Late October Babies 2020 - Thread 5

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Thread 5 ladies!

Girls: @DressingGown87 @Jaffas22 @DogCatDex @EmmaA96 (twins) @Parks11 @LadyB90 @Strawberries4days @LST87 @sls668 @plentyofplants Uppsydaisy (Girl twin)

Boys: @sunbreak @FirstSurprise001 @WaveStreet @roarfeckingroar
@Mc3209 @KitKatKit @1990shopefulftm @Lolllyf @HelenMarie1001 @Freddie1987 @BS9790 @hmeadow24 @Ghostworld @roarfeckingroarr @Glooorb @mamavee @UpsyDaisy1234 (Boy twin) @Samk93

Surprise / Waiting
@60sPony @Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt @AdventureAhead @Elizag20 @justtb @Clalou83 @SJR86 @Flora20 @Watersintheclouds @Jaffas22 @justtb

If I have missed you! Sorry! I did quickly scan through the start of the last thread, to add people and update the list, but only did this quick.

Sorry to hear nausea has returned for some of you. For me this week has been plagued by headaches and rib/back pains. I can't sleep, so feeling wiped in the daytime. My work is really being affected. I'm kind of over it all now. Week 32 is hard.

@Freddie1987 I had a homebirth with my first and planning my second now 🙂 I had an amazing experience and am looking forward to doing it again! I had a pool in our bedroom, a tens machine for the early stages and had been reading a hypnobirthing book for a few weeks... I phrase it like that because I didn't consciously do any hypnobirthing stuff during the actual labour but think it must have helped! I had 2 midwives who were both fab and pretty much left me to it (as I wanted) except for the actual birth. Within 40 minutes of the birth I'd had stitches, both of us had been thoroughly checked over, and we were tucked up in my own bed with a cup of tea and a plate of chocolate spread on toast 😂

If you've got any questions just ask!

@Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt I also keep an eye on the November group (although I only comment in here) as my original due date was November and I think they’ve had 2 early births already 😳 they’re doing well though but makes me a little nervous!

@Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt @Sls668 Sorry to panic you! My first was "early" (37+5) but still full term, absolutely fine and I had a nice easy birth 🙂 Remember you're full term from 37 weeks... Not actually that long now!

Ladies, those of you who have a Next2Me and the likes, did you buy a cot mobile? Not the projector kind, but the toys hanging above the cot. Any recommendations?

Hey ladies,
Bit if a weird one really, I've been pretty much isolating since March as I have high anxiety anyway but I've just been terrified of catching Covid whilst pregnant, I definitely know that some of my anxieties are irrational and it's something I've always struggled with. Anyways I'm beginning to get really anxious about how to manage family when the baby comes, as I know they'll all want to meet her and I feel like I'm.just going to be a nervous wreck afraid of them passing something onto her, as this whole pandemic has definitely made my anxiety worse. My husband's family all live abroad in Switzerland as well so that's an added stress and im not sure how understanding they'll be if they can't meet or hold her. I feel like as due date is getting closer the anxiety is building 🙈 not really sure if I'm asking anything really or just feel better for expressing my anxiety. But I'm wondering how you guys are all feeling about it and how strict you'll be with letting family cuddle your baby's etc (obviously I know things might change in the next few weeks)

@Freddie1987 thank you!

He was being a bit naughty and wouldn't move his arm from his face, we even went for a walk in between but he was adamant to keep his arms there, we did eventually get some cute pics! He has the chubbiest cheeks! Im 31 weeks tomorrow.

@LadyB90 I'm so sorry your feeling this way, it's understandable why your feeling so anxious, it's perfectly normal to feel this way with what's been going on. I really don't know how I'm going to feel about it until baby's born, I'm not gonna have visitors apart from family that I've been seeing for the last month or so and I will definitely ensure their hands are clean! you may feel better when baby's here. Everyone should be understanding due to the circumstances, you do whatever feels best for you! We're all here for you if you want to just express how you feel.

