July Bus Graduates ❤️

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Okay I'm still super nervous but time to take the plunge and started a Grad bus for the recent BFPs from the main thread. According to NHS calculator I'm due 18th March and it's #1 for me 😬

@Cocoblue22
@LittleRa
@Dipsy77
@Noble89
@Skip86

Ahh where abouts are you? I'm close to Greenwich : blackheath way.

Oh COME ON! Suncream is basic. It's the hottest we have ever known it, suncream is the absolute basic. You were right to say something, even though it went down like a sack of shit, but it sounds like he will always defend her regardless of whether she's right or wrong, so don't take it personally and don't let it ruin tonight for you. Stand your ground though, and next time she wants to have the kids in weather like this then tell her where to go...

@mrsmummy1111 So close! Bexley!

I raised it with him last night and said your mum could punch me square in the face in front of the kids and you would find a way to defend her. Obviously this makes me ridiculous and irrational?!

Apparently how I responded to her was rude - I said I was furious that she let my children get burnt. There's no excuse for it and she gave me a load of excuses "I did cream them/didn't realise" not once did she offer an apology. But it's ok for her to be rude to me.

Problem is she has manipulated him for years - plays the poor lonely woman card, my children have all left me, woe is me and the guilt trip I've seen over the last ten years makes me despise her.

Yes would love a little fb group in a few weeks!
I'm between Stoke on Trent / Crewe in the North West 😊

@LittleRa I'm really struggling with sleep, pretty much my only symptom. Wake up every day at 5am when I've been rolling out of bed at 8/8.30 to WFH in lockdown. Proper not a morning person 😟 keep meaning to get up and do some exercise but never happens 😂

@zippityzip mother in law sounds like a nightmare! Surely you'd be really upset and apologetic if you burnt your grandchildren?!

@Skip86 congrats on the scan! 🎉

I was so on it last week with making nice/healthy food, but don't know if it's the heat or preg symptom but my laziness/brain fog means I've missed half the stuff I needed off the online shop so going to have a right random selection of stuff to pick up later 😂

I grew up in bexley!!!!! @zippityzip I went to chis & sid!

Yeah in those situations it actually doesn't matter what you say, even if you'd said "thanks for letting the kids get burnt" you'd have been the arsehole for saying it, not her for actually letting the kids get burnt. Some people would be able to hold their tongue for an easy life, but that's never been me. I physically can't help myself from saying something even though I know it'll end up in an argument. So you've got my sympathy and know that you're not alone, but don't back down. You're not irrational, she sounds like a royal pain in the arse.

@zippityzip urgh she sounds just like my ex's mum. Same lonely woman card, expecting us to visit at least twice a week, how dare we ever go to visit my family. Very manipulative. Said some really nasty things to me and the denied it ever happened. So awful!!
Sunscreen is basic stuff and you are totally right to kick up a fuss as she doesn't seem to realise what she's done wrong?! She should have been apologising profusely and feeling mega guilty - I know I would have!! So frustrating with OH. I hope you can set it all aside and enjoy the scan x
Is he allowed in or has to wait in the car?

@Skip86 yayyy so glad it went well and little bean is merrily growing away in there x

@mrsmummy1111 I've got an 8 week scan booked in for 29 August - feels like an absolute age away.

I'm near Cambridge. Will be moving house to a village nearby next week! 🥳
I grew up in SE london though - Lewisham area 💃

@Mococo1 thinking of you this morning - got everything crossed for you!! X

@mrsmummy1111 That's down the road from me! Small world!!

He said I handled it badly, I don't agree but I apologised for my initial reaction and said that I was upset and angry. I didn't even shout, I said, look at her she's sunburnt.

He's still standing firmly on the side of his mother. I may just go to the scan alone tonight if he can't support me what's the point.

@samilicious Did not receive an apology - I received excuses "well I didn't realise" "it was probably the wind" (wind ffs) Just say sorry, it would have gone a long way with me. But no, she's "upset" at my reaction so I'm the bad guy.

Same thing happened a few years ago. Youngest was tiny - she did something absolutely outrageous that was completely dangerous and I did go off on one. Rightly so. DH on this occasion agreed that what she did was wrong (one and only time - and had he not I would have divorced him).

