Early Oct babies part 5

[Treaclepie19]

Hi all! ❤

@Nwnature It's amazing what they through life not knowing. I asked what they made in home economics at school - apparently just pancakes hmmm. I've forgiven him now as he served up dinner without a fuss.

I also have a sleepyhead, I know it's frowned upon, but I've bought it for day naps, tummy time (I say that as I know what that is...) etc. Not in crib unless it's a last resort. The fern one is so pretty! I have a white one, but I'm really tempted by the spare cheetah cover. It might be my ridiculous OTT buy hehe.

@otterbaby That's so funny on waking her up, I sort of imagine them as annoyed little baby Groots in there like when he was hitting Drax in vol 2.

@Zaalfruit hope today goes well and brings some peace of mind. I'm with you on breastfeeding, it just seems really weird but (I feel) there's a massive pressure to do. My plan is to aim for combi but not invest much in the breastfeeding side like pumps until I know if I can do it. I was formula fed and turned out fine! Don't put too much pressure on yourself either way - including bonding with your bump - focus on taking care of yourself and talk to someone.

@LexiM They definitely need to learn! I don't think lockdown helps either haha.

Scan tomorrow! Was up 4 times in the night to pee, the pressure pain in my bladder kept waking me up, hopefully not a UTI starting. And got to be sick this morning - when will it end?? Thankfully just today at work then off until Monday.

@Zaalfruit sorry you are feeling down.
I understand the not feeling bonded to bump yet. I think I'm scared to incase anything goes wrong. I also havent felt any movement so I guess that doesn't help. I hope everything goes well today and speaking to midwife about how you feel is a great idea.
I'm not keen on breastfeeding either. And I honestly cant tell you why. It's like it just doesn't appeal to me even though it's the most natural thing. I don't know what to do about feeding to be honest. Like I said I think I'm in a bit of denial about there being a real baby so I'm not thinking too far ahead or doing any shopping yet. A friend gave us a bag of baby clothes and I havent even dared look at it yet.
I hope you feel a bit better and reassured today x

Morning girls! @Zaalfruit please open up to the professional today, that’s what they are here for. I have days like you but thankfully they go away and another day begins. Wow I’m so glad you girls are so open, I never BF my son and it’s due to it feeling completely not natural to me. I felt that this time (although my son has always been completely healthy with only 1 spell off from school due to requiring an op) that I should do it this time. I was thinking that we won’t be out so be easier to just BF. ESP through night instead of waking to make bottles etc and during day no one would see me. I know for a fact that I would not feel comfortable bf in public, hidden or not, so this pandemic made me think with staying in might give it a go. I’ll defo try giving the colestreum which is meant to have the best nutrients as soon as baby is born and see where I go. Never done that with sin either right enough. I had a terrible time getting my milk to go with my son, ended up with really bad mastitis and remember doc saying at time ‘should have bf, wouldn’t have happened’. Found out that was complete nonsense tho! xx

Also cannot believe it, was giving it time to see but it’s confirmed that my nausea is back 😢😢😢. I’m waking up through the night with it the past few days and it rears it’s ugly head when I wake!!! xx

@Quiffy what the heck is tummy time lol I have no idea! I had that bladder pressure thing it eased after a couple of days but I did get my urine checked just in case

@Zaalfruit hope everything goes well for you

@treacle81 oh no not more sickness! When are we ever getting this glow!?!

I did in the end feel some movement last night very slightly I think, I know it's not normal to feel much yet so trying not to worry. I also woke in the night. I need a coffee today.

Dp seems to be coming round girls! He has started calling her "she" and "daughter" which is making me smile he also shopped around and found the harness we want a lot cheaper so that's coming today I'm well excited!

Other than that work are putting pressure on already for me to decide what I want off, due date is 6th October I'm thinking 1 week before due date, 1 week after then if baby hasnt come start mat leave? Or do I just finish on the Friday and start 2 weeks holiday then start mat leave if baby hasnt come. It's all so weird because we have to take a 2 week block where I work and I wont have enough to take that before mat leave

@Zaalfruit thinking of you today and hope your check up goes well and you have a chat with the midwife, I’m sure you’re not the only one feeling this way. It is even harder than normal at the moment, I think when someone gets pregnant they think it will all be so wonderful and every day isn’t like that.

@Quiffy and @treacle81 sorry to hear you both have sickness, that’s my worst fear as I really wasn’t enjoying pregnancy until that passed. Hope it goes away again soon for you and Quiffy enjoy your scan tomorrow. Hope you don’t have an infection. I seem to have some days where I keep going to pee loads and others not so much.

I’m 20 weeks today, I said I can’t believe it’s gone so quickly and husband said how are we only half way through 😂😂

I’m back on furlough now and I appreciate it’s full pay so I’m very lucky and I’m safe and grateful for that, but I will once again have lots of free time. There’s lots of bits I can do but only so much while husband is working in the house- most of it would involve making noise - sorting things, decorating etc. I’m not a quiet person at all and our house isn’t very noise proof.

