4 weeks today!

[AnxiousAnnie86]

Hi ladies! New to this board just moved over from conception! Cannot quite believe it! I'm panicking as it's been a year (exactly!!) Since my miscarriage, and now I have backache and light cramps! Is that normal at four weeks can anyone put my mind at ease? X

Ooo how exciting!! That's so close.
I think I've convinced my Oh to find out the sex. I'm too impatient to wait haha @AnxiousAnnie86
Going to book a private one for 7th jan, then nhs one is 13th.

@Blossom428 we didn't consider not to be honest, I would love to have that surprise on the day but I'm just not patient enough, I think it's nice to know too! I've considered not telling other people till it comes, but then didn't know if that was too "look at me" if that makes sense!

We made our announcement on insta the other day and I spent a week agonising over how to do it as I know a few people who are having fertility struggles etc, and I remember it making me sad when I used to see showy announcements! So we kept it really simple, xx

Haha yeah same! @AnxiousAnnie86

Awh did you. I know it is so difficult to balance that, but at the end of the day this is your moment and people will all be very happy for you! I keep thinking about how to do it too, but like you say nothing extravagant.
I cried at Mrs Hinch's the other day 😂😂 so cute!

@AnxiousAnnie86 it is thoughtful that you considered people having struggles when you made your announcement.
I saw one the other day which was really good - they just said at the end "we know lots of people aren't as lucky with their pregnancies so we won't say anything more about it on here". I thought that was nice because at the time I, as a person with issues, felt acknowledged.
When the time comes, if we get that far, I don't think I'll be announcing on social media at all. We'll just tell people over the phone who need to know. Tbh I've stopped really posting on social media recently except on my business page.
@Blossom428 you'll have to remind me, is this number 1 or number 2?

@TheOrangeMonster we wanted to do it as there's lots of people we just don't seem to see and haven't seen this year with Covid friends abroad etc... we just put a photo and simply said "we are so thankful" which is true obviously, I kept saying it sounds like I'm gloating!!! 😂 I'm sure it didn't but I worry, I wouldn't ever want to make someone sad I've been there way way to many times.

I'm sure I've felt movement today! I'm nearly fifteen weeks so it very well could be.... I think x

@AnxiousAnnie86 that sounds fine though! Not showy as you said before.
They say about 18 weeks for your first and earlier for your second so maybe it is!! Exciting!!!! 😃😃😃

@TheOrangeMonster I'm pretty sure I was about 17 weeks with my daughter, but that was 14 years ago so can't remember! I can definitely feel something!

How you feeling? I didn't feel many symptoms until about 6 weeks, then it was like a freight train! Be warned 🤣

@TheOrangeMonster this is my first. Never Been pregnant before, so is all very need to be a s still doesn't feel real!!

@Blossom428 I'm glad there's someone else on here in the same boat as me! I don't know what to expect!
@AnxiousAnnie86 I feel ok actually, a fair few period-like-but-milder cramps yesterday and the day before, and some weird zappy feelings in places. My boobs are still really sore and they've got a bit bigger (according to DH). Also it appears that the nosebleeds have gone away which is excellent. Other than that not much going on here! I almost wish there were so I'd feel pregnant!
I just want to get to 6/7 weeks because apparently once you can hear a heartbeat the risk of miscarriage drops of 5% and at 12 weeks to less than 1%. I still can't stop worrying about that, or about it turning out as an ectopic....
Going to ring the GP after I've posted this. And the endocrinologist because I'll have to cancel that test!

Sorry not sure what happened to that last message haha.. meant to read all very new to me and still doesn't feel real.
@TheOrangeMonster
Will you book an early scan?

@Blossom428 definitely, as GP surgery just said they're not interested and won't even speak to me until I am 8 weeks. I'm sure that's something to do with risk of mc but now I just feel really dismissed and alone. After all the previous stuff as well! Grr. I also don't trust them to refer me to the midwife as they've been quite slow with referrals before. I bet in 4 weeks time I'll be sitting here still waiting to hear from them.

