Early Oct Babies Part 7

[Treaclepie19]

Entering the final stretch! 😁

@babymama09 fingers crossed she can stay in there a little bit longer!

@BntTowers well done! 3.5 miles is great!

Had a really annoying evening. DH rang his parents to chat about them holding the baby, as they had brought it up last week. Offered for them to shield for two weeks from the day the baby is born and then they can come around and hold her, which I think is more than fair considering they've been going into town every week and have been visiting pubs. Neither of them work so it wouldn't be that difficult for them anyway. MIL went off on one, accusing us of "holding the golden key to seeing our baby" 🤯 and that we're being over the top. I was fuming - I just thought, how dare you try to tell us what's best for our baby? She even had the gall the say that my DH wouldn't be shielding (as he works full time) so what's the difference - the difference is that he is the baby's father! The baby doesn't actually give a toss if she meets her grandparents in the first few weeks of her life and at this rate, I'm not that bothered!

It's frustrating because my parents aren't allowed to come over from America and are heartbroken at not being able to do so - and would drop everything to be given that option. Bloody in-laws 😒

Ugh @otterbaby thats crap. I think there will be a lot of these kinds of arguments.
My mom knows not to push me on it but my sister has already said she will be holding baby and wearing a mask and gloves. I'm like, nope you won't. Not until we're ready.

People have to accept our decisions, we're the parents and that's that. Nobody has a right to hold your baby.

Hope she stays in for a while longer @babymama09

@Treaclepie19 my dh is desperate to put up the crib but I want to wait until the decorators are done next week. Otherwise we’re going to have a big crib to move rather than a box. Getting it up sounds so exciting though 😻😻😻

@babymama09 fingers crossed she stays in for a bit longer🤞

@BntTowers nightmare on the security tag, just unneeded hassle. The walks sound amazing though

@otterbaby your baby, your choice. It’s a pandemic right now, something none of us have lived through and only read about the devastation in history books. Yes it might be okay In kids mostly but that’s a massive risk for your own new baby when they’re so little and not built up their immunes yet. If she’s that bothered she could easily shield so everyone is happy. I’m sorry about your parents being in America that will be really upsetting for you both, it’s such a hard time as it is without certain people being divas when they’re actually really lucky to have seen you and be able to see the baby. @treaclepie19 urgh on your sister too. Family are great fun 😅

That makes sense @Quiffy! As it is our bed wasn't far enough over so I couldn't fit past with my bump and Dh had to move it to the nursery for the night until he has chance to move the bed 😂😂😂

I feel so guilty because I'm counting down to my ds starting school so we can get things done without a little one trying to join in. We're going to try and lighten up on the baby prep anyway because I think he feels a bit pushed out. His behaviour has been awful and I honestly think he's just feeling a bit overwhelmed. Considering his whole life is upside down with covid and he's planning on starting a new class with new friends and a new baby sister soon to arrive, I think it's not surprising he's having a bit of trouble.

It's so frustrating! Exactly @Quiffy feel like telling them they should be grateful they're even getting the choice but I'm letting DH deal with it. And saying that would probably cause WW3 based on their reaction already 😂

@Treaclepie19 we put up our next 2 me too! Also storing it in the nursery as once it's in place, I think I'll have to wiggle down to the end of the bed to get out for my ever-increasing night wees.

Sounds tough with your little one. Like you said, it's a lot of changes so you can't blame him really. When is he supposed to go back?

@otterbaby yeah I think that's what I did last time but we didn't put it up until he'd already been born last time. (Waters broke almost 3 weeks early)

He's due back 2nd September which is his 5th birthday 😭 Poor pudding. Thankfully his teacher has agreed he can do half days the first week to ease him in.

Hey @otterbaby - just to say (1) so annoyed on your behalf re the MIL and (2) my MIL is visiting us for the first time post lockdown and voluntarily quarantined for 2 weeks - didn’t ask us, just did it. So if it helps at all, you and your DH are being 100% reasonable!

@otterbaby you are being completely reasonable. If she doesn't like it then she just won't see the baby until she does. Stick to your guns with this one.

@Treaclepie19 it must be so difficult for them at that age to understand everything that's going on at the moment.

