July 2021

[Lollipop87]

Hi everyone!

There doesn’t seem to be a thread yet for July 2021, probably because most of you haven’t got your BFP yet! I got mine yesterday at 9DPO which was super early but had a pretty clear line on a FRER with afternoon urine, so confirmed with a digital. My due date is 4th July 2021 and I can’t wait for more of you to join me!! Feeling excited but a bit overwhelmed / not everything has sunk in yet. Also it’s still super early so I’m crossing my fingers (and legs!) that this little one sticks. It’s my first baby so I have no experience of any of this!

Hopefully see more of you in the next few days!!

Xx

I'm so so sorry @Lille4 😔 the same thing happened to me in August. Look after yourself over the next few days. Xx

@Jilly1988 brill. It does make you feel alot better knowing HCG levels are going up and where they should be.
I've an early scan next Friday due to my ectopic in June so hopefully get more reassurance

@Lille4 I'm really sorry to hear that. Look after yourself x

@Holl1993 yep! I can’t sleep past 5.50am at the moment, doesn’t seem to matter what time I get to sleep either, I went to sleep at half 11 last night and was still wide awake early this morning 😭

@Kg87 hopefully this won't go on for the WHOLE 9 months... never remember this from my little boy. Mind ill take any symptom at the moment!

Hi ladies.... just sneaking in at the end of July(25th).
I got my BFP yesterday. Still very early days as 13dpo today(3+6), but AF would have shown up by now with a short LP.
This is baby n.1. Never been pregnant before so reading all the messages about everyone else Is very helpful 😊
Here's hoping this little bean sticks x

@Holl1993 I know I was kind of looking forward to the tiredness and the satisfaction of getting into bed early, I know I should be pleased I’m not exhausted but I just want a proper sign other than a BFP 😂 although I do feel like I have more energy now than I did before which is odd 🤷🏽‍♀️

Hi all. This is my first post as I've literally just joined. Please someone take me under their wing!!

I took a test Thursday and it was positive. I am 34. Never had a baby before (though I did have an unwanted ectopic pregnancy 6 years ago).

Can anyone bring me up to speed? What do all the abbreviations mean? Why are you all doing multiple tests?

I took a photo of my test but it won't allow me to post as I am so new. Should I be doing more tests?

Last period 6th October so I am GUESSING I am 4-5 weeks.

@levera welcome! This is my second pregnancy so I'm happy to look after you

There's no need to do more than one test. But lots of people like to. To see the lines get darker/weeks progress if it's digital - though at some point you do have to remember to put the tests down! If you're happy with the test you've done you don't have to do any more. You can add photos a couple of days after you sign up to Mumsnet I think.

Your next step is to find out how you refer to the midwives in your area. In some areas it's done through your GP but in others you contact the midwives directly. Also get your hands on some vitamins (folic acid in particular) if you haven't already.

Boots have a great vitamin d and folic acid which is small the pregnacare ones are not only expensive but massive when you feel sick they are awful to take!
Folic acid is extremely important to stop spinabifida which occurs early so take it every day

@Lille4 I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself, sending you all the positive thoughts x

@levera bless you ❤️

Absolutely no need to keep testing, you're pregnant and that is amazing! I would say try not to read about too much and just enjoy it that everything is going well!

Good luck and we're all here xx

Hi everyone, I am 7 weeks today I believe. Should be due on 3rd July. Already have one daughter aged 6. I had a miscarriage in August at 8 weeks although I think baby stopped growing a lot earlier. Was a real shock to me after having such an easy pregnancy before. With this one I have not contacted the midwife yet as can't go through all that again if it isn't successful. Had to go to the EPU last time and they were horrible so would rather avoid them. So I've booked a private scan next week when I'll be 7+5 and if all is well I will call midwives after that. Although my symptoms are a lot stronger with this one I can't help but not get excited now, having a miscarriage has ruined the experience for me. Also, a little while after mine, a friend lost hers at 16 weeks! So I feel like I'll never be safe! Anyway, sorry for the gloominess of this post. Just how I'm feeling!

@EmmieG11 that's it we're defo never safe are we but I just remind myself of how ridiculously over populated the world is and think that is a LOT of successful pregnancies 😂😂 worrying really doesn't help the outcome either so just have to try and think positive where possible 💜❤️

@Lille4 Look after yourself and good luck for next cycle x

@EmmieG11 Congratulations. I think once we know what can go wrong it is so easy to be anxious. I lost my first baby at 40 weeks, and because of that I met other people who had lost babies and know more than I'd like about what can go wrong. I don't think there is ever a time when you are completely safe but that's true about any stage in life. None of us know what the future holds but the chances of something like that happening after the first trimester are very low and I'm hoping I'll be able to relax a little if we get through the first trimester successfully

Who are people booking their private scans with? Window to the Womb type places?

@Hopingfor3 that is true and a better way of looking at it! Will focus on that! I do the kind of job where I see baby's born despite alcohol/drug use and all sorts of bad things and it does make you wonder how they are successful yet a healthy pregnancy doesn't always end well. That's just life!

