June 2021 part 3!

[swiftt]

Thread 3 already! How’s everyone feeling?

I’ve also seen her posting and thought the same thing. Just as you say we should be supportive of each other this goes both ways. Supportive is also respectful of other people’s pregnancies and situations too. If you’ve just found out your having a boy and elated your baby is healthy and that it’s a boy then someone else is bemoaning the same thing at a time of heightened sensitivity right now that can really affect you. There are women on that group who are pregnant after miscarriage and some who devastatingly have posted they are worried about their pregnancy or lost their baby. To see someone moaning that their baby is a boy is horrific. It’s THEM I feel we should be supporting and considering their feelings first and foremost. Not someone who has clear issues with “gender disappointment” and probably needs some therapy.

I remember reading multiple Facebook groups had been set up, or is it just the one?

There’s 1 main one with 60 members, didn’t know there were others?

Okay, well I now have absolutely no idea who you’re talking about as I haven’t seen anyone repeatedly post about being ‘gutted’ to be having a boy.

I still stand by the fact that it’s really nasty to slag them off on here, knowing that they could be reading here too.

Maybe the person with gender disappointment has also suffered a previous loss? Do they no longer deserve support because they feel brave enough to share their disappointment in what they thought was a safe place? Maybe they think this will be the only baby they’ll ever have, and they’re struggling to accept a gender they didn’t expect. If you find any of that triggering, you can easily quietly leave a group. There’s just no need for the nastiness.

@Sitchervice sorry to hear you feel alone, do you have any friends who have been pregnant who you could talk to for a bit of support?

I haven't joined the FB group but I'm tempted to to read up on it 🤣

My hip feels a little better today, maybe sleeping with a pillow between my legs did help. I will mention to midwife at 16wk appt next week thanks to whoever mentioned that. Sorry I'm really bad with names on here, there's so many of us!
Has anyone got/had a pregnancy pillow? Are they worth the purchase?

@DollyParton2 oh yes, this is the one I'm aware of too but I haven't seen the posts you mention. I remember someone mentioning a June/July group earlier in this thread so thought we may be in different.

@SarahTTC2020
My friends and family have all had normal pregnancies. No issues like being high risk of Edwards and Patau's syndrome.

Well now I'm wondering why I left the group, I'm intrigued 😆

Who's sighed up for antenatal classes already and how is your area doing them?

I’d love a pregnancy pillow recommendation too, there are so many and they vary hugely in price!!

Hi! I was due in July but I had my scan today and due in June now :) hi everyone. Due 26th xx

I've just changed my name from sarahttc2020

I haven't signed up to antenatal classes, I don't think I want to? Is that the same as nct? I don't really know

Swiftt so it’s fine for her to slag her own baby off?! And baby boys in general - yes of course that makes sense. Had she suffered a loss I strongly doubt she’d be writing like this.

Not gonna lie, there must be a mix up with the Facebook groups cause I'm in the big one with 60 people and I haven't seen one post at all about their baby being a boy and being disappointed. Everyone reacts differently but let's just try and have no drama :) x

@Iknewyouwerewaitingforme are you in the group? What I’m saying is I haven’t even seen anyone saying the things that the PP has said. And certainly no one has been ‘slagging their babies off’ and I check and post in the group regularly, so would have noticed!

@Flower3411 I agree. I’ve seen nothing to the extent that this poster is saying. As I said before, a couple of people have expressed slight gender disappointment, but that’s all. Is there another group? Are we getting mixed up with something else? I’m genuinely confused.

@Snally82 and @SarahTTC2020
I have bought a bbhugme pregnancy pillow. It's amazing. I got it in the black friday sale as they are more expensive. However, sleeping is what I'm spending most of my time doing so thought it was worth investing!!

Ooo I have just started the Googling for pregnancy pillow but not got very far yet.

Not thought much about antenatal yet. When do you normally got to them? I imagine they are all online these days?

@Lovethatjourneyforme @Scarftown

I'm wondering about the classes as well, my hospital isn't running them online so I will have to find some private person to sign up to, most seem to be Midwives and they are charging about €120-200 which is understandable as it's their time and expertise but just a pity the hospital can't organise something

What do pregnancy pillows do? I know what they look like but I’ve never really understood the point

@PinkPlantCase think it's to take pressure off the hips /pelvis area but could be wrong , I sleep on my side and find my hips starting to get sore so I'll definitely get one when I get bigger

@TerryRose thanks! I’m struggling not to sleep on my back atm. This morning I woke up on my back with a numb thigh. Baby must have been lay on something

@PinkPlantCase apparently helps back pain as well, might be worth looking into it , might help you sleep on your side comfortably

@swiftt glad you posted your response. I was dumbfounded when i seen that comment. Cant for the life of me think or remember any posts when anyone has been gutted specifically on gender!

@Sitchervice good luck on your results. Mine are hopefully due back on the 23rd after my nt measurement being 4mm. My bloods came back low risk but opted for harmony for further info and reassurance.

So... Our grand plan for hubby to open the NIPT results so he could tell me the sex didn't work out! They phoned me with the result (rather than post) and I just couldn't wait to be told. We're having a boy! Beyond excited. Most important ask the health checks look good.

😍😍😍

@Nellle glad everything came back ok! Congratulations!!

We have planned to look on Christmas day but try and lool at our results before 🙈 ours is coming through by email though. So not sure how its going to work out..