@otterbaby so sorry you got that response from your in laws - my own mother was pretty adamant she wasn't going to quarantine before meeting the baby which frustrated me. Plus she doesn't drive so would be driven down (about a 5 hour drive) by my brother and his gf who both work in a hospital. So I've told them they'll have to meet baby when he's a bit older - maybe not until November or even December and I'll decide closer to the time what that might look like (eg: whether they'll need to wear masks etc). At the end of the day we're the parents and get to decide what's best and there's still a pandemic going on that isn't fully understood by even the most experienced scientists yet.

I'm back to work today after last week off to move in/decorate. I planned to do so much but the heatwave that started on Friday (36C!!!) Was too much so from Friday onwards there was a lot of me just sat in front of a fan 😂 apart from yesterday when we ventured outside to celebrate our first wedding anniversary. thanks everyone for the tips on helping the cat relax in her new environment - we bought the plugins and they really helped!!

We start NCT tomorrow - I'm very excited! How has everyone been finding it that's already started it?

I also have the hospital tomorrow for the 32 week appointment. Less excited about that, I have to travel during peak temperatures!! Hoping the midwife will tell me the baby has moved though - he's been transverse so far.

@MrsD1990 I'm glad your cat seems to have settled a bit. We've had two NCT zoom things so far (third one tonight) and they've been good. We've got a main WhatsApp group then a mum's and a dad's one separately. We've had a make a towel baby ready for tonight's session. Ours looks like Gordon the Gopher...

I've sent a request in to change my holidays and maternity leave to a week earlier. I'll see if I get any response, but I think it's going to be me chasing for it all again, however this time if my manager doesn't respond I'll just go straight to HR with it I think. I've explained about the extra stress with the GD being added so hopefully he wont keep me waiting too long to confirm.

Thanks for the support, ladies ❤️ I know we're doing the right thing so they'll just have to deal with it.

@MrsD1990 my best advice for the NCT course - make sure you find a comfy position! Sitting on the couch for 1.5 hours at a time trying to sit up straight for the iPad wreaked havoc on my back! So make sure you have plenty of blankets/pillows to sit on and help prop yourself up with. I also got a big jug of water so I didn't have to keep getting up for a drink. Overall it was helpful - and we're having a meet-up with everyone at the end of the month so hopefully making good connections for mat leave! Good luck for tomorrow, hopefully he's wiggled into place!

@BntTowers making a towel baby sounds so funny!! Have fun with tonight's session!! Also hope you get your mat leave granted early - I moved mine forward too.

@otterbaby ohhh good tips! I'll make sure to do that - thank goodness our sofa arrived yesterday so I can make myself comfy for this! (Being pregnant and sat on dining chairs/on the floor for a week while waiting for the sofa to arrive was no joke!) Hope ours arrange a meet up too, would be lovely for mat leave!

@MrsD1990 I've been doing NCT too (a mix of Zoom and Whatsapp) and it's been good even without meeting face to face. We also had to make towel babies! This is mine, not quite as cute as I'd hoped....

@beclj I love it! So much better than what I was imagining - I basically pictured a folded towel so I'll have to up my game if I get asked to do that 😂

@BecLJ yours is great! I dressed ours because it creeped me out but I think I made it worse!

I've actually had a response from my manager saying it shouldn't be a problem but he is checking with the MDs tomorrow! I suppose because I stated a health concern it escalated it a bit.

@BntTowers yours looks cute! Love the Paddington Bear outfit! And encouraging news about your work

@BntTowers wow looks so good dressed up! Also good news on the quick response from your manager, hope the MDs say it's ok!

Those towel babies are so funny... what is it they think that teaches you? Interested to know!

We decided not to do NCT due to cost V feedback as it was so mixed but I am starting to worry how I'm going to meet other mums especially if things are restricted over the winter with Covid I am hoping there might be some baby classes but I dont see how they can run.

@BntTowers glad your work are considering your request and I hope it is accepted. They have no excuse really as your health comes first.

@MrsD1990 glad the cat is doing ok. Where did you get your plug in from? Tempted to try with mine when baby arrives as I know he will be anxious when midwife etc. comes round. Happy anniversary too.