@EatPrayYoga I am so sorry you lost a baby at 40 weeks, that must have been so so hard for you. I get what you mean, we aren't always safe, I need to think more like that. I am booked into one like that but not window to the womb (although there is one nearby) I can't remember the name x

Can I join, just had my edd given for 1 July?

Second baby (ovulation induction this time - pcos)

Can I join please?
15dpo and feeling sick this morning - should it start this early?!
For my bfp two days ago after nearly 4 years of trying and being told by docs ivf was the only way :)

Hello, I hope it’s ok to join here. Firstly congratulations to you all, and fingers very tightly crossed for those of you still waiting on bfps. Also fingers tightly crossed that all your bfps stick!

I got my bfp on Thursday. I’m so very sorry to sound insensitive as I know it’s such a happy time for so many and especially those who have been TTC for a while... the bfp came as quite a shock to me, whilst me and my partner weren’t being particularly carful, we weren’t actively trying. Obviously pregnancy should be expected if not being careful but I was due to have a laparoscopy in a few weeks time for suspected endometriosis. It took my mum 2 years to conceive me (also had endo) and I was her only pregnancy. My mind was focusing on making it through the operation and I just assumed that TTC would take a while for me. You would think I should be happy still but I’m in shock, I’m so worried about everything and am exhausted from the emotional rollercoaster of preparing for an opp and now being pregnant.

I suffer with anxiety quite a lot and also feel far too young to become a mum (would be 27 by July). I’d never imagined becoming a parent till my 30s.

So sorry to put a bit of a dampener on this post and it still makes me very happy to see other lovely ladies so overjoyed by their bfps. I guess I’m hoping coming on here and seeking some support might help lessen some of my anxieties and help me get excited rather than worrying about almost everything!

@EatPrayYoga
We've booked our early scan with ultra scan direct, I think their pregnancy scans are called BabyBond or similar. I think it's a similar company to window to the womb.
We used them last time purely because there was a local one quite close. This time we've booked one further out into Essex because our local one isn't letting partners in (they've moved location and new premises are small so they say it's to allow distancing).

So sorry @Lille4. I unfortunately experienced this a couple of months ago. Look after yourself x

Hi guys not posted on here for a few days. I'm now 6 weeks exactly according to lmp and no symptoms whatsoever except some mild cramping a couple of weeks ago. I know every pregnancy is different but I'm starting to worry, my boobs aren't even a tad sore and my appetite is the same as ever. Anyone else around the same stage as me that feels the same?

@LillH everyone has their own things to deal with I was in shock for about 2 weeks after my positive test and I already have a toddler! I didn't want to be pregnant in a pandemic I only survived my last maternity leave by being at classes every day with my son whihh isn't a option currently!

Just take it as it comes give yourself time to process and also decide what's right for you 😊

Pregnancy can be anxious I suggest keep talking about it and also talk to your midwife about it.
The truth about having a baby is you can think your the most prepared person in the world and it still doesn't prepare you. You can read every book under the sun but babies don't follow books. There is so much focus on the birth that you then get home and go now what.
Reality is that every parent under the sun is winging it by trial and error! You will have good hours and bad hours most importantly though is that your not alone in it. Everyone has been through this and the ones who smile and say I love every minute of being a parent is basically lieing! There are wonderful times and tough times. Just take each day as it comes and take care of yourself and keep talking.

@Scottishskifun thank you so much for your response. Again, I really do apologise for putting a bit of a dampener on this post. After hitting ‘post message’ I instantly thought I should have perhaps found a different thread for my concerns.

I know it’s very early days to be telling anyone but I think I’m my case the need for support is greater than waiting for the right moment. Perhaps after I’ve told a couple of close family members I might feel a slight weight of my shoulders.

Your post has helped too thank you. I’m sure everyone experiences shock to varying degrees when they see a positive result.

Hopefully the next time I post on here I’ll feel a little more positive take care of yourself too

@strawberrycherryblossom @Hopingfor3

Thank you both. When I took the test 6 years ago it was sooo faint. The hospital were so surprised it was super early and super tiny, but it was in my tube so I couldn’t keep it. It was an unwanted accident.

This time it is wanted. Me and my partner have had our wedding plans postponed twice so far thanks to COVID. 2020 was like a wake up call to me to stop delaying so I decided fuck it let’s try.

However, my doc put me on Citalopram middle of the year for severe anxiety. I just got more pills this week but then found out I’m carrying on Thurs so I need to update him. There are risks to outweigh but I’m not suicidal or depressed so I think the right thing is to come off and pursue the counselling route I was only delaying due to the wedding. So as the wedding has been pushed to Feb, I may start counselling now. I am dreading the doc calling me on Monday...my anxiety is making me feel guilty for having tried to get pregnant when he suggested I wait a little longer.

I’ll be 35 in Feb and my partner 40 next year. I don’t want to wait any longer and as I said, 2020 is my wake up call.

Also dreading telling my amazing boss. We are going through a massive project centralising an international finance structure, bringing it in the U.K. I work my socks off and spend my spare time studying so I am very work-oriented. When we have the chat (likely Jan) I plan to partially blame her as she’s always telling me to “get a life” 😂

I want this baby. I think Xmas I may be 11 weeks (guessing) so plan to reveal to the family then.

**Any suggestions for a Christmas reveal?