Summer '20 Grads Part IV

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@Blondi3 💚10th October EDD 25th May
@Mococo1 💚11th October 🧡 12th November EDD 29th March
@littleRa 🧡 14th October EDD 8th March
@Mustbemad82 ❤️ 15th October EDD 20th April
@MrsEmilyB ❤️ 15th October EDD 29th April
@Dipsy77 🧡🧡 26th October EDD 15th March
@smileyT 🧡 26th October EDD 15th March 💙 BOY
@Ltay2 💚9th November 🧡 20th November EDD 10th April
@blodyn91 🧡 20th November EDD 12th April

@cocoblue22 EDD 12th March 💙 BOY
@noble89 EDD 24th March
@mrsmummy1111 EDD 30th March
@zippityzip EDD 31st March 🤍 SURPRISE
@fairylights2 EDD 1st April
@eloise27 EDD 8th April
@samilicious EDD 10th April
@Lettie365 - EDD 11th April
@Madz123 EDD 13th April
@Catherinettc EDD 19th May
@Sophi123 EDD 20th May
@mrsI2020 EDD 22nd May
@Busybee143

💚 extra scans ❤️ 12w scans 🧡 20w scans 💙 Boy 💖Girl 🤍 Surprise

@mrsmummy1111 Totally agree, even though an EMSC scares me shitless I would rather be cut open wide awake than drag my baby out with metal spoons. I've seen the injuries and I just couldn't do it.

Marking place! My gender (20 week) scan is on Weds next week (14th)!

Hello guys.
It went mostly well today. Baby is now 10+4 and I'm 11 weeks so almost perfect and that means baby has grown 9 days in the last week.
There is a little dark patch under my sac which they said might explain where the pink discharge was coming from, they said if I get brown blood that's fine but any red blood and I should ring them right away. I'm really happy baby has grown, baby was having a little flex of his or her leg today, so cute! I am really worried my bleeding will turn into something sinister.
I know I just need to focus.
I have just over a week left at work until our 2 week half term and my 12 week scan is the 22nd of October @SmileyT which is 2 weeks today so at least in 2 weeks I will know if all is well. I just need to stay positive which is easier said than done 🤣

Amazing news @Busybee143 ! Sounds all positive to me. I think if anything I'd feel better they mentioned the dark patch as at least it explains the prior bleeding, plus if you do get any more bleeding you'll hopefully feel a bit less panicked as you'll know probably why it's there. Keeping my fingers crossed that's it though.
Allow yourself to relax and enjoy the next few weeks until the next scan now. You're fine, baby is fine, life is good!

@blodyn91 it really is so hard! But I cannot wait for the bump to come I just don't wanna gain too much weight, just baby will be fine thanks haha! I'm gonna keep on slimming world and just do my best to minimise excessive weight gain and I know I'll lose loads when BF 👶🏼❤️

I'm annoyed. My leisure centre is increasing the capacity of swimming lanes from 4 to 6 people in double lanes. 4 is just about tolerable because you have people of different speeds etc I'm gutted because I really don't think I want to go now because 6 is just too many! I hate it when there's 4 people in.

Re labour it TERRIFIES ME but I would like a water birth and gas and air.

I know you don't get a medal but for me I know I definitely do not want an epidural - I want to be able to feel labour and experience it even the bad bits but maybe just not all of the pain!

I do not want no forceps or anything like that I think I'd rather have a C and deal with the recovery of that than some forceps grabbing my baby's head and pulling them out, absolutely not!

@Bl0ndi3 It's a tricky one because everyone has an idea of their ideal birth, and how they'd want it to go. Everyone I know said ideally they would want a water birth with no pain relief if they didn't need it, very few people actually end up being able to have that birth. For so many different reasons. And you may feel very different when you're actually going through it. I have a friend who was absolutely against any form of pain relief, even gas & air. She avoided it for so long she ended up having an epidural because it was such a long birth.

My advice, don't put any pressure on yourself. Give yourself the flexibility to have whatever birth you need when the time comes. Yes absolutely have a plan, but don't ever punish yourself if you don't stick to it. I didn't have an epidural and I can tell you, the pain ain't all that much of an experience 🤣. Even if you do have an epidural, you still get the beginning feelings of labour and contractions, you still feel the pushing and the baby being born. You still get the experience of birth, and however you manage to bring your baby into this world makes you a fucking superstar.

