Early Oct Babies Part 7

[Treaclepie19]

Entering the final stretch! 😁

@MrsD1990 I think everyone needs to just do what they're comfortable with. Even those who aren't pregnant I kind of respect everyone's choices, we all have to find a way to deal with this situation the best we all can. You never know we might relax a bit by then xx

I have no idea yet about whether or not to let family hold the baby. I know my mum and dad would happily self isolate for a couple of weeks nearer to the time. SIL works in hospital so quite high risk but she has had the antibodies test and has “had it”. I think I will have to cross that bridge when I come to it. Do the hospitals give some guidance when sending people home?

I could not see the light and funny side of the chocolate situation last night, got very annoyed at DH, which escalated into worry and panic about not having everything ready in time for the baby getting here and about my midwife appointment on Friday and of they have to do the gd blood tests and possible results. I think I was just in a bad frame of mind already and it was just a stupid little thing that set me off. I've also been in a foul mood all day and feel like instead of having a day off I should have just worked. I've been moody and upset all day and therefore pushed myself too hard and my back is hurting so I was helped upstairs and now I'm stuck in bed.
I did end up going out to get some proper chocolate this morning, not really had any but it's all I can think about now I'm stuck up here with my bad back.

I hadn't thought too much about when baby is born and people visit. As far as I got is making people wash their hands for at least 20 seconds when they arrive. Limit them to being in the dining room only, possibly with a window open for ventilation. Getting them to wear a mask and using a clean blanket between their clothes and baby. It will only be mum, step dad, mil, fil and sil who visit until I feel better about seeing other people. I've not seen anyone else apart from these people since things have started opening up anyway. I would prefer if we kept visits to a minimum as well, but I feel that's going to be difficult to do as mil already wants to be round as much as possible.

Forgot to add @Quiffy I think a call to the midwife is needed, even if it's just to check as the swelling sounds really painful. Try compression socks, if you look on Amazon there's some good ones designed for runners.

Meant to say where is it you are all finding out about percentile of baby? Never heard this only that I am measuring what I should be xx

@Treacle81 I could be wrong but I think maybe if you are measuring too big or too small by a significant amount they may scan you and that's when they would tell you the percentile, but like I said I'm not sure on that. I'm measuring a week ahead and she didn't tell me percentile

@MrsD1990 😆😆😆 me neither!

@Treacle81 @blankiesandunicorns when they measure my bump it's plotted on a paper chart in my notes I take home so I can see which percentile I'm falling on each time.

Thanks @HerondaleDucks I hadn't seen that, going to have a look at those now!

@Quiffy yes just a thought if you are swelling quite a bit might be worth checking it's a normal amount with the midwife as I know it can be a sign of pre-eclampsia.

@treacle81 mine is plotted on a graph within the notes. The midwife said it's based on the size you measure plotted against your own measurements. Mine isn't a specific number though, it just shows a star plotted between the 50th and 90th percentile. At a guess looks to be around 80th.

Sorry @Treacle81 I was wrong just haven't been told mine! Thanks @LexiM @bluemoon2468

@MrsD1990 I haven't given much thought to visitors and ppl wanting to hold baby, but very helpful to read everyone 's thoughts here. Both our sets of parents live over 4 hours away. My parents' cancelled holiday got rebooked over the time of my due date so they are planning on driving across europe a week after baby is due. I would def feel very uncomfortable with them coming straight here, wanting to stay and hold baby. Hopefully they will go home and quarantine for 2 weeks or rent a place near us and keep a social distance. That's a good idea those suggesting keeping visitors to one room with handwashing, masks and a blanket between their clothes and baby. I will be so cautious at first when baby is so small and vulnerable and will probably relax a bit as she becomes more robust. My MIL I suspect will be desperate to see baby asap and devastated not to hold her. I think they will probably assume I want them to quarantine first so hopefully will be an easy conversation. My sister IL lives with them and works in a hospital so they might have to work something out there. As for rest of family I hope they will either be content with a socially distanced visit or hold off til baby is older, but that could be tricky as first baby in family and everyone is very excited. It depends a lot on how much of the virus is around by that point too, if the country manages to keep things going the right direction I will feel more relaxed, but it's worrying seeing what's happening across europe right now. I'm just going to hope for the best and decide nearer the time.

@Treacle81 the midwife marked it on a chart in my notes. The chart has lines marked out on it. 90, 50 and 10 I think?
She told me as I am measuring quite far behind they will see where it falls on the chart at 32 weeks and possibly send me for a growth scan.
I am sitting right on the 10th centile line so within 'normal' but the very lowest end of normal.

Someone asked about breathlessness... Yes, I can't walk up or down stairs or to my kitchen without feeling breathless, I have a numb left leg and pain in my right theigh. Anyone else??

