Catching up - TTC after miscarriage part 2

[BecsterG]

Hi Ladies, here is our part two for pregnancy after miscarriage. X

@ChampooPapi You have the BEST way with words 🤣🤣 I was laughing and nodding in agreement at the time time reading your post! 😂

@Leok83 You poor poor thing having the sickness hit AT ALL, but let alone when you’re away somewhere with all inclusive food! I was basically that person Champoo describes above - a swamp creature emerging from the sofa mainly to get fresh air in the hope it would help, or to try and eat / drink ANYTHING that didn’t immediately make me want to vom. It was hideous. Hang in there lovey, it will pass (or ease a lot in my case so far)! I found fizzy / fruity drinks easier to stomach than plain water, and I’m a huge water drinker normally! Squash is always a good one. I hope you’re not feeling too dreadful lovey! ❤️

Wow @MrsB16 that's crazy. Sorry your sellers have pushed it back. That's annoying. Hopefully you have family and friends who will help you unpack and settle in and get everything ready. Fingers crossed she doesn't come early so you can be ready. My DS1 was 2 days early so wondering if DS2 will be similar or keep me waiting. 😂

We did major renovations when I was pregnant with DS1 and were doing pretty similar stuff this time but just upstairs so I too have no where to put anything. I've not bought anything so far as I have no where to put it. That's being said we have all the furniture etc from our first so a bit easier but I too so badly want to best!

We had our 3D scan today too which makes me want to do it even more now I've seen his wee face but it is what it is I guess. X

Aw thanks for all the advice ladies! I've managed to force myself to eat some of the food and felt better for it once I did but glad we didn't go later than we did as this morning is definitely a struggle!! The fizzy water is great too..and the fruit!
@ChampooPapi such a vivid picture of the torture😄, so unfair what we have to put up with to have a baby!!

@MrsB16 you poor thing, I can't imagine having to move once when pregnant never mind 3 times. That's seriously stressful!

So lovely to see a face on a scan @BecsterG! They're so detailed!!

I got my repeat hcg back and it went from 196 to 559 in 48 hours so very pleased and definitely not worried about progression now!
😁😁
Feels good honestly. Also got my covid test back and negative so going to my mum's in peace 😇

Amazing news, @SunnySideUp2020!

Hopefully all plain sailing for the next 8 months! Your edd will be around the same as mine with DS! Spring is a lovely time to have a baby, just when the days are getting longer.

@FireflyGirl so exciting!!! I agree spring is definitely a good time to give birth,
I am a spring baby myself 😇😊
When was your DS born?
From apps to apps edd is between 3rd and 7th april 2021

@BecsterG love the scan! Was it a good experience?

We've booked our 3d one for this weekend, I'll be 27 weeks but I read that with anterior placenta it can be better to go a bit earlier so they've got more space to move about if placenta is in the way for photos! So thought we'd just bite the bullet and go for it... A bit earlier than planned!

I’ve just been called by my midwife to say that no one checked my results from my hospital visit from Monday until today and now I need to go back this afternoon as I also have protein in my urine! Anxiety is now sky high again. I really hope I don’t have pre-eclampsia, she is still too little to come out at 32 weeks!

I feel really upset and shit.
Went into hospital for monitoring last night because I've felt less movement. Was in hospital for four hours with another episode of high blood pressure and fast heart rate because of my anxiety. Didn't really feel baby move at all for the first hour, the trace was showing movements as they kept losing the heart beat because she kept changing position but I couldn't feel her :( by the last hour she was back to her strong movements and I was so much more reassured. Apparently she's really low down.
I just feel so robbed with this placenta every other person I know who is pregnant seems to be sailing through, no anxiety , feeling lots of baby movements and every day I'm trying
hardest to concentrate to make sure I feel her. I'm just fed up and having a really bad day. Can't stop crying. I want November to be here so I can have her in my arms.
Sorry for being ignorant I will catch up on this thread now I just needed to vent

@BecsterG gorgeous scan look at that gorgeous face 

@MrsB16 my sister had pre eclampsia her protein was 4+ did they give you a number. I wouldn't worry too much yet as small traces don't mean it's definitely that!

@AlviesMam I'm the same with movement... I can go 24 or 48 hours without feeling any. I have to make time each day to lay down and do nothing until I feel a movement, otherwise I freak out.
My hospital/midwifes don't monitor for lack of movement until after 28 weeks either.

I ended up in the hospital earlier this week for a UTI after a week of trying and failing to get hold of either my midwife or the gp. Starting to feel really annoyed with lack of care available here during covid!

@AlviesMam I'm so sorry you're feeling this way lovely 😔 I can totally empathise and you just feel like it's not fair. Why does everyone else get to have straight forward pregnancies except me? I've definitely had those thoughts and feelings since my last scan. The good news is your little girl is doing absolutely fine 😘 and November will be here before we know it!

@BecsterG gorgeous scan pic! What a cutie!

