👣 Due November/December 2020 - on the home stretch… 👣

[danielasummer]

We're getting close now ladies!!

💫 @NaomiB79 - due 13th November - girl - FTM
💫 @Jwl45 - due 13th November - girl - 3TM
💫 @Jellycat2020 - due 14th November - girl - FTM
💫 @BG1234 - due 19th November - surprise - FTM
💫 @EithneBlue - due 21st November - surprise
💫 @mysafespace - due 25th November - surprise - FTM
💫 @kkr168 - due 26th November - boy - 2TM
💫 @MsBee13 - due 26th November - boy - FTM
💫 @PipTed - due 26th November - surprise - FTM
💫 @Snowwhite2020 - due 26th November
💫 @Pinktruffle - due 26th November
💫 @Bluebell2020 - due 27th November - girl - FTM
💫 @phe694 - due 27th November - girl - FTM
💫 @mummyshark97 - due 28th November - boy - FTM
💫 @Babyhope98 - due 28th November - girl - FTM
💫 @peachypetite - due 30th November - surprise - FTM
💫 @Awkes - due 1st December - girl - FTM
💫 @Amyyy1 - due 2nd December - girl - FTM
💫 @confused107 - due 3rd December - girl - FTM
💫 @lionsmum - due 6th December - boy - 2TM
💫 @lc86 - due 6th December - boy - 3TM
💫 @Asianchick6693 - due 6th December - girl - FTM
💫 @danielasummer - due 9th December - surprise - FTM
💫 @kj1010 - due 13th December - boy - 4TM
💫 @jalu47 - due 13th December - boy - FTM
💫 @Nic2908 - due 15th December - boy - FTM
💫 @Whitter - due 15th December - girl - FTM
💫 @loobeelou - due 26th December - girl - 2TM

👶🏼 @nearlyamummyof2boys - Wyatt born 23rd September

@Pinktruffle hi was it hard to get them to grant you a planned c section I'm seeing the consultant on Tuesday I'm 36 weeks

Well my 9yo DD won't come near me 😂 she's finally figured out that I must of "done it" 3 times and "that is just disgusting" 😂
She didn't mind just once for the new baby but had forgotten about her and her Brother 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

Kids do come out with the funniest things. Are all your other children excited for a new sibling?

Morning all yes my lot are happy for new little sibling and mine are 20 17 and 13 I'm most looking forward to not having to have all these injections and pills daily and the general aches and pains u get in pregnancy other than that not much else thought I'd be like yeah cant wait for a drink but not fussed by that and I'm gonna continue with my healthy eating so I drop the weight but I gotta say the most thing will be xmas day with my oh and kids and snuggles with new bubba just family time all in all

@LRHRN That is hilarious, like @Kj1010 our children are older, our son is 17 & my stepsons are 19 & 22.
They are all so excited, our 17 year old & his girlfriend got us a hamper & a little outfit. The 22 year old moved out so he texts most days now asking if there's any sign of the baby. The 19 year old loves reminding me of how much pain I'm going to be in soon

@Pinktruffle

I'm looking forward to drinking coffee, maybe even having a gin and tonic which I have heen craving for some reason even though I'm usually T-total. I'll probably get some Seedlip.

The thing I am most looking forward to is being able to sleep on my back! And hopefully being able to turn over without feeling like my body is going to be ripped in two because I put weight on my back for a split second - this may be a delayed dream though due to my c-section, though I'm hopeful back sleeping will be all systems go.

I can't wait to sleep on my belly again! 😫

[quote kkr168]**@LRHRN* That is hilarious, like @Kj1010* our children are older, our son is 17 & my stepsons are 19 & 22.
They are all so excited, our 17 year old & his girlfriend got us a hamper & a little outfit. The 22 year old moved out so he texts most days now asking if there's any sign of the baby. The 19 year old loves reminding me of how much pain I'm going to be in soon [/quote]
Such a cute hamper x

@iwwntchocolate from my experience so far they have been really great at saying it's my choice and giving me all the information I need. I've made a point of telling them all the research I've done, all the consultant midwife videos I've watched on the internet etc. They keep trying to say about vbac being safer etc but there's no evidence really to back that up from what I've seen and I've said I'm not prepared to risk an emergency c section, when I've heard how much better and quicker recovery from elective.. my midwife had already told me to stay wrong with them and just reaffirm I've made my decision.. good luck! Xx

@kkr168 @Kj1010 wow! That's amazing, how do you feel this time around? I was worried about my kids age gaps but you've both just put me massively at ease.
Mine are 13 and 9 and even in that time so much has changed it's crazy and then with COVID added in it's just all so strange.

