Catching up - TTC After Miscarriage part 3

[BecsterG]

Hi Ladies, just setting up a new thread as we're almost at the end of the current one. Let's move over when it's full.

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@MilsCookie sending all my love and virtual hand holding, I am so sorry your having to go through this, I know your ok and it's a precaution but it's absolutely terrifying and just such an exhaustive day for you, and now staying in alone, we are here for you lovely 💜

@Whiffle77 and @FireflyGirl ladies I feel you, and just to say you are not being overcautious, you are both being sensible. My brother is a biochemist and my mother is a retired nurse and you are doing EXACTLY what you should be in these circumstances. You are protecting the people who are vunerable as well on top of it all by being careful. I salute you both for being wise and sensible and as careful as you are, so many people are not for one reason or another, and things are certainly going to get more hairy in the coming weeks and months, so staying isolated to the best of your abilities is the way forward. Bloody depressing I know though, I feel the same. It's shit isn't it. But we will hold our babies soon and those months in quarenteen will slip away and be no doubt bliss, just got to push through this slump, this depression really a bit longer, but we don't have to pretend for a minute we are ok actually. This is hard on our mental health and we are all doing really well

Oh no @MilsCookie I'm so sorry you are having to go through all that stress. It just makes it so much harder I'm sure that your DP can't be there with you too. Hugs 💕

@Whiffle77 and @FireflyGirl sorry you are both having a hard week too, the third trimester sounds pretty tough. But you are both nearly there so stay positive, the end is in sight!! And just think of the 2 little rainbow babies here born already with no problems..no reason not to expect the same for the rest of us. xx

@ChampooPapi thank you! So excited to find out now..my stomach does a flip every time I look at the letter! Roll on Monday😊

Sorry you're having to stay in @MilsCookie.

Best place and all that, but we know that you would rather be at home. Hope you manage to get some sleep at least! Sending you hugs.

@MilsCookie Thinking of you. Your in the best hands and it's good that doctors want to keep an eye on you. Keep strong ❤️

@BS9790 Sorry to hear you've been in again with baby's fast heart rate , have they given reasons why? Xx

For all of you having a shit week I hope Monday brings a better week ahead. I hope you have some lovely plans for a lazy Sunday.

I had a small baby shower today. 6 of us went for afternoon tea and it was lovely. Got emotional as I never imagined making it this far.

Sorry I've not acknowledged all of you had lots to catch up on!

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@MilsCookie glad to hear nothing was found to be wrong and you are being looked after.
Shame that your DP can't be here...
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Do you know how long you will have to stay in?

@AlviesMam a small baby shower sounds lovely 😍
You've made it this far and will have this rainbow baby 🌈
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@MilsCookie Hope you had as good a night as can be lovey ❤️ Hopefully that senior doc gives you the all clear this morning and you can get home.

Thank you so much everyone 😘😘😘 love being able to talk to you all and vent on here.

I'm still in hospital but fingers crossed they're going to let me go home just after lunch time as long as no more bleeding and my next round of CTG monitoring looks okay. I'm frustrated because they've now told me this morning I don't need to be scanned. Which was kind of the whole reasoning for keeping me in last night because they said the blood can be an indicator of TTTS (which can only be diagnosed via ultrasound). I questioned this and she said because I'm already booked to have a scan on Tuesday they will just do it then. I was like 🤨 why did you keep me in overnight then!!! 🙄 oh well. Just happy they're going to discharge me - it's lonely here and I slept TERRIBLY!!

Sorry I haven't replied to anyone individually it's just a lot going on at the mo! But please know that I appreciate every single one of you and your kind words 😘❤️

@milsCookie, hope you're back at home 😊😊

@MilsCookie hope you’re all settled back at home now lovely. I’ve bled with all my pregnancies and been admitted at least once per baby so I know how horrible it can be, and that’s without the stress of Covid restrictions and having twins! Xx

Morning everyone, here's to a good week 🤞

@MilsCookie hope your home and dry now 🥰

@MrsB16 and @BecsterG how are you getting on with those lovely newborns?

Morning everyone. Thank you @BS9790 @scrumdiddly123 and @ChampooPapi. I managed to be home for about 2pm. What an ordeal!! I'm just relieved everything was okay with the babies (for the second time that week 🙄!) thank you all for checking in on me, it means a lot to have your support! 😘

I'm 27 weeks today and it just feels like I'm going to be more and more on edge as the days go by. I'm so hoping they can stay inside until at least 32 weeks like they've told me, but at this rate I can't help but think they might come a bit earlier!

Hope everyone has a great week! I can't believe how close you all are now @BS9790 @FireflyGirl @AlviesMam!! And I really hope @Zoey36 is okay and has had her baby 🤞🏻

@ChampooPapi what date are you expecting yours to come? I assume they haven't given you a c section date yet? Xx

Wow so much chat. Very scary @MilsCookie but pleased all is ok. Your girls are really putting you through your paces.

@ChampooPapi we're doing well thanks. Settling into being a family of 4! Jude also did a few longer stretches last night so feel a bit more refreshed today which is great.

@MrsB16 how are you getting on?

@BecsterG those stretches make such a difference dont they, you feel like you can see in full technicolour again. How's the feeding going? He sounds like he's just slotted right in to your family, such a lovely time too these early weeks, so precious.

@MilsCookie glad your home and you better be resting missy! one more week and I will get the fabled c section date, I'm chomping at the bit now for it, I need the goal to head towards. I'm 33 weeks tomorrow though they are growing small and this bloody Polyhydramnios has returned, though I suspect some mis-measuring may be at fault there, we will see next Tuesday. It doesn't worry me, I'm so over being pregnant that I've got my eyes on the prize now, plus I'm pretty far along, other then taking them out a little early what can they do really? One is tenth centile but they are notorious for getting these things wrong, obviously the main focus is to rest as much as humanly possible and keep them in for as long as I can. Looking at 37 week delivery hopefully rather then 35/36, that would be in 2/3 weeks which makes my head explode as well so fingers crossed my consultant will be happy to schedule for 37 weeks.