@Busybee143 I agree I think it’s more reassuring they can see where the bleeding may be coming from. I bled loads with my girls, at one point I literally passed that much I thought I’d lost baby and all; and everytime I went in they were 100%. It doesn’t make you anxious and hard to enjoy it. I think hopefully it’s easier knowing you’re off for 2 weeks and can look forward to your 12w. Love your scan btw, so clear :)

Girls I have had 2 csecs so I’m dreading a third! Lol tempted to ask them to sterilise me at the same time but afraid I’ll want a 4th 🙈

I have 2 girls (they’ll be 11&8 when baby’s here) from a previous marriage and dh has a 5yr old son from previous , so he is desperate for a girl!! We are going to keep it as a surprise as of course healthy baby is the most important. I found out gender with dd2 and he found out with ds so I’d really like him to experience the surprise but how the heck am I gonna wait 🤣

8+2 here and all rolls. I’ve lost a lot of weight over the years and am currently eating for 2 so god only knows what the gain will be. I am going to have to devise a healthy eating plan soon I think with 2000 calories xxx

@mrsmummy1111 I know what you mean I will have a list of preferences and that's that really, not a birth plan as such, if I can have a water birth with limited pain relief, awesome. If not then so be it I just want my baby out as unscathed as possible! I would also love as limited damage to my bits as possible 😖😫

Hoping to go to a birth centre connected right to a hospital so if needs be they can wheel me on through the doors into hospital and do whatever they need to.

Anyone thinking of getting an elvie breast pump (which I would hiiiighly recommend btw) I've got a 15% off code - JENNY15

@Mrsi2020 thankyou for sharing your experience, I didn't think of it like that. I might buy something for the baby soon to keep my thoughts positive and happy

@Busybee143 when I was really anxious my sister reminded me of the advice I gave her. Apparently I said “you’re pregnant, until you’re not, whenever that may be, so you may aswell enjoy it for as long as it lasts” it’s hard but yes! Defo buy yourself something small , the chances of a loss after a scan are significantly reduced! Most people that bleed and lose don’t have healthy scans. We can only think positive and hope for the best! I also meant earlier it does give you anxiety not it doesn’t haha xx

@Bl0ndi3 As im low risk Im at a birthing centre next door to a hospital and its brand new 🤩 My thoughts atm is no forceps! But I want to be able to move around a lot, so probs no water birth, supposedly squatting is a really good position as it opens your pelvis up?

@zippityzip yes thats definitely what this pain is, Im OK by the morning. I could buy a band to help, but I have no bump yet 🙈 Ill just stop if it starts hurting when I run I think.

@Busybee143 lovely scan! definitely try and relax and enjoy it xx

Hi girls - just wanted to update you.
I'm doing okay, I went into hospital on Tuesday for my medical management & ended up needing to stay overnight as things were taking their time. I managed to pass nearly everything, except for a small amount of placenta which was being a bit stubborn but the Dr agreed that I could go home & give nature some time to let it all come away rather than having surgery. So after a very long & quite traumatic 36 hours I was able to go home. I have pretty much slept on an off since I got home at 6pm yesterday & am feeling okay. Very drained still and needing some TLC but overall okay. My wonderful DH had been incredible throughout - literally stayed up all night keeping in touch with me because I was awake all night & he didn't want me to be alone. He's also managed to get the full week off to make sure I'm OK which is such a relief.

Also I say traumatic but I don't mean it like it was a complete horrific experience. It was what I was told it would be like I just didn't have any reference for what the pain would be like having never done it before so I couldn't fully appreciate it, and the length of time and amount of blood loss that's deemed normal, and lack of sleep. And then having checks and scan and stuff to see if it's all passed and Dr discussions. And on top of all of that it's emotional and sad and frustrating... I cried alot. And cause if covid I was alone. So that's what I mean with regards to trauma, just the whole experience was alot and I don't think you can every truly be prepared for that. The hospital staff were really great tho, coming in an checking in you regularly, offering pain relief & calming me down and chatting to me at 3am when I was feeling really upset & lonely. They made an incredibly difficult situation easier with their kindness & care.

However despite all of that, I now feel a sense of peace, I am now able to start moving forward in healing and put baby & this pregnancy to rest.

