Early Oct babies part 4

[Treaclepie19]

Hi all! ❤

@DollyDaph10 congratulations and yay for team blue. I am absolutely made up you decided to go to your scan and got to see all was okay 🙂🙂🙂
@BooMamaBear thank you for your support I have a feeling you might be right and I also think that I am overthinking what I should feel, I think I expected more but its been 5 years since I got this far in pregnancy and I can't really remember when my daughter properly kicked.
Again probably feeling the movement and just not really noticing it yet.

Alot of you have mentioned braxton hicks already I said to my DH my sciatica felt like Labour in the back it was so uncomfortable but I doubt it was. That's one thing in pregnancy I Do remember.
Xx

@DollyDaph10 congrats! 💙 Teddy with heartbeat was a lovely idea. Hopefully the placenta might move between now and then but I'm sure everything will be fine regardless so try not to worry too much

@Indigogirl88 sorry you're having a down day. Its normal to have bad days, and it's such strange times we're in - that probably only exacerbates it. Try to take it easy and look after yourself, hopefully you'll feel more upbeat tomorrow.

@HerondaleDucks oh no, were they that hard on you? Sorry to hear they made you feel that way x

@Indigogirl88 I’ve been feeling like that today... I’m going through potential flexible working patterns and I just hate relying on anyone else for money. DH thinks I’m being ridiculous but I know he would hate it as well. It’s a huge deal. Going to have a long hard think about it all. Just sending solidarity and hugs x

@HerondaleDucks what’s PIMs? And why chastised ☹️

Also @DollyDaph10 how did I miss your post?! Congratulations, what a lovely way to tell your partner x

Thanks girls.

@HerondaleDucks what's up? Nobody should make you feel like that!

@Dollydaph10, yay congratulation on healthy, happy baby and team blue. What a lovely way to share the news

@Indigogirl88, sorry you're having a bad day today. I think these pregnancy hormones mean that things that would normally upset us a bit are being magnified. I hope your relationship doesnt leave you feeling you might be financially stuck, and that it's just the hormones (if you know what I mean). And while the house situ may leave you a bit cash money short for a bit at least you have it in assets. Fingers crossed the market stays ok. We want to move next year so are waiting to see what happens.
We're all here to talk if you need to.

@Herondaleducks, what's PIMs? How come they left you feeling like that? Anything specific or just their general demeanour?

It stands for Positive Image and Motivation Support. It's a team in the maternity unit.

It was basically about what I should eat, portion control, what I can't eat.
And it's for people who are considered over weight in pregnancy.

I mean I thought I was doing ok in the circumstances with lockdown. But I got lectured about how much exercise I was doing, the fact I sometimes use sauces to cook and I have to make everything from scratch, about when I eat and what I eat etc.
It just made me feel like I'm letting down the baby and I haven't done a good enough job.

I'm sure it was supposed to be constructive advice, but I'm just hormonal and now i feel chastised.

@HerondaleDucks, doesn't look their way of putting things across to you came out very constructive noone should be making you feel like that hun.

@Indigogirl88 I understand completely what your saying. Last year my DH was working and I was completely reliant on him for financial support I absolutely hated it and when I have worked in the past he has felt the same way. I don't like asking for handouts I don't like asking for anything even when he gives me money to spend on me I spend it back on him and kids. I do hope your okay hun and you will gwt through all of this have you spoken to him about how you feel?

Sounds very unmotivational!

Maybe revisit some of the less silly points in a couple of days when you’re feeling less emotional about it. I’d hate that kind of meeting to be honest, I think anyone would come out of it feeling crappy.
X

@DollyDaph10 - lovely way to tell your DP! Try not to stress my SIL had this it didn't move but had no problems just got booked in for an elective section a week before her EDD so she didn't have have contractions or anything and she healed really well!!
@Indigogirl88 -hope you have a better day tomorrow some days your just more hormonal than others and things overwhelm you just we good to yourself!
@HerondaleDucks -they really shouldn't make you fell like that!
@babymama09 -o know it was my first but I had an anterior placenta last time and I didn't feel anything til 20 weeks -i couldn't remember what movement felt like as it 4.5 years since I got to this stage of pregnancy!! Xx