@Zaalfruit sorry to hear you are struggling, please do talk to your midwife about it. It’s such a tough time to be pregnant, midwife care is sporadic in the first half anyway, let alone them cancelling appointments. That combined with not seeing friends or workmates will start to take its toll. Keep talking to us x

@treacle81 I’m so sorry the nausea is back, have you got any meds left for it? What a complete bummer 🙁

I’m glad you’re all thinking the same re breastfeeding. I feel a massive pressure to do it, my friend is a midwife who is very very keen for me to breastfeed til over 2years, but I know I can’t do that. To be honest I think it will probably ick me out a bit, which I feel very ashamed of admitting, definitely can’t say in real life 🙁
I’ve bought a non mechanical suction pump because that’s the only one I can even remotely think about putting near my nips 🙈 hoping to express as well but then read about nipple confusion and then I get overwhelmed with info. There’s so much!!

Good luck for your scan tomorrow @Quiffy

Hope everyone has a great day x

@Indigogirl88 do you mean you have to take 2 weeks block of holiday?

I’m doing maternity leave from my due date plus some holiday (possibly 2 weeks) before then. I don’t want to use maternity before baby is here as I’m not having loads.

I feel a bit teary as it's so nice to know other ladies are feeling unsure about breastfeeding. I know it's the best nutrients but I really don't want it to make me unhappy or anxious - I agree on the public thing. I feel embarrassed blowing my nose in public nevermind anything else. The two friends I have who have kids were fine with it in public which was amazing but makes me feel like the prude freak. Maybe they'll pop out and it will feel perfectly natural - if not I'm not putting pressure on it. @CouscousEvaporator I cannot see doing it until that age at all - amazing to all those that can but not for me.

@Indigogirl88 All these baby buzzwords! I really need to start doing the baby course my midwife gave me...

So glad your DP is coming around! That's brilliant to hear

Hi ladies been lurking around as usual, love reading all the discussions and recommendations!

My blood pressure is now under control which is great and i'm going for weekly check ups on this at the hospital, with blood tests every 2 to keep an eye on symptoms for Pre eclampsia. Had a urine sample yesterday though that had sugar and protein in so they put me on antibiotics in case of a urine infection, had more bloods but they came back clear. Had to have a GTT this morning and find results of that tomorrow. They must be sick of me at the hospital i swear haha!

I feel really well cared for though and all the doctors and midwives have been great despite the challenges they're working under. Think it's likely i'll be at the hospital once a week for checks right now, twice a week towards the end and think it's likely i'll be induced around 38 weeks from what they've been saying to me!

Hey thank you everyone for the kind words. It’s like I’m alright and then randomly I just get so over whelmed and mad at myself over feeling not happy . Got a call from the midwife this morning - but I missed it now just waiting for them to call back - I hope they don’t cancel again - it’s soo annoying can’t even call them back it’s a one way system . She also left a message saying I need to go in for a scan 2mrw I’m confused as I had my 20 week scan.

In regards to maternity leave I’m taking 5 days off before due date . I’m hoping baby comes in those 5 days 🤣😂 and then maternity leave will start it will suck to wait ages and then baby comes round . Want to be off work max time possible . Tbh as we are working from home I could work right Till I give birth but doubt I would want to.

Is anyone else getting dry lips mine are so cracked and I feel super dehydrated. Been coconut poking them to help .

I’m sorry that some of us are getting sickness back anyone still on anti nausea pills ? I never stopped to afraid the crippling sickness will come back .

@Quiffy I was reading about this and its a more common issue than you'd think. I couldn't breastfeed my son anyway with his issues in NICU but I did try and I didnt enjoy it at all. With my mental health how it is I'll definitely be aware of making it any worse and my gut feeling is to formula feed. I plan to express colostrum, see how we feel when baby arrives and go from there.

@MsSian93 Great to hear you are doing well 🙌🏻 @Quiffy yes I got tears eyes reading the honest messages too, just so glad that I am not the alone one, a lot of us feel that bf is just not natural. My friend even says ‘well that’s what they are there for’ which makes me cringe! @Zaalfruit hope you get your appt today 🤞🏻 @Treaclepie19 that’s think that what I’ll do also xx

@CouscousEvaporator never got medication for it, never sick just feeling sick which I honestly think can be worse! xx

@CouscousEvaporator I'm like what the heck is nipple confusion, so do nipples have a mind of their own!?!

@LexiM yes I need to take a block, having said that if I haven't taken my block by the time baby comes what they going to do, they'll have to just pay me the difference

Oh no @Treacle81 🙈 I had horrendous nausea first trimester and they said they’d still prescribe me stuff, I couldn’t eat so I think that’s why. Might be worth asking if it’s completely unmanageable?

@indigo88 hahaha yes it does read like that 😂 I’ve read all sorts about the baby preferring the bottle as it’s easier to get milk out so you have to feed them in a certain way to mimic breast suction. Or something. Sometimes if it’s too easy they then don’t go back on breast. Or sometimes they just prefer breast if you leave bottles too late and you’ll never be free or something 🙈 breastfeeding fo lyf 😆

I don’t know I’ve decided I’m going to wing it. Hoping it has DHs appetite.

