July Bus Graduates ❤️

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Okay I'm still super nervous but time to take the plunge and started a Grad bus for the recent BFPs from the main thread. According to NHS calculator I'm due 18th March and it's #1 for me 😬

@Cocoblue22
@LittleRa
@Dipsy77
@Noble89
@Skip86

@SmileyT She knows 😂 what a good friend though for picking up on it!

Ladies I'm meant to be 5+3 today - according to my LMP.

Took a CBD this morning, so FMU.

Says 2-3 weeks? Is that right? I'm a bit worried now.

@zippityzip these CB have a massive range so they aren't supposed to be spot on, I know it's easier said than done but don't give this result too much weight. Also you are probably working out weeks from LMP but CB is time from conception so depending on ovulation date and implantation date it can be different. I worked out it could be 18days from first BFP to get that 3+ even if hcg is doubling and I think they say it doesn't always double. And yes my friend knows but she knows I'll say something when I'm ready, although she will try and coax it out without asking 😂x

@Bl0ndi3 so jealous of your nap yesterday, I left the house at 6.55am and got back about 8.30pm and felt dead on my feet 😴 no wonder you need a nap if you're up at nearly midnight aswell x

@Cocoblue22 yay let us know how you get on today, exciting to think you'll be able to tell people afterwards aswell x

@SmileyT Ah conception and LMP are about two weeks apart aren't they. Oh good, I was reading threads where the weeks indicator was low and people had MCs 😰

How will you tell her when you're ready? I'm meeting my two best friends for dinner tomorrow. DH agreed I could tell them 😂 because I NEEEEED someone to talk about it with. So I've ordered two cards off Moonpig saying "Only best friends get promoted to...... Auntie! Again!" Hopefully they will think it's cute.

@zippityzip I got 2-3 until I was 6w sounds fine to me x

@zippityzip I feel like staying away from google is probably the best thing in these early days, for every story of somebody saying something is an indication there are another 3 stories of people saying they were worried but went on to have healthy pregnancies ❤️ ahh that's such a lovely idea for your friends. I'm planning on telling my parents at around 22 weeks on their birthday and getting them a little card saying 'time to pull the baby stuff out of storage, it's time for your first granddaughter/ another grandson to join the football team' 😂 for my friend I'll probably just say 'you are allowed to ask me now'

@zippityzip I wouldn't worry if it helps the threshold for 3+ weeks on CB is 2173 so people might not even get to that by week 7 and it's normal xxx

@Cocoblue22 That's reassuring thank you.

@SmileyT Honestly you have willpower of steel how can you keep quiet for 20+ weeks. I've got just shy of two weeks until my scan and then we can safely tell the DCs and THEN we will tell parents. It's so stressful as I see my mum at least twice a week.

@Mococo1 Christ I had no idea on those figures. Thank you! Isn't it unreal how the gap can be so huge but still normal?!

@zippityzip how far will you be at your scan? About to start getting ready shortly and start holding my pee for the full bladder 😬 x

@Cocoblue22 Eeeeek exciting!! Please let us know how you get on? What time is it?

I'll be 7+1 according to my LMP - wish I booked one sooner but I didn't want to go and not see a heartbeat. Would make me worse!

@zippityzip it's at 11 I'll let you know I'm 7+1 today too x

Morning ♥️

I dunno if this is pregnancy related or not but the last 2 nights when I've been lying down trying to sleep I've been getting this really weird feeling in my chest, it's almost like a heaviness or anxiety type feeling but I have to sit up and take a deep breath after a little while because I can't stand the feeling. It took me ages to get to sleep last night because no matter how I lay I felt it and it's awful :(

Any ideas 😂

@Bl0ndi3 Weird but I've had that too. I do have anxiety though (sound so precious I'm not!!!) I did the same just moved around and kept breathing.
I'm guessing it's hormonal changes, general worry, more blood flow.

@SmileyT wow 22weeks! I plan to tell most friends/outside family after my 20w scan hopefully I won't be showing too much by then x

immediate family at 3months provided I get there no bumps 🤞🏽 DH wanted to tell his/my fam after 7w scan if all is okay but I've said no - I don't think he understands but I get asked all the questions and I hate the attention 😂 I really just don't want to jinx anything too soon!x

@Cocoblue22 Ten minutes to go! Good luck! Excited for you.

