👣 November/December babies 2020! 👣

[danielasummer]

Can't keep track of who has had their babies! - but here is a new thread for those who have had ours and those still waiting x

@EithneBlue you’re not a bad mum haha it’s definitely wet enough to need an outfit change and sometimes myself too. She’s often sick as she’s winded after a feed and then more later. I’m very fed up today. Multiple outfits, two changes for myself and I’ve had to change the sheet twice in her Moses basket. Plenty of wet nappies but I’m losing the will to live with this amount of washing and changing.

@peachypetite I know you've mentioned your lo has colic but have you ruled out reflux? We've had no sick since starting baby gaviscon

@kkr168 yes all this time I thought colic but she’s started being sick so much now after feeds. Desperate for my six week appt so I can discuss this.

I would ring your gp and asked to be seen anyway or discuss what’s been going on and maybe they’ll prescribe gaviscon they did for me @peachypetite I am really struggling at the moment feel like she’s never settled and can’t enjoy her feeds because she starts crying through them don’t know if that’s from wind or reflux I think both as she cries then farts sometimes at night so must be wind too. I’m going to say I want to come in to have my stitches checked as a way to be seen for my 6 week appointment 😅 I do feel abandoned as I want to make sure she’s putting on enough weight since all of this reflux stuff 🥺

Thanks everyone, feeling a lot better tonight. I think I just get a bit overwhelmed and my baby blues kick in at this time.

DH is amazing & we have had so much support from our local infant feeding team. I was there today for a follow up & they are happy with the latch and positioning. He’s also only 90g off his birth weight after day 8 - he’s gained 135g since he was weighed on Sunday.

Last night was a lot better, he actually slept in his crib for about 3 hours over two periods and then we had a doze together next to DH for about 3 hours this morning. I’ve bought a swaddle bag and also we are borrowing a Moses basket from tomorrow so that might make even more of a difference when it comes to putting him down to sleep.

Thank you so much to everyone who responded, you made me feel like I wasn’t alone at a time that can feel very lonely

Haha this made me laugh I feel like a walking tit for sure

@MaverickDanger it's amazing what a few hours sleep can do xx

@MaverickDanger Glad to hear you had a better night. Swaddles (well grobags) improved my son's sleep massively, he kept waking himself up with his startle reflex before getting them.

@peachypetite my son's 6 week check isn't happening until he's 8 weeks, it's ridiculous! I'd ask to be seen sooner if you suspect reflux.

@Babyhope98 how long has your lo been on gaviscon? The Dr told me to give it a few days & if no improvement they would give my son a different medicine, luckily for us it seems to be working (touch wood)

Am I the only one whose baby hates baths? I did ask before & someone recommended putting a wet flannel on his tummy, it didn't help at all. We are going to try bathing him with us next time, to see if he likes that. I really want to take him swimming as soon as we're allowed but there is no way I can do that currently, he literally screams hysterically until he is dried & dressed again. It probably doesn't help that he hates being dressed/undressed so he's usually crying before even getting into the bath.

I'm feeling quite tearful tonight, really struggles with my little ones sleep - or lack of it. As soon as night time comes he just will not close his eyes. For the past 3 nights I've been up with him till 4am, he wont be put down and will just lie there in my arms. I feed and change him but he still wont sleep and eventually he will start to cry because he is tired but still won't go to sleep. I don't know what to do with him. I feel frustrated and out of my depth.

@Pinktruffle I'm so with you on this one, we have for the last 3 nights been up all night with a screaming baby who will not settle for anything. I've lost my temper so many times due to extreme tiredness. The doctors wing entertain us and just said babies cry. Yeh they do but not like this or all night. We know he has Colic and have medication for it but omg he just needs to sleep or at least lay there and be quiet!!

My baby has been a complete nightmare all day and I’ve barely been able to put her down. Currently in the living room rocking her pram with my foot. She is going through a leap according to my app but I have lost my temper too! @Pinktruffle I’m just resigning myself to a night of no sleep and telling myself this will pass.

I'm sorry to hear that you guys are struggling too @peachypetite and @Mysafespace though I am a little relieved to hear I'm not the only one. I:÷ had to put him down and let him scream a couple of times too as I've reached the end of my tether with him. It really is just relentless. I really hope it let's up eventually as I'm not sure how long I can do this for

I’m starting to lose the will to live and have had to leave the room and scream my head off in the kitchen. I hate her at the moment. Fed her and she was sick so changed her outfit and vest. Did up the last button and she was sick again. I cannot cope.

