Due end Nov/early Dec - Hello third trimester!

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Just making a new thread before we fill the other one up !

@nearlyamummyof2boys you poor woman. You have been through so much. Thinking of you, I know a baby who was born at 30 weeks and you would never know it now. Rest up lady.

@nearlyamummyof2boys oh goodness you've really had everything you could possibly have this pregnancy!! Will be such a relief for you when he is here safe and sound (in a few weeks hopefully not before)..

We are on lockdown again from tomorrow where I am, I'm kind of glad though as at least it means I'll be safe in my little bubble.. I'm genuinely thinking of asking family who want to see the baby when he's born to isolate for two weeks before, I know it's dramatic but it's all so scary x

@lc86 I don’t think it’s dramatic at all!

Oh wow @nearlyamummyof2boys u certainly have been through it havent you such a strong women I would of crumbled by now everything is crossed ur little man stays cooking for a little while longer before he comes into this at the moment terrible world .I contacted midwife as I had a sudden thought that I'm ment to start these bloody injections but ain't seeing consultant for 2 weeks her and her manager have got on to them straight away and now have a phone consult tomorrow still dont know how I'm gonna get them though re itchy belly I notice I have itchiness just around belly button but nothing major though as for ppl seeing the baby the only person I'm bothered about is my mum she has stage 4 lung cancer so I dont want her not to see bubba as even though she is doing really well they gave her 3/6months to live a year n half ago I want her to be able to see him as often as possible make those memories etc so for me she will be the only one I'll prob say to come everyone else I dont care about tbh ino sounds nasty but I need to protect my baby and kids and unfortunately my mum will come above anyone else at the moment so she will be the only who will be seeing him once here till I feel comfortable

@nearlyamummyof2boys
You poor thing... Hang on in there.... As you say, you're in the best place and rest up best you can. Sending love xx

Fingers crossed for you @nearlyamummyof2boys!

Can I ask advice on whether I’m getting unreasonable pregzilla or not?!
At my booking in appointment I was told I’d be referred to consultant/anaesthetist due to previous surgery but I’d hear closer to the time. Ok with that. Fast forward to now, 31 weeks and heard nothing. I have had two midwives assigned to me neither of whom I’ve seen. Had a face to face at 28 and 31 weeks with 2 other different midwives. All tell me I will hear about my referral but they will ‘chase it up’. On Friday I ring my midwife only to get an answerphone message saying she’s no longer a community midwife. I call my community midwife base on Friday 9 times throughout the day- no answer. I then decide to call hospital to ask directly about the referral and no referral has been put through. They need my midwife to do it who I can’t contact.
They tell me to call the community midwife base at my hospital which I do and the woman was unbelievably rude and told me she’d have to get back to me but I still haven’t heard anything.
That was on Friday and I’ve called my midwife centre 10 times today and still no answer. Hospital again couldn’t help as they need the referral. I even contacted Pals and the lady said she’d get back to me and I haven’t heard anything.

Is this normal? Am I doing something wrong here? Overreacting? Any advice gratefully received!!!

@BG1234 That's shocking, it's like you are being constantly fobbed off! You're not overreacting....it's not acceptable simple as that! I'd keep everything documented and when you do finally get to speak to someone ask what the process is to make a formal complaint and I would make one which will hopefully make them get their act together. It doesn't solve your immediate problem of needing to sort your referral though. Would your GP have any clout with the hospital if you phoned them and explained what's being going on? I'm wondering if they could make one for you or get your midwife unit to do it ASAP under their instruction? Hope you get a resolution soon.

Thanks @NaomiB79. They have fobbed me off and because they’ve been ‘nice enough’ and I’m a ftm I’ve got no idea what the protocol for things is so have let things slide up until now. I’m also aware they are probably strained right now but it still doesn’t seem right.

Thanks for the gp advice. I will try them tomorrow although I’m not holding my breath- they aren’t open through COVID. When you phone the receptionist tells you to put the problem in writing, drop it in, and the doctors will get back to you in at least 2 working days. I know this because I’ve just waited a week for them to give me some of my past medical notes to take to this consultant meeting that I (wrongly) presumed would be happening soon.

