March 2021 #4

[holb54]

Thread for anyone due in March 2021 💜 including those due end of February and early April 😊

@aureliacecilia my biggest worry is post natal depression, had anxiety, ocd and a few bouts of depression since I was 16 and have been on medication for it (which worked amazing) which I stopped before trying! Did struggle at the start but doing much better now, will just have to keep an eye on it. I'm too much of a perfectionist and I know I'll be like that with baby, wanting to do it all so we're going to go back to my parents for the first few weeks, my parents are amazing and I won't have to worry about cleaning or cooking and it'll stop me trying to do it all

@TravelGem that's great news 💕

@plwcm congratulations, we don't have many baby girls 💗

Gosh, so many boys at 16 week scans! Congrats to those who have had scans recently. I'm so impatient for mine!!

Hey mums, with the 12 week screening test results, what's the difference between 'age related risk at term' and 'individual risk at term' which one should I be going by? Slightly confused!

I hope you avoid it, @holb54. You sound like you know what to look out for in yourself. I'm not sure what I had was PND - at the time I would have said I was fine but I was irritable, angry, exhausted, had low mood... In hindsight that's probably a touch of PND, isn't it? I was really traumatised by my son's early arrival and felt really overwhelmingly guilty about it. I used to Google all the time "am I depressed or just sleep deprived?" without realising that the two aren't mutually exclusive. For me I think my low mood was caused by the loss of routine, identity and lack of sleep. It took me a short while to make friends on mat leave and build up a network of classes/groups to go to but things definitely improved when I had a routine and friends. Unfortunately I'm one of those people who lack of sleep has a really significant impact on how I'm feeling and I also think too much of my identity was wrapped up with my work.

This time around I feel more balanced and I'm going to let DH do more, make time to sleep and rest, try to plan a flexible routine in advance, possibly do NCT again (I didn't click with my first group, which was a big disappointment at the time - nice people but nothing but babies in common and that wasn't really enough), try to exercise more, be kinder to myself! Also my lovely friend is due a month before me and she will be someone I can share the ups and downs with.

Great idea about accessing family support too - DS was fantastically badly timed, arriving about a week after my nephew was born, so there wasn't really anyone there to help. My MIL was great while I was in hospital but she left before I got home to give us space as a new family unit.

Basically, I'm pretty petrified about the baby days again but I've survived it once and can do it again! Also I cannot tell you how much of a joy and blessing my son is and how much I love him. Just looking forward to getting to that point again with this one! I am happy to say now I didn't get that immediate rush of love for him when he was born and it took a while for that to come but I just couldn't imagine life without him now.

@DSP21 I'd be pretty self aware when it comes to my mental health and I've never been shy saying I've had it so I know I won't find it hard to ask for help or to go back on medication which should help! Hopefully it won't be an issue at all. It's life changing having a baby and bit like you said the lack of routine and sleep, is only natural you'd feel low. Going to take on what you said about letting others help and being flexible!

@ChubbyMumFromSkye good luck with pregnacare max! I spent 3 days with my stomach in pain after taking it and finally feel a bit more normal today. After a bit of googling it sounds like it doesn't agree with some women so I just got unlucky. The pills are moosive too!!

Waking up to pee is the worst 😩 I usually do go once in the night anyway but now I go and can't get back to sleep so my routine is all over the place. So horrible

@ChubbyMumFromSkye I'm actually really looking forward to going back to the newborn stage. Maybe it's been so long that I've forgotten how hard it is. I'm not massively excited about the terrible two stage though!

I just feel so lucky to have this chance again, I want to enjoy it as much as possible. But there's no doubt that a newborn in my mid 30s will be harder than a newborn in my mid 20s x

My pram came today! I've built it because I was excited but now I don't k ow where to put it 😂😂 maybe I should have left it in the box!
It was such a bargain, £284 on Emma's diary from precious little things with the travel system, pregnancy pillow, side sleeper crib, sleeping bag and all the accessories for the pram!

I had my 16 week midwife appointment today, all was fine and got to hear the heartbeat, it was 161bpm, midwife reckons it's a girl and I agree! Will find out when I go for 20 week scan :)

@c24680 I had my 16 week appointment with the midwife today and all was well with baby, I got to hear the heartbeat too but I was told that I have a rare blood type which is negative so they'll have to keep an eye on me and give me an anti-d injection so my body doesn't produce antibodies that attack the baby, scary stuff

@DSP21 oh no!! I seem to be ok so far - no worse than the constant nausea I have anyway..🤞🏻😊

@LittleBrownBaby I am too but apprehensive, it will definitely be easier this time with my DH.
I found that 3 was so much worse than 2 😬 thank you for reminding me 🤪😂

@KatyCherry23 are you rhesus negative? I am and had to inject myself for 7/10 days after my DS birth, it was awful but manageable. I am the same this time too. Don't worry about it if that's what it is 😊

@KatieG200394 you'll only need the jab if the baby's positive! I have the negative blood too

@KatieG200394 I'm O negative, it's a bit of a pain but it's not too bad! It's just an injection at 28 weeks and another after you've given birth. It's a great blood type otherwise because we can donate blood to anyone 😊

@KatieG200394 have you had the results of the second blood test yet to know the blood group of the baby?

I'm negative but my partner is also negative so luckily I won't need the injections

@ChubbyMumFromSkye that's so good! (Apart from the sickness ofcourse!) I'm too scared to try anything else now so think i'll stick with folic acid and vit d!

During my many nights of insomnia I started researching where and what baby might sleep in as a newborn, seems like there's 3 options, cot, side sleeper, moses basket/bassinet. Anyone else thought about or know what they're doing?

@holb54 thank you, yes she told me I'm O Rh Negative, she made it all sound a lot scarier, said I'd have to have an injection before 28 weeks if there is any bleeding or significant blow to the abdomen, thanks everyone for the reassurance ☺ xx

@TravelGem no, no results on baby's blood but she said he's more likely to have a positive type, we're not sure what my partner's is but he thinks he might have a positive blood group

@DSP21 Definitely get a Snuzpod or Next2Me. I would actually say use that for overnight sleep, get a cheap Moses basket to keep downstairs (baby should always sleep in the same room as you are in until they are 6 months old which includes naps) and a cot for baby's room/when it out grows the co-sleeper.

@DSP21 we have a snuzpod and will be using again for this baby (with a new matress) its so comforting having them there and seeing them without having to get up all the time. I had a csection first time round too so made things a lot easier. Our daughter was in it until 7 month and she was long so lots more room than a moses basket 🙂

@aureliacecilia @MrsJ89 ooh thank you so much for the recommendations!

@KatieG200394 wait so spotting can be a sign that the injection is needed??? Bruh that explains a lot

Snuzpod is on my list of wants. Can you have it so it’s steady and doesn’t rock?

We have bought a snuzpod and looking at buying a snuzcot too. I had an old style basinet for my first and it didn't last at all cause he was too long for it in a matter of months 😂

I used a traditional crib next to the bed for my last baby but I’m looking at a beside me style this time. Snuzpod the best?

I was looking at the Next2Me Magic. You can rock it as well as tilt it if you want to