Catching up - TTC after miscarriage part 2

[BecsterG]

Hi Ladies, here is our part two for pregnancy after miscarriage. X

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Sorry I’m not very tech savvy!!

@ChampooPapi I’m having a girl.

I had been struggling over the past few weeks in the run up to the 24 week (viability week) dreading that something would happen and how I would cope with the grief again. Even though I had an early miscarriage at 9 weeks I was devastated and even after I got over the 12 week scan this time I just couldn’t settle, petrified that something would happen much later this time and how I wouldn’t cope.

My SIL announced her pregnancy and is only 3 weeks behind, I took that as a sign that something would go wrong with my baby and I would have to spend my life seeing a baby who would have been the same age. Everything started to pile on, plus with the addition of lockdown that I refused to leave the house even for a walk through fear that I would either catch Covid or that the exercise would bring on early labour or PProm. It caused many arguments with my husband and I used to be a very active person but I spent my days sat in my sofa wfh, scared to move with fear that it was cause something to happen.

I’ve continued to read this thread and everyone’s positive attitude despite the horrible grief we have all suffered helped me greatly so I just wanted to say thank you to the regular posters who keep the thread going. It helps people like me behind the scenes gain more confidence and understand some of the feelings I’m having. Anyway, monologue over! I thought I would share a positive experience I’ve had for a change just in case it helps give someone else the positivity they need today!

I finally ventured out last week as I had a week of annual leave that coincided with the shops reopening so used it as a baby admin week! I had an appointment at Mamas and Papas and ordered my pram and my furniture etc. When we got back to the car I started to cry and my husband was very confused given that I had just bought everything I had dreamed of for our little girl but they were pure tears of joy. After PCOS and a miscarriage on my first ever pregnancy I resigned myself to the fact that I may never have a baby and I was just so happy in that moment that my dreams were coming true. I’m eagerly awaiting the delivery of my pram and seeing my husband “testing driving” the prams around the store filled me with pure pride and joy. I’m getting very excited for our new arrival which should hopefully be in the next 12 weeks.

As I write this she is sat giving me huge kicks to tell me to stop being so soppy and actually get on with my work!

Have a great day everyone and positivity to all!

Another gorgeous bump pic @ChampooPapi 😍😍😍

@MrsB16 I'm glad your feeling more positive. The anxiety is awful, I am the same now, as soon as here another pregnancy announcement I feel like somethings going to go wrong with me and that I'll be left behind going through the trauma again. I'm at the stage now where I lost my little boy (critical heart condition) so I feel really emotional this week. I've started getting movement this week which is making me feel much happier and even more emotional! This journey is like a rollercoaster and I'm sooo trying to enjoy it but yes it's a worrying time too xx

Thank you @ChampooPapi for updating the list - love seeing the weeks tick by and seeing the genders too! Looks like we're more of a girly thread for now! Gorge bump pic too! Love seeing all these bumps!

Ahhhh bless you @MrsB16 I'm sorry you've been feeling so anxious but it is really understandable and we're all here for you

Updated list 🌈🌈👣👣💖💖

@MrsB16 27 weeks 1 days due baby girl 21 September
@BecsterG 26 weeks 4 Due baby boy 26 September
@Zoey36 25 weeks 5 due 03/10/2020
@BS9790 21 weeks 5 due 31/10/2020
@FireflyGirl 21 weeks 3 due baby girl 02/11/2020
@AlviesMam 21 weeks 3 due baby girl 02/11/2020
@ChampooPapi 18 weeks due twin girls 24/11/2020
@kkr168 17 weeks 5 due baby boy 28/11/2020
@Whiffle77 17 weeks due 02/12/2020
@MilsCookie 12 weeks 1 day 07/01/2021
@TerribleImagination 11 weeks 4 due 07/01/2021
@Mammacooks 9 weeks 4 due 22/01/2021

Post your genders as I'm not certain of the rest

Thanks for updating, @ChampooPapi. Love seeing the list coming along!

Think you've used an old list for this most recent post - BS9790 is having a baby boy.

Ahh @MrsB16 sorry you've felt so anxious but so so pleased you've moved forward and bought some things to help you get excited. It's so difficult and I get you don't want to think too far forward but try and enjoy it as being pregnant generally is very exciting and also so lovely to feel the baby move and grow etc.