@peachypetite you’re not alone. Get that breathing space. I tend to wake up DH for nappy changes when I’m frustrated after feeding him for so long.

The kitchen is a good coping mechanism, you’re a great mum for realising that you need to walk away for a few minutes.

Get the space you need @peachypetite - this is really hard in us. I know they aren't doing it on purpose but it is hard not to be angry at them in the midst of sleeplessness.

Mine has just done his third big poo of the night. I'm hopeful he might sleep for a bit now.

Thanks ladies. Thank god for this thread and being able to be honest without being judged. She’s asleep on my chest now but I know as soon as I put her down she will wake up. My husband usually does the first part of the night with her until about 1am but if I don’t sleep at all I’ll have to wake him up in a few hours so I can get some sleep before he starts work. Nobody prepares you for how hard this motherhood thing is! It’s just relentless and draining and I am not enjoying it at the moment.

We have a similar system and I do feel guilty for waking him up but I know he would prefer that than me get worked up.

It is literally relentless and we are in the thick of it but we’re surviving. Hour by hour and day by day.

Ladies remember you can form a support bubble with another household, due to having a child under 1 years old.

I was already in a support bubble with my sister in law, as I look after her daughter whilst she works. She has come round & watched the baby a few times whilst I've had a nap, even just having some different company really helps.
She even offered to have him over night when he was going through his awake most of the night phase.

@peachypetite you did the right thing, my HV advised me to do the same! She said as long as the baby is safe in his Moses basket for example, just walk away, put the kettle on, take a few minutes to yourself. Your lo does sound exactly like mine was, he would only sleep on my chest, being upright obviously stopped the acid from coming up so easily though. Definitely get onto your Dr & ask (demand) to try reflux meds x

I wish I could have the support bubble but we literally have no one to bubble with. They all have their own bubbles so we've well and truly been left on our own. I often have to walk away for a few mins and have a lil cry myself. It really is relentless and I'm sure we will get through it. But I'm hating this right now too, really hating it

@peachypetite I felt exactly the same as you a few weeks ago with a baby with colic that didn't sleep. I though it would never end. I know it doesn't feel like it just now but it will get better. Once the colic / reflux is under control you'll find she will sleep better. Definitely demand to speak to the doctor to try and relieve her symptoms.

If you need to get your DP up to do a couple of hours in the night to let you get some sleep even though he's working then that's what you need to do. I went a few times to my DP sobbing with tiredness and frustration and asked him to take over. You'll feel so much better for it.

Agree with the others is there anyone else family or friends that can help you out a bit through the day? Anyone who could take her for a few hours to let you sleep. The sleep deprivation makes everything much more difficult to cope with.

Also struggling here. 5 weeks today and it’s all become so much tougher in the last couple of days. We have 3-4 hours of crying in the evening and he settles at about 11pm. Then by 5am he’s awake and unsettled again and normally falls asleep at about 7am again. Between 11-5am he does one 3 hour stretch and then it goes to 1.5 hourly. I know it could always been worse, but I just find the unsettledness so infuriating. We can have white noise on, rock him, give gripe water, clean nappy, dark room etc and nothing helps in that time. We have a toddler in the house too so we’re constantly conscious of how loud his cries are and trying not to wake her. And he starts his evening antics just as she goes to bed, so there really is no respite.

That’s my moan over. I just can’t wait for when he’s a bit happier when he’s awake. I’m not even that bothered about the interrupted sleep. It’s the fact I dread him waking up because I know it will just be a solid few hours of crying.

@kkr168 my little one hates baths too! She used to be okay in the bath but get hysterical when we took her out but now she screams in the bath too! It's difficult as I had wanted to start incorporating a bath into a consistent bedtime routine but given that routine is supposed to be about relaxing and winding down, it just won't work! We'll need to bath her in the morning instead. I had wanted to try an inflatable with her in the big bath to get her used to it so we can take her swimming when we can but not sure how she'll be!

You ladies are all making me feel more sane that I am not the only one going through this 😓

I haven’t noticed a difference yet.. @kkr168 but I’m not giving it six times a day as would be quite a task as I only breastfeed and it is a pain to give it to her mid feed she gets very frustrated and I have to give her 15ml water which takes quite a lot of time for her to drink with a syringe I may start using a spoon. Do you find your baby randomly coughs when sleeping I think this is her reflux maybe?