Early Oct babies part 4

[Treaclepie19]

Hi all! ❤

Been pretty rough but yeah hoping this one is my rainbow and arrives safely! My genetic condition has a 50/50 chance of affecting baby!
My DD is super excited especially coz it's a girl and she's felt her kick, heard her heartbeat we have a doppler but my dad who's a GP supervised my DH when we used it with DD so he knows how use and read it now, she's also seen the scan picture -she said she wished for a sister when she blew out her candles in her birthday cake I conceived a day later! Xx

@babymama09 this is my second child and second pregnancy. I'm lucky that (touch wood) everything have gone fine for me so far (had a drama with DD post birth, but that's nothing pregnancy or labour related really and she was fine just after). DD is 3 on 29th Sep and this one is due 27th Sep. DH and I clearly spend too much time together in the new year!

Even though my last pregnancy was only 3 years ago it still feels like I've forgotten everything. And I feel more worried because I'm more aware of things this time round, if that makes sense. For example last time I had no idea how detailed or important the 20w scan was, etc. This time I was nervous for it and everything being ok

@BooMamaBear that is sooo sweet. Aww kids are absolutely gorgeous aren't they and wow she got her birthday wish. What's the genetic condition if you don't mind my asking? I understand why you feel so anxious about the pregnancy and share your anxiety. I got told after my second little girl born with hydrops I had a 2 in 4 chance of it happening again. After the first I got told it should never happen again. When I had my DD in 2015 I was so shocked that she was healthy that when I got pregnant with this one I made it clear I didn't want to be shrugged off like I was with her sister the second hyrdopic baby in 09. I was practically left in that pregnancy because I had, had a healthy boy a year before. Scared shirtless it could all happen again. Xx

@Spark27 OMG I'm the same first time o thought the 20w scan was just see the baby when the Dr started telling me all the things looked fine I was confused!! I'm really nervous about the 20w scan this time! Xx

This is my first pregnancy. Me and my husband are together 13 years, married 1 and a half. My mum and sister had a lot of miscarriages which makes me nervous that genetically I may have some predisposition (that and the spotting I had at 10 weeks), but I'm hoping I'm in the relative safe zone now at 18 weeks (though I know anything can happen).

@Spark27 I completely get what you mean hun. Me and my DH have been together 15 years in June and we can get very how do i put it... We are like a newly introduced couple the majority of the time when it comes to the bedroom 😏😏😏😏 sorry tmi. We entered the new year by ttc. But I do understand what you mean I feel new to this and my last pregnancy that went past 7 weeks was 5 years ago. Hormones are everywhere and today for some reason I feel really fed up and cannot work out why, x

@Glitterbug86, my mum lost two children between me and my sister I think they were mcs but not sure. My sister had a little boy last year but we arent close and I have never met him. I am probably more scared of the 20 wk scan this time round which is the 3rd June than I was with my youngest just because its been so long since I was able to get pregnant. Xx

It's called Myotonic Dystrophy it's a form of muscular dystrophy, me and my dad have it but he wasn't symptomatic til he got older, it's gets worse every generation I am pretty much the last generation where I could survive past 5 weeks or not suffer too badly -though it does cause me stomach issues, it causes cataracts I can't see through my left eye they will operate once they're doing operations again, I can't have GA's as it affects the heart and I may not wake up, it affects my vocal chords, swallowing, causes chest infections, weakness in my hands and legs etc as it's dystrophy my muscles waste -for a baby their intercostal muscles probably wouldn't work so they would be be unable to breathe and also be mentally and physically disabled!! If I release an egg with the chromosome from my dad it's affected if from my mum it's not! Xx

@BooMamaBear, wow that sounds a very complicated condition. You are an very strong young woman. Your baby will be very lucky when he/she is born to have you and your supportive family. 🤗🤗🤗

@Spark27 congrats on baby girl! 💕
@DollyDaph10 congrats on baby boy! 💙

@HerondaleDucks I'm sorry they made you feel crap. Seems like a few people on here are having some abrupt or rude antenatal care. Hope you're ok x

@babymama09 This is my 2nd pregnancy with fingers crossed my first take home baby. We lost a baby boy in November due to pre-term premature rupture of membranes. My waters broke and leaked slowly at 18 weeks but it went unnoticed as I had been bleeding throughout the pregnancy. They had to induce labour at 22 weeks as I contracted an infection and my life was at risk. Our baby wouldnt have survived anyway as his lungs were not able to develop properly due to the lack of amniotic fluid. I am being looked after by a consultant this pregnancy and being monitored for signs of premature labour.
We are very lucky to have fallen pregnant so soon after, with only 1 period in between my TFMR and conceiving. Not taking this pregnancy for granted but things are so far going amazingly well compared to last time. Feeling surprisingly relaxed and happy at the moment. Will be nervous for the 20 week scan as we got out bad news then.
I find it very helpful on here. Very reassuring hearing what other ladies are going through whether it is their first baby or their 5th. It's also nice to be able to speak about my baby boy William as people tend to shy away for the subject in real life and not want to talk to me about him.

