March 2021 #3

[holb54]

Pregnancy group for anyone due in March 2021 💜

So delighted for @ChubbyMumFromSkye and @MrsAndMrs 💕💕 both your scans are so clear!

@ChubbyMumFromSkye thinking boy for you! That must have been awful with the bloods, really does depend who you get!

@MrsAndMrs I think girl going by your scan!

Lovely scans every one!! ☺️☺️☺️xxxx

Thanks so much @HollieL567 for the well wishes 💫

Loving all the scan pics! I’ve got another 11 days to wait when I’ll be 13 weeks! Hoping all ok as I don’t feel pregnant and my boobs and tummy are no different to weeks ago...I was like this back at 10 weeks and all was ok so fingers crossed!

Awww loving seeing all these little wriggly bubs! 😍😍😍 so nice to see so much positive vibes 🧡

@holb54 congratulations on the scan x

Awwww eeek congratulations @holb54 !! So so lovely seeing all these scan pictures!! So relieving for you! Xx

@holb54 it was hell and they had a doc and trainee doc there trying too and no one managed 😢🤢

Loving all the scan pics, funny we all had very wriggly babies at scans today!

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@Oldermum80 I don't particularly feel pregnant either, had me sick worried today but all was good and I'm sure it'll be the same for you too 💕

Thanks so much @Babafarmer and @HollieL567, relieved wasn't the word 🧡

@LuHen try not to worry, I haven't really had any symptoms and I'm nearly 14 weeks and baby is fine, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you :) xx

Congratulations on the scans @Pollito and @holb54. Mine is a week tomorrow when I'll be 12+5. I'm 11+4 today. I'm quite anxious and keep sucking the joy from this pregnancy but caveating everything with '... unless the baby has died' or '... if there's a baby there'. I've had no early scans so it all feels like a big mystery and game of chance at the moment. I think the baby is a boy though. My DH says thinking like this won't change the outcome next week and will only make me miserable so I should try to be positive. He says we will deal with whatever the situation is next week. He is right, of course he is, but it does feel like such a responsibility to be growing this little life and entirely in secret too. We've told our immediate families and I've cracked & told two close friends but it's still such a secret. Having to be normal at work, at school later this week, etc. It's hard! Roll on next Tuesday - I'll have some answers then. I really do want this baby.

@ChubbyMumFromSkye I think boy for yours and @MrsAndMrs I'd say girl for yours

@ChubbyMumFromSkye oh that sounds awful, I'd say you're sore.. awful when you've a bad experience like that

@MrsAndMrs 3 scans in one day, amazing all of us to get good news!

@KatieG200394 thank you so much, that is really comforting to hear. I must be just behind you with due dates xxx

@holb54 I'm so glad they all went well! It's such a relief! 🧡

@aureliacecilia thank you! I've been the very same, going to have to actively try and enjoy the pregnancy because the worry just comes too natural! So hard waiting on the scans, only a week now and hopefully it'll fly for you 💓

@aureliacecilia honestly I've had 2 early scans and I still feel just as anxious. I keep thinking 'if baby is okay' 'oh but anything can happen it's still early' and find myself mentally preparing for bad news without realising. 1 week to kill before my scan!

@aureliacecilia I have been very much the same too. I was over the moon after my private scan about a week and a half ago and then went straight back to feeling anxious a day later! I’m also really nervous about telling anyone. Nobody except my manager knows yet. I feel like I’m keeping this dirty little secret. I keep thinking maybe I’ll leave it a week or so after my 12 week scan to tell family and close friends/colleagues, and then I think it’s still too early and will I really feel any different? So then I think maybe at 16 weeks and perhaps after another private scan for reassurance...And then I think maybe I should just wait until after 20 weeks when I’ll hopefully be even more reassured? Or maybe I should just scrap sticking to dates and tell people whenever my belly grows and I can feel confident there is actually a growing baby in there! I am desperate to tell my mum, I want her support and it will make her so happy. But I’m really sad I’m not one of these women who is so excited to tell everybody. Honestly, every pregnant lady I’ve ever known has seemed to take everything in her stride and that’s how I want to be but I don’t think it’s in my DNA! xxx

@Mrs1989 I know what you mean, I said all along I'll wait until the 12 week scan and after it today it did cross my mind waiting until the 20 week! Not doing that but funny how your mind jumps to it! I'm going to have to actively try and enjoy this pregnancy and that means trying to stress less but it's so hard... definitely not a pregnant lady taking things in my stride 😂

@holb54 I know, it just randomly popped into my head that I should wait until 20 weeks and I thought “yes, that will be the best thing!” And then thought “no! It will be a burden waiting that long!” I am indecisive generally so no surprise really I’m doing this now! Hopefully once telling a few close people that may be when we start to feel a bit more positive and enjoy it more xxx

@Mrs1989 and you know if I did do that I'd probably move the date again after the 20 week 😂 I'm hoping telling people will help me get more excited and less nervous so going to try that over the week and we'll see 😂

The other day, I was imagining telling some friends and it was quite an exciting thought.
On the flip side, I don't like fuss. I'm enjoying having 'normal' conversations where it's not all baby baby baby and people not asking questions and giving unsolicited advice.
It'll be nice (and easier at work) when the news is out but these first few weeks are precious.

Glad this group is here to speak to, you're keeping me sane!

I can't sleep so apologies this is so early.

I felt just like that with my son's pregnancy @Mrs1989. I told my line manager at 13 weeks after my scan but no one else in work until after my 20 week scan. I was showing from around 18 weeks (I'm short, nowhere for baby to hide) so it was hard. Always carrying something over my tummy and hoping no one would ask why me directly! This time I would like to be more relaxed so I'm not going to wait as long. I was afraid of jeopardising my career (silly, as everyone was universally lovely about my news) and something going wrong at the 20 week scan. I'm less worried about work now (I work full time in a new role but they know I have a son and still want to work and have a fulfilling career - no reason why it won't be the same in the future) and if something goes wrong then that's not going to be my fault and I might as well have people's support through it. I'll probably see how my screening goes and go from there. I work from home so there's no real rush but I want to give work time to prepare for my absence and given I was off from 33 weeks with my first pregnancy (pregnancy related pelvic girdle pain) and my mat leave started at 35 weeks then I don't feel it would be fair to wait too long. They might only have 20 weeks or so to get any necessary cover sorted if this one is like its big brother!

@Mrs1989 @holb54 I think every one of my pregnant / mum friends who I know well, are also worriers and they say that really you don't ever stop. Pregnancy is just the beginning! Even once baby is born you have a whole host of new responsibilities and anxieties. I honestly think 99% of mums are with you on that though, they probably just don't voice it. Take comfort in the fact that the worry is part of your maternal instinct to protect the little bean, so maybe it will help to try and reframe it in a more positive light over time. I dont think it will go away as such, but I imagine that over time you learn to be at harmony with it a little more its amazing that you can love and care for something so quicky that you've never met, our bodies and minds baffle me! Xxx