@otterbaby I think your request for your parents in laws was sensible and not unreasonable. Definitely stand your ground, it's such a shame you have to and you just dont need the added hassle with a newborn. I am sorry too that your parents cannot come over. We haven't made any solid decisions yet about most family/friends visiting but also arent going to say until baby is here, mostly because I dont need the comments beforehand! I cant believe some of you have family/friend telling you what they are going to do about visiting your baby, I wouldnt dream of doing that!

Ha love the towel babies.

@LexiM we decided the same re NCT. There is that peanut app and as you say, its hard to know what the situation will be in the winter anyway!

@BntTowers will keep fingers crossed, I am sure they will agree, they don't have a leg to stand on!

@MrsD1990 so pleased you are settled in and the cat is doing well. I am dreading our cat's reaction to the baby in this small flat. Going to be a nightmare.

@otterbaby I am so undecided about what the heck I am going to do when the baby is here. Your MIL should be way more understanding! Its hard enough being a new mum let alone piling extra worry and pressure on us owing to the situation.

I have gestational diabetes too. I got the call today. I have to go to the hospital tomorrow for a scan and to get me set up for checking my blood sugars.
Feeling very cross at myself. I tried so hard to avoid it.
Dunno if its just pregnancy hormones or this heat but feeling very angry about it.

On a lighter note the towel babies looks brilliant!
We chose not to do NCT due to the cost as well but I've really enjoyed the Honest Midwife's sessions.
I'm also hoping there are mum and baby groups running by then, but if they are online I'll take that too.

My step children's mum has made me rage today too. We never ask for anything extra to the £30 a month she gives grudgingly in child maintenance. But we do ask for a small contribution towards new uniform. That's the only time we ever ask. She went off on one this time and said that's what the £30 was for and it wasn't her problem if dh can't afford it. Then she wrote a nasty message saying that we were using dsd as a weapon against her. And now there are posts on social media about us using her kids against her. Wtf. We were only expecting 10-20 quid at best and its for uniform which is important and necessary!
I said to dh don't worry I'll make up the difference... I normally do anyway but it just made me cross.

@LexiM www.amazon.co.uk/FELIWAY-Classic-Diffuser-Comforts-behavioural/dp/B0031TFZRK?tag=mumsnetforu03-21 this is the brand we use - we just bought refills because she's had this before. It really works on her but all cats are different (she can take or leave catnip for example). Hopefully this works for your cat!!

@NWnature can totally relate on the small flat with cat! Hopefully it'll be lovely and cosy and baby and car will get on well - hoping the same for my cat!!

@HerondaleDucks oh I'm sorry you have it too! I went through the anger and upset stage, but I've found this website really useful, especially the recipes and information. They also have a Facebook group which has helped a bit I think.

It's not what you need to find all of this out and deal with your dsd's mum being like that as well. Try to ignore her she sounds very bitter.

@BntTowers what's the website called? I think i would like to have a look and prepare myself as much as I can.

Do you think we will be induced and have our babies early? Cause the midwife kept talking about that when she called to tell me.

@LexiM to be honest, most of my group are spread out over a 20 minute radius, I think we're the only ones who live in our town. So I don't think we'll have many meet-ups considering it's a bit of a drive with a newborn. I wouldn't worry too much about missing out on connections from the group. Hopefully normal mum and baby groups will have started up again, I'm holding out hope!

Re the towel babies, we barely even used ours. They showed us different ways to hold them for breastfeeding positions and that was it! Mine creeped me out, considered storing it in the boot until the session 😂

@HerondaleDucks ahh, so sorry to hear that 😕 At least you know now and can work with them to control it. And annoying about your step-children's mum as well - this week can do one!

@HerondaleDucks ah I was going to post it and it completed slipped my mind! Was rushing to get ready for the NCT class! www.gestationaldiabetes.co.uk

Loads of recipes, I tried the brownies at the weekend to take to a friend's and they were a hit if you like dark chocolate.

If you join the gestational diabetes Facebook group a lot of them seem to be induced so I think it's more of a possibility. I've not seen a midwife yet, not until Thursday! I'm having to wait a week between diagnosis and actually getting the NHS appointment for a scan and information!