Catching up - TTC after miscarriage part 2

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Hi Ladies, here is our part two for pregnancy after miscarriage. X

Also that scan at 16 weeks was just a 45 pound one at ultrasound direct, a reassurance scan I think it was called. Very much worth it for me this time around

@ChampooPapi eeeek exciting! I'm sure everything will be fine. Be as much of a bad bitch as you need to be to make sure you are heard!! 😆 are you going for a planned section as you want to avoid an emergency one? My consultant told me as long as the first twin is head down I'll be able to try for a natural birth, but that it's a 50/50 chance I'll end up needed a c section. So I'd rather just eliminate all that worry and go straight for a planned c section! (I think... even though the idea of that also scares me).

I'm having a private reassurance scan tomorrow (14 weeks) just so that my DP can see the babies! Last time he saw them was at 8 weeks when they were just blobs on the screen 🙈 and also just to check everything is okay up to this point. Next NHS one is at 16 weeks then every 2 weeks after that 😬😬😬 the TTTS thing scares me so much 😣 really hope they don't develop that.

Sending lots of positive vibes your way for your scan! Can't wait to hear how it goes 😊✨ xxx

@MilsCookie my pulse in my neck was noticeable and I was short of breath. Counted my beats per minute and then phoned maternity advice line. They wanted to see me straight away. Then my obs were all high so had to get monitored. Getting some blood tests done this week too.
I'm back in work so it's taking my mind of things a little. xx

@AlviesMam bless you that must have been quite worrying. I'm glad the midwives could see you straight away. Did they say it's just anxiety? Let us know how the bloods go. Have you tried any meditation or anything? x

All ok our end, girls measuring spot on and all organs and vitals perfect.

Great consultant as well, asked how I wanted to birth, I said planned c section and she say 'okay, excellent, i'll get the consent forms'

It is such a relief to not have any kind of battle on my hands there, it is twins after all so it's hardly a normal situation birth wise but still I was worried that I might have to push a bit for it.

They are going to do a natural c section as well as they specialize in this at Torbay, its where the babies push themselves out out of the cut they make which mimics the birth canal which is much better for their lungs, I am so happy about this! Fab day all round.

Bloody uncomfortable being scanned for an hour though on my back heavy breathing into a mask. When there are two they push on a certain nerve which if your on your back for too long basically makes you pass out, so had a few wobbly moments. My single anomaly scan was less then twenty minutes but it makes sense that its so much longer to check two babies, but it went on forever!

Torbay are letting partners in for the twenty week scan though so my man was present which was amazing and very unexpected. I thought we'd ask when we arrived and they said absolutely fine but only for the twenty week scan. A lot of women there on their own who also were there for the 20 weeker who had assumed they had to be solo.

So anyone else on here, definitely worth asking when you guys arrive, I'm sure a fair few of you will get to take your men in with you

Oh @ChampooPapi what a relief!! Sounds like a perfect outcome all round - including the news about the c section - that's fantastic!! I had never heard of a natural c section until you said... going to have a google now! How is it better for their lungs? Amazing your partner could be there too - that must have been a lovely surprise! xx

Brilliant news @ChampooPapi xxx

@MilsCookie yeah just anxiety but they checking me over just to make sure.
I'm back to normal now just had a panic. I made such a fuss now I'm so embarrassed but it was scary I'm with my midwife Monday so will speak with her more and push for the help. I get weekly heart beat checks from her now as she knows I'm so anxious so that will make the time pass until my 28 week scan xx

Thank you @AlviesMam and sending a big virtual cuddle to you 💞

@MilsCookie yes the natural c section is so brilliant, the slower pushing out of the baby or babies mimic the birth canal of the vagina more so can be better for the lungs. When the baby comes down through the vagina for a 'natural birth' the lungs are acclimatising from womb to outside world while we push and puff them out. When they are whipped out for a section, although they are totally fine and safe, it is obviously a lot quicker so this is a great option for you too, as I imagine you'll probably end up having a section. I'll link you to an article , they sit you up after they make the incision and remove the curtain so you and your partner can see the babies being born still. It's amazing!

Update us when you can about today, they are going to look like proper babies now 💜💜

Other hospitals do offer the natural section too so definitely ask at your 20 week consultant if your interested

www.itv.com/news/westcountry/2016-08-02/torbay-hospital-leads-the-way-in-natural-c-sections/

And the video 👣

@AlviesMam absolutely do not feel embarrassed!! It's completely normal to feel anxious, especially after what you went though. I'm sure they totally understand and want to put you at ease. That's so good you're now having weekly heart beat checks. Hope you're feeling a bit better today 😘 x

@ChampooPapi wow, how interesting! I'd never heard of that! It makes sense though. I like the idea of them pushing themselves out but I don't think I could watch as I'm so squeamish and I think I might freak out seeing myself cut open 😬. Maybe I'll change my mind though - that's if it's an option!! Babies were both wriggling around and fine, was so lovely for my DP to see them. Twin B is now measuring a week behind, so 13+2, whereas twin A is measuring bang on what I am, 14+2. The sonographer said it's nothing to worry about but obviously I am slightly concerned! But I know twin B has a velamentous cord which can mean slower growth... so just hoping that as long as he/she is still growing, it will all be okay.

