Good luck today @Treaclepie19!
@Whiffle77 I did think you were prob just busy, sorry for dragging you back haha! Good to hear you are ok, and sorry for your upcoming anniversary xx
Thanks @footprintsintheslow and everyone else who wanted to punch my boss in the face haha! So I used my day off on Wednesday to draft an email listing chronologically things that have happened with relation to the refusal to do a risk assessment to me, and sent it to the (kinda) HR lady, my boss, and his boss. 20 mins later he marched out to where I was working and stormed towards me shouting "Down tools, you're coming with me - NOW". I stood my ground and said calmly "gosh, sounds ominous!" and laughed, at which he suddenly changed his tone and became more friendly and explained that I needed to sign some out of date risk assessments. There had clearly been a frantic struggle between him and his boss to get things in order. I signed all the (normal) risk assessments and then he signed off this ad hoc risk assessment that I'd done myself weeks ago that he'd refused to sign and had kept making me do (well, asking me to do and me refusing mostly) stuff on the "red" list that I'd compiled (heavy lifting etc). He went really over the top and has restricted me to 5 activities: weeding, edging, raking, dead-heading and pruning. He took pleasure in telling me I can't use a barrow in case it's too heavy, and I said "how and I going to transport my tools" (because carrying them by hand is heavier!) but he refused to budge, so I'm going to have to take one tool out with me at a time, carry it, and then bring it back in as soon as I'm finished because its a H&S risk to leave your tools lying around (hence the barrow to keep the area tidy) and I bet he'd absolutely love to jump on me now for 'breaking the rules'. He also threatened me that if anything changes with my pregnancy health wise (i.e. doctor reveals a new risk) and I dont inform them IMMEDIATELY then they are not liable for any risk to me. Lol lol lol. Incredible what an email can do. Even though I have been slightly restricted unnecessarily I'm actually reasonably happy - its the time of year for starting to rake leaves and soon I'll be starting the big winter cut down and prune so there's plenty I can do, and no-one is going to keep asking me to do random stuff with the hedge-trimmer or get me to mow all day etc. He tried to give me a bit of "you might have cost me my job" and I bit my tongue on "YOU might have cost you your job" and simply said all I want is a risk assessment. I offered to speak to management to make that clear and he absolutely crapped himself and was like "no no no" (he HATES me talking to management). Him and his boss were in a fluster for a couple of hours trying to smear and blame each other for various things, then their boss (next level up) rang me and I had an annoyingly slimy phone call with him where he tried not to say anything which would directly admit discrimination (I made clear that I had been discriminated against on every level, but said all I want is a bloody (didn't swear) risk assessment and now magically it's been done when it was being repeatedly refused before) and he was trying to make out how I'm an extra anxious mother because of my previous miscarriage. I just let him get on with it. Likewise my boss was trying to re-write history and pretend that he had asked me to do x, or y to get a risk assessment done but I wasn't having any of it and kept correcting him about what actually happened. I also have a witness to some of it. His boss sent me this really sanitised and bland email trying to keep me in my place, and after a few hours everyone had settled down as they realised I wasn't going to crucify them and they could probably just brush all this under the carpet and get away with it.
Irritating but also now my boss is suddenly being really really aware of everything he says to me, he's suddenly being super friendly where he was basically veering into bullying behaviour before, and I don't think he'll be fighting me over absurd stuff - hopefully not in the next weeks anyway and I can have an easy life now until I go off (8 weeks!). And suddenly I'm not expected to do anything risky or overwork myself during my pregnancy. But yeah my organisation is so annoyingly run, as I can now see from some of your replies about how this would be taken super seriously at your places of work. I imagine for example my boyfriends law firm in central London would probably have axed someone for all that - safer for them!
Ugh. After all that I realised I hadn't felt baby Errol kicking all day (just 3 little kicks all day) and at 7.30 I cracked and phoned the midwives and went into the hospital. They had a listen and all was ok, plus he started shunting me repeatedly in the cervix and bladder (I don't know why but this is the only place I can feel him with my anterior placenta! Sometimes I feel him a little higher up but it's so faint in comparison I have to be really concentrating!) whilst I was in the waiting room! Knackered though as there was a bit of a wait. I might be being referred for an additional scan just in case, which is reassuring.
It's Friday! Yay!
@SammiLou2312 crossing my fingers for a positive update from you soon!!! Hope you're doing ok! xx