January 2021 Babies!

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Hi!
Just got my BFP this weekend.
I got my first faint positive Friday morning with an frer, and today it's much darker (11dpo)!

Leading up to my bfp, I've had icky feeling, tiredness, dizzy spells, headaches, cramps.
Not feeling as icky as with my last pregnancy yet though!
Provisional due date of 7th January using the NHS calculator.

Come and join once you've got your bfp for January 2021, for a few pregnancy pals!

@CoalCraft any tips to stop worrying about symptoms disappearing?? And my boobs haven't been particularly sore either. That's how I knew something was different this cycle as I normally have really sore boobs before af.. X

Congrats to all

@Beautybake5 @MayBug2020
Regarding the clear blue tests they go on from when you conceived, whew as your due date is calculated from the day of your last period. So you need to add 2 weeks on top of wat clear blue said
So if it said 2-3 weeks you are 4-5 weeks

@Pol96

From what the other women have said it's completely normal, I think we've just got to roll with it every day. Keep ourselves happy & healthy, and if at all possible lovingly annoy our partners 😁🥳

Today is my first day of feeling really tired, I'm feeling really sick. Xx

@ClairejLindsay thank you, it does help to know it It's normal! I hope the sickness isn't too bad, how many weeks are you/When's your due date? X

@Pol96 I'm 5 weeks today 😁 due 17th of Jan wbu?

It's so hard not to get ahead of yourself isn't but I'm getting so excited 😆 xx

@Pol96 My only tip for not worrying is to try to distract yourself with fun stuff. Easier said than done not to worry but keeping busy and doing stuff I like helps pass the time (have had some potentially worrying symptoms and am awaiting am early scan Tuesday)

Also helps to remind myself that there's nothing I can do influence things more than I already am which makes me feel like I'm under no obligation to think about it (hopefully that makes some sense lol)

@ClairejLindsay going of lmp 21st Jan so 4 weeks 4 days.. Only 4 days difference! Oh I know I keep trying to stop myself getting too excited but it's hard not too! X

@Pol96 we can have a good main together 😂 I won't lie and say I'm not looking at things but it's more out of curiosity. Ginger biscuits are such a good idea I've just had some.

@MayBug2020 thanks for the tip!! Xx

@ClairejLindsay you’re welcome.
@Baba11 if I go by MLP it says I am 6+6 today but on Friday my clear blue said 2-3weeks so would mean I am potentially a week or so behind...so confused...x

Hi and Congratulations Everyone....I’ve just found out that I’m pregnant with my 2nd, due 22nd Jan, so just over 4 weeks. DD is 19.5months so will be a nice age gap. Other than fatigue I’m feeling ok so far which is pretty similar to my first pregnancy as nausea didn’t kick in till 8wks.

@f1rstt1mier Hello and congrats!

I dipped out of the thread for a bit. I felt a bit weird talking about my pregnancy online with a defined group of people when I hadn't told my mum. I still do.

Does anyone else feel anxious about deciding to have a baby right now? We're both perfectly happy with our choice. DH is 37 and I'm 36 and it feels like time is ticking on, frankly. Plus, coronavirus isn't going to go away soon, from what I can tell. Ok, we didn't expect to get pregnant quite so quickly but I still worry our family will judge us.

Congratulations everyone! I just did my own post as I've just found out I'm pregnant, and I have a 6 month old! Bit of a shock. We tried for a long time for our first, so this is definitely a surprise. I'm happy but also scared about a newborn and a 15 month old! Anyone else having a similar age gap?

I'm a bit confused about how far along I am, I think I must have ovulated late, I got a negative pregnancy tests 4 weeks after the first day of my last period (my first proper period after giving birth), had sex the next day and a week later tested positive... I've done a test each morning and a strong line on each, but clear blue digital shows 1-2 weeks. Who knows! NHS calculator says due 15 Jan according to last day of period.

Really happy for everyone on here. It's nice to share news, as we're not telling friends and family just yet.

@Pol96 - congratulations! You sound like you rival me for worry! I’m 7.5 weeks (due New Year’s Eve!) and the first 2 weeks after I found out I was a wreck - even freaked out after spotting and went to the epu at 6 weeks (it was fine!). Since then I’ve tried to have a word with myself and accept I can’t obsess over it for 9 entire months, so trying to keep busy and keep my mind off it - for example, went for a 4 hour walk (with stops and a picnic!) today and I didn’t think about it once. Bliss! Easier said than done, but you’re in good company!

