Pregnant after miscarriage part 4, TTC graduates

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Hi Ladies, I love that there's so much chat we need a part 4!

Oh congratulations @BS9790!! So sorry you had such a traumatic experience, but so pleased he's here safe! I hope you have a swift recovery and can get home ASAP! So pleased for you.

That is true @mlax it probably will, but it doesn't take too long! Might be worth looking at the bits you want in person soon though I guess, with lockdown and all that. Most of mine was online but prams I went to a couple of shops to try first!

Welcome @Boymama89 and congratulations. I think at the minute most epu's arent seeing people unless they are having problems, but it will depend on your hospital. It would be worth registering with your midwife and maybe seeing what they say.

So much to catch up on!

So sorry your consultant appointment was so rubbish @ChampooPapi... That’s definitely not helping having such conflicting advice! 6th November is just around the corner though... Hang in there, you’ve got this! 💪🏻

Welcome @Bea11 👋🏻 I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through what you have 🙁 This thread with these ladies is such a godsend, I don’t know how I’d have coped without it!

Ahhh @BS9790 HUGE congrats on the arrival of your little boy! Sorry it was a traumatic one, I hope you’re doing ok? Bless him having bruises, the poor little sausage. Soak up those snuggles! 🌈

Hi @Boymama89 and welcome! I’m not sure either what the deal is with EPU, but you can always give them a call and see what they say? I hope you’re doing ok.

What’s everyone up to with their weekends? It’s my birthday tomorrow, so making a rare outing out for dinner, woohoo! Got the wardrobe for the nursery arriving on Sunday too, so really looking forward to building that and getting baby girl’s clothes put away 🥰

@BS9790 big congratulations to you!!! 💙
Sorry to read it wasn't the birth you had planned and quite frankly sounds a bit horrendous. But glad to hear you are both doing ok now! Hope you have a good recovery and can be home soon with your little rainbow 🌈

And welcome @Bea11
And @Boymama89 🤗🤭

Unfortunately no visitors, so DH can't come. However due to traumatic birth I was in labour room until 7pm yesterday so he was there for 7 hours after the birth. Few more days in hospital for us I think 😩 xx

Hi,
I’m just moving over from the TTC after MC group after getting my BFP on Sunday. I had a MMC of twins at 12 weeks in April and then a chemical in July so super nervous, but so far so good. My EDD is 8th July and I’m 4+1. Feeling tired and hormonal with sore boobs (made worse by my incessant poking to make sure they’re still sore 🙄) but otherwise ok. I already have DS10 and DD7, so will be a big age gap. Just to make life even more ‘interesting’ we are in the process of building a new house (or at least, having it built) so will still be living in a static caravan in the garden when LO arrives!

So lovely to read about the rainbow babies being born on here.

Thank you all for the warm welcomes , it feels very surreal to be expecting again so soon And I’m really anxious about it all. But I just have to hope and pray I get my rainbow baby. I rang epu they won’t see me until I attend my gp and gp sends them a letter with the medical history. So that’s on Wednesday. Hope you all have a lovely weekend. And congratulations to the girls who had their babies 💕💕

hi hope it's ok to post on this thread; I got a BFP last week and I think I'm in denial? I have had 2 early miscarriages this year so I'm feeling like I cannot get my hopes up at all about this pregnancy. I've done 4 tests just to make sure it's not a false positive, but it still hasn't sunk in, I think I'm going to get some pink dye tests to doubly check?

Also, when does everyone let their GP/midwives know about their pregnancy? Last time I had to have a very embarrassing call with the midwife and explain I had had a miscarriage :(

hey @Chickoletta seems we are in a similar boat, so sorry to hear of your losses, how on earth to process a twin loss at 12 weeks and then a chemical, hugs to you, what a year you have had.

Oh my goodness! So much to catch up on!