@SunnySideUp2020 that's brilliant news that your hcg levels are soaring - hope you can relax a bit now! You and your DP must be absolutely buzzing! Also... there just be something in the air because yesterday evening my DP did the same as yours last week.... 💍😍

@MilsCookie you seem like such a strong positive woman you honestly lift everyone's spirits up aswell as dealing with your own worries, wish I was more like this! You deserve all the happiness 

And OMG have you just got engaged?! CONGRATULATIONS!!! What a beautiful ring!!!! Xxxx

@BS9790 it's so shit isn't it!! I just know I'm going to be in and out getting monitored and I just want to enjoy this pregnancy glad I can relate with you on this subject xxx

@AlviesMam, yes... Lost Count of the amount of times I've cried over no movement and cried over wanting to enjoy being pregnant but just can't.
I'm also worrying over my size, they don't measure til 28 weeks here and considering they told me at my 20 week scan the baby was big (98th centile) I don't feel like my bump is growing much! My friend is 19 weeks and her bumps similar to mine! X

Also how hot is it today! 🔥 I'm normally a massive sun worshipper but Im hiding under my parasol and worrying about over heating!!

Is it safe to sit in the sun? Am I being rediculous? 😂

@MilsCookie I’ve commented on the other thread but chucking another massive WOOOHOOOOOOO in this one too for you! That is AMAAAAZING news!!! 😍😍😍

God I know, it’s so hot today... I’m hiding in my cool living room. Only been out to hang out and bring in washing and I nearly burst into flames!

@AlviesMam So sorry you’ve had such a shit couple of days lovey. It really isn’t fair when people sail through pregnancies with no worries. I think those of us who’ve been through loss are just obviously more inclined to worry. I freak out still when I get little niggly pains sometimes, even though I know it’ll be stretching etc. Hopefully November will be here before you know it lovey ❤️ Sending you lots of love!

Ahhh thank you @AlviesMam ... I try to be positive but I definitely have my low days just like everyone... it's talking to you lovely lot that keeps me going!! 😊 and yes we just got engaged haha!! Absolutely mad - wasn't expecting it at all!! 💍

Thank youuuuuu @TerribleImagination 😍😍😍😍😍😍 haha I know what you mean - I'm hiding indoors too! We're off to the pub later for a celebratory meal and I'm really hoping it's cooled down a bit! 🙈 xx

@MilsCookie wow congratulations. Beautiful ring. I'm so happy for you both. What an exciting time.

@BS9790 yes it was amazing to see his wee face. Very surreal to see him in 3D. He had his hands in front of his face to start with but did move so we could see him. Just pleased my DH got to see him as he he just missed the dating scan as lockdown started two days before. Nice for him to see him.

How did your appointment go yesterday afternoon, @MrsB16?

Congratulations @MilsCookie! Beautiful ring, and such a lot for you to look forward to!

@AlviesMam, it's so hard to be excited when you know that being pregnant doesn't necessarily mean that you will get to bring a baby home. And maternity services being what they are at the moment doesn't help.

I saw a group of friends yesterday, and they were all commenting on how big I am, and what did the midwife say, and I explained that aside from the booking in appointment I haven't seen a midwife, and won't for another 3 weeks.

@BS9790 am I right in thinking you're quite tall? If so, there's just more room for your bump to spread across your abdomen, rather than sticking outwards.

Hi all, hope it's ok if I join this thread? And hope you're all doing ok - pregnancy after miscarriage in the middle of a pandemic is an anxious time!!

I'm currently 5+5, have a 16 month old daughter but had two miscarriages before her. Had been feeling quite zen about things but definitely feeling less nauseous in the last couple of days than I had been earlier in the week so starting to freak myself out :(

Fantastic news @MilsCookie 💍👰 so happy for you both! your fella has good timing, you guys are going to enjoy planning the wedding so much and dreaming over the coming months about it all. Stunner of a ring too! 🥰

@BS9790 I was worried about my bump too as I was pretty big early on and since about 17 weeks I don't feel like my bump has grown at all but when I had my last midwife appointment when I think I was 27/28 weeks I was measured (for the second time) and I have grown. It just doesn't look it from the outside. I feel like I've started to grow again now and I'm 32 weeks and I'm feeling very pregnant now with acid reflux, tiredness, sciatica etc. Ha ha

I'm 5'11 so also being tall means you've more space for the baby as a longer torso.

@AlviesMam it is so hard, it ebbs and flows, but the general feeling always returns to 'it's not going to work out' which is a god awful way to spend your time anyway let alone when your pregnant and it relates to a beautiful baby your carrying. Scuse my language but it's fucking shit, it just is and I think you do such an incredible job holding it together every day and you are just such an amazing person. Everything will work out, you will have a healthy baby and you will get to that day where you hold her, but the journey towards that is going to continue to be hard and filled with the anxieties of the past and present. All i can say is I will update the list on Tuesday and we will be another week ahead, and that babies are actually a lot less worrying then pregnancy itself , I know people always say 'wait till you have the baby, see how worried you'll be then' well that's kind of bullshit to be honest. Yes you are obsessed with them and worry so much, but it is a completely different kind of anxiety, it is something you can constantly be proactive about, you can physically do something about it every time, for each problem or worry, for every health concern. When they are inside your belly you are completely helpless and all the joy of pregnancy is robbed from your past and what you've been through. Nothing compares to that, it's awful. But when you get that baby you are going to feel such a weight lifted from you, you will never forget what you've been thr, who you lost, but you won't have to live like this anymore I promise, you will be free 💜