First Trimester Scottish Mamas

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Thought it might be an idea to create a splinter group as the main one is getting massive!

Im 5+3 weeks, first time mum
Midwife telephone appt 13/10
Scan 03/11

Feeling burpy, bloated, and anxious!

@singleandttc yes, definitely put your foot down! It’s just not worth the risk. I actually feel guilty for avoiding the front counter and hate that my colleagues are probably thinking that I’m just being lazy, but I’d rather play it totally safe at the moment.

@mrswilso there's definitely something there when you zoom in. Looks like a little circle to me.

@swiftt it won't be long until you can tell everyone and they'll totally understand why you've been avoiding the counter. All will be forgiven. Or in typical super nosey pharmacy fashion they might work it out. I've been rumbled by a couple of people already for my nausea and taking in my own tea bags (decaf).

@mrswilso I can definitely see what you are talking about! How far on are they saying you are again? Sorry you’ve probably said

Hopefully everything goes well for you. Do you have another scan booked? Or will you be waiting till 12 weeks now?

Thanks @singleandttc @Queenbee95 - nice to know it's not just me and hubby that see it 🤩
I'm booked in with EPU Wishaw next Thursday morning - I'm trying soooo hard not to lose hope but not to have too much too 🥴🤣
The sonographer was quite baffled by how awkward my uterus was - she actually said "wow, you're super super tilted" and struggled to get a good angle to even find the sac so I've done some reading about tilted uterus and it seems quite common to get dates that don't add up at the early stages 🤞🏻
The spotting has also slowed right down, I've had barely any today. To be fair though, I've literally sat like a potato on the sofa all week in a daze and barely moved...

Sorry @Queenbee95 - she didn't tell me any dates during our conversation but on the scan report she's put me down as "5+ weeks ?possibly too early"

@mrswilso I can see a faint wee outline where you mention. Sending you lots of positive thoughts !

I’m still just teetering along here, no more word from midwife, no booking appointment or scans. Had a small amount of spotting last week/weekend but it all stopped and it wasn’t ever red just a little brown/pink.

I’m just exhausted and headachey now. Took a clearblue and it’s now reading the 3+ so I’ve now gone through them all! But yeah, sort of not feeling real because it’s just a waiting game.

No idea when to tell work, I feel I should because there’s a project coming up and it could swing how it’s resourced but I feel it’s too early and don’t want anything changing just yet.

@mrswilso I think I can see what you're talking about!
The waiting for EPU appointments is awful. I had spotting very early on with my DS 5 years ago and similar to you, they couldn't see much to reassure me in the first scan they did. It was a long wait until the next one and thankfully there was his little heartbeat. It's such a worrying time and I really hope everyone works out for you.

I can see what you mean @mrswilso and I'm really hoping this works out for you!

Oh God I really am trying not to be too hopeful but you've all helped me so much today 😭
I thought I was going mad. I really really hope I can update on Thursday with happy news 💕

sending positive thoughts your way @mrswilso!

My letter confirming the booking appt and first scan have arrived. I finally have written confirmation that I haven't dreamt it all haha.

@mrswilso sending positivity 💕 roll on wishaw apt!
I am not feeling very much just now and becoming a bit paranoid it means something is wrong, honestly it's so hard this stage! Have my scan a week on Tuesday and will be 12+4 hoping all is well so we can share the news wider! My boss knows as I took a couple of days off after first scan when they had said it didn't look viable as I was devastated and couldn't focus! I am on holiday and go back the Monday before my scan so will need to ask for time off for it but he will be fine he is a fab boss 💙

I have my scan a week on Tuesday too @barbiemummy20  feels like ages away!! Hopefully it'll fly by.

Positive vibes for you @mrswilso

@ScottishStardust I feel the opposite! I feel no one wants to know unless you're at least 10 weeks, preferably 12 (which I am nowhere near atm)

Thinking of you @mrswilso hope it's good news next week

Aww that's a shame @Daffodil21. To be honestly I was kind of the same - booking appointment @ 9w, bloods & urine @ 10.5w and then followed up with a call today! It'll all kick off for you shortly!

Anyone else dreading their scan?
I have my dating scan on Tuesday, I should be 12+2 weeks. I’ve told DH I don’t want to go anymore and I mean it.. I’m worrying so much it’s keeping me up at night..

DS1 was a twin, I had early scans due to bleeding in which I found out he was a twin, last one was at 9 weeks. Then my 12w scan showed his twin had stopped growing at 11 weeks.

I don’t know if this is why I’m worrying.. I’m just terrified they tell me I’ve had a missed miscarriage or something..

@Queenbee95 I'm feeling exactly the same as you. I had a MMC at 11w 5d which was detected at my 12w scan, I was 12w 3d at that point.

I've been ok up until I hit 9w on Wednesday. Now I feel like I have went right off the deep end. I'm terrified they will make me go for the scan alone, I don't know I'll make it into the QEUH without having a panic attack.

I'm so sorry you are going through this worry too, it is really hard

@ScottishStardust not sure about that. Just had brown when wiping and a little bit of red on the second wipe

I'm not looking forward to scan either, I've book an early one for the 27th, we go on holiday to Skye the day after so either way we'll be away just us and the dog. My mum had a missed miscarriage and she said it was awful, but both her and my partner are struggling to understand my level of overthinking and worrying just now 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Daffodil21 sorry to hear that! Hopefully nothing untoward! If you're concerned contact you're local EPU.

Regarding 12w scans, I'm trying not to think about it! Trying to remember it's out with my control - when I do think about it I get nervous so just try to pass it off! Glad up here we're (currently) allowed partners with us.

@ScottishStardust thanks. I'm not going to bother contacting the EPU. I don't want an early scan because I have a (perhaps slightly irrational) feeling that the internal scan didn't help things last time, so I'm just going to wait this out and see what happens in the next week or so. This is the third time now so I'm pretty sure I know what's coming

@sakuramiyagi the QEUH are definitely definitely currently allowing partners at scans.

I'm worried about MMC too but just keep telling myself its uncommon, that theres nothing I can do right now apart from take care of myself, and also keep checking the misscarriage reassurance calculator (datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer)

Echoing all of the thoughts above about pre-scan nerves. I’ve booked a private early one for a week on Tuesday, and I’m also dreading it. Sending positive vibes to everyone.

Got my booking app today though - 28th October! Another thing to count down towards at least.

Nausea has be completely and utterly floored right now and it's relentless... it's not going away at all.
Has anyone ever had any success being prescribed anti nausea medication? I'm really struggling

@ladymary86 I had meds for my last pregnancy because I had HG. My drs ignored multiple pleas for help but I eventually just outright said I needed medication and they gave me them. I went through three different ones. They took the edge off but never completely made it go away. They literally saved my life though. It's definitely worth asking if you're struggling. Be firm with them and say you need them because you can't go on like this.

I feel bad for moaning about my nausea this time because it's so much better than last time. So far. I'm scared it will start late. I got a second wave last time at about 13 weeks that was horrendous, so I don't feel safe yet. I still feel like crap though. Plus I have a 6 year old who keeps asking for things like eggs 🤮

I'm meeting a friend for brunch today and I'm praying I don't get nausea when I see the food 😬 I didn't realise first semester was going to be so difficult!