That’s a good idea to document. I made 17 different calls on Friday and 14 today- lucky I’m working from home!!! The majority of which were unanswered obviously- I’m really not that much of a pest 🤣

@nearlyamummyof2boys I had my DS at 33 weeks and he’s amazing. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it must be scary, and I’m not sure what your trust’s policy is on antenatal visiting. Preemies are little fighters and he has one strong Mumma watching over him too. I’m keeping everything crossed he stays in as long as possible but you will both be well looked after whatever happens. Sending love xxx

Thanks @excitednerves there's no visiting until I'm in active labour - but my partner and son just came in the car downstairs and I was allowed to pop and see them!
I will probably make him stay at home and look after DS until baby is here as I will just worry about him otherwise he's always with us so not to great with other people. I think I've kind of got used to doing these things alone and the midwives are a dream!
If baby is born early both parents are allowed to visit at any time which is reassuring ❤️
You guys are all reassuring thanks a lot!

@Kj1010 I'm glad you've finally got a phone consultation - I'm sorry about your mum - and you're not being nasty you are thinking of what matters the most - this is what we have to do in these times! They are not normal at all! 😘

That is crap care @BG1234 you will just need to find that one person to slot it all into place but it's a struggle to find them! I hope GP helps? X

@nearlyamummyof2boys when is your 48 hours up? Also glad you have your own private room because it’s impossible to rest in hospital wards!

They went about 1am this morning @peachypetite so they may send me home late tomorrow evening or the next morning.
They just done a monitor on baby and he's still looking great the warrior!
It is lovely - so much been going on lately I feel like I'm finally relaxed even in this hard time just reading my book and watching tv is so nice! Plus the shower room is lovely as well.
It's the small things isn't it!

@nearlyamummyof2boys so sorry you've had to go in! Fingers crossed baby gets to be baked a little longer

@nearlyamummyof2boys Im
So sorry to hear you are going through it again. But glad to hear you are comfortable and pleased with the care. You and your little boy are fighters for sure. Fingers crossed he stays cooking a little longer

Does anyone remember the 'show us your nursery thread' and have a link to it? We are just doing ours and there were ideas on there I wanted to steal, but now I can't find it!

Sorry to hear about your continuing rollercoaster @nearlyamummyof2boys. Hoping last night was comfortable and little one stays put for now!

@nearlyamummyof2boys You are so strong to be going through all this, I hope you had a nice sleep and I'm glad you and your little one are being looked after

Anyone experienced like a weak hot flash. I had one yesterday and today after food. I was sweating and shaking luckily it’s passed now as I am at work 🥴

How's everybody managing side sleeping? I find it really tricky as baby seems to go crazy when I lie on either side and starts kicking me in my hips. Not sure how she's managing but it's like she clusters into whatever side I lie on.

@chubbyhotchoc me!! It's like he wriggles around the side I'm laying on. Not very comfy!

I keep having to switch till I drift off

@chubbyhotchoc my baby is exactly the same! As soon as I lie on one side she starts kicking like she's telling me to move onto the other side but then she doesn't like that either 😂 Bit tricky when you can't sleep on your front and not supposed to sleep on your back.

@Babyhope98 I had something like that last week, a funny turn where I had a major sweat and thought I was going to throw up - had just eaten but it passed after about 5 mins.

@chubbyhotchoc every night, if he's not wriggling around he's pushing his back (assume back! I can feel what appears to be his spine) with all his strength into my stomach! My bump also feels very heavy when laying on my side (I'm assuming due to having an anterior placenta?), I'm wedging a pillow under it every night but it doesn't really help. The only position I find comfortable is sleeping on my back but obviously that's not allowed.

@nearlyamummyof2boys How are you doing today?

Hey @kkr168 I'm well,
Still leaking quite a bit sorry tmi!
They are keeping me in till at least tomorrow just because of the high infection risk.
Just seen a doctor who says if I don't go into spontaneous labour they want to induce me at 34 weeks so 2 weeks tomorrow!
I think though this little baby has had such a hard time in pregnancy it might be better for him to be out sooner and get the brilliant neo-natal care 🥰

Hey girls, hope everyone is well. Just looking for some advice again. So that risk assessment never came round but I've just come home in tears from my pelvic girdle pain. I planned to start my mat leave on week 37 but seeing as I am just 29 now, how long do you think I can ask for off. I am really struggling with the daily tasks at work. Even sitting and getting up and I'm in agony. Also my maternity policy does say mat leave commences if I am off sick after week 36 but will I be okay being off sick before that? Just hope my managers don't try to convince me to take it early. I feel so miserable as everything has been tough lately. Still getting morning sickness and I just feel drained.

I can't afford to go on mat leave so soon :( any advice would be great!

@nearlyamummyof2boys sorry hun just caught up with everything on here. Keeping you in my thoughts!! Hope you're doing okay and it could be a blessing in disguise meeting your little one a lot sooner ❤