12 week scan time ladies 👣 Pregnancies due Late November/December

[ChampooPapi]

A shiny new thread for all the wonderful women approaching the end of their first trimester 🛌🤢.....

And heading into the second🦸👯⛹️‍♀️💪

I ordered a 4head stick because paracetamol weren't touching my headaches, no idea if it will work because I've not had a headache since it arrived! The reviews were very good though.

@peachypetite you're not alone. If anything, although I'm much less nauseous, I've developed more food aversions. I've almost gone off meat completely and most of what I fancy is beige and carby. I think some of it is also lethargy, I want things that are easy to eat because I can't be bothered to cook.

Am I the last for a scan then? Mine's on Friday morning, or is there anyone after that?

Beautiful @RunnerGirl123 I think a girl 💕🌷

Let me know how the 4head stick is please @kkr168 I have headaches all day long. Been trying to improve my water intake 💧

@RestorationInsanity yeh I’ve stopped eating meat and fish, basically anything proper. Today I’ve had some toast, an apple, some cheese and now a smoothie for dinner. It’s just so shitty!!! I’ve not been taking anything for the headaches just sleeping and going to bed early. Drinking lots too.

This thread is so exciting - all the gorgeous baby pics, maternity clothes chat & now prams!!

Haven't even begun to think about baby equipment yet - my husband's parents have very kindly offered to buy the pram as they did it for his other siblings but I'm not sure how cheeky I can be in terms of price! 😂

Hi all, it’s so nice to hear about so more lovely scans! You guys are so organised with looking at prams - I don’t think I’m going to know where to start!

@PipTed I think the bump has definitely arrived! I’m 15 weeks now and there has definitely been a shift upwards. I’ve also had a few meltdowns about what to wear - especially because it’s been so hot! I think I’m going to invest in a few more floaty dresses and then hopefully I’ll be able to layer them up in the winter!

@kkr168 yes I did she was unable to see a nub so refunded me to be fair she was very professional and could have lied but didn't. I will just have to wait it out until 22 week scan 8 weeks away

I really hope I get to try out prams I've no idea what they are like. I like the look of the Egg but might be totally different in person.

I also need to invest in a pillow

@roro87 oh at least she's honest! Are you going to find out another way?

@peachypetite I hear you on the heads, I usually get a few days off from those and then a day on sort of thing. Really sorry you are still grazing and so off square meals, it really isn't going to be forever, you'll be feeling so much better soon but I think it could be more like 16/18 weeks before you start feeling human again and consuming food in more familiar ways. I too am queesy a fair bit still but I eating like a horse so obviously not as bad as you've been feeling. Virtual hug to you lovely.

@Pinktruffle having a Stokke pram is not OTT in the least. Having a Stokke pram is brilliant and sexy and fantastic so hold your head up high while others swoon. I mean the shit people spend money on, an expensive pram is hardly frivalous in comparison.

However having Stokke EVERYTHING is perhaps OTT. We know these mum's 😆

(But also buy the Stokke highchair immediately they are brilliant 😏)

Has anyone had any experience of gestation hypertension? I had it with my last baby. OH is incredibly worried about me and thinks I’m going to die having this baby. Tonight he’s asked me if he thinks it’s a good idea to go ahead with the pregnancy. It’s something that can be easily and well medicated. I was induced at 39 weeks with DD and we were both perfectly fine. I don’t understand why he’s decided to spring this on me the night before my scan at the best part of 14 weeks. He said I’ve been a bundle of nerves and anxiety since getting the letter with the scab date which is true. But surely that’s normal, first scan, on my own, the drive there and the drive back etc. I’m stumped and feel as though he’s going to be very unsupportive now.

@Pe4nutsmum gorgeous scan photo and so happy everything is ok 👣✨ you must be over the moon 🥰

@Eskdale2004 couldn't read and run so will respond properly tomorrow as got to turn off now. But what is the man thinking?! He is also admittedly a bundle of nerves too and is just saying every stupid thing that comes into his head because he is panicking about the situation, tomorrow and your health, but really that is a terrible thing for you to hear and have in your head anytime really let alone the night before your scan. Really sorry you are dealing with this, you should be calm and relaxed in bed not worrying about this. Try please and discount it for now, file it away in 'really odd things your partner says during pregnancy' because as you know, they say alot of such things. Virtual hug for tomorrow and update us lovely when you can

@Eskdale2004 men can be so insensitive! My dh is only feigning interest in my pregnancy at this point I think. This is his 4th though so I can't say I blame him

@Teaandbiscuits123 the weather definitely does not help! I have a lot of short floaty dresses that I’m desperately trying to wear while it’s warm, as once the bump is in full force, they will be way too short with tights in winter; might be good as long smock tops though.