I've only uploaded one photo because I think they gave us photos of the same twin 🙄 haha. They're also not that clear 😑. Also you can see the other twin's arm at the top reaching down towards its sibling! So cute 😍 Was so lovely to see them again!

Aww @MilsCookie that brings back so many lovely memories. We have one photo where one has their arm around the other.

Such a lovely photo! Try not to worry about their sizes lovely. Xx

What an amazing photo @MilsCookie! That’s so cute the other twins little arm is reaching out to its sibling!! 🥰🥰 That’s too adorable!

Ahhhh @MilsCookie that's a lovely picture, glad all is OK! Hope your partner enjoyed it! Try not to worry about sizes, they change so quickly in there!

Hope you are feeling better @AlviesMam but please do not feel embarrassed! Anxiety is not something to feel embarrassed about, it can be so incredibly debilitating at the best of times. And when you have been through such an ordeal previously it is more than understandable! Pregnancy generally is worrying and stressful - pregnancy after loss is another level! But you made it through another day, just like you will make it through today and tomorrow and the next day. It will all be worth it im sure.

@AlviesMam, I've been having weekly checks for the last couple of weeks too due to being so anxious too.

I've had a crap week, after lots of days of big hard kicks, I had none on Sunday or all day Monday ... By Monday night I had wound myself up that much I ended up phoning/visiting hospital for a heart beat check. All was okay... But still havent felt any more kicks since Saturday night... Couple of little wiggles maybe but nothing I could deffo say was movement.

I'm with the midwife tomorrow 🙄 Thing is, I now feel rediculous going to see her, knowing she will look in my notes and know I went to the hospital! Feel like I'm going to be judged, she did tell me 2 weeks ago there would be days with no movement and not to worry before 28 weeks... But that's easier said than done.

I've ordered some new books and I'm going to spend the next few weeks trying to relax 🤞

@Whiffle77 thank you your totally right ❤️

@BS9790 I was literally about to type to you about your placenta. My heartbeat check on Sunday at the hospital was a relief, i wouldn't say I've had hard kicks but I've had a few light thumps more popping and rolling still but then today has been so quiet, a few light taps this evening but that's it. The midwife on Monday said I shouldnt worry about any pattern before 28 weeks too but like you said it's so frustrating. I feel like im literally not going to enjoy the rest of my pregnancy because of this. My midwife said she will check the heartbeat every week from next week (I see her Monday) but I still feel so sad that I'm not experiencing first kicks like other mums do who don't have an anterior don't feel ridiculous at all!!! I would do the same and I was on the verge of doing it today until I had a few tapping movements, you have to do what's best for you and no one is going to judge you. I know fine well I'll be ringing up most weeks if the lack of movement continues. speaking to mental health team next week about my pregnancy anxiety so hopefully that helps.

Hey @MilsCookie 👣👣 brilliant scan update, such a relief to see those little ones hearts beating away, and such a cute picture with the other ones arm reaching towards the other. The separating membrane of mine was draped around one of my twins heads like a veil when I went for my scan, she was practising getting wed already obviously ☺️.

It's impossible to get photos of one twin usually, all my ones of twin 1 look sketchy or are just a blur/blob. I'll upload one today of the 'good twin' which is also twin 2/B. They always lable the one closest to the exit so to speak as number 1 so guess that one gets more squashed so harder to get a clear picture.

Size wise they seem totally normal from what I've heard about when they share a placenta too

Twin two ☺️

Twin one looks like a cat x ray so I'll leave that photo off 😆

Gorgeous photo @ChampooPapi 🥰

Thanks @ChampooPapi - and LOL that twin one looks like a cat x ray 😂 I would be intrigued to see that! I guess it makes sense that the one nearest the exit is a bit more squished and they can't get good photos haha. I'm still panicking about the size difference so called the Fetal Medicine Unit this morning but left a message and still waiting for someone to get back to me. I don't think I'd be worrying if there had always been a week between them, but it seems to have suddenly gone up. One has always been bigger than the other, but never a week bigger. I'm just so scared it's the start of TTTS 😣😣😣 hopefully they'll call me back soon.

P.s. GORGEOUS scan photo @ChampooPapi 😍😍😍 she has the cutest nose!!!

Just catching up on this thread but it's so lovely to see all the scan pictures ❤️

I'm only 6+4 weeks now so still too early to join the list, but hopefully soon 🤞🏻

@AlviesMam, I feel exactly the same, I really want to enjoy being pregnant but finding it so hard! I'm guessing he had moved towards my back, was kicking the placenta or just being pure lazy for 4 DAYS!! He finally started shifting about again last night and he's been wiggly and kicky today... Although not as strong as last week. Hoping that a pattern starts soon and it becomes easier to track. I thought he was getting into a pattern until these 4 days where he disappeared 🙄

Am being brave and have stopped my weekly check for heartbeat... I'm back in 2 weeks for bloods anyway...let's see if I can manage the whole 2 weeks!! Xx