March 2021 #2

[krj2608]

@GreysLove @MrsAndMrs @Aurora124 @LuHen @

@krj2608 I'm so sorry for your loss, look after yourself x

@LuHen I think you have to have an open mind the first time you give birth, I wouldn't over plan how you think it'll go. I know it helps some people to plan this woo calm birth where you barely notice a baby leaving your body, but the reality is it hurts and the chances are they won't just breath out in a haze of smoke lol.

I planned to go all natural with my first and though I did manage to avoid an epidural and the dreaded forceps narrowly I ended up on a drip strapped to a machine with a crowd like there was a concert in the room! My labour stalled for hours and hours and she'd got stuck as she was back to back, I managed to push her out just as the crowds arrived to drag her out. She arrived looking up at the room still back to back. I planned a hands-off approach and ended up with a doctor elbow deep trying to turn my baby, not what I had in mind before the event. There was deffo no haze of smoke !

Nothing wrong with planning but don't get hung up over it.

I feel loads better now. I've just had my booking In appointment with the hospital and the midwife told me that I will definitely have a scan before 14 week so I'm happy with that. I've no idea where anywhere is at the hospital and with no partners allowed think it will be a mystery tour for me xx

@Dipsy77 great you've got it posted, ridiculous you've to fight for things sometimes! Hospitals are generally well laid out with signs so don't worry about that 😊 we can't have partners at all in Ireland at the moment, hopefully it'll change soon 🤞

@Dipsy77 *sorted

@DSP21 when is your next scan? Have you got anymore symptoms? Think I’ve definitely got off lightly but I’m not complaining.

@Oldermum80 no other symptoms really apart from the hives, I feel like I'm anxious all the time and just can't relax. I keep thinking if it's bad news maybe I did something wrong, did I run too much, not drink enough water, not eating enough etc etc driving myself crazy!

(Hopefully I am just one of the lucky ones after all)

I have a priv scan booked for next Thurs when I'll be 10+5 according to lmp. Trying to get through each day until then!

@DSP21 Nothing. I took a anti allergy tablet and fully understood the associated risks but I was covered head to toe and was in agony xx

@Sussexbysea have you spoken to a doc about it? Luckily mine are only 1 or 2 at a time but they get swollen and painful so I can only imagine how awful being covered in them must feel

@DSP21 I have never known anxiety like this. It’s actually had me really worried that I was starting with depression again because I just feel so down and anxious all of the time.
I am the same. I overthink everything. I have tried to hard to do everything by the book and give myself the best chance but then I had more than one coffee at an afternoon tea, another day I had a can of coke to ease my funny tummy then I think if something happens, I’ll blame myself.
The waiting is the hardest part. I can’t wait to get back to work as it has had such a negative impact on my mental health being off for 6 weeks.
I have everything crossed that you are blessed with little symptoms but a healthy baby.

@Oldermum80 that describes exactly how I feel (I also had a can of coke a couple times and kept beating myself up over it afterwards) i know they say it's out if your hands but you just can't help it. I work for myself so I'm home alone all day every day, and even though I have work to be getting on with it's sooo easy to procrastinate and start googling things.

Our dates are very similar so hoping it's plain sailing for us!

@DSP21 @Oldermum80 I've had a similar experience with feeling down and anxiety, it's been hard but it has lessened for me a bit. It's a tough time and hard then when you feel guilty over it. I'm the same with beating myself up over small things, we need to be easier on ourselves

@holb54 I wish google didn't exist! Then I'd have gone into this completely naive. None the less, only a few weeks to 12 weeks then I can relax a teeny tiny bit

@krj2608 so sorry for your loss ☹️💓

Totally get all of that @LuHen. I was able to breastfeed after my c-section and after a very bumpy start did so very successfully (if I do say so myself!) until after my son was two and a half years old. I stopped around May last year, I think. I felt very touched out by then and wanted a break from by body being shared with another tiny person so it took about a year to start thinking about DC#2.

When I was pregnant with DC#1 my mum told me you never stop worrying once you're a mum. I think that's right and it helped me to put things into perspective - once you are pregnant life becomes about more than just you and you're always going to be thinking about that other life from that point. Obviously there's a big difference between worry and anxiety but if you are worrying more than living with anxiety (which I recognise is something different) then you might find it helpful to think about how normal it is to worry about your baby/child/teenager/grown up son or daughter as a parent.

My friend had anxiety after the birth of her baby and had excellent support from the perinatal mental health team. I think her health visitor referred her but I am sure midwives could as well. Might be worth a chat with your midwife?

@DSP21 I know it's way too easy, I've my scan the 7th and it can't come quicker

@holb54 For me I felt even more guilty because it’s something I really want and I think why do I feel down when I should be happy. I’ve had a tough few years and I think my past is causing me to think negatively! Hoping it’s an overload of hormones and I feel better soon!

@krj2608 so sorry to hear that, hope you have lots of good support around you and take care of yourself, x

@DSP21 Please don’t let this panic you, but mine was COVID related. I had a cough too. If anyone is ever unsure if they have Covid, order a test online. Amazon deliver it the next day

@Oldermum80 I know what you mean, we'd planned for this baby and yet I was so down and then guilt ridden for feeling so. I've a history with anxiety/depression so just going to keep an eye on myself and try keep the stress down, easier said than done 😂

Well, for the first time in 6 weeks I’ve managed to cook a beef casserole with all the trimmings and a pudding. I think I’m past the nausea stage. Thank f&#k for that 😂

@Sussexbysea lucky you 😂

@Sussexbysea I'm so jealous today has been the worst day so far! Literally can't wait to feel human again. I think I took feeling well for granted

My nausea is easing too thank god. Feel a bit iffy in the mornings but after a good brekkie im fine

2 weeks exactly away from 3rd trimester can't wait