Early Oct babies part 4

[Treaclepie19]

Hi all! ❤

I feel odd by being in the opposite boat, I cant wait to be able to go back to work, but that's more for my own mental health. I usually work 3 days a week while DD is at nursery and as soon as she can go back I will be desperate to go back in. Not for the work, but for the social aspect (although I know it will be greatly reduced). I'm so frustrated and bored being at home, and knowing it could go up to my maternity leave is really getting me down. I need grown up conversation thats not just DH. I feel like when I eventually go back I'll be completely out of the loop, will have lost my currency at work, and be isolated.

I'm fortunate that while I work in a busy building, the office I am in is fairly small and access controlled. And I'm not in customer facing role, and I drive there. I also think they'll limit how many can be in.

But I cant really complain as I'm currently home, on full pay, with no requirement to do any work. I think no matter what guidelines come out and how our companies interpret this, some of us are going to be upset, unfortunately. It's just a crappy situation to be in.

@DollyDaph10 I agree, fingers crossed for Sunday's announcement.

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@Spark27 completely understand what you mean from a mental health perspective and I know it has to come to an end at some point, i think it just came as a shock! X

@DollyDaph10 congrats on your boy! I just cannot wait to find out now 😄

@AutumnBabyWinterMummy sorry you are anxious about going back to work. I really hope the family are following the rules. Do the parents work from home or go out? I would certainly mention to them about your rights to be kept safe etc.

I was furloughed on full pay luckily for 6 weeks but went back on a Monday. I am the only one in the office though and I get there in my car, so it doesn’t make much difference but I am so much more fulfilled mentally being back at work and having a routine. Despite not seeing anyone getting out of the house to work is good for me compared to working from home... although I think the novelty may wear off after a couple more weeks!

I am also interested to see what’s coming on sunday, I would have thought there must be some more information then just an extension on lockdown but who knows. I think the government will be under pressure to get more people back to work providing distancing measures are possible. We shall see!

Morning ladies, been catching up from last night. Thank you for sharing your stories, it's good to share for us ftm as well because it helps us feel prepared for things at the 20w scan.

I'm nervous about the scan, and unless things change I doubt dp will be able to come so hearing and trying to remember everything on my own I'm nervous about.

My boss has started talking about us going back to work and asked our opinions so I need to tell her 1. I'm pregnant and 2. I don't want to go back just yet. I havent told them I'm pregnant yet as I wanted to wait for the scan and I didnt want it to impact me in terms of being furloughed

Anyway...I tried to feel movement again last night but not feeling much, and feeling pretty un pregnant. But just assuming that's the second tri just easing off slightly. My bump however is growing. My maternity Jean's came and they're huge! I'll grow into them though haha

Morning ladies. Sorry to hear some of you are feeling stressed about work situations. I agree about waiting to hear what sundays announcement has to bring. Fingers crossed a bit of clarity and reassurance for us all.

Swinging the conversation round to baby names! Have any of you who now know the gender been thinking of/decided on names?
Our baby didn't cooperate at private scan so now have another 2 weeks till 20 week scan where hopefully it will uncross its legs and stay still! But nubtechs told me 85% girl, my mother also wanted to try the old wives trick of the wedding ring on a thread and seeing if it spins or swings. Which also said girl. I think nubtechs have been both right and wrong for people on here so far. Unfortunately girl names for us have been much trickier. We have a boy name we love. I fear if baby is a girl she will be nameless for a while!

@Indigogirl88 my maternity jeans came too and they are also massive. I got a bigger size because I have big thighs and they fit fine there but as usual are big on the waist band, even if I push the front band out where bump will get bigger the back still gapes a bit. I cannot be bothered to keep trying loads so my mum is going to put a stitch in the back for me.

@buzz22 totally with you on finding it easier to agree on a boys name. we just didn’t have many options. I really thought for a girl we wouldn’t ever get to any but we’ve got a small list now and are going to wait until 1. We know the sex and 2. Nearer the birth date to make a final decision. I definitely don’t want to tell friends/family until he/she is born.