Oh if mine has dh appetite it wont be leaving my breast till 18, and can order a dominos

😂😂

Hey girls, I've been having a bit of Down time this week, just been so tired.

I hope you're ok @Zaalfruit, don't worry, I also feel like that too, my DH shouted at me after the 20 weeks scan because he thought I should be more happy etc but I think it's a defense mechanism as we are all so anxious about our babies. I hope today goes well.

Re BF'ing, I want to give it a go but I also need to train my mind to not feel the ick, and I just hope I can, as it can be difficult I've heard, milk supply, latching, nipple confusion 😬

I had my meet and greet on Saturday for my hypnobirthing course (via zoom) it was nice! I felt slightly awkward at first but we are all in the same boat I suppose. I've had mixed reactions from my 'mum' friends on it, some are all for it and others are adamant that I can't give birth without the epidural so why bother... 😏😏 thanks friends haha way to help my PMA. Anyway, I'm excited to learn more.

I wanted to start my baby list at the weekend but then asked friends for there 'must have/go to' baby items and got all flustered and confused so gave up and binge watched SAS who dares wins 😂 I will revisit the list at the weekend.

I used to think I'd be self conscious about breastfeeding (breastfeeding my 23 month old as I type, so not anymore!) I think after birth though, all sense of embarrassment around my body kind of left. I found I can only have so many people stick their hands inside me before it kind of just goes. The things those poor midwives saw... 😱 It did return eventually, but by then if been breastfeeding for so long I didn't care. And I don't do the discrete thing- just whacked it out walking around TESCO a couple of times. Got no negative responses at all, most folk are too wrapped up in their own world to notice tbh. I think just keep an open mind and don't put pressure on yourself. Also don't feel you have to buy breastfeeding equipment- all you need are boobs, really.

@MsSian93 wow, sounds like you're having all the tests! Hope the GTT comes back clear for you. Mine's not for another couple of months yet, thankfully. It's good that you're being so well looked after.

@Indigogirl88 glad your partner is coming round 🙂

I'm like what the heck is nipple confusion, so do nipples have a mind of their own!?!

Baby gets confused between breast and bottle as the action to get milk out is totally different. For breastfeeding they don't really suck, it's more an up and down motion of the jaw around the areola. For bottles they suckle. So if you use bottles and dummies before six weeksish there is a risk they'll forget how to get milk from the breast.

Oooh thank you @FourPlasticRings

I do find the bottle and breast thing confusing, some things I’ve read say if you don’t introduce the bottle after a couple of weeks they might refuse it and others say don’t before six weeks. So hard to know what information to choose. The fact you don’t have to prepare anything when bf makes me want to try it. In my head I don’t think I will be someone doing it for months and months once weaning starts but who knows. One thing I’ve learnt from other mum friends is never say you will or won’t do something until baby is here and you’re sure!

@Aquablue1123 I keep telling my husband hypnobirthing isn’t about having no pain relief, it’s about preparing your body, staying positive and making informed decisions (from what I’ve learnt so far). I kind of hate the fact it’s called that, makes it sound far more hippy than it is.

I have a “shopping” list but not many are specific brands - finding it so hard to be decisive on anything!

@indigogirl88 I hadn’t thought about what happens if you have holiday and baby is born before the date of maternity. Will have to check that out. I find it annoying that even if baby is born you can’t just continue on holiday and then move to maternity pay from the date agreed!

Some of the nursing tops you can get are really good they have v neck that you can pull down to bf but then some fabric under that covers the top of your boob so with the baby covering your nipple there's no skin on show!
Or if I I was wearing a non-nursing top I'd tie a Muslin to my bra strap so it covers the baby a bit any skin on show!
You could always express if you were going out in public!
It not just the nutrients of breast milk for example if your baby is dehydrated it provides more water in the milk (it uses the baby's saliva to determine what baby needs) and it provides antibodies which you have in your body which your baby may need as they cannot fight infection very easily!

Thing is tho while I loved breast feeding I think you put pressure on yourself too much to bf but it's a skill it doesn't come naturally like a lot of women expect and also it depends on how cooperative the baby is! There are a lot of benefits to bf but as long as the baby is fed it's fine! Xx

I do find the bottle and breast thing confusing, some things I’ve read say if you don’t introduce the bottle after a couple of weeks they might refuse it

They might. Mine never took a bottle really. She did when I wasn't there as an eight week old but by the time she was six months old she was having none of it! Some babies don't take to a bottle easily, but I didn't need her to tbh. She went straight from boob to cup- you can introduce sippy cups from six months old or thereabouts.

and others say don’t before six weeks.

Also true because then you may have troubles with breastfeeding. Ultimately, I think it depends on your priorities. If you absolutely must have them take a bottle, then you offer it earlier and risk losing the breastfeeding. If you prefer them to breastfeed over bottle feed, then you don't offer the bottle until past six weeks and take the risk that they won't accept it. It's a judgement call based on what matters most to you.