@burdog - yes! But I’m 30 now, and with long-standing fertility issues so really feel so grateful to be here at all. If anyone in my family says anything I’m just going to ignore them - they don’t know how long it’s taken us to get here and it’s not really our fault our time happened to be a few weeks into a pandemic....!

@burdog yes I'm scared what my family circle will think, but my mum and sister are over the moon for us! It has taken us 16 long months to get our BFP so I really hope we don't get any hurtful comments

Hi Ladies,
Worked out I am due roughly 19th Jan 2021, it wasn't planned and me and my fiancé was abit freaked out but happy too at the same time, I think I am about 5-6 weeks, the reason I came on here is for some advice,

I rang my doctors on friday and was told someone would call on monday, I have been having mild cramps (less than my normal period cramps) headaches and nausea, it says online the cramps are normal but I can't help but worry whenever I get them.

also when should we tell our parents? I would tell them before 12 weeks and then everyone else then, I don't know if its too early yet or do I need that support from my mum during lockdown with this massive news to us?

hope everyone is good! Sorry if my post seems daft or obvious I really don't know what to do for the best whether to just keep it me and my fiancé little bubble for now.

xx

@peach111 - congratulations! It’s entirely up to you - do what you think feels right and will support your best. I personally think the whole keep to quiet for 12 weeks thing can be really damaging for people who want and need that family support in case of mc or other issues. Equally, having said that, I’m a very private person so for me it’s easier to keep it to myself and husband until 12 weeks - even if I did mc the last thing I’d want is to talk about it/have to tell anyone. So really, it’s up to you! Maybe take a week or so and see how you feel then?

@carabu1 thank you for replying to me so quickly!

Thank you! We are really excited its so strange the timing how its worked out with other things going on in our lives (in the process of purchasing a new home)

I think I will wait a few more days and maybe go and have a catch up over the fence with my mum! I think I am nervous to tell them because I know we would if lockdown was not in place we would want to hug eachother! (they will be chuffed they have been pestering for grandkids for ages) and it might make me feel weird!

I have a heart shaped womb I know from an appendix scare a few years ago and was told it might cause issues so I think I will definitely need to speak to someone to ask is this normal.

I will keep you all updated and congratulations to you all!

Afternoon everyone...I am trying to keep busy but started to think, what is the positive test was a mistake - I only took two and loads of people seem to take more over time...

@ClairejLindsay haha I'm the same, trying not to get excited but also keep finding myself looking at nursery things!

@Carabu1 I'm a big worrier lol I'm hoping once I've got to 6 weeks I'll have calmed down a bit 🤞 and yes it's definitely easier when you're distracted, although the walks I've been on the last 2 days I've got so hot and tired! A new year's baby!? That'll be a good birth story! Thank you for your comments about being in good company too, it really does help knowing others feel the same X

@maybug2020 - I think that’s more because people (myself included!) get obsessive than anything else. My understanding is a false positive after your period was due is pretty rare. It’s daft to keep testing - the line progression (or lack of) will drive you Crazy...!

@MayBug2020 a positive is a positive, you can take more if it'll put your mind at ease, I've got more being delivered tomorrow just so I can see (hopefully) some line progression X

@Pol96 - I thought that, but I think it’s more an act of will than actually being less worried. I have a private scan booked a week today when I’ll be 8+3 ish - hoping if it’s all ok I’ll feel better, but starting to accept now maybe you never feel better?! At least it’s not just me!

@Carabu1 I have a feeling it'll last until we can hold them! I'm going to do tests every other day this week with a digital at the end of the week then hopefully seeing the weeks on it will reassure me my hcg is actually rising. Good luck with your scan! You'll have to let us know how it goes x

@Carabu1 thank you. The test I did came up with a fairly dark line and I have kept it and keep looking at it haha it’s still sinking in and I can’t quite believe it. I am a worrier, always have been, but trying to be relaxed. Is this your first? How far are you?
I am not telling any friends or Family so this group is so lovely to have x