Morning everyone, trying to catch up with 3/4 pages 😅

@Spark27 congrats on girl and @DollyDaph10 congrats on boy. Very exciting 💙💕

@HerondaleDucks that sounds absolutely ridiculous and judgmental. I hope you're okay today.

The work situation sounds very scary, I hope you can all stay at home or at least get social distancing in. I'm not sure what will happen up here, the FM doesn't seem keen on lifting anything.

We got our nursery furniture yesterday. It's gorgeous so very pleased with it. Not sure if nerves about it, my lack of movement or scan fear but sickness off the charts. Want to do some painting today but instead on sofa trying not to be sick 😭

@Buzz22 We has an instant boys name, as it was a name DH and I had discussed back when we were dating (yes I was bringing up babies and marriage then to test him! Haha). DH is American and the name works well with a U.K. and US accent and is an established name both places. I think U.K. based friends and family were concerned we may opt for a SUPER American off the wall name. Girls names we FINALLY found one we both loved, so I’m already hoping next baby is a girl so we can use it 🤣
Baby clothes shopping all the lovely bits are for girls and there’s way more options so enjoy the boys names being easier to choose xx

Been catching up on everyone's stories this morning.
Sorry to hear of all those sad experiences for some of you.
I'm really hoping this pregnancy is safe and goes well for all of you!

It's my first ever pregnancy. I got told I wouldn't have children without medical intervention because of my Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. But I fell pregnant within 3 months of even thinking about it. So it's been a real shock to me and DH.
I have 2 stepchildren, DSD is 14 and DSS is 13. DSS has profound learning disabilities, autism and he is blind. He is now in residential school full time.
Love both of my step children to pieces and have been a primary carer to them both since 2015, up until DSS went to residential school they were both at home with us full time.
DSS is doing really really well in his school and he is very happy and thriving so thats a big relief. He doesn't understand about the baby, so we have told him but it won't mean much to him. DSD is very very excited and she is really looking forward to having a sibling. Though she has told me she is worried this baby will be disabled too, I said we won't know but we will love him/her no matter what.
Her mum had a baby in 2018 and she was removed into a permanent adoption in 2019. My DSD has found that hard as she has a sibling she hasn't met or will ever have contact with.
It just makes this baby all the more precious.

I am WFH, I work for a Local authority, primarily I work for the Youth Offending Service. So I'm hoping I can stay at home for as long as I can as it is a front facing role and can get a little hairy at times.

I hope those who are going back to work are kept safe and have a proper plan in place for return!

Oh! thank you all for your kind messages about yesterday.
I had a big cry but I feel better today.
I will take on board what she said and will be more active and healthy. I just wish she had gone about it in a kinder way. I'm not even that overweight and I'm super active normally. It's just lockdown that's caused me to be a bit stuck!

@Buzz22 yep I'm there almost for girl names, and boy names almost but none go with our surname! Are we sharing names on here? I'm worried about peoples reactions haha but I'm going super old fashioned, I'm a bit vintage like that!

@LexiM yeah I'm going to put a stitch in mine to and make it do till I'm bigger

Wow @HerondaleDucks that sounds amazing, what a woman!

It’s SO tricky to eat healthily. I struggle with it daily, and I find it so so hard to resist sweet treats and crisps. I feel so guilty afterwards, but I am trying to change my food habits of 27 years and it’s tough. Well done for being proactive about it all :) I’ve found bread with guacamole or watermelon and pineapple chunks are my go to snacks for when the cravings hit xx

I am set on my girl and boy names. I didn't like very many at all but discovered I like 4 letter e names for boy and 4 letter l name for a girl. I feel it might change when the baby arrives and I think shit, that name doesn't work at all!

@Indigogirl88 thanks, I don't feel like it but lol I am no stranger to extreme sleep deprivation.

@Indigogirl88 I’m happy to share. We are going for Theodore (still working on a middle name) I love Theodore Henry but DH likes Theodore Hamilton. DH is American and Hamilton is totally a name there and his family all love it, but makes me giggle 🤭
What names are you thinking?