However, because I was angry at the risk she put my child in, she turned on the water works and became the victim. So that my DH was over there consoling her. She's very very clever.

@Amy00 it's a nightmare isn't it. I shouldn't feel in competition to her for my husband. It really makes me sick that she treats him like that and she can do no wrong.
Sun cream is the utter basic in 35 degrees at the sea side. But clearly I'm asking too much. He's allowed at the scan as it's private but if we aren't talking to each other I really don't see the point in him coming.

@Skip86 glad the scan went well!

So interesting to know where everyone is from- I'm from Manchester (slightly terrified that someone I know will be on one of these threads 😂)

Have had cramps since BFP but they seem worse this morning 😕 so scared about something going wrong ☹️

So there's someone on the springtime ladies fb group that I have a mutual friend with! I don't know the person and the mutual friend is an old work colleague from a few years ago. So it is probably ok but still makes me nervous. Should I leave the group?!

I think I'm the only one not from England 😆 I'm in sunny Glasgow, Scotland. I'd be up for joining a Facebook group in a couple of weeks if anyone sets one up... a bit worried someone will see I'm on it but as @SmileyT has said, I'd probably quickly scan the list of members when I join first!

Glad your scan went well @Skip86

@zippityzip oh gosh so sorry the kids got burnt you were right to say something! I hope he realises you were right apologises to you as you are a concerned mother and you can both go to the scan together but I would feel the same if my DH was like that 😩 mummys boy to the death but my mil is alright most of the time lol

@Skip86 so glad your scan went well!

I'm so nervous this morning 👀

ALSO all hell broke loose yesterday I spent the entire evening crying and feeling shit about myself.

We went to a very small wedding on Sunday (impromptu in a very large garden) and I had nothing to wear as it was boiling! (for religious reasons arms legs chest needs to be covered modestly) so I settled on borrowing DHs cousins dress (she's 21 flat chested size ten) and it was a satin wrap dress!

I on the other hand have big boobs (which seem to be growing!) it wasn't the most flattering I agree but I put on a a cami underneath as it seems ridiculous to not go just because u look rubbish.

DH sent a pic to his parents of us (one I hated and told him to delete as the dress had folded up a bit on the belly area making me look like a fat ass hippo)

My mother in law called and asked me if I was pregnant because I LOOKED IT in the dress (I am not showing just fat 😭) I literally felt so shit! As if I would be showing and not telling her!

It upsets me even more that I'm uncertain of this pregnancy and now she thinks I am. They know we are trying because of our MC in April (little do they know we got pregnant inbetween and MC again too). She had infertility issues so I thought she would never dare ask me to release the pressure a bit

She's usually brill and it's probs her mother's instinct but she's made me feel so low about myself its unreal (I could be extra emotional right now) you should never ask if you aren't sure or atleast be subtle and say I'm glowing not that I look like Im pregnant! I don't even want to go to her house cos I feel like she's gna stare at my fat belly I'm so paranoid already!

I'm thinking of joining up to slimming world again so that I don't gain much during pregnancy but I'm so hungry all the time! 😩 I'm so angry I will probs be petty and end up saying I need to cut down on food at their house when I'm there for dinners as I clearly I look pregnant when I'm not even showing 😂 x

I'm from west London ladies! Originally from Kent but moved up here when I got married a year and a half agoish x

@samilicious you're the closest to me. I live in Shropshire 😊

@zippityzip OMG she sounds like my MIL to be! Mine is also very pesimistic about everything. OH doesn't see how manipulative she is. She has really annoyed me with our wedding already. When OH brother announced they were having a baby a few years back she was so rude and angry and told them they won't be able to manage and that she is too young to be a gran. OH dad passed away when he was 13, so I think shes just suffered a lot since then, but she has a wonderful bf for the past 7 years. OH wants to tell her on Friday, I know there will be some comments that OH isn't expecting, 'why didn't you wait till you got married' will definitely be one

@2020mission I went to Glasgow Uni! Love that city

@Mococo1 please don't let her comment get you down, she definitely is just excited and hoping you are! Unfortunately I think women forget about some difficulties they faced and just ask questions they would have hated to receive themselves. You need a pamper day!

@Skip86 congratulations on the scan! Can't wait to see pictures.

