Summer '20 Grads ❤️

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Just a start of a list for our little crew

@cocoblue22 💚 16th August ❤️ 2nd September
@noble89 💚23rd August EDD 25th March
@samilicious 💚 25th August EDD 16th April
@smileyT 💚28th August❤️ 7th September EDD 20th March
@amy00 💚29th August EDD 11th April
@littleRa ❤️ 1st September
@zippityzip EDD 29th March
@mrsmummy1111 ❤️ 21st September
Ltay2 EDD 11th April

💚early scan ❤️dating scan

I'll add to this as we go through 🤰

Sorry I've scrubbed over my sleeve tattoo as it's quite unique 😂
I'm coming up for 9 weeks?
This photo was taken a few days ago (cropped everyone out of it other than my stomach).
Usually a size 10 - the sonographer said my uterus is really high and tilted forward, plus third baby, which is contributing to my size. I feel enormous already.

Should I be worried about a 3bpm drop in RHR? @SmileyT I know you said yours dropped around 6 weeks? This is my first drop over 1bpm and I'm 7 weeks today.

I had such a bad day yesterday, had awful indigestion and bloating all day which caused me to be sick a little bit and I still don't feel 100% better this morning. Had 3 naps yesterday too 🙈 going out later tonight for a nice meal with OH so hoping I feel less balloon-y by then!

@zippityzip wow, Zippity! Love your dress and tattoo ❤️ Your belly is sooooo cute. Since you're showing already, are you going to tell people around you? x

@zippityzip wow you have a proper bump! Have you had to try and hide it? Mine is as flat as a pancake 😂
@SmileyT I can already feel people are going to judge me with exercising, but why should pregnancy prevent or limit us from doing what we love doing, thats my way of thinking. Obviously I have cut down the intensity, and will eventually stop biking on roads. You'll just have to go to bed another hour earlier to get up at 5! 😳

@Ltay2 don't let that worry you! If you rested loads yesterday that will bring it down. This is mine, that 42 has to be an error (think thats the day I charged it). If I go a week without hard exercise my RHR drops, if I do 3/4 days straight of hard training it increases.

@FairyLights2 Thank you! Yeah everyone knows now - there is literally no hiding it. I did try and wear baggy T-shirt's etc but I just looked fat (as my MIL nicely put it).

@blodyn91 As long as you already exercise there's no reason why you should stop! Do whatever you want and makes you feel good.

@LittleRa that t-shirt is beyond adorable 😍 I'm so excited for your DC to wear that!

@SmileyT I might purchase that book also. Looks super lovely x

Wow, it's hard to catch up with everyone's great news. I hope you're all doing amazing and I pray we all make it to the second trimester ❤️

Quick update on my friend. I always feel like female intuition is strong! We can sense the change in someone in our gut before our minds can intellectually understand it. She's one of my oldest friends but since announcing my pregnancy to her, she has become really distant.

We used to talk every day but since telling her, I don't hear from her now as much. I spoke with her briefly yesterday (I initiated contact) and our conversation was primarily about her trip to Greece. I did hope that she would ask how I was doing considering I told her that I've been vomiting daily. She didn't ask me anything and I took that as a sign that she isn't interested.

That did hurt a bit because we've been friends for over 20 years. I can tell there's a change in her behaviour, which lately I've been trying to ignore. I've reflected deeply on this and remembered that In the past, she did reveal to me her fear of early menopause and her hopes of having children soon. Perhaps accompanying me on this journey is too much. I also know her single status has been troubling her lately, so seeing me talk about my pregnancy could've made her feel some type of way. But she was one of the first people I told because she constantly wanted to meet up with me. Now it's like I don't exist.

I'm not angry- I'm a little disappointed. But then I remember how cruel this world can be to women and the pressure there is to have a career, a man, children and be in shape. So I will leave the door of our friendship wide open. I really do hope that in the future, we can go back to normal.

On a more positive note, I told some other family members and close friends. Their reactions were super positive - one of them couldn't stop jumping for joy. Seeing how happy others were for me did make me smile. They spent like 45 mins going through names with me. Full of excitement, they then started asking what school I would send my child to and 1 million other questions. I had to remind them that that's a long, long away! 😂 But their enthusiasm made my day.

Again, sorry for the long rant!