Theodore Henry is a great name @DollyDaph10

@HerondaleDucks If it’s Isla that was my top pick and I felt a bit gutted when I realised I wouldn’t get to use it. I’ve already told our friends ‘we are still using it one day’ 🤣 as they all said oh we wanted that name too when we told them before finding out gender. I’m not somebody who would be upset if a friends child had the same name, but DH and I love that name so so much we want to use it in the future regardless of how many there may be in our friend group by then 🤣 x

My names are Eric Simon or Ennis Simon I am torn between the 2.
And a girl name would be Lyra Linda

@DollyDaph10 Isla is a lovely name and you should use it for the next one I wouldn't be worried about other people using it as it's a popular name and rightfully so. So if you like it, go for it!

Oooh I really like Ennis Simon! I work with children so come across lots of different names, and that’s the first time I’ve heard the name Ennis. I love the name Lyra!

Hey girls :-)

I've been catching up after a couple of days out, work has been really busy this week for some reason.

So happy we know some more baby sexes eek very exciting. Has anyone kept a tally, I tried at the beginning but I've lost track haha.

I totally get everyone's anxiety, I've been so bad all the way through because I've also had two MMC's last year both at 10 weeks. I'm still worried about the high risk result I got on my first blood test too, despite the second one coming back low risk, so I know that the 20 will scan will be nerve wracking to say the least.
I've actually relaxed slightly but then I beat myself up when I think about it, because I don't want to get too comfortable and then something happens. I know that sounds weird as nothing can ever prepare you for this type of news so it's best for me to be positive if I can, I just go up and down. This group is very comforting and it's the best thing I could have signed up to as I don't feel alone, so thank you everyone for all your honest posts, they really do help. :-)

Anyway, on a different note, I bought a lot of maternity jeans before lockdown and I have literally lived in leggings and a T-shirt the whole time 🤣.

My work are thinking of going back end of May, but my manager mentioned that he will ask the MD for some flex for me so I hope he agrees.

Does everyone in your work know, mine don't so it will be really funny when I rock up with a bump 🤣, they will think I've had a great time in lockdown haha quite the opposite. 🤮

I probably shouldn't ask this; I may not want to know the answer as I am enjoying my cups of tea again, but who is drinking caffeine? I have up to 2 cups of tea a day, is this ok? I know guidelines say so but I'm still worried.

Xxxxx

Wow, that was a massive post, sorry, you can tell I've missed the interaction 🤣.

I treat myself to one tea or coffee in the morning and then decaffeinated for the rest of the day.

I totally agree about this thread, I've found it so helpful and supportive and not nearly so alone!

Fingers crossed work are understanding.
How long do you have to go until your 20 week scan?

@Aquablue1123

@aquablue1123 I'm drinking caffeine! I'm literally just following NHS guidelines because there's so much conflicting stuff (rubbish) on the internet so I have one or two weak green teas a day and usually a small diet Coke which all keep me under the limit by quite a lot. Only reason I'm not drinking coffee is because it made me feel sick during the pregnancy nausea! When TTC I gave up caffeine to prepare for pregnancy just to be on the safe side but pregnancy fatigue+ insomnia meant that was not sustainable!

@Indigogirl88 our taste in names are also quite old fashioned/vintage!
@DollyDaph10 I love the name Theodore. I liked Theodora as a posssible girls name but DP doesnt like it at all so it's out the window!
@HerondaleDucks I've never heard Ennis before, I really like it! Also love Lyra as I love the His dark materials books and it reminds me of them!

@Aquablue1123 Coffee seems to be my pregnancy craving! I have 1 proper coffee in the morning then I drink de-caf during the day. I have gone off normal tea but have been drinking herbal peppermint or spearmint tea. I'm not a fizzy drink fan anyway and that hasn't changed during pregnancy.

I don’t drink tea and coffee, but I love a full fat coke (has less caffeine than a diet one!!) and chocolate so definitely not avoiding caffeine 😆 also definitely not avoiding sugar 🙄

I’ve told work so they are expecting a bump but I don’t have one yet 🙈