Worried that No one likes our choice of name

[Charlottethevet]

Hello!

I have been avoiding telling people the potential names for our baby, as I was worried people may not like them or react badly. Some of the girls at work asked me today and I told them it was a secret, because everyone has an opinion and I don't like it when people pull faces at my choices. They assured me they wouldn't... of course... first thing they did was pull a face haha.

For a girl we are thinking either:

• Calliope
• Lily

for a boy:

• Angus
• Rupert

Everyone pulled faces at Calliope and Rupert... our two top names... am I really being too out there with those names?! I'm beginning to worry I'm going to lumber the baby with something hideous and they will resent us for it....

This is your child! You name he/she whatever you want! Your child will love whatever name you give them! Does not matter what other people think x

Don’t tell people! I learnt the hard way first time around and soon stopped telling people. When the baby is here no one will say a bad word. Go with your choice!

NEVER tell anyone names until baby is born.

Your list is lovely.

Calliope and Rupert are dreadful. What did you expect?

Don't tell people.
But also calliope and Rupert aren't good.

Angus and Lily are great.

This is why your first instinct was correct. You don’t tell people your chosen names before the baby has been born and you’ve 100% decided on the name. Until that point people think you’re open to persuasion on changing it if they don’t like it.

So just don’t tell anyone else. No matter what they promise.

Best not telling people beforehand they are much more polite about a name when the baby is born. Mil told us outright what a horrible choice of name we chose for dd still called it her and we love it. Second time round she didn’t get a chance to comment we refused to tell her the name until baby arrived.

@joystir59 who are you helping by being so nasty?

OP - I think Calliope and Rupert are both beautiful. And more importantly, you like them, which is what matters!

It's your hormones. I also like bizarre names when pregnant. Chose a sensible one when there was actually a living breathing small person who would have to live with it.

Cally as a nickname would be better, and I don’t mind Rupert but it just reminds me of Rupert Grint and now boris Johnson’s son. Lily and Angus are nice!

For what it’s worth, I think they are all lovely names! Particularly like your top two

Don’t tell people before they are born! But yes, as you asked, avoid calliope like the plague

I'd have pulled a face too OP.
But it's your baby and you can call them whatever you like!

Rupert and Lily are lovely and I would chose either. The other two are fine. Everyone has different opinions as you can see from this thread. Non of your options are crazy so just go with what you like

I like the names! Just keep the it a surprise until the baby is here and no one will say anything.

Good luck!

Although if you do name her calliope and she grows up to be a fan of Thomas the tank engine she might love you forever. It is my eldests main bugbear that we didn’t name him after an engine on thomas!

How do you pronounce Calliope? Is it a made up name ie a.mix of you and your DP?

Calliope is awful sorry - people just don't know how to pronounce it let alone spell it and it automatically tends to put people off

The fact that you are too embarrassed to tell people your potential names should tell you something? If you can't say it now what about when little Calliope is here and you are saying the name out loud to everyone you meet

I love Calliope !!! It's beautiful

Rupert is a great name I suppose maybe people think it's a bit jolly hockey sticks ??

Your baby, your choice! My boy is called Alistair and everyone was very dubious "he'll get called Alice" and he'll never find his name again in a gift shop.. which is true, but no one calls him Alice and he couldn't be anything other than my Ali now.

Stand firm!

Tell everyone that the baby will be called " Something Ridiculous"

Then when you give baby any of the names you mention when they are born your family will be pleasantly surprised

We did this and it worked 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Meh, whenever I tell people my son's name they always do a double take or pull a face. Its a well know, traditional name but people often say it's too old fashioned.

I don't think names mean much at all tbh. I think people often pick a name and think or associate that name with certain personality traits. My parents gave me a really 'out there' name and I think they're quite disappointed that I've grown up very ordinary and not at all artsy.

Ultimately it doesn't matter what anyone thinks or says about it.

Choose whichever name makes you happy and don't tell others the name. So so many people pulled a face at my sons name.

But Calliope is weird.

Rupert is in the top 100 and rising incredibly fast, so definitely won't be out there, I predict it will be in the top 10 eventually. Calliope I love, it was on our shortlist, and I had a boy, and I've met two since, thought it might be a fast riser too, and I've just checked and it is still very unusual, but Callie is more popular, and those sort of sounding names so I don't think it will sound out there. Plus who cares if you love it? Definitely stick to not telling people in future. I bet you don't love all their children's names.

I love all your names! Calliope would be top of my list if I had a dd( too old now). And Rupert is my all time favourite boys name... but DH vetoed it. Our DS2 is Angus!