 weeks before my DD and I spent most of my pg with her very anxious. Even with this pg, I have been very resigned to the fact it might not work out. I see my friends in such blissful ignorance, they get pregnant and just assume that's it, baby coming in 9 months (and 99% of the time that's the case) and I can't help feeling a twinge that I can't be that happy too but I know I won't fully relax until I've a baby in my arms. Personally, I have found private scans only provide very temporary relief, my brain starts acting up again within a day or 2. I hope time flies until your next scan xx

@primrosechill How are you feeling these days? I hope you are still rested and optimistic! ❤️

@Makingnumber2 Works keeps me very busy so that helps a lot with the nerves! 🙂
How are you keeping? I'm so sorry you are struggling, I think I know how you feel -I had an MC and then got pregnant after the first period. I was SO weepy during the first trimester in this pregnancy, particularly before scans. My Mum lives on the other side of the world and I remember lying in bed, floods of tears down my cheeks and calling for my mum. Sounds silly now, but I felt so vulnerable.
The good news is it does get better! The fear and the anxiety never completely goes away, but it eases so much after the 12-week scan. I'm not going to lie, days will draaaaaaag but you'll get there! ☺️
And you have us here to talk to if you need to. ❤️

@AdriannaP I hope your scan went well!! ❤️

@eloiseislost when is your 20 week scan? Are you feeling that baby move yet? 😍

@AdriannaP hope the scan went well?

@primrosechill @Makingnumber2 how are you both getting on? I know how anxious the first weeks are, and boy do they drag!!

@Bluey18 I hope your sickness is improving?

I had my nhs scan this week. They put me a few days ahead at 12 weeks exactly. I still think that’s ahead (I’m sure I’m 11+4), but due date is now officially 25th November. I’ll take it! Didn’t get the clearest pic this time..

@Bizawit Aw look at that little bean! ❤️ Congratulations!! I was born in November, therefore the best people are clearly born in November! 😄

@Bizawit My 20-week scan is a week on Tuesday, on the 25th -which is also my wedding anniversary! 😬
I think I can feel her moving now, when I'm lying down after dinner. It feels like something is head-butting my belly button from the inside, which is very different to what people say flutters feel, i.e.: "butterflies" "pops" "fish swimming". 🤷🏻‍♀️

@eloiseislost aww that’s lovely timing!! A lovely anniversary gift. And lovely you are feeling the baby!! Must be it, as I can’t imagine what else would be head butting your belly when you lie down 😂. Tbh I think the experience is so weird and subjective that everyone describes it differently. I have no idea what people are talking about when they said “flutters”. I never felt anything of the sort. I guess some is my DD’s earliest movements did feel a bit like pops though- but very difficult to describe..

I’m also born in November so definitely agree 😁😜.

My scan went well thank you! All good and well and baby is measuring exactly in the middle for most things. Feel a lot better now but it’s still hard after losses to let go of the worry.

@Bizawit congratulations on your scan!! 🥳❤️

Awww lovely 🥰🥰 @AdriannaP . Such a cute pic of the baby . I think after a good 20 w scan you can really start to relax ❤️❤️❤️. I totally know how you feel though, sometimes the worry never goes away.

A close friend of mine had a premature baby born at 26 weeks. Baby seemed ok, and was a good weight but died a few hours after birth. It’s was of course hugely traumatising for her and I often think of her and I just don’t think I can fully relax until baby is here. One of my husband’s friend’s baby also died in the womb at 38 weeks. I shouldn’t even share these stories with you all.

I know this is a tiny percentage and I just need to think positive now. I can feel baby every day several times which helps too.

Wow what lovely scans ladies . Bizawit, you're 2 weeks after me, I'm due the 11th after my dating scan, unless they decide to give me a section early which is a possibility. Dp and I are both November bdays, so it will be a busy month for us 😊

@AdriannaP oh gosh how utterly heartbreaking. I can’t even imagine. Did they find out what they was wrong in those cases? Of course these things do happen 😥 - and too often 💔 - no point pretending otherwise, but I guess it’s good to remember that it is comparatively very rare, and once you get so far and everything looks normal, chances are so overwhelmingly in favour of everything having a happy ending ❤️. no reason at all to believe it won’t.

@Bluey18 ahh so many November babies 😍. I always think it’s a nice time to have a Nov birthday. Just as stuff is getting cold and miserable, there’s stuff to look forward to. (Although the older I get the less happy I feel about my birthday of course 😂),

More good news my side. My harmony results came back- super low risk for all conditions, and.. it’s another girl!! 🤩🤩🤩

@Bizawit Congratulations!!! So happy to hear all low risk and my goodness, two little girls, how precious 💗💗. You know I was just saying to DP recently I bet ours is another girl, they say girl sperm is hardier and you'd think it would be more likely to make it through SI, will be interesting to see what we all end up having 🤣🥰.

I think it's a nice time of year too, not worried about a newborn overheating and the days start getting longer as you come out of the newborn haze. Plus Christmas newborn cuddles are the best 😊

@Bizawit Congratulations, great news from the Harmony!! 🎉
I remember the relief when I got the phone call!
And welcome to team pink! 💖

Hello ladies, sorry for the radiosilence on my end - it ended up being a crazy busy week at work!

@Bizawit @AdriannaP congratulations both on your scans and healthy results! Seeing your little bubbas on screens is giving me such a warm and fuzzy feeling 🥰 I need to wait another 11 days until my first ever scan which seems like a lifetime away. I'm 5+5 today and wish I could just fastforward to a few weeks from now!

It's funny how many of you are born in November and expecting your beans that same month. I'm a January baby and I'm now due in January, too - hopefully it's a good omen haha!

Nothing major to update on here. I got my 3+ on CB two days ago which I know means nothing but I did get it exactly on the day when my hcg levels should have reached the clearblue threshold for 3+, based on my blood results from early last week, so there is a little piece of mind in knowing that it looks like things are doubling and progressing as they should! I promised mysef that was the last of my poas - I also ran out of cheapies and hubby banned me from amazon 😆

I still dont "feel" particularly pregnant. Bit tired and having some cramps (which freak me out often) but no ongoing nausea/sickness. Oh and I have lovely chin acne now 🙄

@eloiseislost how are you getting on these days? @Makingnumber2 how are you? Sorry to hear you've been (also) going through a lot of anxiety - it really comes and goes for me. There are days when I feel all positive thinking we'll be fine this time, and other days when I remember just how early it still is and that I have absolutely zero control over anything right now 💆🏻‍♀️