👣 November/December babies 2020! 👣

[danielasummer]

Can't keep track of who has had their babies! - but here is a new thread for those who have had ours and those still waiting x

Thanks @Jellycat2020 - I think our problem is he is sleeping so much in the day, particularly around 3-6pm. I was trying to keep him awake yesterday, but without poking him constantly it's almost impossible! We are using the timer tippe anti colic and they're much better than the standard ones. We've also gone up to a medium flow as he was falling asleep half way through feeds as it was such hard work for him. Also started swaddling again which worked great on Saturday night but not so much last night. Trying to figure out all the variables is exhausting!!

Hi all we had a decent nights sleep last night lo only woke twice 1 at 1.30 2ish and the next 5.51 he had a bath with his dad last night at around 9 9.30ish and seemed to knock him out till the first night feed so will be bathing him again to see if this is actually helping what a difference a extra hour or so skip does amazing lol

I think at this stage it’s impossible to control their routine. It’s just feeding them when they want and they will sleep when it suits them.
I had the 6/8 week call with my health visitor and she really pissed me off. I have heard previously they have a bad rep and can see why.

@Trufflepuffpuff it's hard to know if it's reflux but if your lo is settled & happy I'd leave them be, rather then start going down the medication route.

My lo wasn't to bad last night, he went back down ok in his crib, hopefully it continues. I've found I need to wait for him to have been asleep at least 15 mins, then transfer him as slowly as possible, once he's in his bed I keep my body close to him for at least a minute before slowly backing away 🤣

My son is doing so much better on the aptimal comfort (low lactose content) milk, his reflux symptoms have pretty much gone, he is struggling more with his poo though, they are plastercine consistency rather then the loose stool he normally had & what I thought was baby acne is getting so much worse. He has his 6 week check Thursday & I think they'll probably switch him to a lactose free milk, the low lactose has definitely improved things but not 100%

This shows how his face has progressively gotten worse, he started his new milk on the 7th, god knows what he'll look like by Thursdays appointment. Luckily it doesn't seem to be bothering him.

@Trufflepuffpuff I get the evening dread too. I sleep approx 9-12 and then deal with nighttime on my own as partner teaches autistic children so I don’t think it’s a good idea if he’s up all night and he leaves for work 7am and gets home 5.30pm. Last night I got 1hr sleep!

Baby so unsettled today whereas usually she will have couple long naps so I can get few jobs done or lie on sofa. She’s been really windy and had couple bad nappies so maybe she just not well today.

@peachypetite my little girl will fall fast asleep in my arms but then when lie her down in Moses basket/carrycot or even out her in car seat most of the time after about 10mins she wakes up crying.

The exhaustion is crippling some days but just trying to get through it by reminding myself they only tiny for such a short time so I want to enjoy it not just wish time would pass.

We spoke to the dr today about gaviscon causing constipation. He's given lactulose and said give 2.5mls twice a day.. also I finally bought a sling!

Baby has had awful colic most of the afternoon. Feel like I’ve not had a second to myself. I’m feeling low this evening. I know it’s because I barely slept last night.

Same here @peachypetite - she hasn't stopped crying all afternoon. I gave her to my partner and he's struggling to cope too, it's awful. I'm dreading tonight.

@peachypetite feel ya my lo been a bit of a whinge today hardly no sleep so havent been able to do much at all he is currently asleep on me and I'm afraid to put him down incase he wakes up I just need that bit of time of quiet before it starts again

I just had a bowl of cereal for dinner, Cba to even eat. I had a cry and feel better. Going to bed soon so I can get four hours sleep before god knows what awaits me throughout the night and early
Hours. It is kind of reassuring to know you ladies are also going through the same shit though! As a first time Mum you have no idea what’s normal.

I agree @peachypetite it's making me feel better knowing it's not just me. I didn't really have much appetite either and now I'm trying to nap but I can hear her screaming and it has me on edge, I feel a bit sick. I'm expecting to have to walk around with her in the sling all night.

To be honest, you ladies keep me going at night. Knowing I can come on here and one of you is likely experiencing something similar and that I'm not the only one up with a difficult baby.

Mine was all going well and I thought he might actually sleep till he did a monster poo about an hour ago and is now wide awake. I know he is shattered as he hasn't slept much during the day and keeps yawning but I don't understand why he is fighting sleep so much.

Colic is so horrible. I think unless you’ve had a baby with it you can’t understand how bad it is. Our anti colic bottles seem to be having 0 effect! @Pinktruffle aww I am also thankful for this thread. You can say the things you maybe wouldn’t want to say in real life and like you and @Trufflepuffpuff say we are all in this together! Does anyone else think they could never go through this again with a second baby in the future? You must forget how awful it is!

