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Refused Antenatal Scans - Help

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MotherHubbard2020 · 12/02/2021 13:43

NC for this as it is pretty embarrassing.

Anyway, I attended my 12 week scan yesterday at the hospital and was accompanied by my exclusively breastfed baby.

I was refused the scan based on me having a child with me, I asked them to use discretion as my son is exclusively breastfed but the lady was completely dismissive and said it was policy. No children allowed to accompany mum for the unltrasound.

I tried to argue my case asking what the reasoning was, please use discretion and then explained that they had a duty of care and were now refusing my care based on me bringing an exclusively breastfed baby to the appointment. They argued that I had refused my own care as I could’ve left the baby. It got to the point where I asked them to make a note on my record that I had been refused entry to my scan based on me being accompanied by an exclusively breastfed baby. At this point I think the manager panicked and she told a colleague to call security.

As soon as I saw security walking towards me I just left.

Well today I attended my midwifery appointment, the midwife explained they couldn’t do much without the scan information but said the scan department was now refusing to scan me and an incident report had been logged, if I want access to this I need to file a freedom of information request.

I am totally at a loss, I have no idea how far gone I am because I am still breastfeeding and my menstrual cycles have been all over the place plus I’ve started having pain on my lower left side which I explained to my midwife today who advised A and E if it got any worse but explained that the ultrasound department at that hospital are refusing to deal with me so she doesn’t know what would happen.

I am totally at a loss, I have an immediate family member who is a consultant obstetrician but am reluctant to get them involved yet. Any suggestions?

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Bleepers · 12/02/2021 19:09

Can't be arsed to scroll back. Do we know the baby's age yet??

Sexnotgender · 12/02/2021 19:10

@Bleepers

Can't be arsed to scroll back. Do we know the baby's age yet??
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Bleepers · 12/02/2021 19:12

@Hoppinggreen LOLOLOLOLOLOL this made me laugh so much.

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MotherHubbard2020 · 12/02/2021 19:47

I can assure you I’m not a troll or reporter and I wish the circumstances were untrue but sadly they’re not. Thank you all for the helpful replies, they’ve all been fully taken on board. My only concern at the moment is accessing the care I need for my unborn child.

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halfwaythrough2 · 12/02/2021 19:48

You've actually admitted you have care for you toddler and you didn't think to also leave the baby. If I had walked out of my scan after finding out the baby had died and saw you sitting there with your baby it would destroy me. This is one of the reasons even pre Covid you weren't allowed to bring you child. You sound like a selfish ass

WalkingMeAway · 12/02/2021 19:49

@MotherHubbard2020 if you are genuinely in pain you need to either call 111 or go to A&E. Without your baby I’m afraid.

You might want to book yourself a back up private NT/Dating scan.

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Twizbe · 12/02/2021 19:51

HOW OLD IS THE BABY

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HeyDW96 · 12/02/2021 19:53

@MotherHubbard2020 nobody is denying you access to care, and anyway, it's care for your unborn child that is the priority here, it's not all about you! They denied you access to the department because you made a song and dance about the rules, everyone else has to abide by them and you don't like it because they didn't bend them for you..

It is highly unlikely that the NHS would deny you any access atall to care and a dating scan, I work in the NHS and we constantly have to rearrange things for people that abuse the system and make things difficult

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EarringsandLipstick · 12/02/2021 20:07

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Sorry did I miss the explanation of how you can have a messed up cycle and be worried about that and be 12 weeks pregnant....
I think she means that due to an irregular cycle she's not sure of dates & is estimating she's 12 weeks.
Crazycrazylady · 12/02/2021 20:08

Honestly op. I'm not sure I'd want to involve my close consultant relative either😲. Your behaviour must have been totally unwarranted to take the step they've taken. They see difficult people all the time and I've never heard of them taking this step before.