In winter I think I’ll be hibernating (more so than In lockdown) so yes just a few longer, waistband-less dresses.

@Eskdale2004 That doesn’t sound like the comment you need before your scan! But as other posters have said, it’s probably one of those comments that comes from worry with not much thought, all be it completely tactless! Hope you manage to get some sleep tonight and wishing you a fab scan!

I know he’s worried. I think it comes from a place of good. But from where I’m standing it’s not the end of the world. People go through much worse to have their babies. A lot of my stress is caused by him anyway. I think he’s anxious, he knows he can’t come with me which is probably playing on his mind too. But why come out with something so needlessly? He knew it would upset me, it did upset me.

@Eskdale2004 honestly don’t know what he was thinking! I’d focus on your scan today, hope it goes well. Then later sit down with him and have a chat about what he said and how it made you feel and your expectations for how he supports you in this pregnancy.

@Eskdale2004 sorry to hear this, definitely something that should NOT be said and that would really upset me but I think you're handling it so well and I think speaking to him after your scan will be the best way forward x

@Eskdale2004 good luck at your scan today. I'm sure he probably meant it from a good place, it just wasn't executed / timed well or thought about enough. Sometimes if I have a worrying niggle, I let it build until I blurt it out to oh and it's usually not well timed lol. I agree with @peachypetite, focus on the scan and then try have a proper discussion later. Let him know your anxieties have been about baby being okay during the long first trimester (which everyone feels) but reassure him that you'll raise / already have raised concerns with midwife/consultant so you can be monitored more throughout your whole pregnancy based on your history.

This is quite a random one ladies, I've not thought too deeply about labour and pain relief at this stage and I know it's a decision for later after a chat with the midwife but does anyone have any thoughts about what they might do? Especially anyone with experience! Has anyone had an epidural?

@Eskdale2004 it's such a shame he chose the day before your scan to express those fears and to suggest that because you are aware you might experience the same issue as you did with a previous pregnancy, you shouldn't have one. If everyone woman who had any kind of pregnancy complication, or potential complication, didn't get pregnant again, it never got pregnant at all, there wouldn't be many babies! If anything, the fact you've had the issue before means they'll monitor it, and if you need management for it again, so be it.

I'm now on a watch list for pre-term labour because of a former colposcopy. Had no idea it would even be an issue, and certainly wouldn't even consider not continuing with this much wanted pregnancy on the off chance something might go wrong. Put it out of your mind, stay as calm as you can before your scan, and give him a piece of your mind when you feel up to it! Everything crossed for you today.

@eskdale2004 just going to add my two pennies worth... It sounds like he's worried because he loves you very much. However he has gone about things in a not too ideal way!

I think he may benefit from some education around hypertension in pregnancy - perhaps you could suggest he speaks to your midwife who can explain the condition & it's management? And obviously that you may not even get it again!

But ultimately, today is all about you meeting your new baby for the first time so go & enjoy. 🥰 And also enjoy the break away from home & looking after your little one.

Thank you all! I’ve had cramps all morning and thought I saw a tiny bit of pink on the toilet before I left but wiped and wiped and wiped again and there was nothing. Stomach is in knots which I’m sure isn’t helping my cramps. Sat in my car at the moment waiting for them to give me a ring to go in.

Those of you who've had NIPT what do you think about this article? www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theatlantic.com/amp/article/381140/
I was just thinking if this is true and we carry around our babies dna forever, how can NIPT work for sexing or even for testing for conditions?
Is it just a duff article? I have heard this theory touted on various miscarriage sites giving women comfort that they carry their baby with them in their blood forever. @ChampooPapi what do you think?

Good luck @Eskdale2004

@skinnyhotchoc of it brings others confort I don't see the problem or harm in the article. But I think following the science and only reading peer reviewed papers on genetics ect is the only way to be informed with facts about such things as the nipt test.