@peachypetite I agree having a baby with colic is so difficult, I bawled my eyes out most days for weeks! Was gutted that having wanted a baby for so long I just found it so difficult and not enjoyable at all! My doctor said there is a correlation between babies with colic and mothers with PND because it's so intense and challenging!

It will pass, I know I keep saying that and it prob feels like it never will but it will! Until then please look after yourself too as much as you can, get a break whenever you can and rest and we are always here to vent whenever you need to x

To all the mums struggling it really does pass. You forget how hard it is...I'm sat here up with my second. My DH and I were saying we dont remember this with our first despite knowing it happened. Mother natures way of making us have more. Its like labour... you know it hurts but you forget how much until you do it again!! X

I agree with@charl88 I'm currently sitting here with my lo who is my 4th and I know I was up t these silly times eeven tho i will admit my other lot basically slept through the night from.5 weeks but then again they where taking more milk got to say tho this is first night I've really had to wake him was whingy all day yesterday wouldnt sleep longer than like 10 15 minutes cudnt put him down wouldn't settle with anyone but me not even daddy which h he normally does had last bottle at 10 pm and he literally had bottle like 30 mins ago I'm so grateful for that solid block of sleep he allowed me as I know no 2 nights are the same and wont prob have this again lol

Baby is driving me bananas. Breastfed her at 3am and she then projectile vomited down my back, has been sick another two times since and two outfits later. And some colic for good measure where she has scratched my neck to pieces. I don’t understand how she can be getting what she needs when she is this sick.

That sounds like an incredibly rough night @peachypetite, I hope you are ok.

I have to say, I've been wondering exactly the ssme thing in regards to a second child plus I always wanted 2 children. Im not sure I have it in me to do this again but feel guilty at not giving my LO a sibling. That's assuming I can even get pregnant again, with all my difficulty last time and my age we would need to start trying again when my LO is around 1. Im not sure I can hack more of this so soon and am I too old?!.

A friend of mine lives in LA, her maternity leave was 6 weeks. I don't know how she went back to work and coped with all this!

She’s just fallen asleep but it’s been nearly three hours since her last feed so she will be awake in less than an hour for another feed which she will likely vomit all back up anyway. I’ve cried my eyes out tonight I don’t know why I ever wanted a baby.

Partly you forget, partly it's seeing what amazing little people they grow into. On top of the sleepless nights I had PND so bad I was almost hospitalised. Despite all that we went for number two (and struggled for 2 years to conceive him, with losses along the way). You also learn a lot more about what works and what doesn't, and learn that this phase does pass, and although it feels like it will never end and you've ruined your life, it's so worth it in the end.

@peachypetite I'm sorry your struggling at the moment but you are doing fantastic and don't forget that I cant say I understand what your going through as I'm lucky my lo isnt suffering from colic an ur oh not get up and help that little more to give you some respite I know they work but u are a team and if ur struggling this much it wouldn't hurt him to help that bit more also I know this might sound stupid but I think ur lo is sensing your stressed and that affects them big time I know that much for sure which doesn't help either of you I really think you just need that little time out to reset yourself relax so you are calm and refreshed xx

Oh @peachypetite you poor thing. This is how I felt last night when she was screaming at me and scratching my neck in the sling, I sometimes feel like we've ruined our lives. It's hard to say it out loud but it is how it sometimes feels. My DP took her for a few hours last night which helped massively - I really needed a break. There's no point me telling you you need a break if that's not an option, but if you can make a cup of tea and put her in a bouncer or basket while you have a shower, you will feel a bit better. And then if you can get outside you'll feel even better. But it is totally brutal - I tried to watch tv in bed yesterday and my baby screamed so much I had to give up so I could only pace up and down the corridor. There is no joy in that. It is really really hard and I hope it gets easier soon. Sending you a big hug and know you're not alone in this.

@peachypetite this phase will pass, I know it doesn't feel like it now but it really will fly by, I feel like I blinked & my 1st born turned 17!
In the mean time speak to your Dr or HV, explain everything that's been going on! Are you breast or bottle feeding? If bottle it may be worth trying a different milk, comfort milk has changed my baby completely, he's gone from screaming in pain (reflux) to a happy smily baby.

I missed out on a great sleep last night, lo went to bed at 9pm which means he'd usually want his next feed at midnight. I stayed up waiting until 1am before I fell asleep, he slept through till 2am, I won't be wasting an opportunity like that again.

@peachypetite - You're doing a great job: this really won't last forever and you're over half way through the first 12 weeks. Are you still pumping and bottle feeding? If so, is there someone who can feed baby for a few hours so that you can get some rest?