@zippityzip yeah they definitely say that you show more with subsequent pregnancies as your uterus kinda jumps back into action, yours is a proper bump ❤️

@Ltay2 yes I had a drop in RHR around 6 weeks and read loads on it and found out it was normal (also had 2 scans since then so hopefully all good) attaches my chart just to give a bit of reassurance but obviously we are all different so will maybe see different patterns. 13th June was LMP, highest point was when I got my BFP at 4weeks. x

@blodyn91 you've got the right idea 👌🏾 I think I'm a sensible person and obviously will read up on the decisions I make but a bit like when ttc and life in general it's my bloody body so I'm going to do what's best for me. I want to have sex and I want to exercise and tbh I might have a glass of wine later down the line. Anybody that wants to put negativity into my space can swiftly be put in the 'I can't see you because of lockdown' box 😂

@FairyLights2 I think as women we can be very intuitive and you definitely are right to keep the door open. One of my best friends (1st person I told this time) got pregnant a few years ago and I was just out of a long term relationship, we'd met our partners at the same time so I was so bitterly jealous my life wasn't where I wanted it to be. Unintentionally I wasn't as supportive as I should've been and found it frustrating every time she complained, I got over it and she really is my rock now so I'm so glad she didn't cut me out of her life. It was never about my happiness for her just my own selfish feelings so maybe your friend is the same ❤️ but glad you've got loads of supportive happy people around you and never apologise for ranting on here xx

@FairyLights2 I agree with @SmileyT her reaction is most likely her trying to deal with her own feelings, and not a reflection on how she feels towards you. Leave that doorn open and I'm sure things will improve again over time. I do understand that disappointment tho... I've experienced it recently with my needing to take time off work for burnout & anxiety. I have a good friend & work colleague who I'm always there for and support, and as we work closely together I thought she'd be super supportive of me being off work but I literally have hear from her 3 times since ei went off in May and all 3 were work related queries. Initially I was so hurt by this and thought our friendship didn't mean as much but in reality she's probably not sure how to support me & probably wishing she could have taken some time because she's had a rough few months too. But essentially it's not a reflection on how she feels about me, it's just how she feeling. But I get you, it feels shit. I was upset about it for quite a while. I'm ok now tho and you will be too in time 🙂

@blodyn91 I havnt started taking bump pictures yet but I think I might just to document my body changing even if atm it looks exactly the same. I'm a size 18 so I'm very aware I may take longer to show but I'd like to document it anyway. I think I'm guna do photos in a pait of black leggings and crop top/bra from weeks 6... I might do the photo today and then do it fortnightly to monitor.

Also about the journals girls, I'm not worried about it being messy or rough at times, I think it's more about documenting the journey as best we can 😊 don't worry if they're not perfect, it's just about having it so you can remember 💕

@FairyLights2 It does sound like your friend is a bit overwhelmed with the news. We went to see spice girls last year, and one of the girls ended up leaving straight after the concert as we hadn't realised we'd started a conversation about weddings and babies and she was the only single one. (at that point none of us were even engaged). Just leave the door open and she will eventually come back 😊

So I've had some brown cm just now after going to the toilet and I'm trying really hard not to freak out. I know this can be normal and I even heard the lady doing my scan last week tell her colleague that she saw a bit of a bleed on my right ovary and that might come away... So it could be that too. But I'm trying really hard to stay nice and calm.

We only told our parents the last 2 days... I'm exactly 6 weeks today and I am hoping this is nothing. 😬🥺🤞🏻

Hi ladies,

So sorry I've been so MIA. We've been camping in the Lake District with OH's family and zero signal!

Got back just in time for my scan today and all looks perfect! Bubs measuring right on track at 9+3 and no signs of molar pregnancy. It was mad the difference 2 weeks has made in the scan and the lady was great. Baby was wriggling around waving it's arms and kicking it's legs. She showed me the spine and limbs and even little fingers and toes plus the placenta and umbilical cord which was super cool. They said everything is perfect so I've been discharged from EPU and will just have the normal scans from now on 😊

@Sausage1990 I know it's easier said than done but you are doing the right thing, stay calm and just remember that most of the time brown blood is old blood just passing out of the body and nothing sinister. If the anxiety gets on top of you, remember you always have the option to pull your scan a little earlier xx

@Noble89 yay to another successful scan, it is crazy the difference a couple weeks makes, they are literally doubling in size at this point, it's amazing 🥰

@SmileyT thanks lovely I'm just chilling in bed. Im just hoping it is just settles but as you said, if not I can always call the EPU again. Tbh I'm knackered today so just listening to my body. I think 2 late nights and the emotions of sharing our news with the family these last 2 days has really taken it out of me, so having rest day I a needed. My parents & sister were absolutely flabbergasted BTW 😂 they had no idea it was in the cards... Their faces where a picture!!! All very happy tho!

@noble89 Gosh what a gorgeous scan 💕 lush to see little bub wriggling around... So lovely!! I'm happy for you that it's all going well & EPU have discharged you - great news! Xx

@zippityzip omg how cute it your bump! That's amazing that your body has just stretched back into bump nicely!

@SmileyT @blodyn91 exercise is absolutely fine! within reason (by that I mean not at 9months doing your back in) and it's beneficial! no reason to stop at this stage - you gals would know/realise if you were pushing your body over the limit and would so you are right your body your choice ladies! 🥰

@FairyLights2 I'm so sorry about your friend but as you said your door is always open! so fingers crossed she realises that you deserve this moment to be happy! I'm sure after 20years your friendship will be strong enough to survive this and it's only a temporary thing!

