👣 November/December babies 2020! 👣

[danielasummer]

Can't keep track of who has had their babies! - but here is a new thread for those who have had ours and those still waiting x

Can recommend the nuk newborn dummies- the only one she will take. Thanks again to whoever recommended them on here!

We have also tried the little remedies organic gripe water (it’s expensive but we are desperate) and she seems more settled... fingers crossed it helps! Thanks to @peachypetite for that recommendation. How are you getting on peachy? You said it had stopped working for you but had done at first?

@Babyhope98 I too breastfeed but the method to give it when breastfeeding just seems so long! Her reflux wasn't too bad at the beginning so it worked perfectly with the bottle as that's when her symptoms were the worst but lately her reflux has gotten bad again so I might need to give it once while breastfeeding too. I think her reflux lately is caused by the breastfeeding as it sounds like she's swallowing a lot of air, she's been fussy when latching which could explain it. It definitely works - I also initially decided to give it once a day as it says it can cause constipation/diarrhoea and this way I've not seen any side effects. Do you mix it with the boiled water and give her the 15ml?

Yes I haven’t managed to give her the whole 15ml as she cries. I may mix it with a little bit of breast milk and see if she’s better that way. I’m scared of the constipation too she only poos once a day if that and not much but heard that normal for EBF babies, so didn’t want to give it too much so was hoping giving it in the evening would do the trick! I think hers is a mixture of silent reflux as she’s not sick much but has the other symptoms and wind but it seems like we are all suffering so it must be really normal as their digestive system matures just hate seeing her in pain 😫 @Asianchick6693

With regards to the vaccinations, my health visitor said to take Calpol with us to give her a dose straight away, then two further doses each after 4-6 hours. We should be having her appointment next week so we'll see!
I had a 6 week check with the GP but had to fight to get it face to face.

@Jellycat2020 I’m waiting for someone to contact me from my GP surgery and don’t want to be offered a phone call. I really want my baby to be weighed and to see someone in person!

We started the gaviscon yesterday as soon as it was prescribed & touch wood, we have seen massive improvements already. We've given it as instructed, 1 sachet in his bottle, 6 times per day. He hasn't had a single one of his usual reflux symptoms today, he has finished every drop of his 4oz bottles, he usually manages 2-3oz maximum, I really hope this continues.
I'm worried about him getting constipation, alot of people have avoided it by giving 1 ready mixed formula a day, as that usually causes loose stools, I guess they even each other out.

I really could just do with a hug tonight!

Aw @MaverickDanger what’s up

@MaverickDanger sending you a huge virtual hug, what's up?

Baby blues have well & truly hit and quite frankly I’m just completely overwhelmed & shattered. I’ve never been very good at asking for help (even on an anonymous forum, this feels hard).

I’m finding the constant night time routine of feeding on & off with a poor latch for an hour, changing him, having that set him off crying & wanting to feed again just so overwhelming.

The daytime is a lot better and then as soon as evening comes around, I feel weepy again and dread the night. I’m crying now as I feel I should be asleep and I’m not!

@maverickdanger I don't know what time you usually go to bed .. but will he sleep downstairs whilst you're in front of the TV or something.... So that you can perhaps snooze in front of TV to get some sleep and go up later?
Or... How about a bottle before bed? If you pump, can partner give it in the night? So you can have a break . Or even formula? Does he use boob as a comforter sometimes or feeding... if he does, what about a dummy? I did (although I was adamant I wouldn't as not a huge fan! But saved a sore nipple ... )Also, does he need changing in the night? I used to and like you say, that just wakes baby. Unless she's pooed, I don't change her now. HV said and I've read it if it doesn't really need doing ...
Sending you big virtual hugs 🤗🤗

Aww @MaverickDanger I feel your pain, just remember these hard stages will not last forever.
The nights are always so much harder, when your body's craving sleep so desperately. I agree with @Jwl45 if possible introduce a night time bottle that your partner can help with, so that you can get some decent sleep, even if only a couple of hours. Also agree with the nappies, I only change my son's if he's pooped & I try to do it mid feed, so there's enough bottle left to soothe him again after.
Is the constant feeding a new thing? It may be the babies cluster feeding currently to increase your supply, if that's the case things should settle down soon.

@peachypetite I ended up spending £70 on an aqua scale just so I could weigh my son, my husband has no idea it was so expensive 🤦🏻‍♀️
He was last weighed by the health visitor at 2 weeks old & wasn't due to be weighed again until he was 6 weeks old, I couldn't wait that long. He was 7.8 at birth, I weigh him every Wednesday, Wednesday just gone he weighed 9.10, no idea if that's too little, too much of a gain!!

