👣 November/December babies 2020! 👣

[danielasummer]

Can't keep track of who has had their babies! - but here is a new thread for those who have had ours and those still waiting x

@Pinktruffle I'm so sorry to hear about your DH's car accident, it's a very frightening thing. We were involved in one when I was 28 weeks pregnant and thankfully apart from my DH's broken wrist we were all ok. As the police officer said to me the cars are designed to basically 'crumple' so that it keeps everyone in the car as safe as possible and lessens the impact on them, it sounds mad but he said cars are so easily written off nowadays and they almost always look worse off than the actual incident. Hope you are all doing ok!

Completely agree some parts of motherhood are hard! I hope you are all managing, and glad to see those of you who are struggling are seeking help from the GP, a really important move♥️
I find myself thinking about our DS1 a lot at the moment & how unfair it is that he isn't here with us. Imagining him with my other son just breaks my heart, that I'll never get to see it & no matter how many more kids we have our family will always be missing one... it's really hit home recently that's my reality forever more. I'm sooo grateful to be in the position of having another child but it makes me realise how much I miss my first son💔 life can be so cruel...

@lionsmum I can't imagine that feeling, but I do think it's lovely that you're keeping his memory alive by thinking of him and talking about him, sending love and virtual hugs and I hope it brings you some comfort when looking at your little one that you were blessed again, not that it makes up for it in any way, but that you get to share that love with another child xx

@peachypetite yes, we've already secured a place for our lo at a local nursery for September. When we enquired, they didn't have any space until then anyway so thankfully we don't need them earlier! We're just outside the Cotswolds x

@lc86 thank you so much for that, your words are so needed today!♥️x

How is everyone? I’m still finding the days so mundane and praying for a more normal maternity leave at some point. I went to stay at my mums house on Saturday night to recharge and have a total mental break from the baby. It did me good.

@peachypetite everyday is Groundhog Day, its relentless. I feel like I'm climbing the walls most days, I actually look forward to my daily walk (altho the snow has put an end to that at the mo), BUT as I keep getting told it won't last forever!! Just needs to change before we head back to work

Morning all yes it feels like ground hog day doing my head in well last night had to rush my cat up vets as he collapsed I accidentally put my dogs flea treatment on him instead of the dog but I thought I had put it on my other cat so we followed instructions bathed the first cat etc monitored him he was fine went to the toilet and my other cat was the one feel so bloody god damn guilty he is still at vets having iv fluids etc gonna cost a bomb aswell just hoping he be fine my poor cat

I'm so bored too...it's pretty tough entertaining a 14 week old baby when you can't go anywhere or see anyone. I feel like she's getting bored too! Going to look into some online classes or things to do to try and add more variety into our days. We already go for two walks every day so don't think we can do much more.

Can I ask for opinions on daytime naps please, they're stressing me out!!
So my 11 week old LO sleeps beautifully at night - 6 to 8 hours reliably - and during the day, will sleep after feeds on me but every time I try to put her in the moses basket, she'll wake up. She won't necessarily cry but just won't sleep! The health visitor has said she ought to sleep in the moses basket rather than on us but she just won't! How much of a problem is this going to be?
Also, I'm confused about environment - some people say to put them down in a dark quiet room like you would at night, which would mean upstairs for us so we can't monitor her as per Lullaby Trust recommendations. Others say they ought to get used to noises and daytime activities when napping, hence why she's downstairs in a moses basket. Which is right?!

@Kj1010 sorry to hear about your cat 😔 hope he gets better soon!

I’m having this issue with naps @jellycat2020. We tried really hard to keep things noisy around him to avoid the problem of noise waking him, but in the last week he’s become really sensitive to it and is constantly being woken by me talking (if I’m holding him) or my toddler! So I think soon I’m going to have to try and put him down to sleep in a separate room with white noise on.

And he has several 30-45 minute cat naps and one 2-3 hour long nap a day. For the 2-3 hour long nap I hold him for 45mins-1 hour and then can set him down to have some time to get jobs done around the house. It isn’t ideal at all but it’s the only way to guarantee a long nap and some time to myself!

