Due August 2020 Thread 4

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Hello Ladies newest shiny thread for those due late July or in August. As always very friendly, helpful and open to all newbies and oldies alike.

@squishy88 congratulations! What symptoms have you been having? Let us know how your appt goes xxx

@Sassy14 you’re not overreacting at all! It’s all so difficult to manage and as there’s no clear rules, everyone is just doing what they personally feel comfortable with. DH and I have really struggled with making a decision, this is the first grandchild on both sides and both our families live 3ish hours away so aren’t able to pop by to see baby from a distance. Therefore we’ve decided they (parents and siblings only) can come visit at 1-2 weeks post birth provided they stay in a hotel and not in our house like they normally do. We will allow them to cuddle baby but will make sure everyone is washing hands and absolutely no kissing baby.

@Squishy88 ah exciting! congratulations! hope all goes well xx

Can't wait to see all the babies we're still waiting on!

2 weeks exactly until due date. 38 week appointment tomorrow and hoping for more dilation (didn't check last week so not sure how things have been progressing since the 1.5cm at 36 weeks). We've had multiple scares this last week with menstrual-like cramps getting distinctly stronger but then disappearing on me, and I'm on day 4 of them on and off alllll day with no regular pattern. I'm going crazy hoping they stick every time and being stuck sitting around the house with nothing else to do isn't helping.

Glad to hear everybody else seems to be doing okay aside from some nerves. I'm in the same boat with first time worries and impatience and not knowing exactly what restrictions we'll have to deal with

Marking my place here! Due 16th August with my first but I'm secretly hoping he comes a little earlier as I cant wait to meet him. Anyone else feeling really painful jabs when baby moves? This little guy seems to want to claw his way out.

@ChocoLover7 Oh my god, yes. It feels like baby's about to rip out of my stomach. He tries to stretch out all the time and there's just no room for it anymore and it hurts.

Hi ladies,

I have my 36 week appointment today, is it standard to get an internal examination? I just presumed they wouldn't start doing them yet but seen a couple of people mention they had one.

Also, has anyone else had heart palpitations? I mentioned them at my 34 week appointment and she took my blood and I've since been given iron tablets but the palpitations aren't going anywhere! When I'm just sat my heart can just decide it's going on one and it can fly up to 130bpm quite regularly. I was sat in bed the other day and it got up to 158 which is the highest it's been. I don't feel unwell when it happens but it's not a nice feeling :(

Can I also chip in on the visitors discussion?!
I'm so worried about it all :( our best friends have said they want to know as soon as I'm in labour so they can pack a bag and travel down to meet her (they wouldn't be staying at our house) but honestly I don't know how soon I want visitors?!

My family are really understanding and will do whatever I feel comfortable with but my partners family are very over bearing. They will want to be here the second we get home which I'm not comfortable with as we're first time parents and feel like we need a couple of days to get our heads around it all! They've also been so so bad with covid procedures and haven't taken it seriously in the slightest which terrifies me, his mum is also going through chemo so it frustrates me even more that they're not taking things seriously and are just out and about in shops!

I went to visit my friends baby the other day and she asked me to use sanitiser and put a mask on before holding her which I was MORE than happy to do and we've decided that's what we're going to ask people to do as well.
I asked my partner if he will ask his parents to put a mask on and he said he would and if they don't want to put one on they can't hold her (don't think either of them have worn a mask for anything as they're being very irresponsible) but I don't have faith in him cause he's so bloody soft with them. I'm going to have another serious chat with him about it cause I don't want to have to butt in and say to them they have to wear one cause I'm not like that at all and his mum will take it personally and think I hate her like she always does....

@Something20 I never had an internal until my 40week appointment when she tried to do a sweep. I did have palpitations with my first but thankfully not with this one, they can be so scary! Mine did carry on a few weeks after birth but stopped then.