@zippityzip your MIL sounds an absolute nightmare. Like you say it's her refusal to take accountability and say sorry that would drive me mad. Like I'm sure she loves her grandchildren and wouldn't let them burn intentionally...so just say omg I'm so sorry I didn't realise they were burning and I feel awful!

@blodyn91 yaass! Glad I tempted you into the baby buying! Let's have a look, I'm obsessed with looking for clothes at the moment but I will refrain from buying anything else until after 12 weeks. Even then I'll probably just buy a few boring bits like plain white vests etc, I'll leave most of the shopping until I know the gender.

@Mococo1 oh I'm sorry you're feeling rubbish. I do think this is a really difficult stage of pregnancy because you do start to look and feel different but you don't look pregnant yet and barely believe it's true. I'm really struggling with bloating so sometimes my belly is flat like normal and other times even my OH has said you look massive 😂. Luckily for him I know he's not saying it to be mean, he's just surprised how much it fluctuates.

Does anyone have names picked out? We've had ours since I got pregnant last time and they've not changed. Blake for a girl and Lincoln for a boy.

Also totally down for a FB group for just the ladies from this thread perhaps?

Hi ladies... I know I'm not a July graduate but can I join this chat? I'm really aware that I'm stressing out about all thinks line progression and cramps but I don't feel I want to share so much on the TTC bus as a few people are struggling with the BFPs and I assume the chat related to that. I just don't want to add to those feelings because we all know how shit that feels... So as we don't have an August grads bus, thought maybe I'd hop on here for a bit if that's OK? I can see @Ltay2 & @blodyn91 are here so I'm not the only Aug grad here? Xx

@zippityzip what?! Your MIL is bang out of line! However I really hope you and OH can reconcile enough for him to come to your scan tonight xx

@Sausage1990 Of course you are welcome here!! 🥳

Also, I am in Lancashire, near to Preston.

@Sausage1990 👋🏻 I jumped in here too and got my BFP on 6th August. We're only a few weeks behind really. I quite that some people are further ahead as its my first baby so I'm clueless about what's to come and it's helping following along 😃

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Thanks @Ltay2... I never thought I'd be so on edge AFTER getting the BFP. I thought it was all in the run up but it turns out not.

Confession time, Ive actually been stalking the start of this page desperate for some reassurance about line progression or rather lack of it in this stage but then getting it in a few days. I found your photos really helpful, especially @SmileyT who didn't seem to get progression on the ic for a few days around the 13dpo mark but then got some doog progression after 16dpo. I feel like a stalker ahaha so sorry.

I am keen to see some test line progression for reassurance as im still so early - 4 weeks today. I did a frer on 12dpo and 13dpo which came out the same so I'm guna wait now until until 16dpo before doing another frer. But I did an ic today as well as the last 2 days and I can't see any progression. They just look the same. It's making me worry a bit tbh.

I had a chemical pregnancy in Jan after a positive on 31st Dec at 13dpo and that line got paler until about 18dpo when it was negative then af arrived the next day. This lack of progression is making me so apprehensive. I just needed to share because I'm afraid this is going to go the same way as my last BFP. 😬

Hi @2020mission 👋🏻 I agree it's good to see what others are going through only a few weeks ahead. First for me too. How are you doing? Xx

@Sausage1990 I've also been worrying about line progression. The ladies here talked some sense into me 😆 we're all different so need to just chill and let things happen at the pace they do. I've not tested again since Monday and will hold off until the end of the week (just before we're telling parents at a birthday meal). Other than that I'm doing good. No symptoms except for tender breasts. I've had a bit of a watery mouth but it's been good in a way as it's encouraging me to sip water more. How are you doing?

@Sausage1990 I can see a progression on the IC. I have only taken 1 frer so no line progression to report. I have a clear blue to take this Friday and that will be the last test I take. I can understand how hard it is for those of you who have had CP before, but please please try not to stress, and do not compare lines with others.
So Im looking up maternity pay at work- It says 90% of average weekly pay for 6 weeks, then its £151 a week 😣 how crap! Its dated as 2011, so hoping its changed 😩

@Sausage1990 here's my FRER tests from
top to bottom:

12 DPO
13 DPO
16 DPO

My 16 DPO looks no different to 13 DPO so I panicked, but as long as I'm not bleeding and it's not getting lighter, I'm trying not to worry. Have you got photos of yours?