January 2021 babies

[Ukbentley]

Is anyone else due in January?im due on the 10th with my 2nd child would be good to hear how others are getting on im 8+5 and getting a lot of symptoms this time round

I'm not sure how many appointments this time last time was 5 weeks in every day for monitoring plus scans every 2 weeks from 30 weeks,this time it's growth scan at 28,31,33,35,37,and 39 plus consultant appointments not looking forward to it all can make me very anxious plus I've to be seen at 32 weeks😕hoping maybe eases off if growth is good after doing a couple of them maybe leave it 3 weeks in between

I'm just feeling really miserable and low today. We're in a local enhanced lockdown so I can't see people in cafes/eateries, in my house, in my garden. All my friends are being really cautious and won't meet up even in a public outside space.

I keep trying to arrange online things and they frequently fall through because people drop out.

I feel really anxious and unsure about work, my career and how it will be affected.

My husband kind of talks AT me instead of with me. I'll say something, he'll say what he thinks I should do and that's it. He interrupts me and when I challenge him "Erm, excuse me I'm talking" he'll be like, "Oh I was listening" or justify it. I just don't have any patience for it right now. I just want support. Or he'll say something, I'll respond, and he'll kind of just continue what he was saying.

I feel too low to do anything, but just faffing around on social media and mumsnet depresses me. I know I can go for a walk, watch a film, but I have no energy and no attention span.

I have an acquaintance who is a friend of my husband. Normally she is kind of guarded/neggy when she talks to me. She'll never start a conversation with me. Then I say something her response is frequently along the lines of, "Oh, I've never had that problem" or she'll try and respond from a position of authority without knowing anything about it. I think if we didn't have a shared hobby and mutual friends we'd never even be casual acquaintances if you see what I mean. She's lovely to other people, just not to me. I don't expect everyone to like me or get on with me, don't get me wrong becuse not everyone does. It's just clear we're not the type of people who get on and I respect that. She's now pestering me asking me if there's anything she can do, she can get for me so I don't have to go out etc etc. I just feel like saying, "Just be nicer to me. That's what I want."

How far along are you in your pregnancy

Well went for glucose test yesterday and came back clear which I was so glad about,also went for my 28 growth scan today and have been left feeling like I don't know if I'm coming or going,baby is just made it to 10th centile on the low side the consultant said,I've to go back in 3 weeks,this obviously happened to me the first time and my little girl was born on the 3rd centile and they predicted she was 9th centile,and she was 5lb at 37 weeks emergency section,so I got the go ahead a few weeks ago for an elective section and was to get the date for that at 32 weeks now she has said she's not sure about the elective section and doesn't want to give me a date for anything as she doesn't know what's happening in this pregnancy and doesn't know when the baby will have to be born,just left me feeling all over the place not knowing if my baby's going to be ok or which way I'm going to give birth or even when any of this could happen,just feeling really worried and husband just said I'm sure it will all be fine keep positive but the consultant told me to be realistic so I feel angry at the both of them don't know what I should be feeling or doing to try help it,sorry about the rambling on just need to get it off my chest I feel so anxious I've been here before last time and it was just nerve racking for weeks not knowing,I was also in hospital everyday for 5 weeks with my first pregnancy and the problem seems to be my placenta not working properly im just hoping and praying in 3 weeks it goes up the way insteads of down,they have also put me on high risk today as well 😕

Hi @Ukbentley sorry you’ve had a rubbish day. I can’t imagine how it feels to be told all that in one day. It’s still early days and I really hope everything is all looking good at your next growth scan and you can get everything you hope for with a delivery of your perfect sized baby. I’m sorry I don’t have any helpful words to offer but thinking of you. 💐

Thanks mrs173 probably just need a couple of days to get my head round it and get the emotion out and will have a clear head again it has just been hard hearing it all today and I didn't get myself prepared think I had made myself believe that everything would be ok I felt very positive so just wasn't expecting it I probably should have been a bit more open minded,how are you getting on?

Oh @Ukbentley that's so much to take on, firstly in regards to your husband don't be too hard on him. Men don't seem to understand these things the way we want them too. To them it's a load of gibberish. Secondly I'm glad all was well on the diabetes front. In regards to baby, I hope he's grew abit in the next 3 weeks and hope you get the answers you need. Fingers crossed for you.

Thanks stace I feel more positive this morning it will be what it will be and things could change in the next 3 weeks probably sparked anxiety from last pregnancy but it is a different pregnancy so it might be ok,how you getting on this week?ive been feeling like I'm not pregnant most of the time being feeling good so going to try enjoy it,family have all been going on that I need to start calming down and putting my feet up but there always seems to be stuff to do that's the problem!

That's good, yeah like you say it's a different pregnancy. Just try to remain positive (easier said than done). I'm doing OK this week, still the odd back pain etc but overall good. Yeah I know what you mean, can't relax though I have 2 kids a puppy and a house to run. But going to bed at 8pm seems to be helping. Even if I don't fall asleep til 11-12ish at least I'm still relaxing and catching up with tv shows etc.

Hey, how is everyone doing?

I have severe anaemia and may need an iron transfusion if my levels don't go up.
I've finally got all of babies clothes pretty much and ordering her bed next week. Just need the odd little bits then I can start worrying about Christmas haha. Next scan is at 34 weeks to see if placenta has moved which I'm nervous about. I really don't want a c section if I can help it.

Baby still has no name.