Gosh sorry for this unexpectedly long and detailed post. I just wanted to let you know... & send well wishes and love to you all 💕

@blodyn91 @Mrsi2020 I'm doing my best to relax I promise!! Im trying my best to enjoy it too, it looked so happy moving round on the screen today, so cute!
@Sausage1990 I'm glad to see your doing well, sending a massive hug xxxx

@Sausage1990 glad it went well 💜 I can imagine it being traumatic 😩

@blodyn91 I literally have no clue what I want in child birth come to think of it 😂😂 I like the idea of a water birth the most so far but I'm going to discuss with the MW obviously and see what the options are and make my decision not like I don't have plenty of time at least! X

Grr... wrote a long post but clicked out and lost it 😤

@Busybee143 glad all was well with little bean ❤️ I would say relax but at 17weeks I still told my immediate family they weren't allowed to tell anyone as it's too early so I'd be a hypocrite 🙈

@blodyn91 my friend is still running at 35weeks, but definitely had periods where it wasn't comfortable, listen to your body and give yourself a break when you need it xx

@blodyn91 @Bl0ndi3 it's so easy to say don't worry about your weight but again I think it's all a journey, I've definitely cried because I've felt like I look like a slab of chocolate cake (probably from all the shit I've eaten) but try and shake myself out of it quickly and remember how lucky I am to have this chance x

On the birth front two of my friends have given birth in the last 2 years one ended up with an induction, epidural, a horrible tear, forceps and still has nightmares from the birth and the other had 24hrs in labour, refused forceps when baby was in distress, had an emergency CSEC and she has had no issues with recovery (but had 5nights in hospital for various reasons with DH only able to visit 4hrs a day) and what I've learnt is having some birth preferences is great and having somebody that will advocate for you is a must, but how baby comes out is based on so many variables so I'm just going to read up as much as possible but also not put pressure on myself for a certain birth. As long as I feel in control of whatever choices I make on the day, respected by the medical staff and baby is safe and sound that's a successful birth to me 💙

@Sausage1990 ive been thinking of you, please be kind to yourself and give yourself the time you need to heal. Everyone will go through these things differently but I'm glad that the hospital staff were supportive in a hard situation and so nice DH is able to have some time off to grieve and support you ❤️

@Sausage1990 oh hun I’m glad you’re out the other side of it. I’m glad it was handled as well as possible but I am still so sorry for your loss. I hope time is a great healer for you. It’s a good sign that you have a sense of relief to put it to rest. My thoughts are with you! Your dh sounds fab! Xxx

@SmileyT you are so right! We can only control the things we can control and with pregnancy and labour so much ends up out of our control. I personally think it’s lovely to have an idea of what you would like but I think it’s so important to be prepared that all can go tits up! You sound quite sensible.

For anyone who is afraid of csecs, I can’t speak about emergency as mine were both planned but they were fab! I got to bond with baby and feed baby abs my hubby got to be there and the after care and recovery we’re all textbook. I wouldn’t opt for it obviously but it was not a bad labour at all. Abs barely any pain lol 🤣 I know from my first loss getting to 10cm dilated that was not easy either! I was happy to go with the flow but I know some women who feel terrible about having a csec xxx

@SmileyT thankyou, I'm trying to relax and think positive thoughts dp came home with some chocolate for me today so that was a big positive too 😁 I think I will be similar to you tbh I'm going to try and hide this pregnancy for as long as possible especially from the staff at school. I'm wondering if I will be able to hide it past 16 weeks.

also @bl0ndi3 they allow 8 in a lane at my pool! I give up after 20 mins usually. Going at 7am tomorrow because I complained last time about the lack of lanes and social distancing not working with a slow swimmer holding everyone back 😆 so they suggested I come at 7am as its usually quiet then.

Hey ladies xx

Having round ligament pains i think. Im achey all over and cant sleep properly or get comfy etc. Plus I'm huge for 8 weeks, I'm actually panicking about it a little 🤦‍♀️🤣

For those worried about labour... im weird lol I love it! 🤣 only thing I'm worried about is that im quick and with each pregnancy apparently its quicker. I was 45 mins with my son. My youngest was longer but she had disengaged and as soon as her head went back down she was born (head came out in the sac it was so quick) so really would like a home birth this time if possible cos not sure i would make it to the hospital in time 🤣🤣 xx

@Sausage1990 I'm so glad you came to tell us how you are. I really hope that now it's over you can take all the time you need to heal. Your DH also sounds wonderful so I'm really happy that you have each other. Every emotion you have is valid. Sending you big hugs and support xxxx