@Sausage1990 so true about it not having to be neat! If they said something about a bleed I defo wouldn't be too worried hun- if it's fresh and blood/clot like then you can worry so stay nice and calm, you've got this! 🥰

@Noble89 your scan is so cute! Fab news Congrats lady hope you had an amazing few days in Lake District so glad everything is looking good this time round!

Just to let you know scan went well and little bean is in there growing nicely! My lack of symptoms have meant nothing which I'm happy about measuring a day ahead from the EPU scan now so even more chuffed!

@Mococo1 Ahh what a cute little bean! Do glad you got good news and reassurance. How far are you now?

@Sausage1990 if it's brown spotting and only lasts a day or so it's almost certainly nothing to worry about. Just some old blood coming away which is super common. Take it easy and if you do have any pain or it persists speak to EPU.

Those asking about exercise. I've done less than nothing for weeks now as I've been so tired and sickly. I had to suck it up over the weekend as we climbed to stickle tarn in great langdale and through a slate mine and honestly it's the best I've felt the whole pregnancy. I think the fresh air and exercise did me the world of good. I was a bit worried about doing something that strenuous but my whole family knows so we all went at my pace and for the climbing/scrambling one of the guys went ahead of me and another behind just to help if needed which was great.

That being said, I got home today and headed straight for my scan but I've been in bed since 😂.

We did have a very scary non pregnancy related incident on our last night though. A man on the campsite went absolutely nuts and was beating his wife up in front of his children and then threatening to kill people on the camp site with an axe 😱😱😱. My partner does jiu jitsu so was able to take him to the ground and literally had to hold him there until the police arrived. Apparently the whole site was up screaming trying to get help and the guy was going berserk screaming at the top.of his lungs about killing everyone...I slept through the whole thing 🤦

@Mococo1 yay to another successful scan, love seeing all this positive news, and glad you are feeling good and hopefully no more worries about symptoms 🥰

@Noble89 bloody hell that sounds like a scary situation at the campsite, so good OH was okay and managed to handle the situation, what a legend. Glad you had a good weekend and body enjoyed the fresh air, but yes it's tiring growing fingers and toes so not surprising you're sleeping loads xx

@Sausage1990 ahh so nice that they were so surprised and happy, definitely rest up today and maybe take it easier next week aswell ❤️

@Sausage1990 definitely rest up and try not to worry as others have said. Let us know how you get on x

@Noble89 your OH is a hero!! Was his wife OK? Thats one scary event! Lucky you slept through it! And I agree, if I feel shit I go for a walk, always works so far

All these scan photos are making me want one 😍😍😍😍

@FairyLights2 aww I'm sorry to hear that :( it's so sad growing apart from friends (hopefully this is temporary). You're doing the right thing leaving the door open on the friendship I think - hard but maybe the kindest thing to do as a friend in this situation. I have a friend in a similar boat, can see the hurt in her sometimes but she's just taken the attitude of stealing any babies I have whenever she can to help her fill the gap for now. Free babysitter?! Never complaining about that!

@SmileyT love the 'I can't see you because of lockdown' box concept. I'm still too scared to DTD until the first NHS scan, so being creative to help OH get on board until then 😅 I'm usually the animal one but just petrified. I know it's stupid and definitely fine medically but I just can't. I want to start exercising again soon and def glass of wine further down the line

@Noble89 lovely pic and great news about being discharged! Shame the weekend ended on that note, but good to have a martial arts pro knocking around 💪🏻 my OH would be useless

@Mococo1 love seeing your bean! Glad it's put your mind at rest. Thanks for sharing. How far along are you now? I have mine on Tuesday 🤞🏻

@blodyn91 @SmileyT @noble89 @Mococo1 thanks girls. I've got had any brown spotting since so hopefully that will be it for now. I've calmed down alot since earlier when I was feeling really freaked but the fact I've had none since has calmed me. Definitely having a low key day @SmileyT and will continue to have a low key week. I can't muster the energy to do anything anyway 🙈 week 6 has really hit my energy levels hard 😴

@samilicious oh I'm glad I'm not alone with not having DTD yet... I'm a bit nervous about it tbh although I know it's safe. Thankfully DH is on the same page as me so there's no pressure until we've had a scan and feel more confident that our little petit pois / lentil is doing okay 😊

Morning all,
I've been very quiet on here for to nerves and past MMC just wanting to get to 12 week scan.
I'm 10+5 and had a private scan yesterday, it's twins !!, still in shock as I'll have 3 under 2 so trying to get my head round it all. Hope everyone else's is doing ok xx

@Dipsy77 That's amazing!!!! I would have loved twins. Congrats. You'll be absolutely fine - but I I can understand your apprehension!! This thread is so supportive you'll get great advice xx

@Sausage1990 I hope your spotting has stopped - mine was the same with old blood but always call EPU if you're worried.

@Noble89 and @Mococo1 your scans are beautiful!! They are proper little babies in there - not tadpoles any more!!!!