January 2021 due date bus 4

[BabyG123]

Nearing the end of bus 3 so here is bus 4!

11+5 feeling rougher than ever but excited what's to come

Morning/Afternoon Ladies,

Been feeling very out of sorts. Had a very intense conversation with my dad yesterday and he managed to offend me once again by calling me Retarded and that my twins are retards and my unborn child will be one too. That his going to call my family Dr and ask them to send me the abortion pills needed.

Honestly I'm so angry inside that I feel it radiating from my body. I spoke to my partner yesterday and he just held me and didn't know what to say he just held me and comforted me knowing that this is a traumatising word that was used over and over again in my childhood and has left me with resentment and anxiety.

I've been feeling little to no symptoms and I'm just getting more and more worried as I'm hoping that I haven't had a mmc but I haven't been bleeding so I don't know what going on anymore. I spoke to my midwife this morning and she said I'll be getting my maternity notes when I go for my scan.

I'm 10+6 today and my 12 week scan is on the 22nd just hoping it all goes well. 😢

Hope your all well and sorry for the sad post just needed a little rant. 😔

@IshaPoet I’m really sad and sorry to read your message. Pregnancy emotions are difficult enough to deal with without having that added to it.
Unfortunately we can’t control what others say but we can try (Yes very very hard) and control how we deal with it.
I don’t really have any advice other than stay strong and try to surround yourself with only those that can make you happy.
Take care xx

Hey ladies. Sorry not been chatty lately been anxious about my 12 week scan that was today. All went well, so amazing to see little baby moving about, opening their mouth and waving haha! I’m measuring further along at 12+4 so due date of 17th of January! So exciting

@IshaPoet sorry to hear what you are going through. Wish some people would just keep their mouth shut. Try ignore and just focus on your and your little family as that’s all that matters!

@devilliams @Lollipop93 honestly if I could dash them in the bin I would. Because they've made it clear that my autism and my children's is a stain on the family name to the point where I don't even want to be associated with them.

@Lollipop93 Also had my scan today, although I’m not quite 12 weeks yet. But it was lovely to see a blurry flickering heartbeat. After an MMC last year, it was the loveliest sight and the relief is real! 😊

@IshaPoet I can't believe the audacity of your dad. He is supposed to be their grandad!!! And your dad. Big stride back and protect your own 🥰

Had my scan today and after a c section last year it felt like the sonographer was reentering my body through the pressure. Jesus

@BabyG123 I literally sent him a formal text to say I'm disgusted by his use of the word towards myself and my daughters that whatever decision I make I make and that I will no longer be coming to his house with my children and he will no longer be able to see them as I won't allow that word to define myself or my children.

I hate the term and the fact that he used it so casually like it was nothing it was is so disgusting and vile we are not in the old days when those words and terms are acceptable. He hasn't replied and I'm not waiting for him too I've blocked him and all of my family on all social and communication levels text WhatsApp and Facebook they can all go choke on a rather big and disgusting 🍆.

Sorry for being the depressing one in the group I'm just the unfortunate one that has the shittest family around. I'll be better in a few days but on another note SS has signed me off and have noted they don't feel I am a cause for concern considering I'm doing all I can to benefit myself and my family.

Thank you all for being so supportive.

@IshaPoet your post resonated with me so much. Your dad sounds like a prize arsehole, sorry but he does. What hurtful, unkind and disgusting things to say. Life is too short to have people in your life who are abusive - what he has said is abusive.

Can you set a boundary with him? Tell him it’s unacceptable and if he crosses the line of verbal abuse again and name calling you will have to step back from having contact?

May sound harsh but screw having that abuse in your life. You deserve better.

@IshaPoet x posted with each other :)

@Celibacydidntwork honestly I've been hearing it since I was 9 years old up until I was 14 I had a stutter and found it extremely hard to express myself without getting a wallop and called retard or dumb dumb so it's normal but I've done my best to get over that trauma and move on but to hear it again after 17 years just hurts on a different level.

They didn't make any attempt to have me checked by a specialist or get any type of help it was just I'm slow dumb or the famous word retarded.
So I've decided I won't allow my daughters and unborn child to subjected to that type of abuse or negativity.

Family isn't what your born into but what you make and I refuse hand on heart to allow that cycle to continue.

@IshaPoet I’m so very sorry you have had to deal with that throughout your life. How bloody horrific!!
I’m glad you’ve found the strength to block them. That is best for you and your family.

@IshaPoet I'm not surprised you had a stutter with all that going on! Bullies!
Mother bear protect her twins from such a thing now.

Onwards and upwards

@devilliams @BabyG123 I worked hard for years to get my reading and writing to the point where I was happy and confident I am now a published poet with two books out and I do open mics and YouTube videos for my poetry with absolutely no support from my family but they want the benefits of it like the money and everything else.

