👣 November/December babies 2020! 👣

[danielasummer]

Can't keep track of who has had their babies! - but here is a new thread for those who have had ours and those still waiting x

@kkr168 oh don't you hate it when that happens!! I've waited up myself before.... Wasted a good few hours sleep and she slept thru lol.

Thank you ladies. I’ve had three hours sleep since 6am so feel slightly better, just mentally drained. @EithneBlue thank god no longer pumping since getting her tongue tie sorted. I do have good support which makes me feel I should be coping better than this.

@peachypetite I found this thread whilst feeding my 10 week old DD in the early hours and couldn’t read but not reply.

My first daughter is now 5 and this time 5 years ago I could literally have written your posts. I didn’t breast feed, but she was tongue tied, colicky, screamed constantly, was always grumpy and barely slept. I too felt like I had completely ruined my life and wondered what on earth I had done. I have literally never been so miserable and it is the hardest thing I have ever experienced.

I promise you it gets so much better as they grow, with each week that goes by there will be little changes and things will gradually become easier. My screamy, colicky, miserable baby started reliably sleeping through the night from about 6 months old with a slow build up to this from about 12 weeks. This made a huge difference to my ability to cope with her grumpy demeanour in the day. She is now a clever, loving, gentle 5 year old who I am so proud of. By the time she turned three I was enjoying her so much I decided that maybe I could go through it again and now have dd2 who is 10 weeks and so far has been a much easier baby than her bigger sister.

Babies are very hard work, it is relentless with very little (if any!) reward in the beginning. It’s like working 24/7 for a horrible boss who hates everything you do. You are also dealing with a complete change to your lifestyle and usual routines which is a massive upheaval and shock in itself.

I haven’t got any real advice, but things will absolutely certainly get better with time. In the meantime try to have a break whenever you can, accept any and all offers of help and keep doing exactly what you are doing chatting with others about just how miserable it is. Meeting another mum who was hating the baby stage as much as me literally saved my sanity when my daughter was small as I felt so much less alone and could be honest about how I was truly feeling.

Also I’m sure you are probably doing this already but I found keeping the baby upright for at least 20 minutes after a feed stopped a lot of the vomiting. The other possibility is that she could be comfort sucking rather than needing to feed and taking too much milk as a result? Might be worth trying to settle with a dummy if you think this could be the case? I don’t have much personal breastfeeding experience though so could be wrong here.

I really hope things improve quickly for you and am always happy to chat if it helps.

Congratulations to everyone on this thread on your new babies, it’s certainly been a difficult year to be pregnant and a new parent!

@IncyWincySpiderOnRepeat your post has really helped me - this is exactly how I'm feeling with my nine week old DD. There are moments I enjoy but mostly she's miserable, grumpy and colicky (as well as having reflux). It's pretty thankless and sometimes I hate it and don't know how I'll get through another day. I totally agree about finding other mums who feel the same. There's nothing more isolating than feeling like everyone else is getting on really well and you're having a hard time. And it helps to know it will get easier, even if we don't know when that'll be.

@IncyWincySpiderOnRepeat thanks for sharing your experience with us. It is helpful to know others have been in the same boat. I think it’s even worse due to us being in lockdown and not being able to socialise or have anything nice to look forward to. In normal times we have family who would come up and babysit so husband and I could just go for lunch or dinner down the road for a couple of hours and have a break but I feel like I am with her 24/7 except for the few hours I am asleep and husband has her downstairs.

Anyone have any tips for getting enough first round baby vaccinations in as stress free a way as possible (mum and baby)? I know about infant paracetamol already- but that’s more of a medical thing than a calming suggestion which is what I’m after!

*sorry getting through first round vaccinations...

Well looks like I'm in for a long night lo been a night mare all day hardly no sleep at all and he isnt letting up tonight either nothing I do is soothing him I'm even tempted to put him in pram and go for a walk

@snowwhite2020 whilst I have no advice as such...we have ours tomorrow with the 6-8 week check... Even though she's 9 weeks! I'm just taking Calpol with me, milk, her favourite toy lol, dummy ,muslin - all the things she loves and finds comforting. I shall let you know after the appointment how we got on.
I'm not looking forward to it at all I have to say. From a Mami point of view, it will just be plenty of cuddles tomorrow afternoon- more for my benefit as I will have been the horrible Mami who took her to those horrible nurses 😥🤣
@Kj1010 oh no... Sorry to hear you're having a tough day. Fingers crossed for you that you get some sleep. And the same to all the lovely mums on here.🤗

DH is an absolute trooper - he’s just had him from 9.30-4.30 with an expressed feed & I have just crashed out!

Little one is sparko on me so debating whether to move him into the crib. Poor DH is going to have a fair bit of unbroken sleep as the HV is coming at 9.30-10 and we have a food delivery between 7-9.