@Buzz22 a friend of mine has been the same throughout her pregnancy, measuring small and had a few growth scans but baby is fine, just tucked quite far back and she is now 39 weeks and due anytime and has suddenly popped out! So try not to worry

Thanks everyone, I’m going to give her a text when I get home from holiday. Should really have brought my notes oops as her number is in there. I don’t have any other signs if preeclampsia atm but my mum had it so I’ve been taking the aspirin since 12 weeks. I’m thinking it’s all the walking as I’ve spent months on my bum.

@AutumnBabyWinterMummy it sounded great ❤️ I am definitely missing normal 😹

@CouscousEvaporator with you on the breathlessness. The lungs are definitely getting squashed in there

@MrsD1990 I think I will as long as cases are low near me I will. Both sets of parents will be fine and I’m not sure what other family or friends will do about visiting. Most of our family live hours away in opposite directions and I’m not driving there so that makes it easier for avoiding lots of people.

@otterbaby I’m so sorry on your mum not being able to be one of your birth partners :(

@BntTowers I hope you’re okay, it sounds like you need to take some time out for your mental health with something relaxing if you can. It’s a very stressful time with a lot of pressure on your mind and body.

I'm breathless as well. @babymama09 I have had some aches and numbness but I'd say get it checked out if its all the time.

I get really nervous about blood clots in pregnancy though so I'm extra aware.
Our lung capacity is reduced so it's not unusual to be breathless.

Morning girls, thanks, I'll need to say at next appt in Aug as have no physical notes either. They said it's all done on an app now and even that is blank 😑. I am also breathless when out walking and sometimes when doing housework. New symptom the past week has been a very watery left eye, worst in the evening xx

Mines on the app too @Treacle81 and my graph isn't on there so I know I'm measuring a week ahead but no clue what it is on the graph.

I'm having eye issues still. I think they're just dry but they've been so uncomfortable

I have a numb left thigh @babymama09 it happens when I sit for long periods or walk for long periods. My mum said she had it too. It drives me insane.
I've been doing yoga to help it but it doesn't always work.

@bluemoon2468 and @mrsD1990 you've given me loads to think about!

I'm super cautious right now and planned to continue after the baby is born for 2-3 months but I haven't laid down any rules as such. My parents (divorced) are 80 miles away - dad can drive up but won't isolate. Mum is scared to leave her town and says she'll try and drive up but ultimately will make excuses until we go to her, but, she will isolate (I think). MIL has just started talking about Xmas, she's 87, 300 miles away and I'm not sending my exhausted husband on four (there, back, there, back) 6 hour car journeys to collect her. Friends though, ooh, I think maybe no holding til 2-3 months depending on covid stats? I worry baby will miss social interaction and germ exposure - but do people have as many germs if they're isolated? Maybe other new parents if they're also shielding?

It wasn't meant to be this complicated!

Random question for you all, I haven't bee dying my hair because, well, lockdown - no one's going to see it and it looks like a good chance to see if grey suits me (I decided I'm not ready yet)

I'm about to dye it red, I've dyed my hair all sorts of colours in the past and for some reason I'm having an "aagh, what if it goes wrong, what if the nct group don't like me because of my hair, what if my baby doesn't like it" craziness.

Is anyone else feeling weirdly anxious about stuff that didn't used to be a big deal?

For those with watery or dry eyes, it may be hayfever. Mine have been really itchy the past few days. Not that you can do much about hayfever during pregnancy.

@Buzz22 -you should have got a sheet in your hand held notes with all the community midwives including your Midwife's number on it!

I've only put a stone on but my bump is measuring big by 2 weeks so I dunno!! Guess I could have lost weight or muscle elsewhere though I don't feel like I have!!

I read there was something in tonic water that you weren't supposed to have while you were pregnant or too much if it isn't very good for baby but I can't remember what? I used to drink it sine times with DD before I read this and she's fine tho!!

I've not been weighed but I weigh myself!!

Xxx

Reading everyone else's plans I'm getting a little concerned about my MIL turning up out the blue to come and see the baby. She lives a 4 hour drive away and is a heavy indoor smoker. So i was already a bit wary about taking the baby to visit her anyway regardless of covid. I think the blanket and handwashing with masks seem to be the best we can do!

@Alana1984 yep I do. I wish I'd managed to keep it under control when I was pregnant with my 4yo because my OCD spiralled from avoiding things in pregnancy.

I've got some artifical tear drops for my dry eyes. The doctor said if it doesn't help then phone back and I can have either antibiotic drops or allergy drops. Hoping it'll sort itself out!

@Alana1984 funny the things we think of isn't it. Baby will love you no matter what colour your hair is. I'm sure your hair will look great anyway!

Does anyone call the baby by their name when talking about him/her at home? My husband did it yesterday and I was almost taken aback and i said "wow that's his name!" I know it sounds weird but we decided on it and then didn't use it much because we were both worried we would accidentally use it in conversation and we both want to keep it secret until hes here. Now I'm thinking we should use it more at home in conversation almost to try it out and get used to it but then I'm worried I will change my mind haha I know it's silly really and I am totally over thinking this!