Thanks @ChampooPapi for updating the list. It's great to see it progressing.

11 weeks until I go on leave/Mat leave and I tell you it can't come fast enough! Ha ha Is it wrong that I've started to countdown??

Updated list 🌈🌈👣👣💖💖

@MrsB16 27 weeks 1 days due baby girl 21 September
@BecsterG 26 weeks 4 Due baby boy 26 September
@Zoey36 25 weeks 5 due 03/10/2020
@BS9790 21 weeks 5 due baby boy 31/10/2020
@FireflyGirl 21 weeks 3 due baby girl 02/11/2020
@AlviesMam 21 weeks 3 due baby girl 02/11/2020
@ChampooPapi 18 weeks due twin girls 24/11/2020
@kkr168 17 weeks 5 due baby boy 28/11/2020
@Whiffle77 17 weeks due 02/12/2020
@MilsCookie 12 weeks 1 day 07/01/2021
@TerribleImagination 11 weeks 4 due 07/01/2021
@Mammacooks 9 weeks 4 due 22/01/2021

@Zoey36 are you having a girl?

@Whiffle77 have I totally forgot your gender?! Or are you not finding out until the 20 week scan?

@MilsCookie when's your next scan? When will we know if your twining with the female or male species?

@FireflyGirl yes I went list crazy and put one that wasn't updated up. I'll give it a good week once we have all the genders otherwise everyone will also go list crazy too!

I'm always list crazy 😂😂 I'm having a surprise @champoopapi - well that's the plan anyway!! I might get over excited at 20 week scan!

@champoopapi I've got my consultant appointment tomorrow where I'm hoping they'll scan me again (just so I can see the babies again!) but not expecting they will. Then I think I've got my next scan at 16 weeks where hopefully they'll be able to tell me the gender! 🤞🏻 so in 4 weeks 😬😬😬 can't believe it, feels like it's going to come round so quick!!

@ChampooPapi how have your headaches been by the way? I have literally had one every day for the last two weeks, and before that they were pretty much every other day. Really starting to piss me off now!!! 🤬😩

@ChampooPapi I'm having a boy.

I've got a midwife appointment in 2ish weeks where I will actually meet my midwife 😱😂 The midwife team are IMPOSSIBLE to get hold of so I'm glad that I don't actually have any concerns! I tried for weeks to get a maternity exemption certificate and enquired about physio for PGP.....I've not once had a reply...ever! I wonder if they will actually turn up for the appointment haha?! It's a bit mad. For my first I had One to One Midwives who were AMAZING so maybe I'm just not used to this 'normal' service!?

My bump is FULL ON. And I feel him moving very high.

I've had a headache a few times this week too @MilsCookie and I never get headaches (unless from wine 😬) hadn't thought they may be pregnancy related! Hope yours is better today.
I saw my midwife yesterday @Zoey36 and she said all appointments were back to face to face now. I haven't had too much to ask her so far but def think face to face will be more useful later on! Hope your appointment goes well (and someone turns up!)

Anyone's baby kicking really low down where you feel like your going to have a foot coming out of your vagina!! I know she's kicking nerves but the sensation is weird 😂and if these are only light kicks/taps I'm scared for them getting stronger 😂😂

@AlviesMam Yes! I also sometimes feel rolling movements super low, like below the line on my jeans and I'm normally working when I feel it and it makes me jump every time and so so low! Ha ha

Headaches are defo pregnancy related. I had loads in the first 10 weeks of this pregnancy. Didn't have any with my son though.

Updated list 🌈🌈👣👣💖💖

@MrsB16 27 weeks 2 days due baby girl 21 September
@BecsterG 26 weeks 5 Due baby boy 26 September
@Zoey36 25 weeks 6 due baby boy 03/10/2020
@BS9790 21 weeks 6 due baby boy 31/10/2020
@FireflyGirl 21 weeks 4 due baby girl 02/11/2020
@AlviesMam 21 weeks 4 due baby girl 02/11/2020
@ChampooPapi 18 1 weeks due twin girls 24/11/2020
@kkr168 17 weeks 6 due baby boy 28/11/2020
@Whiffle77 17 weeks 1 due 02/12/2020
@MilsCookie 12 weeks 2 day 07/01/2021
@TerribleImagination 11 weeks 5 due 07/01/2021
@Mammacooks 9 weeks 5 due 22/01/2021