@SamK93
Thank you I really appreciate your message and understanding. I've always had germ related OCD and through this pandemic some of my irrational fears have actually become real so I've found it so hard, but I know so many people have and I do feel so lucky to be pregnant.
But OMG your 3D scan is amazing, look at his chubby cheeks 🥰 just so cute! bet you are even more excited to meet him now!!

@Laanie congratulations and welcome.

@roarfeckingroarr hope your feeling a bit better today. You know your body, but might be worth getting checked at some point if your concerned.

@Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt I’ve had a massage, you just lie on your side, it was really good and helped lots. I have another booked in this weekend.

Sorry to see some of you are suffering with sickness again, hope it all passes quickly. My midwife called before to remind me that I only have 5/6weeks left, suddenly feeling real, and scary. Health visitor has been round today for a coffee and to introduce herself, and to talk about feeding, birth, things I might need after the birth etc. All them scary things you don’t think of!

@LadyB90 I think it’s natural to feel anxious about it. I think you will know a bit more about how you feel after the baby is born, and I think it’s dependant on your individual circumstances. I live in an area which is still under lockdown, but hoping it eases soon, as there are no cases in my actual area, and all of my friends and family live outside of the lockdown. I am going to let a small amount of friends in, my sister, and my mum and dad (who have had Covid), because I live alone, and I think my mental heath risk is greater than the other risks. But I am going to be strict on who these are, my best friend has already said she is upset that she can’t see me, but she isn’t following guidelines, and going out to bars etc, mixing with people in lockdown.

@SamK93 awww these are so cute! Them cheeks look adorable.

@LadyB90 sorry to hear you re struggling.

We haven't really made a decision as to what we ll do about visitors when he's born yet and fortunately no one has asked.
I ve not seen friends or family since march or stepped foot in a shop or anything like that and DH has just seen a couple of friends whilst strictly social distancing so I know it's going to feel strange when I do see people again.
I m asthmatic so I just feel it's not worth the risk since my lungs are getting squashed by baby so I m breathless anyway.

If anyone asks could you say that you will let them know nearer the time as data and guidelines are changing all the time so you don't want to make any solid commitments yet?

@LadyB90 I had similar thoughts about family meeting baby lately. Some of my closest family coming from a different country to meet the baby (it was a mission trying to convince them to come 2 weeks after the due date and stay in the hotel, but that's a whole different story) and today I find out they are planning to go to Tenerife on holiday before I am due. And I really don't know how I feel about it all.

@Flora20 hello, I'm very well today thank you. The BH quietened down yesterday evening and I've only had a couple today. Congrats on an uneventful and positive 32 week appointment!

@Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt I actually had one this evening! My second and I'm going to book another. It was absolutely amazing. If you're in London I'll recommend the masseuse?

@LadyB90 @Mc3209 I'm really not worried to be honest. I've been easy going throughout and out for lunch / dinner a few times every week, to the gym, for a massage and pedicure etc. It's totally understandable that you are, but try to get a bit of perspective that infection rates are low, the amount of people getting very sick are very low and they don't actually know that we are any more vulnerable.

@LadyB90 i will be letting close family and my best friend visit and hold baby as I have seen them regularly since restrictions eased and I feel comfortable doing so. it's my parents first grandchild and they would be devastated if they couldn't hold baby and as my husband has been working the whole pandemic I dont feel I can justify not having family visit when obviously my husband will be around baby. however it's an individual decision based on what you feel you would be comfortable with and your circumstances. you dont want added stress with a newborn if you feel your anxiety will be too high with visitors

Thank you for all your replies, it makes me feel so much better just to feel supported and heard in this group of lovely people. You're all going to make such wonderful mummas!

@DressingGown87 that is a shame about your best friend, my sister is the same! You're definitely going to need regular visitors living alone and totally know what you mean about weighing up the mental health risks vs the Covid risk.