Welcome all the new ladies, so lovely you have chosen to join us. I do a list on Tuesdays for when your ready to be added, though I imagine some of you want to reach a certain point first. But if not your welcome to be added on this coming Tuesday 🌈👣

Now the most important matter of the day, huge congratulations @BS9790 that your little one is here. Gorgeous name and I am so happy he is safe in the world 💜. Your birth however, sheesh. I mean, I can tell your also being strong and pragmatic so I imagine it was pretty bloody horrendous actually. I'm so sorry you went through so much, it sounds so painful and just having this battered newborn presented to you must have been excruciating. How is he doing? I'm kind of thinking the bruising will actually look worse as it gets better over the next days and week or so. Please request your birth notes or a de brief with your midwife, hospital or health visitor of you want more information on what happened, it can help so much with a kind of closure on the exow and decisions made. I know it can help a lot of women and once they think about it later on it is too late to kind of process it, I'm sure if you ask it'll take a while for them to get back to you anyway but it'll be noted in the system.

Thank goodness you are both through the worse, you are through the worst arnt you? They aren't having to do any extra surgery or anything else to you?!

Can't wait to see some baby feet or a bundled newborn photo from you xx

My update after going for steroids and pre opp stuff this morning which is supposed to take an hour...ended up in hospital for nearly 5 hours 😬

I had a bloody smear essentially, speculum full swabbing to check of waters had gone at all, and to check infection. Why? Because I stupidly mentioned casually I though I might have been leaking a little fluid the last week 🤦. Came back negative, could have been leaking earlier on in the week but currently all ok, hopefully just clear discharge. Then of course they monitored, ye god's if I never see that fucking machine again it'll be too soon! I know they are important in lots of situations but with me it has now become the running joke with me and the staff, because I haven't once actually gone in for reduced movement or monitoring or asked for monitoring, yet every time I'm there, for anything it seems, monitoring is prescribed. And with two heart beats it's not a case of plug in and go, it usually involves a sonographer to scan to locate the separate heartbeats so they are certain they are tracking different ones. All this while everyone can see them physically moving in my belly 😂

Anyway I digress.

After reading nice guidlines I realised they really should be taking them out a bit sooner, waited for the consultant for two hours so he could explain why. He was fab because he was honest and said, yes it's basically because they are too busy and fully booked with sections next week, but obviously if my placenta was failing they'd be out, so I was reassured in one way it was ok for Friday, but also worried still as he'd said it was possible scheduling they'd try more for Monday/Tuesday after I'd had these seroids.

As I was leaving with my notes, I was grabbed by another woman I'd never seen with a scrap piece of paper in hand 'are you champoo?' 'yes!' I say, proceeds to tell me I'm being c sectioned on Tuesday now. Obviously discussions have taken place and something was set in motion, god knows, the consultant did say to me of my scan had looked like it did 2 weeks ago the twins would already be out so obviously he did think it was better to do a little earlier but I was just too borderline and emergency.

So Tuesday is my baby day.

Or is it?

Phone call when I get back home, 'champoo it's actually Wednesday the 4th' 😂
Ironically a date I was sent in the post about ten days ago which they said was wrong as it was scheduled for the 5th then moved to the 6th.

What a day ladies.

But unless there is an emergency situation, which goes for all planned sections, I will be meeting my twins on Wednesday 🙌

And just a note, steroids hurt , why anyone would choose to inject them, it's like hot glue going in!

That is definitely my longest post ever! But wanted to update in case I disappeared for a few days or week or whatever when having them, plus after that random smear thing they could even make a surprise appearance, though doubtful

@BS9790 aw massive congratulations💙!! I'm so sorry you got so battered about though, sounds really tough. I hope you both start to recover quickly and get you get to go home soon. xx

@ChampooPapi wow they are really putting you through the mill with chopping and changing dates, you poor thing you must be all over the place!! Let's hope everything goes smoothly for you now before Wednesday, and how exciting you will have your little babies with you in less than a week💕

@Boymama89, @inahaze @Chickoletta welcome ladies and congratulations😊!

@ChampooPapi
Wow. You are SO patient.
But yayyy to an earlier c section!
Looks like Wednesday is your big day finally!!!!
I can't believe it. I am emotional haha

I know you will be madly busy, but i hope you can update next week 💗💗

@Leok83 and @SunnySideUp2020 thanks you lovely women you. I will definitely update to say when they are here safe and I am through the other side, I wouldn't dream of not.