I do feel so awful for first time mums because it shouldn't be like this for them.

The hamper is beautiful ❤️ so thoughtful. You've got automatic babysitters too xx

@iwwntchocolate they seem to be much better now at taking personal choice into matter. I would think they would talk through all the choices so that you are informed and I would think that they would sway you towards a natural birth over surgery as it is in the main the safer option.

Why do you think you will end up with an emergency section?

At the end of the day your mental health is important for this process to go well so if you are terrified about birth vaginally then they need to take it into account.

You might find covid a blocker to surgery on an elective basis though without a history of a previous birth to back up your choice.

Why have they left it till 36 weeks to chat it over with you? I would have thought this would have been agreed by this stage.

Yes there are some horrific birth stories but there are for sections too. Most women manage to give birth naturally. Maybe go on here and ask some experiences?

How many children are you wanting as subsequent secrions increase the risk in surgery? Just something else to think about.

I had an induction and emergency section in the end with my first. I was willing to see how things went and try it naturally. My induction failed and labour didn't progress so they had to get DS out in the end. Because labour failed (I didn't get passed 1cm even after 12 hours on the drip) I am having a planned section this time.

I am pretty scared about it though. The emergency one I didn't have time to worry DS just needed out in a hurry, but it is not pleasant knowing you are about to have major surgery and what can go wrong.

Not sure there is any easy way for us ladies. You could have a wonderful natural birth and be back home within hours.

The drip was very intense pain for the contractions but the pain is manageable in the main. Gas and air is amazing for a long time. I don't class myself as someone with a high pain threshold.

It is a tough time to be pregnant and to have a newborn without the support of friends due to covid etc. I finish up on Friday and have a section booked on Monday. My work have done nothing for me (male dominated). We had our last team meeting over the phone last week and there was no mention of me finishing up or good luck etc. Did make me feel a bit down. I don't expect a fuss but DP doesn't think that way at all. I did ask a female friend a work if anyone had mentioned a card or something for me and she emailed my boss to ask and he said they would do something after the baby was born which is something I guess but a wee send off would have been nice.

I was getting a bit down about it last week and then on Friday I went to my mum's house for lunch (in a support bubble with us so allowed) and when I got there she had put on an amazing afternoon tea and a lovely box filled with baby stuff like bibs and muslins etc. It was wonderful. I didn't realise how much I really needed something nice and treated a bit special. Was like a mini baby shower (which I would have thought was totally not me). They had put up bunting and were playing lullabies etc. God bless Mums. Xxxxx

Hope those of you finishing up work or nesting due dates are getting some pampering. X

@LRHRN I feel fine was a shock at first as obvs wasnt planned but really looking forward to it now this little man completes my family I have 21 years between me and my youngest sister and we are as close as ever yes I agree feel for the first time mums it's bad enough for us more experienced mums so cant imagine what some must be feeling this covid just needs to disappear so life can return to normality

@lc86 have you been given a date for your csection yet? (Sorry I forget who has said what)

I go on Wednesday for a presentation scan as baby is switching between transverse and bum down. I've got a feeling she will be head down on Wednesday just to annoy me 😂 but I don't think it will be for long. It's making me so anxious about going into labour and having to have an emergency csection, I'd sooner it be planned and as you say recovery is quicker and surely it's more cost effective for the nhs to have them planned.
I just hope they don't give me a hard time as I don't feel my midwife has been particularly great. I find her dismissive. My baby has been transverse since week 16 I'm now 37+ and all she keeps saying is there is time, I've had to request a scan and she wasn't too impressed about doing that

@Sheera1 that's beautiful and so thoughtful, it's the littlest things xx

@danielasummer I'm due end of this month, have already done class 1, and class 2 is later this week. Some really good tips already.
@Sheera1 that's so sweet. I was truly spoiled by my work colleagues, didn't expect much but they really did make a fuss.

@LRHRN I've been so lucky with my midwife this pregnancy, really supportive and like a normal person lol.. I've got my growth scan tomorrow and then consultant on 17th nov so will get my date next week.. excited but nervous now!! Just had the midwife funnily enough and baby is engaged. I hate when they say babies have plenty of time at this stage, there's nowhere for them to move!! Fingers crossed she isn't head down for you 🙊 xx

@lc86 that's so good, I just get the impression mines been doing it for that long she's sort of on autopilot. If she is perfectly head down and engaged then fair enough I'll wait for her to arrive, just want to know either way xx

@Sheera1 when is your due date please? Am I right in thinking they plan electives before your due date?
You're going to have your little bundle next week 😬 I hope this week goes quick for you and you manage to get some rest this weekend.