@1990shopefulftm
That must be stressful also having asthma on top of everything else! It's good your family/friends haven't put any pressure on you about visits. Thanks for the advice to tell people we aren't ready to decide yet, that might take the pressure off a bit!

@Mc3209
It's good to know I'm not the only one feeling this way! Oh no that really sounds stressful that they have decided to go on holiday first 🙈 I feel like just the plane journey adds an extra risk so I don't blame you for not knowing how to feel about it. It's so hard to know what's best isn't it.

@roarfeckingroarr
Totally jealous of your outlook on it and wish I could feel the same way! I'll definitely try and take on board your advice, sometimes I need another perspective to balance me out and normally my husband is way more laid back but he's feeling a similar way to me about this unfortunately!

@krissy12
That makes total sense. It's also the first grandchild for my parents and for my husband's parents too so I feel the same way, I really don't want to upset them or hurt them so I guess it's about finding the balance. Sometimes I find it hard to work out which of my anxieties are irrational and which I just need to get over, and I think that's what I'm finding hard in regards to this.

@LadyB90 you will be a wonderful mum too, as you are already worrying about your little one! I think we will be letting babys grandparents and aunts/uncles hold him with hand washing and a clean muslin between them just in case, but although I've been sticking to guidelines i have been quite relaxed generally.

Pregnancy massages sound lovely, it's my birthday in a few weeks, hoping someone treats me to one 🤞

@SamK93 gorgeous scan! I wasn't too bothered about one but now I'm regretting it, he is super cute.

@LadyB90 I’ve been quite relaxed so far. I’m still working, going shopping, out for meals etc so I’m not too concerned about close family and friends holding the baby providing they’ve no symptoms and wash their hands first. Obviously I won’t be passing her around, for example, work colleagues, family friends, as much as I may have in a normal situation but I’m not too concerned at the moment (May feel differently when she’s actually here though!)

@KitKatKit I’m glad (in a way!!) that I’m not the only one struggling with week 32. I felt like I’d really got my sh** together and hormones had levelled out and then this week I’m all over the place. Lost track of the amount of times over the last 3 days I’ve sobbed on the sofa. Eyes are more swollen than ever. Peeing every 2 hours in the night, uncomfortable, hormonal and just feel like no one looks after or thinks about me.

I hope week 33 is better 😭

@WaveStreet
@Sls668
Thank you 🥰 I think it probably hasn't helped that I've been in this safe bubble as myself and partner have both been able to work from home and not really gone anywhere so it's made everything more scary!

@FirstSurprise001
Really sorry to hear you are feeling that way and struggling this week. It's totally normal to feel how you are and we all understand and are there for you!

Thanks @LadyB90. It’s just awful isn’t it. Lost track of the amount of times I’ve said ‘ I just can’t do this anymore’ this week.

Midwife didn't say at my appointment but I realised looking at my notes that she's written that their head down already, anyone know if they're likely to move back after 31 weeks or can I be hopeful this means they won't be breech?

@LadyB90 I've made a decision today that I will let my close family hold the baby, it's first grandchild, I am sure we can work around the precautions.

My view of the whole COVID thing is quite skewed, as pretty much all of my family, myself and DH included, are in healthcare, so I am seeing a darker side of it, where healthy people of my age group (30s) catch it and are badly affected by it (which is not necessarily representative of the whole picture, I admit) and that makes me extra cautious, rightly or wrongly.

The catch is, coronavirus is not going away anytime soon, and we need to learn to function normally, whatever this new normal might be.

@FirstSurprise001 Hang in there, we are on a home stretch. I hope your other half is spoiling you with extra attention these weeks. It's tough, and it will get better.

@Mc3209
You are so right. And they'll only be newborn for such a small amount of time too. I'm going to try my best to share your outlook on this and I feel like making a decision is also a good idea because that will give me time to get used to what I've decided. Thank you, sometimes i just really need a voice of reason!