@Something20 - like Bert2020, I haven't had any internal exams (and would probably have refused them if offered, tbh). Currently 39+1. When I saw the midwife at my 38 week appointment she said I'd be offered a stretch & sweep at my 40 week appointment, but that's very much an offer rather than a recommendation, since I'm a first time mum.

Thanks @Bert2020 and @WeeScottishWife I can confirm no internal was done haha I did think it seemed very early to be doing stuff like that and baby is still super high so she's not ready yet haha.
I'm being sent to the hospital this afternoon for bloods and an ecg for my palpitations though. My bloods actually came back fine that the midwife did so she's not really sure why I was put on iron tablets and it's obviously not low iron causing the palpitations so they just want to double check there's nothing else wrong and if not it's just one of those things that should clear up once baby arrives!

@Something20 I had one at my 36 week appointment along with the GBS test, and I believe am getting another this afternoon at my 38 week one. But since I'm in the US unlike most of you I don't know if that's standard over there. If you're nervous just know they're not bad at all, a little uncomfortable but not too bad and over very quickly.

On the visitor topic I'm having issues too. I have a whole list of people wanting to come over the second we get home and I have no idea what to do about them. I don't know how I'll feel as far as adjusting to the baby in general and wanting to see other people. Having a flood of people in and out of our house makes me nervous and there are a few certain relatives in mind that I know are going to try to push any boundaries we set as far as sanitizing, masks, no kissing, or whatever else along those lines we decide on. My dad and stepmother are waiting on covid test results right now (both definitely caught something but neither seem to be bad cases thankfully, and neither OH or I have been around them recently so we should be clear) and if it comes back positive that puts them and a handful of other relatives who have been potentially exposed off the baby visiting list for a while if he's born in the next 2 weeks, which I'm sure some of them will throw fits about. I know everybody is just excited and wants to love on the baby but it's a tricky time

@Camia ahh ok, I think over there you get earlier and a few more appointments than us in general so that would make sense. When she was having a feel of baby she commented on how high she was so guess there would probably have been no point in an internal cause she's not moving yet!

It's so hard isn't it. I know everyone cares and is excited but I feel like in the current circumstances the more caring approach would be to be extra cautious! Everyone keeps saying 'we can't wait to meet her' and I appreciate that but honestly I'm scared for everyone to meet her. Maybe like one of the previous posters said, outside meeting may be better (weather permitting)! I'm getting so anxious and worked up about all these people coming in my house and wanting to hold her, I bought a large pump bottle of sanitiser this morning for when people do come and I've ordered masks too!

@Something20 That does make sense. Baby had dropped already by my 36 week appointment too so more reason to have one, if yours hasn't there probably isn't much reason anyway

Oh you're not alone, I have hand sanitizer stationed at strategic spots all over the house 😂 Just need to find the right balance of caution and not letting worry rule our lives. I love that people are so excited to meet him but I'm hoping they understand us wanting to be careful and that protecting him has to be priority

@Camia might put a sanitiser by the front door and one next to the sofa where people will sit to hold her and leave the masks there too! I know a lot of people will understand but there's some people in our family that haven't taken any of it seriously so I know they won't like wearing a mask but we're just going to have to put our foot down I guess!!

@Nellie3
It started Monday afternoon had a clear out (sorry tmi) and couldn't keep off the toilet most of the day. Had horrendous lower backache and my stomach was cramping, feeling like a dull period pain. Then through the night I contracted every hour and I just felt awful. Same Tuesday. Then Wednesday I woke up full of energy and cleaned. Then Thursday at my appointment midwife said My bump has dropped and she's definitely in the correct position and I'm in latent labour, but she wouldn't offer me anything with me only being 38 weeks + 5 and everything was normal, heart rate, movements, blood pressure etc. Which is understandable I suppose. She advised me to have sex, which my OH was ecstatic to hear haha. So I guess I just have to persevere until she decides she's fully ready to come. I'm absolutely gagging for an alcoholic beverage and a dip in my hot tub haha 😄.