And we have plenty of scans coming up and other babies due over the next week's too, I will need to check on for all 🌈💜

Plus I'm kind of hoping I may be able to maintain the list, I mean it takes all of five minutes and i enjoy it so much

Looks like we could be going into lockdown again Monday ladies. What pregnancies we've had so far!

Geez Louise @ChampooPapi what a day you had!!! Hopefully you feel a little more reassured with an earlier date though...what a palava!

I know, just seen that, had a very blue few days about it all already as we've just been moved up a tier today. All feels a bit like a dream really doesn't it?! Who would've thought when we got a bfp in March we would still be here...I was very naive.

@ChampooPapi oh my god you poor thing. You must have been tearing your hair out!!! I'd have been exasperated by the end of it all 🙈 but I'm so glad your section has been moved a bit closer, that's good news at least! Hopefully with your girls being born at 37 weeks they won't have to stay in long either!

I just saw the news too... I can't believe we're still in this position either 😞

Welcome to the new ladies @inahaze @Boymama89 @Chickoletta and congratulations 😊 this is a safe place xx

@Whiffle77 I know, it's a shit show isn't it (the covid stuff , not my section stuff ☺️).
For you I think it is really hard because those of us having the babies the next week or so may get to keep the same hospital protocols regarding birth and partners while that's re examined, but for you your due bang on the supposed end of this new lock down so it's even more of an unknown!

@MilsCookie my nerves were shot to be honest. I've been relaxed about the pregnancy generally and even with the things that have been happening i just follow the professionals and am really not overly anxious person.

But yesterday I knew something had to be approached and sorted for my babies, not for me, but I needed to advocate for them and their safety. I knew it was covid related messing with their schedules and plans and that it wasn't decided purely on need it was NOT brought forward in the end because of how busy they were and restrictions to how many women can be brought forward.

Understandably a few days doesn't seem much probably with a single pregnancy and I would t have thought it would make much difference, but for you and me we do totally get that those 48/72 hours could mean them not being in the NICU for another week, or longer. It could mean they don't get jaundice or effected by non diagnosed pre eclaimsia. Plus growth is often over ten percent each way, Great if they get ours out and they are a whole pound heavier then predicted, not so great with one that's predicted under 3rd centile that ends up coming out under the 1st instead. Those days can be so important for feeding them milk if they are not getting it inside they are not getting that nourishment anymore.

This stormy wet weather and the impending lockdown, it really doesn't help with feeling on edge!

I can't see how this lockdown is going to have much effect if people can still go to work and schools are still open. Schools being open has massively increased the spread of the virus.

I think if it needs doing, it needs to be a full lockdown as before.

Hopefully it won't cause too many issues for those of us who are due sooner. It'll all have changed 3 times before I get to giving birth, I'm sure. It definitely makes me more certain about wanting a home birth this time.

@ChampooPapi It's horrendous to think that because of Covid they could've held off taking your babies out and potentially caused harm to them (although I'm sure of course if they were really worried they'd be getting them out now). I'm so glad you did advocate for your babies and push for an earlier date. And like you say, those few days at this gestation may make all the difference in terms of what support (if any) they might need when they're born! This is why we're hoping we make it to 34 weeks because there's a huuuuge difference between a 32 weeker and 34 weeker! If they come at 32 weeks we're looking at least a month's stay in hospital with oxygen and feeding tubes in an incubator... if they come at 34 weeks they may just need a bit of time for feeding and growing and may be allowed to be in an open crib.

I really really really hope they don't introduce more restrictions for partners and visitors 😞

Big happy birthday to you @TerribleImagination 🎉🥰 hope you have a much treated and pampered day lovely 💜

Thanks for the lovely welcome everybody!

@inahaze - yes, I’ve certainly had better years...! The due date for my MMC twins is next week so I’m very pleased (all being well) to be pregnant for that. Nice to have somebody in the same position - what is your EDD? How are you feeling? I’m ok generally but my eczema has flared up (for the first time in years) so I’m very itchy.

@ChampooPapi - thinking of you and your babies.