Sorry to hear that are they keeping a close eye on you?i had terrible week last week just emotional sore and severely bloated and couldn't sleep but back to feeling good again I'm so glad,can't believe how quick this has went over 30 weeks now and it's not slowing down,that good you are organised I'm pretty much done too,trying to get bits for myself this time round for after like vitamins ect as never really looked after myself very well first time round,I've started on the Christmas too and my little girls birthday as it's 4 days after Christmas and if all goes well c section day after that so I just want to be able to put my feet up last few weeks,I say that but probably won't happen😂next growth scan is on 5th November so hoping all is well lovely to hear from you

Oh no, I'm glad you are feeling better. Yeah I agree, I didn't really look after myself properly last time or the first time so I'm looking at tea to help with milk supply and nipple cream etc hoping to breast feed this time. Also witch Hazel pads etc to help with down there if I have a natural birth. Oh wow expensive month December is for you. Hope you're able to get some rest.

I bought witch hazel pads the other day as they are supposed to be good for other things too,I've made myself a little after care hamper with a lot of stuff I already had that's if I get time sure it will be ok haha,well done you for breastfeeding hope it goes well,I'm not attempting it this time as my milk never did come in last time and then baby had a tongue tie and I really upset myself so taking the easy option this time,was thinking of doing some expressing at the start though but not sure what I'm doing to be honest,I'm getting really excited now can't believe going to have a new baby really soon,my little girl has started to come round too so that's been nice as I was worrying about that

Same, I couldn't breastfeed either time as I was either too poorly or my milk didn't come in. But this time my breasts are so much more bigger so hoping thats a sign that I'll get milk this time. I don't want to get formula as if I know its there ill give up, but then at the same time I'm worried if I don't get milk baby will go hungry.

I'm sure you'll find a little time to pamper yourself at some point. And thats great about your little girl, I'm glad she's coming round. My eldest is really excited and every night he will cuddle and kiss my belly and say love you baby, but my youngest doesn't like babies apparently lol

Hi stace how did you get on with the iron?I was at the hospital today for my 2nd growth scan didn't go well he's fell under again,I've got another scan on Monday and another on Thursday and I've to go to triage and the consultant too,and there phoning me Tommorrow with results as they think I maybe could have preeclampsia I'm hoping not,wasn't expecting all that today to be honest but just going to keep positive about it at least they have found these things out now so something can be done so grateful for that

Hey hun, been on it since monday. No real improvement as of yet but I'm hoping. Oh no so sorry it wasn't the news you were after, but like you said its good they have picked it up early. Have they said what they are going to do? Or have you got to wait and see after all your appointments?

Fingers crossed its nothing to worry about and he's just a small baby.

They just said they want to scans Monday and thursday and will probably give steroid injection for the lungs,if things look ok next week going to do a scan a week after that and play it by ear kind of thing,hoping this preeclampsia thing comes back negative Tommorrow as I'm not sure what the next step would be if I had that,but what I gathered he will be born earlier than 39 weeks that I was originally supposed to have a section,hope all goes well for you too let me know how you get on

Blood tests was fine so that's the first bit of good news I'm so glad

Thats great news .

How are you doing @Ukbentley.

If I get asked once more if I'm sure I'm due in jan ill cry lol. I'm carrying really low and it does feel like she will fall out any minute. Got midwife and scan next week to see if my placenta has moved so hopefully they can tell me more if she is head down or not. Also getting more and more braxton hicks they are happening daily and sometimes hurt a little. So praying she don't come too early.

Hi stace nice to hear from you,I'm carrying really low too this time but high last time,hope placenta has moved for you by next week,have they said if it hasent what will happen?how did you get on with iron?ive had another really tough day this pregnancy has just went wrong for the last few months,growth scan today and baby has now dropped below 5th centile only put on 0.6lbs in 2 weeks and blood flow through cord is too high they have said so back in on Monday to see if it improves fluid is good they have said,they said they are hoping to get me to 37 weeks and also said baby will be taken off me to be observed also don't know how long for,just stressful this is definitely my last I couldn't do this again😬

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that. Hoping all goes well for you. Must be so stressful to go through. Stay strong, I know its hard but you have to keep going. Hopefully the measurements are wrong and baby will be a good weight etc. They told me my first would be lucky to be 4lb he was born 8lb 11oz so they can get it wrong.

I've got to have a blood test in a few weeks to see if my levels have gone up. Hoping they have as I feel alot better now. As for the placenta I think if it hasn't moved I will need to have a section. I'm hoping it has, as I feel her low down sometimes. But we will see. Its not the end of the world if I have to have a section I'd just prefer to avoid it.

Let me know how you get on,this baby has igur they have said same as my last baby and they think it's caused by my placenta not working properly,I'm just taking it a day at a time a see how things happen they are not giving me a date just now and there is mention of being induced but I thought they had agreed on a c section so just need to wait and see what they say next week,do you find with stomach lying so low loads of pressure,I've been having this for months and it's quite uncomfortable

Yeah just go day by day. Hopefully you'll get some answers soon.

Yes, it feels like she's going to drop out at any point sometimes. At least I can breath a it easier with her being low.

Hi @Ukbentley how are you?

Had my scan yesterday, baby is still a girl thankful. Placenta is still low lying so need a rescan at 36 weeks. Then we will decide if I need a c section or not. Baby is estimated 4lb 4oz at the min so not a bad weight. I keep getting loads of braxton hicks now and they are slightly painful. She keeps lying in awkward positions too as she can't get head down.