I keep seeing this incredibly overweight male consultant instead of my lovely lady, he has told me to get another gestational diabetes test, which just seemed so rich coming from him 😏 he pissed me off really because it's like 'who are you!' and I had just had the test a few weeks previous so I actually said no to it. My babies are nearly here and I have no other markers, no high BMI, my ethnic origin and family history is low risk ect. It's only because of this fluid so is a box ticking exercise again. Where I'd proceed to have to spend the following days in bed recovering, it did such a number on me last time.

If the scan next Tuesday reveals the excess fluid is still there then perhaps I'll do it but I'll be having the babies soon after so not much time for diet control or medication, and I'm a healthy vegetarian anyway, especially since the crisp times of the first trimester, I so don't have it.

I almost told him to get a diabetes test, but thankfully I said pretty much nothing and slinked off just hoping next time I'd get to see my actual consultant who knows my name and explains things 🙄

Just had my last growth scan and baby weighing 6lbs 3oz!

Waiting game now .....

@AlviesMam that's great! It really is just limbo now until she decides to make an appearance, are you all packed hospital bag wise now?

Great news @AlviesMam!
Pleased to hear you are home and resting @MilsCookie - every day is another day ticked off, they all count! Are you still working?
Glad to hear everything is going pretty smoothly @BecsterG
I lol'd at your description @ChampooPapi, some appointments can be really frustrating cant they! You aren't that far off now either, again just keep ticking those days off! It wont be long. Fingers crossed for your next scan and that they stay cooking a little while longer!
Thanks all for your comments around my covid worries too, it feels super tough at the min, pleased im not the only one feeling that way. Im big and tired now, so to be fair I just want to hibernate all the time anyway! I am putting me and DH on proper lockdown nearer D day anyway, the thought of him catching it and not being with me for the birth is unbearable! Think there will be a lot of daytime TV watching...
I'm just ticking off days until I finish work now, still another 5 weeks to go

@AlviesMam that's great 😊😊

I've got a scan on Friday (37 weeks), theyve slotted an extra in just because I keep been sent due to his heart rate. He was estimated at 6lb8oz, the Friday before last.. So I'm a bit nervous to know how big he will be 🤭🤭
My final growth scan is at 39 weeks and I think they'll book me in for induction after that, just because of all the issues that have been going on!

@Whiffle77 🥰

mothersformothers.co.uk/

Hope this is helpful to someone, I'm certainly looking through their website, the support looks 👌

@BS9790 I was told our baby had an estimated weight of 5lbs 4 at my 3D scan which I had at about 32/33 weeks and they said he'd be a big baby but when Jude was born at 39+6 he was 8lbs on the nose which is average so take the estimate with a pinch of salt.

@Whiffle77 try not to worry about the Covid restrictions for when you go into labour as things are changing all the time. My husband had to wait in the car for about 1.5 hours until I was moved to the labour ward so he was then when things started to get intense.

@ChampooPapi the feeding is going fairly well thanks. Better than DS1 at this stage I think. We're giving him a top up bottle of expressed milk before my husband goes to bed to give me some more sleep however last night Jude finished feeding at 8:30 ish from me and slept until 12:30 which is brilliant although it meant my husband was up late but all good. Yes I feel so refreshed today. I even did the nursery run by myself with both boys. It's s small thing but it's a win for me! 😂

So many babies close to their due date on here!! I've not posted a picture yet, just realised although not sure I have a MN friendly one. I do have one I can post to the Facebook page or WhatsApp x

@BecsterG, ah yeah I know it's not an exact science. Many of my friends babies have been really different to their estimated weights, then some have also been pretty close! I've been told it's his length which is making up his weight! He's been plotting big since 20 weeks, so I don't imagine he'll be a 6lb dot that's for sure 🤣

Maybe I'll just have to cut the feet off all his babygrows to accommodate his lanky legs 🤣every scan I've had they commented on his legs 🙈

We're having a boy💙!! Also got to hear HB at my appointment this morning😊
It's all getting real now😁

Congratulations @Leok83! It does make it all more real, doesn't it?

@BS9790 DS was really long, although his was his torso as much as his legs. If you do end up with him in footless sleepsuits, either put tights underneath, or socks with these to stop you constantly losing them!

@BecsterG would love to see a photo, I'll check the FB page.

@ChampooPapi you've got to make the best decision for you based on the information available. It's not as though you've been ignoring the possibility; you've made a decision based on the risks as you've been advised.

I'm very over being pregnant now. I'm physically and mentally exhausted, haven't slept properly in months and haven't felt like eating much the last few days.

I've also been getting a lot of cramps, although it's difficult to say if they're early indicators or just pressure on my bowels

Do you think you're close @AlviesMam?

I've changed my hospital bag from a rucksack to a cabin bag, as DH likely won't be able to come in to hospital to carry it for me at first. It's sorted into those 'packing cubes' for labour/after birth/washing and freshening up. Then I've filled the rucksack with snacks and more clothes for me and baby to leave in the car, just in case we have to stay in.

I was out of it after 18 hours in labour and an emcs just before midnight last time. DH changed DS when he came in the next morning while I slept (and sorted the meconium poo!) and I woke up to my beautiful new baby wearing the most god awful mismatched outfit you've ever seen as he'd panicked and just grabbed anything he could find from the drawers at home, ignoring all the outfits I had lovingly packed. Lesson learned, spare outfits are now prominent in the changing bag, with a nappy, vest, sleepsuit and hat in individual ziplock bags!