@ChampooPapi I am finally out of the woods migraine/headache wise. I get a bit of a head on me after lunch for a few hours, but it's more a tiredness post lunch feeling. I hate to bare bad news but they really did last for me until 16 weeks. I had an almost continuous headache from week 6-14, then from around 14-16 they ebbed and flowed a fair bit. Did resort to a few more co-codomal that last week as they ramped up for a few days. Double the hormones twin wise is very hard on the head, that is for certain!. But I can promise you that greener pastures are on the horizon. At 18 weeks now although I'm basically useless after 1pm from tiredness, my heads and neseua is so much better. My advice is to take pain relief, even if it's every day, because once that migraine comes it's takes days to subside and 4 hourly paracetamol kept them at bay most of the time in the last month. The placenta is taking over but only just so honestly it will probably be a few more weeks of managing the head generally. Water and drugs is my advice, and eating as much and little and often as any neseua sets them off but you will feel a hell of a lot better I swear by the time you reach 18 weeks, it just kind of shakes itself off. It's so horrible, twins are very hard on the body so rest as much as you can. Studies have shown how utterly draining it is carrying multiples for the body, even laying down your body is doing so much 🤗💜

Glad you're beginning to feel better from the headaches @ChampooPapi but arghhhhhh I hope I don't have to go through another 4 weeks of this constant headache!!

I had my first appointment with my consultant today and another scan. He said all looks good, no concerns at this stage etc BUT I googled some of my notes and of course now I'm freaking out. Can anyone shed any light?

1. The nuchal translucency measurements have changed a fair bit since Friday... Twin A has gone from 1.1mm to 1.7mm and Twin B has gone from 1.2mm to 2.7mm ... so they originally had a difference of 0.1mm but now there's a difference between them of 1mm. And Twin B's has risen by 1.5mm?! So kind of freaking out about that.

2. Twin A has a velamentous cord, single umbilical artery and smaller sac. This all looks abnormal from what I've read online, although fairly common in monochorionic twins.

The consultant kindly wrote at the bottom 'there is no major apparent problem' - key word here being major - surely that mean's there might be a problem but it's not 'major'?! ARGH! I'm scared of a) the higher NT measurement for Twin B and also the velamentous cord and single umbilical artery for Twin A. Just feeling a bit disheartened, even though he told me everything looked fine and not to worry. My next scan is at 16 weeks so got a while to wait now. I knew this pregnancy wasn't going to be easy!!!!

@MilsCookie it could just be that Friday's measurements weren't accurate. Please try not to worry. Could you phone the consultant and ask for clarification?

The mental health midwife really helped me when I was struggling with all the twin stuff. Have they offered you any support?

Can I tentatively join you all please? I've seen so many of you get your BFPs and I've finally got mine, pretty much exactly a year after I found out I was having my twins. I'm due around 6/3/21 based on LMP. With the twins it was 3/3/20. Feels like this little bean is heaven sent. Xx

Yayyy so happy you're joining us @Ejb86 !!! Definitely sounds like your bean is a gift sent from heaven ❤️ 🌈 how have you been feeling? Are you going to get any early scans?

Yes hopefully the Friday measurements were slightly out. The sonographer did say that they were on the cusp of being able to measure the NT because of them not quite being 12 weeks at that stage. So I'm trying not to worry too much. Not sure if you saw Ejb86 but they found the membrane between them, so they're MoDi now, not MoMo. Xx

@MilsCookie that's such good news! I hadn't seen. It just takes away a little bit of that stress.

I've been feeling fine, just tired and can't cope with this heat! The consultant last time said I could have a scan at 5 weeks at the hospital, so I'm going to get in touch with them. We'll probably book a private one at about 8 weeks too, so hubby can see.

How have you been? X

Yeaaaaaaaay @Ejb86! I’m so glad you’re joining us on here my old cycle buddy! 🥰 I’m over the bloody moon for you and your little heaven sent bean ❤️🌈

Congratulations @Ejb86. Such lovely news. Love it when new people are able to move over from the other board. I remember you from when I was on it. X