Like I said before if I could dash them in the trash I would, I'm grateful that I have supportive friends and a family I created.

@IshaPoet well done! Another plus is it'll make you a better supportive paren my being exactly the opposite of them!

@IshaPoet so sorry to hear your post. You your darling girls and unborn baby are better off without that negativity in your life. Your a strong woman.
@BabyG123 so happy your scan went well.

Consultant finally rang me today and I explained about my anxiety with it been the time of my MMC with my twins. She booked me in for a scan next Wednesday to calm me. I am so anxious tho. Hope everyone else is ok xx

@IshaPoet Well done. Good for you. You should be very proud of yourself.

I'm 12 wks today and still feeling really sick. Am about the same size as I was at 20 wks last time, just stockpiled the chunk around thighs and tummy and boobs!

Hello everyone.
Took me ages to catch up. I have been so busy and I got obsessed with a series 😂

I am happy to say the last three days I've had energy! Finally. I'm 15 weeks tomorrow and today I have not been sick at all!
Since Monday I noticed a shift and I've felt better each day (touch wood)
I'm hoping to get out a bit more do some walking and try and slow the weight gain... (I say eating a cherry bakewell - not usually a fan unless it's a bakewell flavoured gin but the baby wants the cake?)

I love DP mum and dad. Very sweet but they're so cross with me for not finding out the sex. We saw them two days ago and I felt I was being told off like a naughty child.
They were actually annoyed with me as they want to buy things. DP wanted to know the sex but I think he's changed his mind now to the idea of surprise and is looking forward to it. He did stick up for me but it was a bit disheartening. I don't want to now find out to please everyone else when it's not what I want. I felt pressured with my boys to find out the sex so I did. This time I really don't want to.

I hope you're all good. I need a pencil when I read the thread when behind as there's stuff I want to reply to everyone then I get to the end and I've forgotten!!
Is anyone bumpy?? I want to see some pictures!

On the jean front, I bought top shop Joni black coated maternity jeans as I love coated ones and the stretchy bit started so low they felt awful. Like I was wearing my trousers on the crotch. So they're going back. But the joni denim I'm living in.

We bought the car seat yesterday and crib !
The car seat comes tomorrow so I'll post a picture when it does and I bought the Chico next to me dream crib because it looked cute xxx

Sorry it's so long x

@BabyG123 thanks for mentioning the belt. Someone bumped us from behind at lights when I was about 10 weeks and I've been paranoid about the belt since. And I need a bird gate update...

@dixiedo glad you are feeling better, gives me hope (I'm 12+2)! Tiredness is the worst thing for me, insomnia doesn't help. Going on holiday end of this month so hope I have more energy for that!

Emm can you tell parents in law that you can buy a lot of unisex baby items...! It's entirely up to you when you find out the sex. I personally don't want to specifically dress my baby by gender. Might need to drop a lot of hints to avoid being given a wardrobe of pink or blue. And also the baby can use / wear whatever even if some people deem it to be the "wrong" colour so they can shop to their hearts content now, if they want!

Can't say I have a bump yet, just bloating.

Hi, again just been catching up. Congrats everyone on their scans. Such a wonderful experience.

I had mine on Wed and combined with bloods got intermediate risk for Down Syndrome so the hospital are doing the Harmony test for me. Have to wait 2 weeks for the results. Am 14 weeks so will be 16 when find out.
Waiting is literally so hard. Want to tell people but waiting until results are back. Anyone else had a high score on the combined test?

Hi everyone, I’m new on this thread but have been reading and catching up. I’m 13+5 today and feeling better each day!

@Pinkpaintlover I didn’t have the combined test because my NT measurement was borderline ‘normal’ so they told me I’d automatically be high risk. We paid to have the harmony test privately as it was either that or an invasive CVS test which I really didn’t want. Our results came back in 4 days, all low risk less than 1 in 10,000 chance. I completely understand about the waiting, I was so anxious and like you didn’t want to tell anyone until I’d had the results. Have you already had the test? 2 weeks seems like a long time to wait for the results? Hopefully they will be back sooner xxx

@Waitingandhoping1988 thanks very much for your reply. And what a great score from the harmony test. Such a relief. 4 days is amazing. Had the harmony bloods on Wednesday through the NHS - wish mine would be that quick! On the countdown now - 13 days to go.
Pregnancy is such a rollercoaster of emotions and stress! Hoping to have good news soon so I can try get back to sleeping 🤣🤣

I had my scan and bloods on the 22nd June and I still haven't had any results... should I be concerned? Maybe I'll try and chase it up today x