@Havlerr thank you so much 💓

Hi everyone ❤️

Due with OH and I’s first child on 22nd August ❤️❤️

We’re going to wait for 2 weeks after birth until we allow visitors. MIL+FIL will be allowed to meet baby as they’re looking after our eldest while I’m in hospital. Going to ask people to wash hands and use face masks when visiting baby too. Soooo excited !! 😃 xxx

I think hand sanitizer around the house is a great idea actually, I will try to get some of those pump ones. Does anyone know where you can buy them that aren't too expensive?

@Squishy88 that all sounds very promising but frustrating! Do you know how long the latent phase can go on for? I'm feeling similar symptoms but don't sound as intense as yours. I keep thinking I can't go on for weeks like this! (Am 37+6 today). I guess all you can do is try to relax as much as possible to get the oxytocin flowing, sleep and eat if you can. Haha I bet your OH was chuffed with the midwife's suggestion! Not sure I'd be up for doing that right now 😅 xxx

@Nellie3 apparently it can go on from days to weeks unfortunately. Unless your waters break, or you lose you bloody show they won't do anything. So it's just a case of deal with it haha 😄. Just what we want to hear. Yeah, relaxation is key. Warm baths and walking is reccomend too. Nothing too vigorous. He was chuffed to bits, bless him. I thought that too, but it wasn't as bad as I thought. A little uncomfortable at first but then it felt good haha 😄. But it's been 24 hours since and I'm still the same. Had a spicy curry this evening and off for a walk tomorrow. My OH is expecting her to come tomorrow with the gym's reopening. He's been like a kid at Xmas waiting for them to open, be his luck he will walk through the doors and I will be telling him to come home hahaha. Do you know what you're having? Xxx

Well looks like I may be having a baby this weekend. 80% effaced and 3cm dilated, doctor did a membrane sweep today and said she feels really good about the chances of it getting things going. Baby's been engaged for almost 3 weeks now so she's offering to schedule induction at 39 weeks (6 days away) if it doesn't happen before then for my mental sake because I'm seriously miserable and my anxiety and depression issues are climbing like crazy. Haven't decided yet, I want to avoid induction unless necessary but it's been really rough and just getting worse, so for now keeping fingers crossed the sweep will work and if it doesn't I guess I'll consider the induction. Anybody else had an offer like that, and what did you decide?

Definitely been getting more cramping since I got home but nothing major yet. Only been a few hours though

Hello, newbie here

It's soo close now!! I was wondering how frequent midwife appointments were supposed to be in the last few weeks?? For my first I had weekly appointments for the last month but we weren't in the UK then. I'm 35+3 and my next appointment is scheduled for 37 week, which will be a 3 week gap from my last appointment. Is that normal? It seems like a big gap so close to the end.

@Camia fingers crossed for you that baby comes this weekend!

@Hertsmama9 I had appts at 31, 34, 36 and 38 (next week) and then at 40 so towards the end it should be every 2 weeks i think. Mine have all been a day or two out due to when they could fit me in, so maybe it's for that reason? Might be best to double check!?

@Camia oooo good luck 👍. Fingers crossed for you. Xx

@Hertsmama9 my midwife apps have gone like 16 week, 20, 25, 28, 30, 32, 34, 36, 38 and if I make it 40 weeks. That's in the UK. They started listening to the heartbeat and measuring my bump from the 28 week appt and done it every appt since. But I'm classed as high risk as I have a high BMI. So I don't know if that affects the appts. Xxx

Fingers crossed @Camia try to keep mobile, walk up and down stairs sideways if you can and relax as much as possible for the oxytocin, easier said than done though.

@Hertsmama9 mines have been 16, 24, 28, 34 & 38 I’m based in Scotland

@Squishy88 @Camia it all sounds promising for some gorgeous babies on the thread soon! Exciting times!

@Hertsmama9 mine went 28, 32,