I had to ring the midwife team and refer myself. So just do that when you can. Mine was from 5 weeks- but then didn't see me untill 8weeks. It does very much feel like you've been left in the lerch, which is so stressful for new mums who have never been through anything like this before. Book in an early scan for 7/8 weeks and that will reassure you! I went at 7+4 and saw a heart beat 😁
In the meantime keep yourself busy and do things that make you happy x

@Blossom428 I've been on a big Google spree trying to find the number and all there is is the number of my local hospital maternity unit (which I don't think is what I want).
The surgery website says "please only contact us to book an appointment with the midwife when you are about 10 weeks pregnant".
I don't know how I'm going to get through the next four weeks, I'm way too scared.

Hey ladies sorry just catching up how is everyone!?

Congrats to new joiners!!!
@TheOrangeMonster i am SO pleased to see you on here congrats!!!!!

I have my dating scan a week tomorrow, i will be 13 weeks!!

@TheOrangeMonster all I can say is call weekly!!! I called my docs at six weeks only to be told they would be in touch between 8 and 10 I called them weekly to make sure they referred me! I honestly hated being pregnant between 4-10 it was the worst time, no one knew, I felt like crap midwife or docs wouldn't see me! We booked our private scan for 7 weeks to break it up!

@Redfoot89 heyyy! Ooooooo 13 weeks is an amazing time for scan! Mine was so so clear and lovely! X

@AnxiousAnnie86 i skipped back and seen your scan pic, just beautiful 😍

Im getting a bit excited but still nervous to see that things are growing as they should!

How are you keeping?

Amazing... I finally feel time is going a little quicker now too @Redfoot89

I have booked a private scan for Thursday, then have my nhs one on the 13th and I'll be 12+ 5 so similar to you!!

@Blossom428 i feel like time has been going quick although ive been a bit fed up with feeling so ill 🤒 getting there though. I was tempted to do another private scan but we decided against it. Im 12 weeks today going by my dates, if i go by what the private scan lady thought then ill be 12+4. But i know its hard to tell in the early days so looking forward to next week!

Back to work thursday, going to have to tell my headteacher with the new lockdown etc happening so im quite nervous.

Is your partner aloud into the scan with you?
I'm only doing anything private one as he can't come and I really want him to, to help him know it's all real and happening haha.
@Redfoot89
Sorry to hear you haven't been feeling great. I've just been so tired over the past few weeks and having to nap.

@Blossom428 has your hospital not changed that?? I thought they all had how? I'm mid Yorkshire hospital trust and dh came to all scans private and nhs xx

@Blossom428 yes my partner is allowed in with me, has to be same person throughout. Im in scotland, super thankful we can go together or i would be the same and booking another private.

Feel like i have a 24/7 hangover 🤣 hopefully it subsides soon. Been getting weird muscle twitches the last couple days, nothing sore or that but super strange feeling 👀

@Redfoot89 my sickness is no where near what it was, I have some bad days but not like the criplingness of before, I can feel like turning movements it feels like now and the odd twang. X

@AnxiousAnnie86 glad to hear that the sickness isn't so bad for you now 🙂 hopefully mines goes away real soon. I haven't been sick for about 4 days now so fingers crossed.

@AnxiousAnnie86 @Redfoot89 @Blossom428 near where I live scans are still only you, no partners. They're allowed to be with you for labour though.

I told the endocrinologist I was pregnant so they could cancel my test on Friday and she called me back and left this terrifying message about how she needed to see me urgently and it had to be face to face this week and could I come in to the hospital on Thursday. She didn't say why so I obviously got really scared, and then I couldn't get hold of her, only her secretary who doesn't know what she meant. She said something about how I have to go to Birmingham to a specialist place for investigation. I was looking into the weird rare disease they think I have (NC-CAH) and the miscarriage rate is 26%. 😱
So now I'm basically beside myself with worry and have been intermittently on the verge of tears since yesterday morning. I literally don't know how I'm going to make it through each week.

So sorry that the midwife has scared you like that, not very sensitive at all... but at least they want to see you sooner so you might be able to have tests and just check how things are going!! @TheOrangeMonster

No atm my hospital said it's under review- and I bet with the lockdown they won't change it. They have said partners can come to the 20week scan though at least, and after 4cm dilated(but hopefully that changed by July anyways) @Redfoot89
I keep waking up with lower back ache and tossing and turning most of the night. Now I'm shattered.

@AnxiousAnnie86 turning movements- you mean from baby? God I can't wait to feel something, I just think it will be the most surreal feeling ever!!