@HerondaleDucks I hate the way they treat people sometimes. I was so annoyed when I had bloods taken in week 10 and she told me to eat better and exercise more then gave me a leaflet. I cook from scratch, we have had one take away this year and I used to walk at least 4 miles a day plus do gym classes. I was told I would likely have GD, but my bloods came back negative. I didn't feel like I could say that I do all these things and just felt so intimidated. I think sometimes they forget that you can be healthy and trying as hard as you can, but still be a little overweight.
Try and out it to the back of your mind, I know it will be hard with the tracking but all the worry isn't good for you either. I think they need to either have some training or rename the programme. It's not positive or motivational to be told things like that.

@HerondaleDucks that's awful. I'm so sorry they've made you feel that way.
They'd have a field day with me and my dominos delivery Monday and nuggets amd chips today.

Hope you're okay

@HerondaleDucks that sucks, but I hope that you feel a little better and maybe can do some things, like make shopping lists etc to help you feel more empowered

Thanks ladies for all your virtual hugs, I'll have a chat with dp tonight about how im feeling

@BooMamaBear I understand what your saying completely.

Can I just ask ladies how many of you have other children? Don't mean to pry but it seems this is a first time experience for most of you on here and I feel terrible complaining knowing I have been through all of this before but without the virtual support.

Feeling sickly again.... Food makes me feel sick. 😔😔

@babymama09 I have a 4yo. This is my 4th pregnancy though so know the ropes a little bit 😂

@babymama09 -as you know I have one DD and lost 2 little boys from a genetic condition (lost Dec 2017 and Jul 2019) both at 13 weeks! Xx

@Treaclepie19 aww fantastic is your 4 up excited? My younger two are 5 and 6, my 6 yo is adamant that he doesn't want to do much unless baby is a boy it's took him a long time to get used to his sis being here constantly lol. My 5 yo is quite adament she wants to help and my 14 and 11 yo keep saying they r gonna help too which is lovely. Xx

Hi girls! Wow, glorious weather 😎 congrats on all these exciting scan results!! Think that’s 3 girls and 3 boys so far?? Being trying to write down but may have missed some. I seemed to have a lot of movements earlier than now but I’m not worrying, just seeing it as a super chilled baby! This is my second child, however as it was 16 yrs ago, feels like first again lol. I do know that my first was a breeze this certainly isn’t. Nausea still here 18 wks in 😩xx

My goodness @BooMamaBear you have been through a very tough time, this is your little rainbow.. R they keeping a close eye on you? Forgive me if u have mentioned this before I have a lot of pregnancy brain and forget half the time.
My girls I lost in 07 and 09 had a genetic condition called hydrops although we don't know why it occurred, when it occurred, how it occurred or if it will ever occur again.xx is ur DD excited??

@Treacle81 understand completely hun I think the longer you leave it between the more you feel like a first timer again. And sickness def hasn't left me yet 16 still being sick

@babymama09 he doesn't know yet!
Our last pregnancy ended up in a TFMR for a chromosomal issue so we've been trying to hold off telling him until we're as confident as we can be that things are okay.

@Treaclepie19 that is completely understandable. We tried to do that with our four kids, tried not to tell them. When we mc last year we found out at around 6 weeks weeks and DH told my neighbours the day of my Dr app I miscarried that kogjt and my children were devastated. Only my oldest guessed, told my second oldest who then was sworn to secrecy and when we had our scan at 6.5 weeks to check on baby my youngest two were then told by dad so secret didn't last long in my house. The only ones who have absolutely no idea at all are my parents. They Have no clue I am expecting pooh and my sister doesn't know either.

Sorry about all the corrective text which IS Not correct lol

@babymama09 this is my first baby, first pregnancy. I don’t take it for granted, and am very aware it may all go wrong. I try to keep positive 🙂
I’ve joined online support as I’m generally a bit clueless on how to raise a child 😂 also very glad I did after this pandemic stuff with no classes running!

@CouscousEvaporator congrats on your first pregnancy. I'm sure everything will by fine hun.
I came on to online support for similar reasons and because I barely talk to anyone other than those in my house. I find it easier to talk to those who are going through similar experiences as in pregnancy. Xx