@LRHRN I feel more 'ready' for a baby this time, I was only 17 when we had our son, completely not planned. I'm so excited to have a little baby again but also think we've lost the plot to be starting again!!
My BIL has just had a baby & his kids are similar ages to ours, the kids are brilliant with the baby. MIL agrees that we've all lost the plot, she keeps saying everyone's grandkids are having kids, instead her kids have decided to start again!

Your all so lucky that you've all recieved good care from your midwives. Honestly I've been nothing but appalled by mine. I was told since my baby was measuring big it was important I have an early Induction to decrease the chances of risks, and that would need to be when I turn 38 weeks max. Can you imagine I was told I was having an induction tomorrow by the dr to then have my birth plan be this silly baby trial that no one spoke to me about. The baby trail can mean me going full term and is picked based on a computer generated system . The most they did was send me a email on it and never bothered calling me up until thursday. The lady said she would get someone else to call me for consent and here I am like a sitting duck waiting. I had to chase up with my local midwife to speak to a consultant about the pros/cons of an induction because no one actually sat me down and explained what will happen. 4 times she said she would book me an appointment and it wasnt until I sent her a text that she gave me a number of this consultant who when I rang knew nothing of me or my situation and was just as angry that i was left in the dark so late in! And to top it off I'm most importantly meant to have an urgent heart scan that I've pushed for countless times now. Depending on the result may obviously impact my labour choices. But I've heard nothing from anyone. And I'm meant to be giving birth tomorrow. It's all a big joke really.

Whenever I speak to any medical staff they always fob me off as someone else's problem, or can never tell me an answer. I've never been given any special dates or times for appointments, just a constant game of cat and mouse trying to chase things up from a whole lot of people "that dont know anything". But hey at least the managed to book me my breastfeeding class for the day I'm meant to give birth my whole pregnancy has been a consistent mess. They booked me in for my gtt past the cut off point so could never definitively tell me if I have GD or not, if anything the midwives would ask me if I had it like I can self diagnose! Sorry for the rant at this point i honestly cant believe my treatment its caused me so much stress and its brought me to tears now realising I dont trust or have any confidence in these people that are meant to be delivering my little one

@Dee96 It's shocking that you have received that treatment or should I say lack of!!! It should not vary so much over each of our practices and hospitals on what kind of care we have all been getting.... I hope it all gets sorted out for you and you can enjoy your time with your little bundle of joy but I do hope you put in a formal complaint when you get the chance! X

@LRHRN when I went last time the consultant said I'd be booked in at 39 weeks for elective xx

@Amyyy1 It's so shocking that sometimes I'm even in disbelief that this is what I'm experiencing because it all just seems like a comedy sketch. I will be writing a major complaint up, even though at this rate it's pointless for me I'm hoping it means it helps others from other receiving the same lack of care I have. And I shall be looking into a transfer! Not before I give them a piece of my mind though. I'm just grateful baby hasnt come yet or I'd be beside myself on what to do giving I havent even had my heart checked so I dont know what's safest for me and her

@Iwwntchocolate I'm a first time mum but have had a previous traumatic miscarriage so my C-section was granted on the grounds of mental health. My midwife referred me to the consultant at the hospital who in turn referred me to the consultant midwife to discuss my choices and to be honest, all were very very supportive and made no attempt to talk me out of it at all. They presented the pros and cons of both vaginal and C-section and said it was up to me to decide but they were happy to go with my decision.

Consultant also admitted that on the whole, c-section has a statistically better outcome for baby's than vaginal which is one of my main concerns. Obviously, it is more dangerous for me and the some of the risks (namely that if things go wrong it could mean a hysterectomy but that's only done in life or death situations the consultant said) and the recovery time are worrying me but weighing it up against having a healthy, live baby, I think a C-section is the right decision for me. We'll see if I'm saying the same thing in 3 weeks time though!

@Dee96 I feel bad for complaining about some of my experiences with midwifery after reading that! You poor thing, that is appalling! Definitely put in a complaint and make sure you are logging everything you are being told, its wholly unacceptable and at the very least you deserve an apology