My baby is 7 weeks old and for his longer nap in the afternoon I put him in his next to me cot upstairs with a camera on him. I do this so that I can get some jobs done make a cup of tea etc. I nip upstairs every 10 mins or so and then after no more than 30 mins I go and watch telly and eat something in the bedroom next to him. He has a nice deep sleep and I find that this keeps my sanity. I know its controversial but it works for us for the most part.

@Jellycat2020 my LO is also 11 weeks. He'll go down really easily in the day in his own room with the white noise on, but will only stay asleep for 30-40 mins before he wakes crying and obviously still tired, so will then sleep another half hour or so on me. Very rarely he'll sleep in one go on his own, not sure why.
Unlike yours though he still wakes up at least twice every night.

@Bigredriding @Nic2908 @Yellowbeansontoast thanks ladies. I'm happy for her to sleep on me for a couple of naps in the day but I don't know if I'm creating a rod for my own back?! I also don't want to change things too much in case it upsets our nighttime.

Is anyone still bleeding? I'm 7 weeks pp and I will have nothing and then the odd time when I go to the toilet and wipe there will be fresh blood but that's it. It's at least once every day though 🤨

@viixie only now at 9 weeks pp have I had 2 straight days with no blood xx

Oh wow I guess I was lucky stopped bleeding basically after a week or two but then had a very heavy period dead on 6 weeks pp my lo now 9 weeks

My son always sleeps with his head to the same side and I've noticed he has started to get a flat head on that side. I've tried changing the way he faces when putting him down but he usually just wakes up or puts it back to his favoured side. Anyone else noticed this? Will it self correct as his skull hardens?

@Pinktruffle our little girl does this. We noticed early on she refused to sleep with her head turned left and wouldn't look left when awake either. She started to develop a flat spot on the back right of her head. We mentioned it to midwives but it was dismissed. We looked into it ourselves and started some mild physio and re-positioning of her head when asleep. We also have a special pillow which we use when she's on her back but always supervised. Also lots of tummy time! We also mentioned it to the health visitor and she has referred us to paediatric physio but there's a huge backlog. Apparently they do tend to correct themselves as they grow and I think we've seen an improvement already.

@jellycat2020 mine does turn to the opposite side and will lay down to play facing up etc it's just when he sleeps at night he lays on his left hand side. The flat bit has only appeared over the last couple of weeks. I'm not sure whether I should intervene.
Like your daughter he only sleeps held during the day so it's only at night that it's an issue.

Can I ask what pillow you are using please? @Jellycat2020

@lionsmum I have been thinking of what to say to you for a couple of days and just can't find the right words.
I know it's very different but I miscarried our first and I often look at my son and think our family should be complete with you but instead it's just starting, I needed IVF to have my son so another sibling may never be possible (both my age and fertility are not in our favour). I think when you have lost a child, it's inevitable that it will always feel like someone is missing and you need to allow those feelings to be. Your son will always live on in you, you can tell your LO and any future siblings about him and keep him part of your family. My cousins firstborn was still born and his sisters know all about him, every year they celebrate his birthday and he is talked about in the family home and it really works well for them. You need to think about what works best for you and how you want to remember him in your life but he is your child and always will be part of your family. Sending you lots of love xxx

I don't know if this helps at all, but when we carry a baby some of their DNA ends up in our brains and our hearts permanently. Having 2 mc's myself this brings me some comfort- they will always be a very real part of us.

@Pinktruffle this is the one we have...

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B071493954/ref=dp_iou_view_product_mobile?psc=1&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&ie=UTF8

However I know in the UK, health professionals are very against using these pillows as they could be a suffocation risk if baby turns their head or rolls, so we only use ours during the day when she's supervised.

Feel like I've not posted on here in ages!!
Tommy's still doing well on his prescription milk, we went through a rough patch a few days ago with his reflux & the Dr has now prescribed liquid lansaprazole, he had his 1st dose last night, hopefully it works.
The next issue for us to tackle is sleep! When he was poorly he would only sleep on me, so we started co-sleeping & now he will not sleep in his own bed. I can occasionally get him to sleep in his crib but he will wake up after 30 mins & won't settle after, in my bed he'll sleep for 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 hours consistently. His bed is a next 2 me crib, with the side dropped, so he is very close to me but obviously not close enough 🤦🏻‍♀️