@MaverickDanger do you have good support? You could contact la leche league for breastfeeding advice. I think the ladies above have given good advice regarding a bottle at night so you can have a break.
@kkr168 my health visitor did a phone call, never saw her. So baby hasn’t been weighed since our two week check where we were discharged. I don’t think it’s acceptable. I really am feeling a little abandoned as a first time mum, just left to get on with it. Baby was six weeks last week and I’ve called the GP twice and keep being told “someone will contact you to book the check”

I feel the same way @peachypetite, I really don't feel that any professional cares about me or my baby. I could disappear tomorrow and they would be none the wiser. As someone that used to work for social services in child protection I'm actually amazed at how crap it's all been, my child could have come to harm and no one would know, it's disgusting really.

Another sleepless night for me, baby has been unsettled. He keeps throwing up his milk and has had a few boughts of hiccups, I'm thinking it could be reflux - he does drink his milk really fast and isn't burping no matter how hard I try. I'm keeping him upright for 30 mins after his feed and seeing if that will help (I saw this suggested as a solution on the internet). I'm going to get some Gripe Water tomorrow and see if that helps too.

@MaverickDanger I totally agree with what the others have said, it's so so hard at the start and the nights are tough when you get no sleep. Can you sleep through the day when the baby sleeps? If you can prioritise that over everything else, the housework etc can wait. Grab sleep whenever you can.

It does get easier I promise but we are always here for you to share how you are feeling and I hope you have good support at home too xx

@peachypetite do you have sure start in your area? They are still running but on appointment only basis.

I think this gaviscon is definitely helping my LO, he's been finishing every bottle with no fuss & tonight he's slept in 4 hour bursts, 2-3 hours is the norm for him.

@Snowwhite2020 I’m glad it’s working! I don’t know whether my little one has kind of become immune to it’s soothing effects after a month. We had a colic free night last night, bliss. The difference it makes to sleep is unreal. She will have a feed and then go back to sleep immediately instead of an hour minimum of crying, arching her back, scratching, shifting her around in different positions trying to get comfy. @kkr168 will look into sure start. I’m in London and my borough has one of the worst cases of covid so many things are shut. I will be insisting to the GP I have my check in person.

@kkr168 that’s great!

Hi, can I please have some advice/find out if anyone else has experienced this - I have thrush on my nipples 😫 which is why it’s been hurting so much. I’m getting treatment for them now with cream (Baby girl also has some oral gel) I’m going to express for a week until I’m healed. Will she forget how to latch properly after that though after being on the bottle for a week? Or has anyone had nipple thrush and continued to breast feed? Logic tells me to let them heal first as they are sore and cracked but online it says I can continue to breastfeed. She'll be 4 weeks tomorrow. X

To anyone struggling it honestly does get easier. I know the sleepless nights and colic are a killer right now but try not to stress about routines and the constant feeding etc just yet. My LO isn't consistent in what time he sleeps so I take him up at 11ish, we play for a bit until he is ready. No two nights are the same.

I feel like I wasted the early days of older two dc stressing about routines, guilt tripping myself about not bfing and alsorts, rather than actually enjoying them! They're little for such a short amount of time and routines can be implemented when they are ready. Now when LO is awake in the night I love how his little smiles are just for me and I tell myself he is counting on me to model calm parenting. Not easy I know, the other day he was awake 11pm til 6am and I wanted to cry but it does pass.

My LO turned 9 weeks yesterday, his reflux has calmed down and last night he slept from 1am til 6am which for us is a huge achievement as he usually feeds every 2.5 hours still and spends long periods awake at night. But the feeding doesn't bother me as I know he does it because he needs it not because he wants to make life difficult for me. What helped me come to terms with the frequent night time awakenings is something I read where it said that that's natures way of preventing SIDS. It makes so much sense. LO has been poorly with Covid so its been tough being unwell myself but I think we are out the other side now thankfully.

Sorry for the epic post. Stay safe!

Afternoon all well my lo didn't settle great last night and it has continued throughout today aswell havent got one thing done at all plus I feel drained to due to lack of sleep feeling a little annoyed with oh to as I'm doing all the night time feeds etc I know he has to work but he could do one I am thinking I know he will do the nights at the weekend but doesn't help when you could do with the help now lol I'm sure me n baby will be in a routine soon fingers crossed i so need to pop shops but dont want to take baby out but dont think my eldest would cope with him as he seems a bit ratty where he is over tired

Baby driving me nuts today, I feel like I have held her all day long. Every time I put her down she cries even if she had spent the last half an hour asleep on me she suddenly wakes up.

Also she’s started being sick after every feed, sometimes an hour later. I’ve changed her outfit five times today. Is this normal?

@peachypetite - if she's vomiting enough to need an outfit change that often (maybe I'm just a terrible mum turning a blind eye to small vomits on clothes... ) then I'd definitely be keeping an eye on it: is she still having lots of wet nappies and not showing other signs of dehydration? My son does semi regularly throw up an hour or more after eating but not after every feed and not his whole feed. If you're concerned you could always give the health visitor or GP a call?

@danielasummer - Have you considered trying nipple shields first? Just a thought :)