@Buzz22, I completely get what you mean and please talk as much as you would like, I for one can fully understand how you feel, because we mc last year we are both anxious about this pregnancy even though touch wood I have only had sciatica once and nausia. I have only started to get anxious the later the pregnancy has reached. Its around this time when I found out about my youngest girl whom I lost in 09 and with her pregammcy she was left as I had had a healthy baby prior. Now that I have been able to have a healthy girl which was in 2p15 I get anxious that it would repeat the last if you get me. So far nothing has gone wrong but the anxiety remains no matter what for me. I will feel better when I have had my scan so I can understand completely what your saying

My youngest daughter who I lost in 09 was bit. At 24+1, I bled through that pregnancy and had a placenta abrupt ion, I remember I may have lost my waters and not knowm about it. She died as I gave birth to her because her pregnancy wasn't watched at the time. The last two pregnancy's I have been scanned every other week until birth must to keep and eye on the pregnancies. This one I was anxious thet may not do that because of the 2 healthy if you get me. Always here if you ever need to talk thou hun.
I have found this site very comforting when needing to express about pregnancy x

@Buzz22 there's a lovely support group for ladies who are pregnant or TTC after TFMR if you want To have a look on there too;

They're a lovely supportive group -
Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities - Thread 6 http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenataltestss_choices/3849954-Support-thread-for-women-who-are-pregnant-or-TTC-after-a-termination-for-abnormalities-Thread-6

@Spark27 Congrats on your baby girl and @DollyDaph10 congrats on your baby boy. How exciting for you both.

I've just found out I'm back at work next Monday after being furloughed for the last nearly 7 weeks so feeling really anxious about it, been in such a safe bubble at home and just got a phone call out of the blue so came as a bit of a shock.

Is anyone else working at the moment?

I have barely even been to the supermarket so just feeling a bit vulnerable and worried this eve. Knowing others have been working will make me feel reassured a bit more I think xx

@AutumnBabyWinterMummy I’m WFH at the moment, but anticipating being asked to come back in soon which I’m going to try and fight as my work won’t be able to practice social distancing. Have your work said they will out into place to keep you and baby safe?

Thank you everyone for the congratulations, all feels surreal! Xx

@AutumnBabyWinterMummy have they outlined how they will protect you? I’m assuming we still wfh from 28 weeks as originally planned and outlined in RCOG?

Do you work with members of the public? It must be a shock x

Congratulations on finding out it’s a girl @Spark27 and Congratulations @DollyDaph10 on finding out it’s a boy!!! Waaahay !! So exciting .

@Buzz22 this is great place everyone in this thread is super supportive - some of the Other threads here are so malicious .

@DollyDaph10 @CouscousEvaporator Well I'm actually an employed nanny just working for one family. The gov guidance changed for nannies 2 days ago but I hadn't realised. So luckily I work from someone's home and not a public place. Just in general worrying though as I will now be exposed to a family of 5 more people than I had been. But maybe Boris' update on Sunday I think it is could change this before I even go back 🤷‍♀️

Such worrying and strange times for us all at the moment. I was actually really enjoying being isolated at home was getting loads of decorating done for baby!! Xx

Congrats on the scans 😊

And@AutumnBabyWinterMummy I can’t believe they’re sending you back to work! I’m 100% with you: it’s felt safe and sensible being at home whilst pregnant and I’ve been assuming we’d all just keep this up to October.

Thanks @Couscousevaporator for flagging the RCOG guidelines - surely our employers have to follow them... x

I’m wfh at The moment but I really don’t want to go back - I have to take a few trains in central London then once in London my office has us crammed in like sardines.

@AutumnBabyWinterMummy you should contact HR to see what measures are in place . I emailed my HR team waiting to hear back from them .

@AutumnBabyWinterMummy I have been WFH since early March, manager have asked me how I feel about going back on different occasions when RCOG guidance has 'relaxed' but I have said I don't feel comfortable and am against it and they have been pretty good. My team supports me WFH though and I am managing to stay busy and do my job. I can't imagine it must be tough being asked to go back and I think I'd feel the same. Make sure it's risk assessed and everything put in place to ensure you're as safe as you can be. Don't be afraid to say when you feel uncomfortable with something this is your health

@LostinAusten2 I also assumed pregnant women would be "protected" until we had given birth but at least I don't have a public facing role.

@Zaalfruit I think if your job allows they will probably (well makes sense to) allow your to keep wfh for your whole pregnancy. I hope you don't have to go back any time soon as lots of trains in London and a crammed office sounds a bit scary in these times.

Sorry I'm worrying about this when I'm sure there's loads of people on this thread who have already had to work throughout all of this

Xx

@blankiesandunicorns I'm glad your team are being supportive and hope you can continue to keep working from home throughout your pregnancy x

Thank you @AutumnBabyWinterMummy I think the guidelines are quite open to interpretation which makes it tricky. Yes I do feel for people who have had to continue working, although WFH isn't a piece of cake either iv been pulling my hair out most days 😂

I really, really hope that all of us will continue to be allowed to WFH. Keeping my fingers crossed for everyone & hopefully Sunday will provide us pregnant ladies with the reassurance we need. It seems mad to tell us we are vulnerable and then push us back out into the open x