@zippityzip @Mococo1 yeah to be honest my mum is a busybody and if it was up to me I'd wait until after I'd given birth, but not sure I'd be able to get away with Christmas 😂 I'm the same as you @Mococo1 I don't want all the attention and people giving me their unsolicited advice 🙈

@Bl0ndi3 yeah that does sound like anxiety, I used to suffer with it quite a lot, I now listen to a hypnosis thing at bedtime (as long as OH isn't in there) which really calms me and helps with breathing x

@SmileyT @Mococo1 The only person that'll give me unsolicited advice will be my MIL. She's already made it clear that she thinks any more than two children is selfish and unnecessary. She had two, and she's obviously absolutely perfect so therefore must be right.

She's so tight as well I can almost predict her reaction - it'll be "why did you do that?" "I'll have to buy another Xmas present every year now" etc etc. She can't be happy for anyone else.

When we got engaged she rolled her eyes and grimaced 😂 I really hope this pregnancy winds her up.

@zippityzip I'm having a bit of a crappy day at work feeling exhausted and that little rant about your MIL actually made me laugh out loud so thanks 😂 my mum is the opposite and will be so over the moon and I just need to reduce the amount of days she'll want to 'pop over' to mine to catch up, it's my first though so I might change my mind as I go through x

@zippityzip Sorry but that's really tickled me. Please tell me MIL says these things out loud? Some people have no shame.

DH is from up north so we don't get to see the in-laws too often (much to my delight), but MIL is very much in the camp of "Mrsmummy stole my son away from me" (despite the fact that we met 8 years ago, 6 years after he moved down here and had already decided not to go back up there, but that's a whole other thread). When we told her we were pregnant with DS, her response was...

"Oh. That's nice for you. Shame I won't get to see the baby very much."

DH also has a big gob and told her we were thinking about trying for another baby, and she decided to call me up afterwards and tell me I should really think about whether it's the right time for another baby. With COVID going on, and the fact that DS is only a year old (he was at the time), and she had 3 years between all her kids so maybe I should wait another year and then start trying? Ok great, thanks for the unsolicited advice, I'll be sure to take that on board

@mrsmummy1111 She actually told you to TTC for a time frame that SHE approves 😂 honestly where do they think they get the right to decide that?! Unless she pays your bills and helps raise your children, I think NOT!

Ah I feel your pain, I stole her little boy away because he moved in with me, ten minutes away. Her DH left her 20 years ago because she's a miserable bitch and she had this unhealthy reliance on her son to do all "partner" type things with her. Go on gigs, fix her electrics. I let it go often but when she demanded he paint her wall on our wedding anniversary so put my foot down occasionally.

Our wedding day she had a face like a smacked arse even the photographer said he didn't send me half the pics because she ruined them.

It was funny because before we had kids she had no interest in either of us. We wouldn't hear from her for WEEKS. When the babies started arriving she became utterly neurotic and it's nearly broken me and DH. He sees it a lot more now - but can still get defensive over her.

@zippityzip @mrsmummy1111 these MIL stories are making me laugh! 😂 Mines really nice but will defo give me her unsolicited advice which at times can be patronising but I know she means really well!

il hear 100 stories of when she was pregnant - when she knew I was before preg before she made sure to make a point in telling me that sex&pregnancy is a no no😂 sorry babes but we've defo blown that idea from the Minute if conception onwards and with that scanning wand shoved up me yday 🤣

My mum on the other hand is a baby hog and I expect she'll practically move in once little one is here without any notice 😩 perfect for me but not so much for DH 🤣

@Cocoblue22 thinking of you hope the scan is going well xx

@SmileyT I don't normally suffer from anxiety and I can't say I'm feeling anxious about anything when it happens but it is so strange!

My step mum can be a real pain she used to work with babies and therefore knows everything ever to be known about babies, children and parenting obviously. She also is never wrong (that's a lie, she is, often) so you can't disagree with her because she will actually lie to make herself in the right. I dread dealing with that! I am half tempted to just tell her to shut up unless I actually ask for your advice, the first time she does and hope that nips it in the bud 😂

@Mococo1 I've been told that as well by my MIL previously - I'm banned from sex in the first trimester apparently. I don't discuss anything remotely intimate with her why would she tell me this 😂

Best response I've got is "I've the other two alive thanks".

Or just smile and nod and don't commit to anything they say.

I hope to god I'm not interfering when my kids have kids!