@MaverickDanger I bet you feel a lot better after that. My daughter slept well last night. Fed her and she went straight back to sleep etc and no colic. Not sure if the infacol is having an effect but usually she never burps after a bottle, only when I breastfeed her, but last night she brought her wind up.

@peachypetite - it's so good you and baby had a better night! Things do only get better and sleep deprivation never makes anyone happy.

@Snowwhite2020 - We haven't had vaccines yet but being in the NICU made me realise that vaccines are definitely worse for mum than baby: babies forget. I do narrate to baby if he's having something medical done and explain why it's there in as positive a way as possible - it helps remind me that the doctors and nurses are not just there to torture the babies ;-)

Ahh that’s brilliant @peachypetite! Well done little one

😩😩 I think lo now has colic. Screamed from 7-3am last night. Luckily DH brought him downstairs at 1am so I could sleep and he stayed downstairs all night with him. He's already on gaviscon infant and lactulose for reflux so not sure I can also give infacol or dentinox xx

Afternoon all well lo wasnt to bad last night actually wanted to be on his own so put him in his bouncer n he went straight to sleep around 1ish woke up at 3.30 for bottle straight back to sleep then again at 7ish just before sleep again then 9.30 and then just now I've dozed off in between even tho house a dump but I cudnt care less feeling quite pissed off with other half if I'm honest seems to me he is using work even tho they ain't busy coz of covid to get a solid nights sleep every night he forgets that he tells me about his day all the while wen I tell him about mine that lo been awake all day whingy etc and cant do nothing also wen he gets in all he does is play stupid games on his phone which really annoys me but if I say anything I'm just moaning and trying to control him being stuck in also isnt helping at all driving me insane

@peachypetite glad you had a good night. Infacol does take time to build up in their system so hopefully it's taking effect now. Someone gave me a tip about winding colicky babies which was to rub their back in a circular motion rather than pat as patting aggravates the colic. My wee one is much better since I've been doing that. I really take my time making sure she has brought up wind every 3oz when she has a bottle and it's made the world of difference (even if it does take ages to wind her sometimes).

My little one was awful in the day yesterday, he was really whiney, kept crying, would only sleep 45 mins at a time so I was dreading last night. I was pleasantly surprised when DH managed to get him to sleep at 12.15 after a huge crying fit and he slept till 5am! A huge surprise given his usual difficulty at night but let's hope it continues.

Glad you managed a decent night @peachypetite. Hope at the end of the tunnel!

@NaomiB79 thanks for that tip I’ll try it. I’d try anything to not have colic it js honestly awful and I’m so envious of mums with newborns who don’t have it! @Pinktruffle glad you also got some sleep! @Kj1010 not sure if you are already doing this but can you go to bed first on your own to get some proper sleep and leave your partner with the baby? @Asianchick6693 not heard from you in a while how goes it?

@peachypetite I could but would feel guilty on baby dunno why tho but maybe when I'm next stressed I'll give it ago x

@peachypetite hey lovely, days just go by so fast I don't even realise it! I hope everyone is well. LO and myself are doing well. It's a bit chaotic at home atm with the builders coming in as they've resumed the work we're doing on our extension. I've started painting too, it's therapeutic but time consuming because I have to think about the baby now. How are you doing? Also our boiler needs replacing which is just what we need during this cold weather! Can't get anything done until next Friday.. Great! Thank you for checking up on me x

@peachypetite my little daughter's colic is slowly improving. Where she has the symptoms a day or two in the week and being a happy little bunny the rest. It does get better and I'm sure you're already doing a great job. Her first set of injections are next Tuesday I'm so nervous to see her cry or upset!

@peachypetite great to hear you had a good night

My DH had today off so I decided to tackle the house, whilst he looked after our son, LO is 6 weeks old today & the house hasn't had a 'proper' clean since he was born!! I've been on the go all day, the house is spotless not that it will last, but I feel so much better for it.

Quick question: those with breastfed babies - did they start pooing less often at any point? My guy is 6 weeks old and still poos like 5-7 times a day! I'm planning to swap to reusable nappies but waiting for the mythical "fewer poos from 6 weeks"

@EithneBlue hang in there lol. My baby is mainly breastfed and is 7.5 weeks and sometimes goes a couple of days with no poo. However when she does go it is always an explosion and she needs a bath.! @Asianchick6693 nice to hear from you. My one has hers next week too. To be honest this corona virus that has caused havoc for a year has made me realise how important vaccines are so if she’s a bit grizzly after that’s nothing compared to how she would be if she got an awful disease she hadn’t been immunised against.

Well the first lot of injections have been. She was amazing. We also had the 6-8 week check.... (She's 9wk) so that all went well.
Injections in both legs... Yes she did cry... Which was heartbreaking... But . . On the plus side stopped really quickly. Get your Calpol in... She has to have 3 doses today. Now this was a job in itself! Half of it landed down her chin.... And after a sleep... Just noticed it's on the back of her head also! Sticky hair!!!! Hope dose number 2 goes better..... 😊